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How does loving another human being makes one a slut?


How many of the women that loves you have you dated?

whitebeard:
She is in love with someone that doesn't love her (just a player), so I decided to let her go.

But she would come running back, just then she would realise that I don't open doors for hoés

So how come you are a divorcee? And why haven't you remarried?

Toks2008:
I laugh at the way some people dish out advise here on nairaland and worse still those who have no experience of marital life.

I have given her a link to one of my threads so I guess she will learn from there.

If you think there is a perfect marriage then you are worst than the biggest fool on earth.

We all have our crazy sides..

Only a mad man wakes up and starts abusing his woman without a cause but the OP has refused to tell us that thing that earns her the abuse ...not that I support verbal abuse but for Petes sake this is not the worst a lady can get from a man.

Some guys are full package but they are yahoo boys which does not make them better than an abusive guy who is legit and we have a romantic guy who smokes weed and does that make him.a better husband than the op fiance?

My point is simple,we all have our tolerance level and for me I could tolerate a nagging lady but I can't tolerate a bad cook while another guy can tolerate a lady in the opposite order.

So if the op can tolerate the abuses let her go ahead with the marriage as long as she is OK with other great sides of the guy...

Until we learn to magnify the good sides of our partners and tolerate the bad sides then we should stay away from getting married.

I like her but she is very si.lly.

Benignasweety

Why are you a tribal bigot? Whether Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, Ibibio, Efik....No one is better than the other. If a Yoruba man causes you harm, he may just be a bad person who does the same to people around him. Same goes for other ethnic groups, it may have never been about your ethnic group. An as.shole will always be an as.shole.

I can't see how tribe can preclude one from acting like a jackas? So far you havent mentioned how these afonja people mentioned your tribe when they treated you unfairly? Even if they did, don't they treat their kind Kirk that too? You also haven't asked Afonja people how they have been misled by other ethnic groups when they are at the market, have you? If you did you would have been told a lot stories and most of them would have ended it with the same illogical conclusion that you did....they would have blamed their ethnic group instead of pure human greed.


With your intelligence, I can't believe you think Hausas don't lie. Please, when did Hausas stop being human? If they were so truthful, how come northern states are as underdeveloped as southern states? You don't see yourself as a bigot but you are a bigot. You are so easy to castigate God creations yet you keep praying to him. May he forgive you ma.

Hi! Mr Perfect that does not do any thing wrong

thanknairaland1:
r u sure u r not d type I m having now? I think I have ur type with me. a girl i hope to marry and really in love with her use to pick an offence in every correction i give 2 her when ever she does sth wrong. I can't judge ur husband to be cos i haven't heard from him. search ur self madam.

You no say insult na part of abuse.

When parents insult you at this age, you get really mad at them not to mention a partner. It is far much worse.

I am sure you would love it when she actually starts to feel stupid because that is what she is always called. There is reason why you are not allowed to insult others on this forum, other forums, at works and get-together


Why don't you leave your advice for your daughter or yourself?

Toks2008:
Every affair with its own peculiarity.

Some people will say you should leave him for another guy who may not abuse you but will cheat on you with reckless impunity.

I tell ladies that the only thing they must never condolences is domestic violence and of course the one that comes from the man without them being the instigator.

This marriage thing has its good and bad sides and as long as slap never follow the abuse I will advise that you deal with it cos most guys out there have their own crazy side and you also do...nobody holy pass.


I recommend this thread for you.
https://www.nairaland.com/3441125/search-decent-partner-marry

What a loser!

What does the chic call you when you act stupid? slowpoke? Idiot? Daft? Deaf and dumb?

If at this age, you still don't know that no one has monopoly over idiocy.You are not God. Only God can be perfect. You must be more stup** than your chic. Both of you are stu***. That is why you are in relationship together.You have no respect for yourself not to.ntion for one another.

Where would you say you learn this behaviour from, your father?


There is no reason to insult a partner like that. The man is he-goat and a verbal abuser.

ricki:
I do too wen de chic act stupid but i warn before action/sanction. So it is her choice. Maybe u act dump/ stupid, stronghead......

U have managed to hide wat u did but only tok about his.....remeember 2 sides to all tory.

Stop ur drama queen behaviour and see changes.

N50m in Nigeria?

Stu.pid lawyer

You mean joy-cain that it as cheap as pure water. Wake up! You are dispensable.

Keep clutching to your fact, it won't stop me from ordering you about like a homing pigeon.

You are dismissed, boy! Go get some sleep.

cooldood:
Gals like u are the easiest to tame... with regular dosage of 'joy-cain', you'd humble ursef before the lord...LOL

You mean your fact, right?

Seriously, I can't be bothered. It won't stop me from ordering you around.

cooldood:
Why the thing con de pain u like this na... who sneeze for your garri na...lol...oya rant again, make i laff...LMAO..see ranting...if u like rant from now till thy kingdom come, it aint gonna change FACT...

You we you be nothing. Keep ranting while we keep queening without a damn about losers.

You are dismissed!

cooldood:
Na your scissors dem use trash am, or are you a defendant...yeye

Does this mean that your daddy give your mummy igbati and igbamu when she acts like a kid?

Men are not lion. They are human being! I can list many animals where the female is the one in control but then I am not so stu.pid to be comparing animals to humans.



Another loser spotted! You do know that you are more than your di.ck right? So get off your hateful as.s and get a life!

cooldood:
What tyranny, why dont you call the Lion's dominance in the animal space-tyranny, woman, its simply instinct and its nature that made it so. The man's natural instinct is to play a leader or a guardian role, if you as a lady makes him feel like a king, you will get a queen treatment back, but make him feel otherwise, they you go get igbati, igbamu...as simple as that.. dont call it ego or that nonsense you call it- tyranny. It is also because gals are like kids thats why you misbehave when you have little material things, cos its not in your nature, so you are not able to handle it. Give a kid (male or female) millions and see how s/he will mostly start misbehaving.

You also say 9ja men feel useless apart from their manhood and money, ok, so if I may ask, why wont they feel that way if those things aint there? How do you gals feel if you dont have wombs, or if you cant bear kids?

Can't you read? It has already been defended and trashed to pieces..

cooldood:
This is another perfect example of why women and men can NEVER EVER be equal! The reasoning, the actions, simply differ. Where are the gender equality proponents? Where dem de! Come and deny what the op posted and let thunder fire you!

If women can be submissive to men. Men can also be submissive to their wives and vice versa.

Basically, the idea of submission is a social construct which some people cannot be bothered about.

fineboynl:
listen by nature woman has to respect and submissive to man. no matter the situation. man remains the head.

outside of this is seen and abnormal.

He should attribute it to any of his family member and must tell us how every male in his family are humble towards their wives and kids. Also, he should tell us how none of his male family members have ever threatened/ asked their wives to leave their house and go to her father's house

GoodFaith:
When people talk about issue in society
That society include our family father, mother, brothers and sisters
The question became do you have a member of your family that have the characteristic we talking about?

How is it disrespect now?

I am glad he knows but he could have forgotten, that is why it is good to remind him and YOU.

GoodFaith:
" eph12:
99% of women cannot handle greater success than their husbands. It would cause chaos in that home.

Most Mothers are always quick to​ remind their children how useless their father is when he has problem providing for​ the home or when she's more successful"

He/she know that the mother is a woman
there is no need for you to disrespect he/her

Wow! You must be young to take statistics and opnion-ed at face value.


Look at this scenarios:

If a male boss should slap you now, you will not send the gender.

If a female boss should slap you now, you definitely will see the gender.

If a male boss ask you to do something or is being a piano in the as because he wants perfection, he is being an ass of a boss

If a female boss asks you to something or is being a perfectionist, how dare she? A mere woman like me (or lie my wife). She is acting like an asshole because she is a female boss

It is called gender bias. It is very much alive in the Western world and everywhere else. It is the same raosn stu.pid men and women would say women should be in corridor of power because of the likes of Diezani, conveniently forgetting about Saraki and co.

Well, you can keep worrying your head about gender while we keep soaring high..

TroubleMaker47:
It's no use arguing a known fact!
Most women simply can't handle sucess and if that irks you that's entirely your business!

Even daily mail has something to say about female bosses

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1302096/Men-best-bosses-Women-just-moody.html

Talking about your mama, aren't you?

eph12:
99% of women cannot handle greater success than their husbands. It would cause chaos in that home.

Most Mothers are always quick to​ remind their children how useless their father is when he has problem providing for​ the home or when she's more successful

Most women in authority

Can you please analyse that statement using Nigeria as an example?

TheRealestGuy:
Even though it's basically individual differences I can boldly tell you that most women in authority tend to abuse power and privileges that come with authority. I've worked long enough to know this...

I think it's a complex much akin to the Napoleon's complex; they hastily misinterpret any opposition as one trying to undermine them cos they're female, then they wanna react to "show" such opposition that they're tough and they end up bungling up the whole situation.

How many CEOs of top companies are women? How many company owners would want a female in charge? Just a handful I bet you, cos of my aforementioned theory...

I think men are mostly endowed with the gift of EI to an extent while women have the gift of instinct and sixth Zena in abundance...

Just saying, no hard feelings

When a man is rich, rude, controlling and abusive...It is her money that is causing it. God forbid a human with financial power acts arrogantly...She can't possibly be arrogant because of small money. She is simply not human!

When a man is rich, rude, controlling and abusive.....He is being a man and a human being. No big deal. He is just rude, controlling and abusive, it has nothing to do with his gender at all.



When a woman is rich, she must not say ‘pim' about anything for fear that her husband may interpret it as arrogance.

When a woman is rich, her husband can easily muzzle her and treat her and her properties the way he likes because at the end of the day, she would be blamed for everything.



All hail the gender that is not allowed to act like a human being!!!

The bolded is for civil servants

seangy4konji:
Let this guy rest na.

Why are the even still holding the guy...

I his hearing could be taken to the code of conduct tribunal then i will believe in equal right in nigeria...

He should be left alone to enjoy his loot...

The lives lost due to embezzlement and stolen funds from saraki is more than collecting ransom on over 20 million nigerians..

Let this guy go and get a cold beer and isiewu and enjoy is life jare...


PS..WHO amongst us has saraki begged for once for forgiveness?

What do we do? No be only you for the matter.

Monalisa185:
okay ooo, just when I thought Nigerians tribalise everything, they also.want to "religionalize" the rest as well... Well, what do I now??

@bellair , suck on this for a second

Can you please explain how your wife's race is relevant to the discussion at hand? Don't be so pained, I have no problem with any race nor do I care about any of them. However you seemed to really think it is an achievement, it speaks volume about your personal life......too bad I don't do low self-esteem individuals. E Pele sir.

You also knew we had real issues yet you got worked over common hyperpigmentation to the extent of volunteering personal information. Can you be any dum.ber, sir?

Your writing is a reflection of your IQ...below average . Therefore I am not surprised by your inability to grasp basic issues and basic rules of punctuation. It is 100% certain that you can never be my type or have the confidence and that type of life to walk up to me.

Now, we will talk when you have learnt the use of capital letters, small letters and punctuations.

Thank you.


Radarada oshi

Livefreeordieha:
u are the I. Díot.. Cursed to your specie.. I have no obligation to educate stupiddddd people if your foe is daft and u want to savor for her ur problem not mine.. Opinion is like anus everybody got.. To hell with u and ur lonely savaged fake life.. Even at ur comments shows how backward and full of hate, complex deceit, pretext Ur life is. At the mention that am married to a white indicates ur frustration that u are emotionally barren.. Am not a doctor for such illness woman.. My only advise is go and dieeeee!!! We already have a enough issues in the society to deal with I mean real issues.. Quit getting agitated when u hear white and black issues.. Liberate ursef if u will.. I live the life I love and love the life I live.. Check my moniker.. Am not in ur league have fuckkked ur type and dumped them void of emotions for same dominiaring spirit, full deceit, feminist poo.. Nó sense to make always bringing emotions to everything.. The Yoruba proverb says any woman that cries when asked to narrate what happened at home is a home breaker..

Please, can you explain how your wife's race is relevant to the discussion at hand? Also, you knew we had real issues yet you got worked over common hyperpigmentation. Can you be any dum.ber, sir?

Your writing is a reflection of your IQ. I am not surprised by your inability to grasp basic issues and punctate. We will talk when you have learnt the use of capital letters, small letters and punctuations.

Thank you.

Livefreeordieha:
u are the I. Díot.. Cursed to your specie.. I have no obligation to educate stupiddddd people if your foe is daft and u want to savor for her ur problem not mine.. Opinion is like anus everybody got.. To hell with u and ur lonely savaged fake life.. Even at ur comments shows how backward and full of hate, complex deceit, pretext Ur life is. At the mention that am married to a white indicates ur frustration that u are emotionally barren.. Am not a doctor for such illness woman.. My only advise is go and dieeeee!!! We already have a enough issues in the society to deal with I mean real issues.. Quit getting agitated when u hear white and black issues.. Liberate ursef if u will.. I live the life I love and love the life I live.. Check my moniker.. Am not in ur league have fuckkked ur type and dumped them void of emotions for same dominiaring spirit, full deceit, feminist poo.. Nó sense to make always bringing emotions to everything.. The Yoruba proverb says any woman that cries when asked to narrate what happened at home is a home breaker..

1) I am lady and I am not fair
2) I don't fvcking care if your wife is white. If you cared about your race, you would know hyperpigmentation in black race is far higher and more noticeable than other races.
3)She is not my mistress.
4) Temi Otedola is not bleaching. Her mum is not even African to begin with, so likelihood that she has always been naturally fair is in her favour.
5) I know naturally fair women who have chosen to bleached their knuckles because of ignorant opinions like yours. I have been around enough to actually differentiate a bleached skin and a natural fair-skin. It is your fault that you chose to be an ignoramous.

If you are old enough to marry, I would expect you to know how to address people civily especially when they are not belligerent towards you.
If you want you to act like a total mor.on, good for you. Too bad I would not have your time, if not I would Ave loved to put you where you belong. So quit acting like child who is not allowed to have some sweets. Grow up and act like a freaking adult!

Iji.ot!!!

Livefreeordieha:
oh my oh my.. That was so emotional of you.. But it's OK.. Straight to the topic.. I understand I need to explain you that she was referencing a different thing from what you just said.. Am a light skinned man having a relatively not so light knuckle of course it's not bleaching but what your mistress said was different and the temi otedola knuckles was bleached.. If you disagree you will loose this niceness am extending to you.. By the way my wife is white and she doesn't have dark knuckles but your mistress claimed all skin types have dark knuckles..

She is very right. There is a difference in the appearance of knuckles of natural ladies and bleached fair ladies.

You don't have to insult her. You should apologise

Livefreeordieha:
aahahahahhaha no wonder u av no pics to show us...wat can i say if i insist now u will google me pics..but posterity will always judge u in ur closet..imbecil.ic comments so u mean to say oyinbos have dark knucklesshame on u and ur retard.ed unproductive brain dat shud be in morgue instead of embarrassing ursef here...if u want to bleach and cover ur ass go and michael jackson up..all diz cheap girls with wide obo retiring to churches to capture unsuspecting men who av been brain washed that the best girls are found in churches..u av been spotted..

Some fair ladies have darker knuckles and it does not mean that they have bleached. It is as natural as any other thing. Knuckles of bleached ladies have different appearance to that of natural fair ladies.

damjane:
she should please take down that picture. bleaching is not attractive at all

It could be that the wife left her pathetic husband because of his pathetic behaviour. If only he had been a good father and husband and/or asserted his paremetal rights, the child may not have turned out this way.

Take a damn hint, boy!

bellair:
It could only be that the pathetic wife that left her hubby like tonto with her son and ruined his life. Train up child when he is small and he will not depart from it. He did not grow up with the father . Take a hint

It could go this way:

You were a pathetic father and husband. Your wife left you because of your pathetic behaviour and took your some with her. She could or she could not have tried her best to train him right. Either way, both of you failed.

Or she trained him right but the boy was too useless to listen to voice of reason.

Common sense please....Why the envy

It would have happened. Road accidents are much higher than aviation accidents. People get bunrt in these accidents too.

TarOrfeek:
The tragedy of wealth.
If someone had lapped her in a moribund danfo. none of this would have happened.

There are people who talk too much. It is not an insult. It is a weakness, a personality trait. It is who they are and it can be very annoying.

Becoming a father will not stop one from being a talkative.

lade007:
I don't know what this world is turning to. Your father talks too much? Children of these days self. I am sure you think he talks too much because you are still a kid and don't recognise the impact of his talks yet. When you grow a little bit older, you will have an understanding and the impact of what he is doing to you guys. My own advise is that you should enjoy the whole of it now, give him the attention he needs and be wise. The wisdom you need to grow up are tied around those words and not the social media that has engulfed and beclouded your view. I pray God helps you

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