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Youdondeymad:
Do you think the lady and her family would be happy with me if my cousin break up with her,we are Africans bruh....moreover there's no need for your last word,there's nothing cowardice in this matter(no offence).Thanks for your contribution though.



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I'm sorry but i just put myself in your nephew's shoes. That man has the right to know, and based on the bolded you are just trying to protect yourself.

What you should do is let your nephew know the truth in a mature way. Call some elders around, inform him of the situation and let them advice him (if you can't).

Anything built on deceit will surely crash and the crash will be worse than what you are trying to avoid today.

Youdondeymad:
Good morning peeps, I have been pondering about this issue since last week.

I was chatting with my nephew on whassapp few days ago,while we were chatting, I observed something strange. He is planning to settle down with his fiancee very soon, I was surprised when I saw the picture of his fiancee but I pretended as if I don't know her. I have dated this babe before (to be honest), I dated her after I broke up with my first love few years ago. We dated for 2 years and 3 months, I don't really know what to do. I don't want to burst my nephew's bubbles because he is so much in love, I don't have any problem with their union but I'm planning to avoid the marriage.

Am I right or wrong, please no bashing or insults, thank you all.

Why not just tell him the plain truth and leave him to make his decision?

Why are you people so inclined to tell lies to protect yourselves?

Cowards!

infantlion:
Hello fellow Nairanders,

Once upon a time in 2016, I fell in love with a beautiful damsel who happened to be a virgin. We became very intimate and had great sex.After sex, she always thanked me for making her feel so extraordinary.As at that time, I was madly in love with her.

We got engaged in December 2016 in a grant style due to the fact that am working as a graduate engineer in a multinational firm.

I sincerely had the intention of taking her to the altar until early February, my friend alerted me that he saw my girl in a club with four(4) young men...I got worried and quickly called, her phone rang, no response.I gave her 458 missed calls until later in the evening, she answered"Nkem, am so sorry, I was sleeping while your calls came through"

I wept and called my friend to confirm if his is very sure of what he told me...He insisted.I kept wondering, how could an engaged woman flirt around with guys? I was shocked because I got 95% of what women need-money, good sex,good looking, good job e.t.c

In a nutshell, I invited her to my place and interrogated her and she admitted that she went to club with those guys but nothing happened.No woman would truly agree that she "spreaded" her legs for another man.

My feelings for her crashed to 0%..She pleaded for 30 days until [b]she involved my pastor.My pastor told me to embrace forgiveness which I did...[/b]We started all over again and she promised to be faithful, loyal and honest at all times..

A month later she took in.The badnews came as a shock to me because I never cum inside her whenever we had sex...I quickly rushed to see my family doctor.He told me there is 100% chances of any woman to get pregnant with the method I adopted.

Due to the fact that my feelings for her is still at 0%, I begged her for an abortion and she replied"over my dead body"..Her family called me and I told them I am not ready and they threatened to arrest me...They sent her to my house last week with her protruded stomach without my consent...It was very late and I had no choice than to let her in.

Luck ran out of her this morning when she got a call from one Pastor Mike...I was curious to know if it is "hygienic" for a pastor to call a beautiful damsel in the early hours of the day...I questioned her and she told me the guy is a genuine pastor...
Me:pastor of which church?
She:Catholic Church
Do catholic church ordain pastors?

I called the so-called Pastor Mike and he said, he is not a pastor.

I have contacted my family and friends, but am not yet comfortable with their counsel.

One good thing about Nairanders is that from the bad, the good and the ugly comments, a wise OP should be able to get something out of nothing.

Long live Nairanders!!!
Long live the Federal Republic of Nigeria!!!

@ the second bolded, i am interested in knowing what your pastor told you about fornication?

@ the first...

geekybabe:
Seen both signs of the coin. That he is reserved doesnt mean he is nice. That he is outspoken doesnt mean he is lousy.
Outspoken and outgoing guys are spontaneous. Fun to be with. They bring excitement.
The reserved ones are cool but getting through to them is always like breaking through a bee hive to get honey. You will get bitten or hurt in the process

Just really smart guys, who love to have fun and are emotionally intelligent and mature.

..a fit body is definitely a nice to have.

From your comment i can swear to you that you are 21 or below. If am wrong I will deactivate this account now now.

Prove me wrong.

okay she has been fired. fine and good... i want to hear when the court case is starting...

abi threatening violence to a minor is not a crime in Nigeria?

olaric:
Could be due to how times have changed or the quality of camera used. Perhaps, the man dey bleach

A little bit of sense will help. It is obviously the difference in the cameras used

LoveJesus87:
Even upon the make-up?

Especially because of the make-up

Its inappropriate probably because he got her number through his work and they have no personal relationship otherwise. A female client should be free to enjoy professional services without getting unwanted attention.

YelloweWest:
Seriously they would make a cute couple.

This Joshua guy is hawt!

The girl is not fine enough for him... at all!

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Originalsly:
People at home have a certain mindset of life in America.... they only need to arrive... and all things will be bright and beautiful....just like on TV.... as long as you are willing to work hard. When those abroad say life is not as easy as you may think... it is called discouragement... because that is not what you want to hear. Yes...I am on vacation ..
loving it .... I should encourage you to invest half your life savings or borrow money and come enjoy just like me. What you dont factor in... is I have massive support... do I have to pay $150+ per nite in a cheap hotel?no... I pay zero for shelter...would you?...do I have to pay for food?...transport? No.. not a kobo....would you?...Would you have people showing you the ropes?...where to shop or get whatever?..no...but I do. It is not discouraging you from coming but for you to plan well and have every thing in order before you travel. I'll encourage everyone to come visit... don't overstay and be trapped here.... this can be a very lonely and a very rough place ... wayyy rougher than one weather Naija. There is sooo much to learn here...business ideas would just be jumping out at you. Dont see alerts as discouragement. ... same as people retiring or whatever and returning home... ignoring what those on ground are saying.... seeing it as same discouragement. Bottom line... look before you leap.

Which cheap hotel charges 150 per night? I stayed in a decent hotel for 50 dollars a night talk less of those roadside motels. Oga if you want to advice people give them accurate info.

modelmike7:
Lock him up forever

What is his offence? Note that though the word trafficking is used, what he is doing is actually providing transport services to adults who are willing to take a risk.

maklelemakukula:
Wat about the US who would stop dem. Dont they test weapons. Dey also have nuclear weapons. Why do dey need it nd insist every other country shouldn't. They may control ur country nd other cowardly nations. But they cant control all.

Do your research on life in North Korea cor the average North Korean and make the most of whatever education you have received

Its about time someone does something about North Korea. This Kim nonsense has got to stop.

With his little tanks looking like toys.

NevetsIbot:
Its painful as 'fear women' isnt written in the bible

"while I was still searching but not finding-- I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all."

Ecc 7:28

My friend gluttony is a sin!!

Will you get you of here with your folds of unappealling (in fact disappealling) fat!!

Ugo Ehiogu was a British citizen. Why is it surprising to anyone that he had a white wife? Is that suppposed to be news? What is the meaning of this??

Bloggers and nairaland mods, beware of taking advantage of people's sorrow to draw cheap traffic!

anotherydz:
Dog dey bear Ramsey? Wetin be the name of the owner?

Wenger

JaneyBlingx:
Guess the "twerkouts" aren't working out for her cos her butt is still as flat as a slate

But where does she say that twerking gives a bigger bum? Or you just want to shade her at all costs?

AuroraB:
You think I'm the one to banter words with you? Excuse me.

Who are you?? Idioot.

AuroraB:
Being a Nigerian is depressing
You see a deranged fellow being cheered on by people you thought were sane. You can see people buying into his idea on here already.
He's scampered to 'God will judge us' on Facebook when my friends lashed out on him. A lawyer has been involved as he's deemed unfit to have young impressionable girls in his care
Small small God don dey expose ndi underdo in human shape

lol. What exactly will that lawyer do? The man in question has not broken the law yet though his comments seem rather ill-advised given his position. But he did say propose to the girls after they graduate implying that they should have reached the age of majority as a critical condition of his advice.

MhizTenderly:
I'm not exaggerating. This happened in Owerri.

Madam, he is not saying you are the one exaggerating it. He is saying the girl who told the story is probably exaggerating it which sounds very likely.

hopefulLandlord:
most of so-called miracles brought about by talking to your invisible friend and getting results aren't convincing at all

These stories are hilariously underpowered and unconvincing to anybody who is not already favorably inclined toward the idea.
I wish I had one naira for everybody I’ve ever heard who wound up a “miracle” story that ended with a variation of “Well, you might not think that was a miracle, but I sure do!”

Obviously, none of these stories are ever verified or fact-checked before being embraced and passed along. The vast majority of miracle claims turn out to be exaggerations or mild coincidences
When their “miracle” gets discredited, people tend to get mad at the person who actually did their work for them rather than examine why they spread a false story around, much less take responsibility for spreading an untrue story!

So no, I don’t find miracle claims to be even the slightest bit compelling or credible. I find them to be the exact opposite.

And as terribly non-compelling as these miracle claims are, this constant, endless stream of debunked stories and exposed fraud attempts are all there are. There aren’t any compelling claims.

Can you prove that all claims of miracles are exaggerated or are mild coincidences? How many have you checked yourself?

I understand people like you. You act like you are sure of yourself but deep inside you are afraid there is a chance you might be wrong and the only way to assuage that fear is to try to convince others or to assume a position of superiority by taking the self-designated, condescending position of "logical thinker" but you and i both know you are just deceiving yourself.

Otherwise, other people's beliefs should not bother you. If they feel they have experienced a miracle, it should not be any cause for concern to you whether you believe in miracles or not. You would have simply viewed this thread and walked away. So you need to ask yourself what is motivating you to write this emotion-filled, rant of yours.

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Nairadays:
Ugo rest in peace.

Often thought athletes who are always training to be fit, cannot have a heart attack because their arteries ain't clogged up; but WRONG; one thing must kill Man.

Live everyday like your last. Keshi, Okwaraji, Amodu all died of chest and cardiac related issues.

Too much of some good things can have its own negative effects. The way elite athletes train is way above the normal healthy range, and it puts a lot of strain on the heart. Add to that the effects of all the pain killers, and various substances pro athletes use, injuries and trauma to various parts of the body and you realize that the elite athlete is actually a greater risk of certain things. For example, do you know that extreme blunt force such as an elbow to the chest can stop the heart?

HungerBAD:
Damn.

He killed him because he suspected he wanted to molest his bride?emphasis on "suspected or intended"

[b]How do you just assume another person's intentions?[/b]this is a case of killing without any justification.

Lock him up forever.

Are you suddenly a court of law to be asking questions and arriving at the answer yourself? It will take investigations to discover what truly went down. But know that from the off the accused has the advantage since the victim was allegedly trespassing.

classicB:
That enyimba FC is supposed to be a joke right?

My exact reaction

PapiSmith:
[b]'Based on logistics' is the most abused word so far in 2017 [/b]

Is that a word sir?

spectator2001:
The explanation of the OP is valid too, no doubt about that. I believe the alternate theory of this young man seeks to question the motive and/or rationale of the OP for picking out this individual simply because she "looked" like a student of NOUN. Such action, if I must add, is questionable in the face of the thousands of individuals with worse circumstances hawking, begging and helplessly-looking-unkempt people in that city.

UI not NOUN. She is a NOUN student selling at UI, and he thought she was a UI student hustling to make ends meet, which would have been remarkable because most pretty girls in UI would think of this as being beneath them.

Now, you must remember that the OP is a blogger not a philanthropist, and he is out to find interesting and unusual stories that can attract attention to his blog. As you have rightly noted, the story of the hustler is not at all new in Nigeria, however the story of a pretty girl who attends University but is humble enough to sell fruits to make her way is rather unique, wouldn't you agree?

Try to understand it from that light.

SINZ:
Oga sir, did she have NOUN written in caps on her forehead? Simply put, you gave her attention because you feel she is too pretty to be selling fruits. If she was ugly, we both know you wouldn't have approached her but that's not the case.

There are many people out there who hawk and carry out menial jobs just so they can feed atleast once a day. Their stories are surely even more heart-wrenching than this lass's story. What else qualifies her to be offered help aside her looks? Why should people offer her assistance on the basis that she is pretty and neglect those truly in need?

Dude, you need to re-evaluate yourself first and ask yourself what motivated you into writing this epistle in the first place. Is it lust? Are you having dreams of being her savior so you'll get a chance to score?? If sheer greed played a motivational role then I'm sorry, but you're no better than the people that this poor "pretty" girl is trying to avoid in the first place which made her choose this means of survival. Face your front when next you see a pretty girl.

Oga my first thought too was that this guy was just attracted to the girl since there was nothing exceptional about the way she arranged her fruits (in fact it is quite unappealing), but then he explained that he thought she was a student of UI (i guess going by the nicish way she dressed and comports herself). You must accept his explanation instead of sticking to your own theory. That is only fair.

jforjudith:
Then congratulations SmartyPants

You're far too kind