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ChiefSosa:
Congratulations to the young lady! OP should've dropped her number or social media details for those of us that want to congratulate her personally!

Question: If someone is born Deaf and blind, in what language does the person think? How is the person able to think?

This your question get as e be

Belafonte:
Not a big deal. I learnt on nairaland that men and women can be platonic friends, even if they engaged in sexüal relations before. It shows maturity. Tell your brother to have no fear, it's just old friends catching up on old times

tell me you're joking.
The thing that they might not have sex is one thing.
The fact that even you that are saying they won't have sex don't even know for sure is another

people mumu for Nigeria Aswear

100k my ass

I only came here to view answers .

Meanwhile Op if you like kill yourselves on top customer vague expectations. Always communicate the time of delivery .

Anndrew:
this one na slavery Pro max

Eze2000:
Now it's your turn to talk through your teeth.

We employer association have a saying... everybody steal but Nigerians steal too much.

Share will not stop them from robbing you blind.

Percentage of profits is what I give or commissions

Chicken change percentage.
Employer association talking about thieves, it simply means they were talking about themselves.
Meanwhile na cruise you dey sha, may be na one sales girl you get. Dey here dey talk dust

denobaba:
You are very smart. There's value in what the Op posted also, but he missed a good point about looking out for one's interest as much as one may seek to add value.

Any value added to your company without commensurate benefit to you in terms of personal development and financial compensation is ultimately a loss to the employee concerned.

No one is ever remembered for service to an employer but the value one adds to oneself remains for life.

I second with everything you have said.
You got everything spot on.
Especially the second paragraph. I wish Op Knows this

Anndrew:
this one na slavery Pro max

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Eze2000:
Actually no.

As an employer of Labour myself lemme break it down for you.

Don't lick my ass or patronize me.

Treat my company like you would yours.... work to bring in more money, save money and everything better.

I'll fire my special assistant today. He is the second in 6 months.the first one got married and had to become a house Wife. She was the best.

you're talking through your teeth.
"Treat my company like you would yours"

Why not make your employee share holders ini your company.

madjune:
I pity Nigerian white collar job youths in today's Lagos and Abuja axis.
No employer will reward you enough to lift you out of poverty.
You'd barely be scrapping by, year after year till you grow old.
Try save some, invest or start something for yourself.

That's just the truth.

you too much jare!!

matm:
Creativity is the watch word.Doing the same thing every other person does no matter how well, doesn't make you extra ordinary.But they who defy the ordinary,sit with kings and queens said our fathers.

you're mincing words between your teeths.

Klass99:
If you see as I bust laff for where I dey ehn!
The bolded cracked me up real good, I feel you and I share the same sentiments expressed in the words I quoted.

Na so o no time. Life is sweet when it is combined interest

TheGift:
First of all, I am not the one who typed the original post.

However, to your points: it is more likely that you the reader did not understand what writer was trying to say.

The use of the phrase “ going the extra mile” was in the context of “adding value” beyond your “job description”. Doing just what is expected of one is ordinary, doing extra by adding value is what makes one extra-ordinary.

I hope you now get the point of the original post .

I get the point and I totally disagree still.
Extra-ordinary people are not people that goes the extra mile .

Extra ordinary people are people who do extra ordinary things.
Some people has already master what you look hard and to you they are extra-ordinary
extra-ordinary does not have to always end up with going extra miles.
In workplace, extra miles mean doing work wey dem nor go pay you
Try to understand me please, even if for a moment

Ninejaywon:
The one thing with this generation is lack of patience and the love for instant gratification. Very few people are playing the long game. Most people want to hammer now now. Going the extra mile has taken me to dope places unimaginable.

just say you went extra miles to improve yourself, which is a wonderful thing.

But going Extra miles solely because of future promises of any man/company is a recipe for a future filled with premium tears and regrets

drealcivilceno:
Omo no matter how bad/good you are, if company wants to keep you, they will keep you!

Most of them just have money to spend and will bask in that glory until they crash, so, keep floating ooh!

God knows I will never be in a position where I will ever be afraid to leave a company. My self worth is growing in a way that company may feel a loss when I leave.

I will never give company that chance. never!!

Ninejaywon:
Spot on.

Be valuable. Be ready to go the extra mile in any endeavor. It might not pay immediately but in the long run one is always better for it.

"extra mile in any endeavor"
Omo people dey suffer this country o. slavery 101

TheGift:
Your adding value to the company (or not) is what mostly determines your “perceived worth”… Except you are not adding value in a way that can be perceived.

You said, "go extra miles".
check that up and see what that means.
it is like you don't understand what you typed.

Going extra miles to improve yourself is not a problem whether through the company or not it doesn't matter.
But going extra miles because to improve a company is a different bowl of soup entirely. This small differences makes the difference between what me and you are talking about. look similar but it is all the difference between self improvement and regrets

SundayNightGist:
Employers only recognize and reward those who take the initiative to add tangible value to the company.
 
It's not enough to do what is expected of you or what is written in your employment letter (JD). You have to strive to go the extra mile, or else you'll just realize that you're on your own busy making efforts on monotonous activities count for nothing- not money, not attention, not even promotion!
 
Add value; practical value for that matter!

You're being deceived, believe me.
Company will keep you because of your perceived worth and not just what you give to the company perse. Infact if you ask me which is better,
I would say you first work on your worth and let your service value flow flawlessly without you breaking a sweat. The reverse will only end you up in tears.

Think deeper

If your boss is using motivational word to whine your head, better wake up. While you try to give your best you must never get caught up and always remember that you will only remain relevant base on worth and your skill level. People kill themselves day and night in the road of extra miles.
Today no one ever heard what they did.

Omo no go dull o

The only time I will go extra mile in a company is if it increase my skill and worth but say because of say make bosses dey feel me. Dem go old.
The only promise I will fulfill is to do my task which I signed for and the rest of the story are left to my self improvement and personal decisions.

BOTTOM LINE: Only indulge if there is a combined interest (your interest and the company interest) or else na road of extra miles you go retire.

FreeStuffsNG:
They have started again. Here we go again. It's now back to CCTV story again?

I really hope government won't allow them hijack the narrative again and allow them burn down Lagos again.

For days now, concerned people have been asking how fictitious names and non existent names were listed as killed in Lekki, they are playing the ostrich yet pushing same over recycled narrative in the exact pattern that made people doubt their story and hold that no one died in the Lekki incident . The more they continue to play to the gallery, the more they will be exposed as liars. You say/write one lie, you will need more lies to cover it.

If you repeat a lie one billion times still won't make it the truth. Who are the real people who died in Lekki? Where are their families, friends, colleagues, pastors,imams, spouses etc?
We have heard and read the CCTV story over and over again and that's why we want real answers so the culprits can be punished.

It is completely unacceptable that those claimed to be dead are fictitious and some died in 2019. What kind of panel does that anywhere in the world? Whether it is the petitioner(s) or/and the panel members that lied on oath, we need answers. The panel members must be vigorously investigated with same vigour as finding if there are real casualties in Lekki and their identities.

The thread below didn't make front page?
https://www.nairaland.com/6855257/author-101-fake-news-endsars

This isn't being interrogative.
This is trying to come in the way of inquiry.
Very Unconstructive write-up with pitfalls everywhere

babasolution:
I have a friend who is confused on his career path,he is 30year old.He is a graphic designer, he is doing relatively well,with the hype around the tech industry of recent and that they are paid very well.He is thinking of going into tech,precisely web development. What he wants to know now is that would it be a fruitful or fruitless venture,considering his age,also that many going into tech are mostly younger people in their 20s who are even already professionals while he at 30 is just a beginner,he has some knowledge on HTML,CSS. Will it be a waste of time considering the time he will use to learn,he will be older than 30,will there still be opportunities for him at that age? Or should he go for something else?.pls he needs tech pros honest advice.thanks

Graphic design is also part of the tech world, except he does not understand what tech means.

That friend is sounding like you.
Meanwhile, going into tech with the aim of just cashing out is a recipe for disaster.
It is a process, one has to pick up awareness, get informed and acquire knowledge, then practical application, to applied theory and then mastery.

This timeline for this process are based on the dedication and the approach you use towards it.

Can your friends get into tech at 30?
Very likely and yes.

Would he earn big and cash out?
if he patiently pass through the process then yes!

would everyone who go to tech make money?
well not likely, they can only gain the aware to leverage on in future endeavors

is tech better than other fields?
It depends on the context but most not likely(for the next decade) though the potentials are huge.

toyini1234:
Thank Gods its not Nigeria... if not people would have attacked the whole Nigerian security architecture

Why you not just get sense

toyini1234:
its rudeboy hunger would have killed

Na both hunger go kill. You think say na small thing to accept sorry.

Icouldhave:
I just can't help myself, right since I was a little kid. I get jealous easily.

I want everything to be just me alone, I want to be the one to have money then give it out to people.

I hate it when people gives me money, it anolds me, makes me feel less.


Please how do I contain this attitude of mine.


Ps

I don't do bad.

Neither do I do evil.

I just want to be the one running everything in my family or any place I find myself.

I want to be the number one guy


I want to be the giver always

You’re suffering from narcissism.
It’s a medical condition

iKwaffy:
Hello guys please I need your advise on this

OK I just bagged a BSc In Economics and I would like learn Programming or coding (I don't know which is the appropriate term to use) because I have Interest in Financial Technology

So where do I start from

Hope you’re not trying to learn it so you get any big job anytime soon?
If No then you can start by getting a laptop, start with web programming or any coding Language your can start with and start. Try out new language and stick with the one that start giving you value for your time. You can always return /jump to others when you understand things better.

Meanwhile if self development is not the reason you want to learn programming. Then simply go into job hunt or get more cert for your Bsc.
Coding takes time and patience to mature

Greenfusion:
Fisrtly, note that good men/relationship can be scarce, so if you find one, work things maturely and appropriately with him.

Personal as an introvert i find difficult to relate as well, d thing dey hard us...i feel u well.

I suggest you need to understand properly what's making your man act the way he is acting.

Think deeply, assume yourself in his shoes, also assume he is your brother and think what advice u would offer him if his babe was behaving like you.

You should understand that no one wants trouble in marriage, hence, every possible test and analysis should be carried out before the "say i do".

Possibly, your guy and family doesn't understand u very well, our introverted personality always make people fear us, some think we pretend. But u must accept this fact and know how to make them feel comfortable and not scared.

I think his family just want to help out in understanding you better. Dem dey fear u, dem wan understand u well b4 their brother enter wrong hand.

You don't have to be angry, its the ideal thing to do....just find a reasonable way to relate, but remember don't overdo it.

When relating, make them understand this is you, don't say it verbally but rather let it reflect in your behavior, be nice and comfortable with them. When you are tired of relating at any point, pull out politely...work with wisdom.

Cheers

Omo see matured advice.
I salute sir

Davash222:
You expected him to choose a GIRLFRIEND over his family?
Girlfriend he might be sharing with Dem Boys

Don’t ever put a situation you put your wife against family. Your wife cannot be your family and neither can your family be your wife.

So in other words your wife has no right to turn you against your family neither can your family turn you against your wife.

If any of this happens then you’re not being responsible

nobody01:
So, I did build a project with JavaScript but I don't really like JS. I am trying to let go of Python, but I just can't make it happen.

Now, I want to go into the freelance market preferably Upwork since there are devs on Nairaland with a lot of experience, so that they can serve as guides when I have difficulties.

So far I've been taking DS and Algo classes to improve on that area. My issue now is choosing where to delve into with my Python skill.

I feel Web Development is a bit saturated on Upwork. I have been looking into QA using Selenium, or making bots on Upwork. I'm currently avoiding full time jobs because I need to get my AWS certificate first, so that I can resume as a Solution Architect, DevOps or Cloud Engineer instead of a Backend Engineer.

Please gurus in the house what's your suggestion? How do I know what's trending on Upwork for Python, so that I can learn it. Also, if there places where I could get Python related gigs, I would appreciate if they are mentioned.

Qtguru, Tensazangetsu20, Karleb, spartan117, stanliwise

What you’re asking for is vague and not clear at all.
There are many field of coding
DevOps
Hacking
Robotics
IoT
Web
Data science
Data analysis
AI/Machine learning

You see all the above, they are specialized skills and just mastering one of them could take 1-3 years of dedication.
So I don’t understand why you want to learn by how trending it is. Because within 2 years from now what is trending now may not trend tomorrow. Instead why not concentrate on how deep you can go in any of them and quality of value you can deliver.
Because that is how things work

So if web is saturated like you claim, you think you can just jump into another within next 2 month and start cashing out? E fit go shock you

Choose any and learn the depth of it let’s see if the money would not come out

seosabun:
I found a website, where this website provides a url shortening https://ylix.me service, I want to make something like this.

does anyone know what framework to use?

Simply buy a short name domain and build a shorten tools. It can’t be harder

hardebayho:
How many projects have you created with your knowledge of HTML and CSS? Why do you want to jump to learning another framework before becoming productive and efficient with your currently acquired knowledge?

Take it from someone that's been there, done that... It's really not a good idea. It's totally okay if you've some (really cool) projects you've done with these knowledge, but if not... Go to the drawing board first

Apt and correct. Being saying this for so long.

Op already have basic knowledge and he needs to focus on specialization.

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

If na me I go refuse the food all together. If I correct you on multiple occasions and we both discussed and reached an agreement. Then you still continue then I will leave you to your portion.

The matter no reach yo quarrel

Ryda:
The opposite gender won't seize to amaze one.

Imagine dislocating your ankle while running on heels because of #200k

Bless Jah it's not another news of one SIMPle man who fall victim

Must you show your madness everywhere
Beginning to yarn like a mad man

Havilaah1:
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.

I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.

Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.

The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).

This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event.
Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.

I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions.
How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.


God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.

I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation.
Moderator please help move to front page to get a wider view.
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farano
Please help move to front page for wider view.

All of a sudden you’re are introvert?
Anyway if your boo wan break the marriage because of family. You better leave him and his family.
Cause after marriage it will double. And his family will indulge into your marriage since he is the type that drags his own personal family to his own people.