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greatgod2012: @op, u mean your mum became a widow in 1992, 20yrs ago, when she was 27 yrs old and since then, didnt remarry, if that is true, kudos to her, even million gbosas for her, her type is very rare. She deserve an award.

Exactly! She became a widow on the 12th of december 1992 and never remarried ever since even though she was barely 27 years old at that time she choosed to single handedly raise up her three kids ages 5, 3 and the last was 6months old then... Fastforward to 2012, 20 years later and we are all adults now. Went to some of the best schools in the country and are working in reputable organizations except for the last kid who is still in the university.

The last 20 years hasnt been without challenges as there were moments she cried all through the nights especially when any of us fell sick, sometimes she got queries from work because she put her family first and went to the office late, other times she had to work extra hours just to put all our school fees together etc.. I know there are many more women like my mother out there. I feel their pains and i want to know how they are doing .

This thread is dedicated to all widows out there who after losing their husbands assumed the role of head of the house. My mother falls into this category of women, having been a widow since 1992 i sometimes jokingly refer to her as the oldest widow in Nigeria though she is just 47 years old.

In most African marriages, the man is considered the head of the home. A role which certainly comes with a lot of responsibilities and in the sad event that the man passes on, the wife takes over that role with immediate effect. However this transition is mostly never smooth especially in countries like Nigeria. The women face lots of challenges ranging from false accusations by inlaws about the nature/cause of the man's death, to issues regarding claims of money from his bank and place of work, then also fights over property et cetera....

If you are a widow i want to know how you are coping
1. Is the society taking care of you?
2. Are the inlaws allowing you to mourn your husband in peace?
3. Are you able to afford your children's school fees?
4. Are you looking after yourself properly?
5. Are you and your kids feeding well?

And lastly what can we do as individuals to make life more bearable and meaningful to you people?

[quote author=12 inches!]Someone is about to get a sack letter from his post soon.[/quote]12- inches i said (not that i ever hope to).. I love him more with each passing day

Am i the only one thinking addictiv's uncle might be "Siena"....

quote author=addictiv]I have a billionaire uncle that only allows his wife or daughter to sit in front. no other woman sits in that seat even if its just him and another female and she is a relative, she sits at the back as long as he is driving......don't really understand the guy but that's his ish....for me no big deal anyone can sit in front as long as its not a child below 12, and must use the seat belt. but when i find a wife every other person takes the bench if i am driving...safety first!!![/quote]

I cant say much about my ex but if i were to break up with my current boyfriend ( not that i ever hope to) i"ll definately have lots of good stuff to say about him... For example just last week he donated blood to my mum.. Not that i cant afford to buy a pint of blood from the blood bank but at the moment her blood group wasnt available and mine does not match with her"s..

Luckily enough he was on lunch break and he came to check up on me in the hospital. He asked why i was sad and explained the situation to him, then walked out only to return about 30minutes later. Before i could ask where he had been, i just saw the lab guy come into the dialysis room with a pint of blood for my mum.. After enquiry , i found out that my boyfriend had donated the blood.

.. God bless you

I now understand why some hausa parents would go to any length to get their daughters married before mid twenties...

Hahhahahaha LMAO ur not serious.... Its way beyond that anyway but each time time you call me and i dont pick up my phone in good time, just know that i am basking in the lyrics of my ring tone...

quote author=Jerros213]


Or was it the song HE played when you lost ":it" [/quote]

Her cheap popularity stunts irritates me.

This Luv - donnel jones.
It has been my ring tone for over 5 years and that' s the first song i download or transfer whenever i change my phones.It gives me so much to smile about

Ada Nri1: See your profile name! How do we even know you r not fooling with us here.
Anyway pray your babe still loves you, if not nothing you say will change her heart

Just what i thought also. For all i care" una be fool "may just be messing up with y'all.. Afterall how can a full grown man not know how to appease his woman? If after reading this you still dont know what to do then i advise you consult your neighbour"s son in jss2.

11. Monthly menstrual cycles

The first 2 days weighs me down. My energy level is usually low and my mood swing is always at its peak during this time of the month. While others complain about cramps, backaches etc. Thank God i dont experience any of that. . However i noticed my last 2 break ups happened while i was on my period, i doubt if that was by chance or the mood swings contributed to the break up.

so one is tall and the other is short and that is the only reason for your delimma right? Abeg talk something else

Hippopotimus abeg someone should tell me if i got it right this time

moreeni: One need to be married to really know the truth of this post. As soon as positions begins to shift in the home front,believe me the marriage is heading south.in those days when daddies do all the provision and mummies do all the caring without one acting the other's role it was OK.But now when daddies don't bother providing for mummies in as much as mommies work and still expectin those-days submision .There will be fire on the mountain.

GBAM you have said it all... When the roles intersect at any point there"s bound to be problems.

Is this poster a male or female? Anyway i think you have been shopping in the wrong place..

So i will do you a favour and post a link to where people in your "class" shop so you can have a rest of mind knowing it"ll be only you and blue ivy wearing the same apparel.

http://www.smashinglists.com/10-most-expensive-brands-2011/

By the way, i weep for you because today"s gold is tomorrow"s copper . Slow down on the love for only material and worldly things.

flexdee: Ppl r not saying every Nigerian lady is a potential cheat but majority of you are cos ur not dependable. Now lemme ask you a questn,why did u have to bring Mama into this? Cos during their time they don't ask for what's out of their husband\bf's reach but today majority of Naija lady want to go out with a creamy guy that's driving Range sport, Murano\porsche car. So what can u say about that Miss decent gurl?

Let me answer You.
First of all why would a guy who is still squatting at his friend's crib decide to buy a range sport, murano, porshe or any other "big boy" car? Or why would a guy who does not have a job or any reasonable source of income decide to take a girl out to a very expensive restaurant for a date.? Simple truth is most guys try too hard to impress us and unfortunately some girls fall for these kind of men @ the end when he cant conveniently keep up with the demands associated with been a big boy's girlfriend he simply tags her a gold digger .. Afterall even okada rider get babe and him still fit dey manage the relationship according to his level...

When the men stop pretending to be who they are not, the world would be a better place. But until then, it's still "two can play that game"

bee444: I was born into a Muslim home but had this feeling and conviction about Christianity. I attended the Muslim school and prayed five times a day. Most of my friends were Christians and I love hanging out with them.

My father was a Muslim but loved reading the Bible, like-wise my mum. I then saw this Christian book and started reading it. What I saw immediately convinced me that I was practicing the wrong faith. I then started comparing and contrasting both books (Bible & Quran), mehn, they aren't the same!

That same day, inside my room, I gave my life to Christ by reading out what the book said about giving yourself to Christ. Few days later, I saw this beautiful and blessed lady passing through my house, I approached her, told her I like her and walked with her to where she was going. She then invited me over to her Church where I met with her Pastor, the rest is my story.

Out of all the stories here i really want to hear your story.. It sounds familiar

Am i missing something? Last week someone posted keri hilson"s tweet about a nija song where she playfully said something about listening to a nigerian song and the artist kept repeating"lick ya speakers" she concluded by saying " i hope no one really does that" .. And this week another Nigerian song tweet. Maybe she just discovered she is Nigerian afterall she looks like those borno-maiduguri girls..

Yes we kiss in PUBLIC when NOBODY is watching..

From the response(s) given above one can simply deduce that the average Nigerian guy thinks every Nigerian lady is a potential cheat and liar. This includes wuna mama abi?

Abeg reason like the poster billyonaire. God bless him

yuzedo: Yes. Queen Elizabent is my nebor. i know her horseband.


Sweerie, huh? Joke? I don't jokes wit morny o! My daddy is reach, very reach like his friend alaji dangote. i have iPad. so sweery, you married? Wuz yo numba?

Yuzedo you have succeeded in derailing this thread.. What kind of award do you want?

Kudos to her for reaching out to the world in the manner she did... Btw i was expecting to see a picture of the milk factory and not just a cardboard paper.

Op respect yourself jor! You are a father and not a college kid anymore. Act accordingly

I am really wondering what the difference is between hurricane and flood... I understand both are natural disasters from water which could submerge buildings thereby destroying lives and property.. I need an explanation why the one happnening in nigeria is called flood and the one in America is called hurricane. Am abit lazy to google that

yuzedo: i schooling in Harvard University, London. My daddy is soooo rich so i don't think about problem in life or working because we have Rose Roys and swimming pull.
Help me thank God, thank you Amadioha.
So swerry, wuz yo numba??

No wonder you speak queen's english

For me bb torch 9800 still rocks. My 9800 is almost 3 years old and apart from the usual battery issues associated with blackberry phones its almost faultless. I got a new bold 5 sometime in march this year and i cant list the countless problems i have experienced with the phone especially if i use my mtn sim on it. Funny thing is i now use my 2 blackberry phones at the same time just incase one goes off i make do with the other..

yhemini: I love this topic kudos to whoever started it (Y)... Here is a list of what I do online. Mostly I don't log out of NL my opera is always on NL 24/7 unless I restart my fone
Nairaland.com: ur one stop shop for anything u wanna know about life/Earth (at least that's my definition)

Goonernews.com: as an ardent Arsenal fan, it's just natural for me to want to know what's going on in my Fav club.. So if u need any updated info about arsenal. I recommend dis site.

Twitter.com: I guess u all know what goes on here .. Feel free to follow me though.. I ff bak too

Yahoo.com: I can't go a day wivout checking my mail.. Who knows when something important might just pop up :]Y

DOWNLOAD! DOWNLOAD!! DOWNLOAD!! I download A LOT (movies, music, softwares, documents etc) and I dnt av a specific download site I just google and download whateva I want.

So that's primarily all I do online...

Thanks yhemini... Could you recommend a good site for downloading nigerian music please? I am unable to save songs from www.unilagolodo.com to my ipad.

Highbros: Are you sure you are not that friend? Talk true o!

high bros why now ? Lolz if you must know the friend is my "boyfriend"... I joined nairaland simply out of curiosity because i couldnt comprehend what he was always doing on this site.

Kslib: Jim,who wan watch your whack reality show. I never finish experience the reality of real life finish,den i go carry remote,tune in dey watch you abi? The funny thing is that the company abi na producer will tell him whatt to say,what to do,when to do this and many other things,later they will come out and call it "Reality show".. Wetin real inside?
When my mates are out there doing productive things,planning for the future,and planning on how to move this country forward,i go confidently sit down without guilt dey watch wan yeye,whack,edited and useless reality show abi?...
Reality show my nyash.. People get time sha.. So you go just siddon dey watch how anoda person take dey live life.. Haha,kai,na GOD go save us sha...

Seconded! But i dey watch bigbrother sha

Quite impressive.. Are the cars in the picture also part of the remodelling? maybe they offer complimentary pick up and drop off services now