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IamZod:
so in other words, it mainly has to do with their nature.

I think so.

By general assumption, women are the weaker vessels (in fact, God said so too) and this fragility span both the physical & emotional side of their lives.

As rightly observed by you, this nature seems to make them more vulnerable to heartbreak & betrayal. Also, the longer time it takes to heal their wounds.

All in all, some men too sometimes share this nature, but not as predominantly as women.

Oh wow... I never knew one can lift his wife "romantically".

refiner:
Farewell redbeans...till we meet to part no more.

C'mon, show blackbeans some love. His craze for attention has finally done the worse!

Oh bloda beans, why, why, why did you have to leave so soon!??

sunnysunny69:
Saraki has the whole of Kwara in his pocket, this cant happen years to come.

Do you by any chance know who could be deceiving this hungry group?

Okay, I got it. This is for the slay kings/papas. Mbok, I cannot coman kill myself just to look attractive.

Sorry, I'm tired of meeting slay queens. Can someone please get me that local farmer taking a picture with her shovel and hoe? Thanks.

pocohantas:
...just straightforward answers like you all gave on the other thread. I want to learn ;

Like I did say in that thread, it depends on your relationship "status"- defined or undefined. Why are you in the relationship; for lust, love, friendship/companionship, marriage, etc? Also, what are the agreement/rules?

For instance, we're in love. An naturally as it always tend to lead, we promised to remain true to our love by being faithful to each other. And next on the line as it is common, we're planning marriage. But before I knew it, you woke up one morning and said, "I'm sorry, I can't continue in this relationship anymore", just like that.

What!??

Yes, truth is, you've broken our agreement & trust. In our internal court of justice, you've "used & dumped" me! And no matter the rational behind your decision, I'd naturally feel "used"!

NOTE: This is what I think of this topic. It does not applies to me, just an example.

mira24:
... advice pls

First of all, it's really not a wise thing for one to leave his/her spouse for a long time like yours has done. Of course, the reasons are obvious. I tell you, the repercussion of such act far outweigh its rationalizing factor(s).

All the same, to help you mitigate the effect for the meantime, sane & trusted family members can be of help, so invite them. And hey, be careful. I narrowed my recommendation to family members and "sane" ones at that, again, for obvious reasons. But do not be restricted, if you have excellent relationship with friends, they too can be of help.

Finally, get a grip of yourself- do not let go of the sanctity. At the same time, do all it takes to get your husband back into the country asap. He MUST come home soon!

PS: I know these steps wouldn't satisfy your sexual needs, but will take care of your loneliness to some extent. And yes, don't be tempted to dabble into immediate means of satisfaction. They all have their later unpleasant effects.

It's okay. We're known for our generosity.

Here, go check yourself into any olosho joint nearest to you. Oh don't worry, you can thank us later.

McBrooklyn:
Dear Nairalanders,

On behalf of the Yabaleft Mental Institution, we are very sorry for any inconveniences or damages caused by our patient RoyalMoron. We have no idea how he escaped from his cell but please be rest assured that we will not rest until we find him & cage him once again.

Signed
Management.

Mbok don't manhandle him when you finally get him. You know he's a royal mor0n.

Useless title & crown. Mr. Nairaland ko...Mr. World ni.
Oya take am!

His Excellency, Dr. Goodluck Ebele Johnathan (GCFR) was/is a visionary & great leader, a man of impeccable characters.

So it is of no surprise when his sterling works and achievement are being reeled out, not by some demented zombies but great intellectuals like James Burton.

Your Excellency, I salute your uncommon vision!

Hmm.

Ahem! You see, what is happening is that the little infatuation you had for your wife is beginning to fade away gradually. As proof that it was lust, your own confession has confirmed so- you're still lusting after other women.

Also, it seems watching too much porn is taking its toll on you, as you now derived your arousal from it and not your wife unclothedness. Why? Because you're fixated about porn!

In all, it's all in your mind. Deal with what goes in there.

All of these need not be. Stop complicating things for yourself.

If you want to remain untainted from the world, simply fear God and keep His commandments.

It depends. This advice should be strictly for an undefined relationship. For instance, one can't get in a relationship on the premise of marriage, and then the next moment he/she wants out just like that. What happen to the initial understanding/agreement?

You know that's betrayal, and such is a wrong doing.

Na busybody dey worry this Op. Job fall on you.

Even if the dumb term was added to the dictionary, how is it an achievement?

To think that some demented idiots were actually celebrating the hoax makes one shudder at their level of idiocy. SMH

Yerima is just too dumb to understand anything.

Terrorist ko...Boko Haram ni.

Benita27:
...She and her parents are ignoramus who don't know how a guest should be treated.

Hmm. I wouldn't say they're ignoramuses but the egoistic. Yes, it's clearly the trait of an emperor who sits mightily on his throne, demanding and commanding that servants should serve him & his household.

silvoice:
Sometimes I conclude that it's either she does not believe me or she is just unreasonable.

I go with the latter, and it's really a sad case. If after taking the aforementioned steps and she still doesn't get it, then I'm sorry, your wife is not doing her job as a "partner & helper".

All the same, just keep on trying. Just maybe, she'll start seeing reasons with you, hopefully.

nijaomegacode:
...As she was saying this, she was looking from my shoes to my zip up to my belt case and to my face...
Pls friends, do you think she's interested in a romantic relationship with me?

Be a man and admit it. Obviously, you're the one lost in a daydream of having wild sex with this sister of yours, isn't it?

Disturb not our peace mbok, go and carry out your lust.

His Excellency Dr. Goodluck Ebele Johnathan (GCFR) was/is a visionary and great leader. It is then of no surprise when his success stories are being reeled out.

Your Excellency, I salute you, sir!

Maxi112:
Are you gay?


I use God beg you, leave me alone.

Kikiki... Bros mbok, no vex. Let me laugh small for una matter.

silvoice:
An option now is to let her be in charge of the finance. So that she can do the purchasing of all family needs as someone suggested. Not sure if that will work fine with her. What do you think?

Being in charge of finance wouldn't solve anything. In fact, it will even aggravate it, going by women's proclivity to spent on whatever they fancied. I mean, even the temptation to spent more simply because she has the money will likely increase.

Here's what you must do:

1. If you have one source of income, like a salary earner, do well by letting her know what is your salary at month end.

2. Make provision for a sound budget and stick to it religiously, except on emergencies.

3. Tell her your plans. Lets say you want to build a house, buy car, start a business etc. Also, be sure to state how these projects will be funded. Will it be through your savings?

Now, the reason why you must carry your wife along in all of these steps is to get her undivided attention and support. This way, whatever purchases she may want to make, knowing the very size of your pocket, the budget and the plans, she'll simply have to stick to them for the success of the family.

Yes. A reasonable and wise woman will do it. After all, she's your partner and helper for the common good of the family.

All the best!

SweetPuffPuff:
[color=orange]mmm.new car.i want[/color]

Oh wow... Now you're talking. Range Rover, BMW, Porshe...etc. Which of them?

SweetPuffPuff:
[color=dodgerblue]no.an why abuja? Aint it lagos thats the most populous [/color]

C'mon... this is Naija. Here, our politics is not by population but the CABAL. Abuja is where the cabal sits.

Just declare interest and it is as good as done.

SweetPuffPuff:
[color=deepskyblue]stop jokin an answer my question

That disator of a competition, Miss nairaland is done with for the yr now ,yes? [/color]

Oh, the competition. I... I don't know. It's really non of my fvcking business.

You wonna go for it? Perhaps, I can start now by taking the campaign to Abuja.

SweetPuffPuff:
[color=dodgerblue]yes. They come in various professions and social and economic classes but it doesnt change the fact they thirsty [/color]

Oh wow... I think I really have to get thirsty so I could send you a DM too.

SweetPuffPuff:
[color=deepskyblue]only 3rd leg hoes an thirsty mugs will enter her dm. [/color]

Not really. We've got generous & flashy politicians who wouldn't mind adding her to their list of sidechicks.

By the way, I need some sugarush.

Prece:
I feel if she do love me she should breakup her boyfriend for me... kindly help

Just listen to yourself. This is part of the problem in the world- lusting after your neighbor's property! Why can't you go get your own for goodness sake, huh? SMH