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Ikomi:
I don't like the way spoilt thinks, lol spoilt just wants a black brotha in her crib. .

Spoilt I got loads, good ones as well. PM me when u think we should negotiate something.

im not looking. i snagged me one hot hunk .he's good to me too.

@ameromoge
i blame slavery for black men's self esteem issues. after what the white man did and still does to them it almost makes them feel good that they have progressed to the point where they can even date and marry white women.

can we chat on messenger sometime i think we'll get along!

Ikomi:
Now the people I blame so much are the sistas that go having babies 4 loosers. U can't eat your cake and have it. .

no woman plans to get pregnant and raise the baby herself. you give the black guy his chance and he squanders it and leaves you high and dry. they arent perfect but we still give them a chance. we work 2 jobs, black women are hardworking yet unappreciated. we dont stay home shopping with your dough. we bring home the bacon. yet we still arent good enough? you can only do so much!  

i love my hair. the whole world just judges me by it.
i once wore my real nappy hair to the office. you know what my white lady boss told me?

"cant you do something to it? its not suitable for work" i told her my natural hair is suitable for work!
she said. it just makes you look too ethnic!!!!!!!!  

incase you having noticed . im ethic bi%ch!

and oh black women like tyra or naomi campbell who have consistently worn hair extensions from day one are seen as beautiful and intelligent. with your afro they think you are the mad ,unintelligent ,agressive  black woman who runs her mouth like they see on tv and is ready to cuss everyone out just by looking at her!
they judge you based on what's on your hair. of course some black guys think your nappy hair is pretty till they see fine straight long curly hair. then their mouths dry and they forget you exist.  

@ ikomi and nferyn

you have got to be kidding me. dont you see that because of the attention white women get with all that hair we assume that maybe if you can get those luscious flowing locks you can be better accepted. so we spend a fortune on fake hair from korea. black men dont even love our nappy hair. with all the hair extensions we still dont make the cut. think about  when that gloriously nappy hair is brought to light like the jackdaw. then you are labeled afrocentric, bohemian or whatever else. just for having your real hair.?

when ive worn my natural hair nappy as the day i was born what have i gotten from black brothers? "cant you get your hair done?"
i reply  "kunta, my hair is done! this is its natural texture. as if they dont know nappy hair when they see it.

nferyn:
This is a pretty interesting thread. I must say that my experience in these issues is rather limited, but there's one thing that I really don't understand.
Maybe the issue is limited to Belgium, but I'm always stupefied when I see the average black men / white women relationship. I cannot understand why usually handsome men choose the lowest of the lowest when it comes to dating white women. Where's those guy's self-respect

because thats all they can get. those homely white women are called RESERVED FOR AFRICANS (behind their backs) ! they cant catch their fellow white men but a black man will gratefully snag them up and lick her crusty feet.  

these women dont have to be eductaed , well spoken or whatever as long as she's white, she'll do. at least when the black guy is pulled over by the cops during the usual offence of  DRIVING WHILE BLACK and the cops peep in and see a white woman in there he'll be let off. so you see she does have her uses.

so white women are now yoghurt and black women pap? interesting. white ladies are seen as having ascended into the realm of half woman , half goddess. black men just dream and fantasize of trapping, catching, snagging, marrying one. its crazy retarded. white men really don't have a need to be seen with a black woman. if anything he gets crazy stares like "are you out of your mind"? it will look like he married beneath his status. not good for his reputation.

didnt you hear that the tennis player boris becker's wife (at the time he was married to a black woman) could never get the key to their five star hotel room when he was touring because they simply could not believe he was married to a black woman. she would have to wait in the lobby till he came back from wherever to rectify the situation. its annoying everyway you look at it.

we really dont question their qualifications. its their sympathy levels, customer service issues and sensitivity to patients rights and privacy that is in question. just so you know.

@ameromoge

you're right. we need to know the way forward. there's more to it than just a black man marrying a white woman. there's social issues, acceptance issues, racial issues, self esteem and ego issues involved at the expense of a whole race of women.

ameromoge can we chat sometime ?

Ikomi:
Honestly spoilt i think uv had some bad experience, and probably u met the wrong black dude.

no. no bad experiences. black dudes always go on and on about how white women understand them and blah blah. but the way they approach white women is different. they approach them as if they are princesses. treat them well. but when its a black women. oh boy! no kid gloves. every little feminine fault is magnified. its irritating.

Ikomi:
If u say there is none then your not being entirely honest. I have friends who have been victims and i hve witnessed it. And surely u don't have to witness one to believe there must be.

And the major thing is that most times this white men drop them, and move on, and if the white man does not drop her she must be fufiling all his fantasies or is very sucessful in her carrier. As much as I expect the men to be reasonable in this discussion, the women too must be moderate.

since when did ur friends become the yard stick? i think most women would pick a strong black brother before a white man. but when a black man approaches a sister its almost as if she should be thankful he's even looking her way.(think of all the white women he could have had!) they give you a whole list of do's and donts that they wouldnt dare present to white women.one strike and you're out.

Ikomi:
If u get so angry at the name calling u might as well not be far from frustration yourself.

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davidylan:
There is nothing special to white skin.

yes there is! are you friggin kidding me?

Ikomi:
But have we had a situation where a black brotha really goes in search of a black sister and she never gives in its only when she sees this black brotha with a white model that she starts wanting him back.

Av seen a lot of time when black women take black brothas for granted because they just think they are another looser, but when they see this looser with a white girl (whether beautiful or not) they turn around and call him names out of frustration. Am not taking sides but if we look at the situation realistically, i don't think am very wrong.

who are these black women who are approached by succesful brothers or strong brothers with prospects and turn them down flat. show me who these sistas are. quit with that over used, tired excuse. it holds no water!

TattleTale:
the majority of these white girls would NEVER take you home to meet their parents.  And if they do, you MUST therefore have proven yourself to be an ASSET, rather than a liability.  You must have had accomplished enough to convinced their parents that you are NOT just another "black free loader" looking for an "easy" way out.

like you noted its interesting that its the very succesful men or the ones with great potential who are snagged up by the white women (who no like better thing!)
a lot of white girls are racists and fear black men. they get terrified when a black guy is walking behind them at night like they expect to be attacked. all of a sudden if he's rich or has potential he suddenly isnt that black anymore!
all of a sudden her parents love you since you have proven able to sit at their table and laugh at black jokes with them!  



you dont need to apologize for your views. and like you said we cant resurrect the dead when they come crawling back broke!  

davidylan:
Really? I think white women do a better job with their weight. its saddening to see so many obese black women, the diff may be that most black women pretend to carry their weight well until they trap a hapless man into marriage and then . . .

who's stereotyping now?

smile4kenn:
There are so many wedding planners in Nigeria now. Try get one. They charge over 500,000 naira

[s]that N500,000 will completely foot the bill for a small wedding[/s].

Donzman:
I do not understand it because most of these men go for white women on the low end of the beauty scale if you know what I mean.

i do. dont trigger me off!

she's already pregnant and we cant unring a bell.
the deed is done. experience is the best teacher. when a teenager refuses to heed her parents to wait to have sex, when she becomes pregnant, its like a clap of thunder and the if- i -had-knowns start piling up in her mind. im sure she has learnt her lesson.

a baby shower is to help with stuff for a new born baby and she's having one .so yes you can have a baby shower for her. some may argue that you give her the gifts quietly and not make a fancy party out of it.

hate when guys wear ugly ties. N10 ties. gosh it kills me. ties that look like machetes or cutlasses. the knots badly made. knots that have been used and reused because the guy cant make his own knot.

though i find it hard to understand why people dont want children, i dont judge them. it beats me hollow why a couple wont even consider the token kid! i guess they have their reasons.
no way i could have married a man who wasnt ready for diaper patrol.

ikamefa:
i.at least my obgyn doctor does not pull out my hair

true. laughing my butt off.

i always watched her single and married program. we truly lost a woman of God! but i guess her race on earth was complete.

@ikamefa

waxing leaves you with less bumps and slowly reduces the hair growth till hair grows no more.
try a bikini wax. its very embarrasing to get but its no different from a visit to your obgyn. you'll never touch a razor again.

its not a china woman but a brazilian woman!
they'll give you a disposable paper g string to cover the essentials.

go for a bikini wax! your life will never be the same again.

i like to cook.i dont mind cooking. but when my man hangs out in the kitchen with me its heaven! he cant cook to save his life .(" always asking me why are you doing that?"  but he's always there with me when im doing my thing." when i look back i know its from the good times we had in the kitchen that i knew he was mine.

so instead of bickering over buka food. they can kill 2birds with one stone and get to know each other better while cooking.

davidylan:
How many men want to sit at home tending their babies when their wives are busy working?

thats the attitude we should try and change. they are the man's children too. afterall she didnt climb on top of herself and get pregnant.
its as if a man's manhood is diminished if he closes from work and gets home before his wife.
a lot of kids dont have real relationships with their fathers because all the work on the housefront is done by the women. bathing the kids, dressing them, wiping runny noses, catching poopy diapers, having the kids permanently stuck on your hip etc is all women's work.
guys miss out on the bonding that takes place during these formative years. they should'nt help out only when mummy is at death's door.
if only they could be a little more useful in fixing snacks and basic meals and giving bathes until mummy returns they wouldn't have to recruit poisonous cousins and aunties to help. more marriages would survive if you ask me.

what is so offensive about cooking together? do women have "cook" etched into their foreheads?
you would rather sit on your behind and flip channels while your maid in disguise works up a sweat for you ? a little help goes a long way!

@davidylan

last time i checked men can be as nuturing to children as women can.
when a man is at work his woman holds the fort. no one even knows he's away or exactly how long his hours are, when the woman is at work, the man tells all extended family members and it becomes everyone's problem that she works long and hard.why cant he hold the forte? and hold it without complaining? is a house husband so offensive to the ears?

the option of having her quit her source of livelihood doesnt have to arise everytime as the only option.just a thought!