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She missed out real big. What a collabo that would have been. History would have been rewritten, Afrobeat would have taken a leap. She was gonna add Yemi Alade's energy, vocal, and hardwork to afrobeat but it never was. Shame, really!

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Find out why it was cancelled and thank God.
Been to Kano, the thuggery there is nothing compared to what we see in other parts of the country.

No be shakara kind of agbero, blood-thirsty ones, especially if they find someone to support them and then it becomes a mob action

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fm4real2k6:
I am interested in diversifying into agro-allied/cottage industry business line. I do have a limited knowledge and more importantly, i do not have any idea of what is profitable venture to go into.

I am seeking any competent agro allied business development consultant here.

Your job is to propose PROFITABLE agro-allied business and also be actively involved in design, development, set up and start up.

Im looking to set thing up in Either Osogbo or Ilorin environs.

Any competent and reputable persons/company here can email me here (fm4real2k6@yahoo.com), we later can shift into whats app/call and physical meeting.

Please serious persons/company ONLY.

You'll get a proposal by next week.
Thanks

This is mental issue. She needs a change of environment.
From far, i can detect that her problem started with a toxic childhood or a very proud family and then stuck in a marriage she's not happy in. Over the years, this has affected her. She has become a shadow of herself, because she didn't receive in life and marriage what she expected.

Manoftheyear:
Good day guys, happy New year to everyone, please I will make this post as brief as possible.

My brother asked me to help him look after his business when he wants to travel for Xmas, and it happens that I know much about the business, and he have a salesgirl too whom from my observation is a single mother though she is still very young.

Now this is the problem, since I started coming to that shop, I noticed this girl used to do some uncertain things (wuru wuru), so I decided to be more watchful and that's when I found out what she has been doing in the shop. I have caught her red handed in this act.

The first occasion was during last week Tuesday when we were about to close for the day and I was going through the sales book only for me to realized that the items we sold earlier in the day, the quantity in the book was different from what we actually sold, she minus some quantity and I called her to it and she acted as if it was a mistake, I acted as if nothing happened.

Second incident was last week Saturday, I was in the shop and one woman came to the shop with an Item she bought from our shop, so I was in my corner not minding them but I realized she came to complain of something to her and later bought another thing, I saw the item she came with so after the woman left, I called the girl and asked her when the woman bought that item, she said it was on Thursday, so after sometime, I went to the sales book to check if she wrote it, but I was shocked when I went through the whole week sales but I couldn't find it. I kept my cool, till in the evening when we were about to go and i asked her to show me where she wrote it, only for her to be going through over and over again, I asked her, I thought you said you sold this thing on Thursday and she said no.

Now because we have closed for the day, she wrote it as Monday sales, but I keep wondering if it was only this item that the woman bought. Even is she sold it on Thursday and forget to write it down, the Money would have reflected after the close of the day, but it didn't, that means she intentionally stole the money. She is the one with shop keys and she opens the shop before i come every morning.

Now my problems are

1. I love minding my business

2. It's my brother's business which he entrusted to me to look after for him, so if after finding out all these things and still keep it to myself, if anything goes wrong in future I won't forgive myself.

3. This lady is a single mother and very young, I assume this is the only place she gets what she's using to take care of her herself and her baby, I really feel for her and I know she is going to loose her job if my brother gets to know about this.

Please what should I do?


Please forgive my errors, I'm not perfect

Collect the keys first and come early to open it by yourself for few days. She will panic and come to see you.

When she comes to see you, let her know you are aware of her theft. And that you are contemplating reporting her to your brother or sack her yourself.

She would beg.

Then warm her that if you notice any theft again, you would report her and she'd be sacked.

Then start doing stock out. Find a Friday or Saturday, and tell her to count the whole stock on paper. Then cross-check
Every weekend, both of you should count the whole stock and you should cross-check with sales book to know all is well.

Any missing item in the stock that is not recorded in the sales book or creditors book (if you have), should be deducted from her salary.

Also give her incentives after taking stock on weekends and accounts are balance. Give her something for her kid(s).

Habby222:
Advice needed pls.

I've been with this guy for close to four years now and its not really been a perfect relationship. Lots of ups and downs due to what I can term insecurity. At some point we're cool and the next minute issues arises just like every other relationship.

He's a good guy to some extent as he showers me with love ( my thoughts)and a lot of times he gives gifts not money though. I've had to give financial assistance to him alot of times, he returns some if he deemed it necessary and doesn't return if he so wishes. I've never complained about this and still always willing to help him out whenever he is in need. Pls note that we're both financially ok.

This gesture of me offering him financial help stopped when I realise he doesn't do same to me. I've had to test him on serval occasions that I needed financial help and he has never for once helped out on those request despite knowing he has. I never needed the money though, I made those request to know if I could actually fall back to him if I'm in need.

Last year October, I told him about my plans of getting a new car as I got tired of the one I was using. Pls note that I did not request him to buy for me neither did I ask for any support whatsoever. I contacted my source in the US with my budget and spec, was able to find one in a short time and I paid for it. All of this moves were known to him. By December, the car arrived and cleared accordingly with every expenses incurred payed by me. He gave some moral support though.

A week after getting the car, he called me one morning and started apologising for not supporting financially in getting the car which I told him I had no issues with that. I told him I wasn't expecting more than moral support from him since I could afford getting the car on my own. I also made him realise he doesn't owe me no apology as I wasn't t his responsibility since we weren't married and that even if we were married, ill always want to get my stuffs myself as long as I can afford it. The next I heard was him ranting on phone that he doesn't expect less from me, said I'm a proud and that he knew I wasn't going to be a good wife. He said he has always known I wasn't going to be a submissive wife and a whole lot of other derogatory words despite not having issues whatsoever prior to that time. I ended the call as I was so surprised he could say those mean words to me.

All through that day he didn't call back and I did not as well cos I was expecting him to realise I was hurt by his actions. A week pass and still no call from him so I decided to call him and he didn't pick. I'd sent a lot of of messages to him and has not replied to any. I'd gone to his house to check up on him and not met him too. Its been three weeks now and we haven't spoken and seen despite all of my effort to talk to him and or see.

Guys please I'm confused and do not know how to handle the issue. Pls advice.

Be in relationship as much as you want, but please don't marry that guy. He is jealous of you.
I like you though. I wish you could be mine

This ogboni man who doesn't pay his staff

Valenciabaddie:
Hi Guys ..
I need serious matured advice . I have been dating this guy for about a year now ,
When I met him he was jobless but living comfortable due to his parents wealth ,.
I'm 25 and he's 3 years older than me , my problem is that he's too spiritual , he always have bad dreams and because of this he is always going to a celestial church and this makes him bring fetish things home like candles and substances in white container ..

I go to a Pentecostal church but I still continue the relationship and also follow him to his church sometimes.. but lately he brought this black soap home which smells bad and to make matters worse he always wake up at a specific time at night .To have the bath ..

M feeling uncomfortable with him and im beginning to lose interest in him due to these because I don't believe in all this fetish things .What do u guys think ? I'm I overreacting?

Ahhhh, you are still here asking questions. I doubt if you attend a pentecostal church, because if you did you would have run to a deliverance session long ago and jakpa.
I pity you, stay there and be asking questions.

Hes a f000l.

He's out of touch of reality. He's not meant to be in that Aso Rock; the only reason he is there is because of insecurity and corruption and he fell our hands yakata.

The funniest thing is that he is repeating his policies of 1983. Closing borders, having issues with Ghana, disturbing dollar flow and forex, human rights abuses, anti journalist/SM/free speech.

Blossomfirst:
Wow.. Interesting

In each town, except Abuja and Kano, i'd get a bikeman to take me to interesting places I'd marked down in addition to the ones he'll show me. For a token, but big in their eyes, they were usually happy to take me, then i add more in the end or bought their own food as i bought mine.
The most interesting places are the hidden local places not on map.

Commercial bikes are not allowed in Kano, but there's keke. Kano is blesser with cheap everything including hotels, food and transportation. But you need to dress like them and disguise well to have fun except your hotel area, which should be in sabon gari area where southerners live. Don't stay overnight outside of this area.
Kaduna and Minna are liberal.

The train from Lagos left on a Friday and i got to Kano on a Sunday. I made many friends (male and female) on the train, many who were alighting on the way... Either Zaria, Kaduna, Minna etc, it was strategic as i eventually met with them again when i returned to those towns.

Best to travel light.

In the future, i want to visit Plateau, Taraba, Adamawa, Bauchi and Benue.

If you don't mind, we can be friends on whatsapp. PM me.

Blossomfirst, my type of person.

This is how i travelled the North early last year.

Travel by train from Lagos to Kano, you will pass through several towns that you might chose to come back to later on.

I stayed in Kano a night, then travelled to Kaduna by road. I stayed 2 nights in Kaduna then travelled by train to Abuja.
In Abuja, i stayed 5 nights then went on to Minna, passes through Guarara fall. Came back from Minna to Guarara water falls and then back to Minna. I stayed 2 nights in Minna.
From Minna, went by road to Ilorin, stayed in Ilorin 3 nights.
Then back to lagos by road.
2 weeks total.

If you want academically sound and respectful children, go there and Akure too or Osogbo and Ilesha,to raise your children.

Sebastine1994:
I brought this issue to nairaland to straighten out some things, as the first son of the family, I am under immense pressure to defend the tradition of igbo.

my sister wants her Traditional Wedding to happen in the City, I have never seen a city traditional marriage, it sound abnormal to the ear, it seems I am the only stumbling block to this marriage. white wedding can happen in the city but not traditional abi?

truth is that most of our families reside in the city, they grew up in the city, and the cost of logistics is their excuse. please is it right that I should allow this to happen?

You disgust me, wtf?!

Primitive man. NL really helps me to understand ppl from the East better.

FFS! Smh... No wonder tribe is everything to you guys over common sense. Still can't believe you wrote that.

I'm late to this topic and I've not read the comments, maybe my advice is already made by someone else.

My advice is that you cut off the relationship abruptly. Don't tell him, just stay away and unavailable. Its bad enough that the man is confused about two women. And then you are an alternative, a second choice, a fall-to. Staying away will enable him to come back to himself and have a clear assessment of his emotions. Be sure to stay away from him for up to a month.

It is wrong that you want to prove your love. That's desperation. If i were him, i would be cautious of you. Perhaps, that's what he's suspecting right now. He probably thinks your fine virtues are cosmetic and are only truly desperate and fake and would fade away soon. So you don't need to prove anything. He knows already.

But give him some space for now.

Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

The best chance for igbo presidency is Umahi but the most unfortunate thing is that his own people will not vote for him. They prefer Atiku.

He wants to send GEJ to his early grave.

Na wa o for this country. We have short memory problem sha.

AuntRose:
The op's case is quite different, the lady goes to him for help whenever she is in need, she probably does it with a clean heart just to get assisted but the op like most men out there would do misinterpreted her approach seeking for help thinking it's a call for sex.

If he wants us to buy the idea then he should come up with something more convincing like him being seduced etc, TBH all what he wrote up there does not hold water. We need to understand some situations first before concluding.

Been reading your comments, and i just needed to chip in.

A married woman coming to a single guy's apartment for help, not once but many times, spells disastrous end.

There's no need and there's no time to think of understanding the situation before concluding. The woman has a motive, otherwise let the husband do the help-seeking.

This is not the case study to bring on feminism. It might be apt for another scenario, not this one.

If it is a F2F accommodation, disaster looms for the guy if he doesn't stop her quickly. It would be different if he too was married.

After HASN'T, what should follow?


which school did you go to?

Donspicey:
Which side you dey mk i link u up.....

Anyway in Ilorin, guy.

But i dey airport

You don't have to increase their rent to floor the compound. The flooring is for your own good. It makes water to flow to a drainage rather than sinking to the ground and thereby softening the blocks.

If your tenants had done the flooring on your behalf, they would have requested that the amount be deducted from their rent.

So, what's the increase all about? So, it's their fault now that they rented a house that hasn't been floored?

I for one would never rent such a house.

rowosky:
True
When Mowe to Ketu is 300
How will berger to ibadan now be 500
He doesn't know prices have skyrocketed since covid
I used to pay 2500 from Mowe to Ilorin it is now 4500
But 3000 for Train is far too much

If you hitch a bus from Mowe to Ibadan, it's N500.

Sometimes 700, but i can't pay more than 500.
From Ibadan to Ilorin, there are several places... I enter mine 1k or 700.

Ignorance makes you and others always shout lies lies instead of learning quietly

Donspicey:
Guest house not hotel.........

kum ilorin nd see lodge of 2k........

Give me 3 places with such prices. Thanks

BluntNigerian:
The Cohabitation of a stuff has a lot of things to do with abortions..
And many ladies in Nigeria do not use pills, they usually discover their pregnancies after two months.....

How does that affect anything? Smh

kizwid:
you read how he bang her front and back, yet you talking about compatibility... simply be straight, and say you want to go on a trip too

Everyone has a past bro. When you get to a certain age, you will understand that life companionship is not about who she has been with.

Zyxsc:
This is my confession

I first saw her profile pics on Nairaland. Let's call her Rachel. Later, I got to know she stays in the same hostel as I. She was into me more than I am into her. She attempted to come closer but I wouldn't have that. I resisted because my kind of introvert prefers being alone. I can't tolerate people's presence for long. Even my girlfriends, ex and then-present, I can only tolerate for a maximum of three days. Afterwards I would become hostile towards them till they eventually leave. But Rachel, she would leave and come back the following day, no matter how hostile I was the previous day. Gradually, she taught me how to tolerate people's presence more. I started getting comfortable with her. Then comes the second issue.

I have a very short temper. I flare up on any slight provocation. Rachel, she would remain calm while I'm angry. Once she notice I'm calm, she would come to me and ask me to reminisce the reason for my anger if it's bigger than an issue we could have resolved by discussing. She uses many other vices to correct me in a very respectful way. In the event I get angry while being corrected, she wouldn't raise her voice. She just wants to teach me, most things that trigger my anger can easily be resolved through communication. Gradually, I learn to be slow to anger and speak my temper. There, she taught me to be a better communicator and have a better grip over my temperament.

While all these went on, the sex wasn't amiss, even though it's usually my 2 seconds jiggy-jiggy. She noticed I was bogged by my inability to last long. Then she told me a secret that spurred me into action. I made my research. I found how to last long and give better pre-intimacy and got really good at the game.

From the start of my narration till the last paragraph, it was 5 years of cohabitation already, but it was a blessing. I would still be the primitive version of myself if I hadn't engaged in that.

So in case you're thinking it's bad to cohabit in school, of course it is, but that's your opinion. It's okay to have one, but don't shove it down our throat.[b]

[b]Does it affect my grades?
sure, it does. I came out with a second class upper. Strong or not strong, second class upper na second class upper. I might not have had a first class even if I didn't live a couple's life. And come to think of it, I am doing better than the first class graduate of my set.

Will I be glad if my daughter does it?
Of course, no. I wouldn't. But shit happens and life goes on yet. To the best of my knowledge, my Dad didn't even attend any tertiary institution, talk more of doing it. So my doing it or not doing it wouldn't affect my daughter's decision to either do it or not. Just live your life and enjoy it the best way you can

I and Rachel are not dating presently, but I value her more than any lady I've ever come across because she's had great impact in my life. The changes I experienced while cohabitating with her formed the foundation of any positive change I am presently undergoing.

Your experience is similar to mine, though outside the country. I hold her in high esteem and respect, though married.
If this your Rachel is still available, bros I will like to reach out. At least, date to see if we are compatible