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1. Acne is healthy and normal. Dugs or not, not all of us can have acne free faces. Ask your doctors, real doctors and look around at rich celebs too.
2. True, you didn't. Sorry about that.
3. Secrets to living longer are not set in stone. It is more than having flat stomach. I know a lot about flat stomach vs flabby stomach too but I have chosen to let people love who they are. Looking good is subjective.
4. I misconstrued you. Sorry about that...But still you compared it with abnormality...Really?
5. Body odour is normal. Read about body odour. Soap and sponge will not prevent you from sweating and when bacteria on your body feeds on it, you stink. And bacteria are not necessarily bad for you. They can be very healthy and normal too.

FitnessDoctor:
I completely understand you...

1. Please speak for yourself when you say all of us can't have acne free faces... I knew the journey I had to go through to make my face acne free and best of all I didn't use drugs..
2. Saggy breasts is natural... and I never claimed that healthy looking girls have perky breasts... Thank you
3. I don't care if you are not bothered about having a pot belly. Because I want you to have something that will make you healthier and live longer (a flat stomach).. Something that removes the excess fat from your body and gives your body a chance to go over its limits and make you a champion.. Sometimes people don't know what is best for them.. until they are educated about it.. I am here to do that.. So if you are not bothered, you can hang on with your pot belly.. Although I wish you would change that mentality.
4. Of course it is normal... But healthy looking girls don't have to worry about it... If you don't want to worry about stretch marks then join the healthy community.. If you are not worried.. then there is no need for you to read this post... Because your opinion is the one that matters most and not that of anybody else
5. I am not here to shout to talk on body odour.. I am here to say if you want to stop having body odour and start smelling good, then I can share my experience with you and how your soap and sponge can get rid of body odour for you.. But if you want to keep spending on body spray and perfume then you can go with that... I go with the healthy community..

Please don't insult me.. I am not just a blogger.. I am a Health/Fitness Enthusiast... You can see it there ... FitnessDoctor and not FitnessBlogger... The research I did on this post was taken from real life experiences of girls I have met.. I am not body shaming any lady.. But I am telling those that look in the mirror and wish to look good everyday that they can look better and not have to rely on heavy make up and perfume...

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

Another BS....Seems you enjoy making women feel insecure

1. All of us can't have acne free faces. Acne does not make you less healthy. It is part of being an adult.
2. All women cannot have perky breasts. Yes , the healthiest of virgin women can have droopy breast. It a very normal and healthy attribute.
3. Flat stomach will boost some women's ego but not all. There are women who can't be bothered about carrying a pot belly.
4. Stretch mark is very normal. It is not a sign of unhealthiness
5. Body odour is normal although it is highly disliked. It is normal to sweat and smell. That is why we take frequent shower and use anti-persipirant , perfume, etc. Common body odour does not make you less healthy

Every Tom, Dick and Harry want to be a blogger. Uou can but stop trying g too hard to mislead people. Proper research would have prevented such a misleading content.

Beats me when women body shame other women because they do not know jack about being a woman.

Seriously??

freddymanny49


You have every right not to take responsibility and Yes I am a lady. If she is too stu.pid to use contracepties, too stu.pid to know that you were not ready for the consequences of unprotected sex which was by you offered her contraceptives in the first place, too stu.pid to know not to involve you with the consequences of HER choice...then she is definitely too stu.pid to be a mother. That lady is a very foo.lish human being. Ignore her du.mbass.


Also, you have no excuse for engaging in unprotected sex. It could have been STDs and contraceptives are it actually fooIproo. I hope your fiancee dumps your sorry ass. You are highly irresponsible.

He should take it a step further by filling a report against the policeman and perhaps, get a pro Bono lawyer for the kejmke rider

1 and 5 are dead on arrival

The parents are stupid. They both owned the house as the the family house. They should have told her that even though it belongs to her legally. When they die, they shouldn't forget to will her share of their properties in her husband's names too because he is the husband.


It is very convenient to insult women when a woman acts arrogantly over her property but if it is a man that threw his wife out of their house, you won't be saying that men owning a house is such a big deal. In fact, men throw out their wives all the time and I am yet to see most men rising against such foolishness. I guess it is cute for men to act like jerks over their properties, isn't it? Hypocrites!


Anyways, It is stupid for one spouse to order his/her spouse out of a family house because of one small issue (except violence and abuse Sha). If the other partner cannot withstand his partner, he/she can get a hotel or stay with friends/family until issues are resolved.

Dpharisee:
Giving a woman a big gift such as a house or car can create problems for the new couple; I know of a couple whose rich parent gave their daughter a house as wedding gift and one day they had a quarrel and she told him to his face that 'after all, he is living in her house given to her by her parents' he threw her out and she ran home to report him to her parents.

The father invited the guy and his wife and told the daughter to kneel before her husband and ask for his forgiveness and told her that the house he gave was for the two of them and that her husband is the head of the home and custodian of the property and not her.
He then asked her to promise in their presence that she will always be a good wife and she goes back to her husband's house and that solved the problem. If the father had not handled it carefully, that marriage would have packed up and today they are a happy couple.

Like was done by my family in a recent wedding, the gift of a new car by the family for the wife was placed in her hands with the husbands hand underneath same way the place the couples hands over the knife during the wedding cake cutting event.

The way marriage works when the man rides a car and the woman doesn't.

Gosh! It is just a freaking car. It won't make your penis smaller, would it?

He wants to give HIS DAUGHTER a car gift not a cash for family. No be his money again!

padiga047:
I wonder how the marriage would look like the wife rides a car and he doesn't.


Why not transfer it to cash and give the couple to start their family.


That man is unknowingly causing trouble.

It is highly likely .....VERY likely that she knew what she was going to do in Italy. As hungerbad had written, it a open secret in Edo that girls who are trafficked end up as prostitutes. What gets to them is the amount the experience, they were warned about others experience and they knew it was going to be bad but not this bad.

Nigeria is bad..Yes but it didn't stop her from learning handiwork.

ElSherriff:
Sometimjust cos we have internet connection to read such stories, we are cut off from the stark realities that many Nigerians are faced with. For this girl, she is just existing as a scar on our national conscience and so are many others her age.

For the youths today, your responsibility is not limited to what you make of your today. You have a responsibility for the children you may bring into this world, a responsibility to society and to God. Her entire story may be touching, but the most glaring part for me is the line referring to her father as being dead to her. He has failed his loins and mankind and this (and others like her) will now suffer for his misplaced eroticism.

May she find respite. And may we break this chain through our actions. Amen.

What would be your response if it was the husband's father that gave his son a car? What gave you the impression that the husband was poor? Even if he were poor, how is it the father's in law obligation to give him money to enrich himself. I don't think the FIL needed to call him and give him money before he humbly ask for a loan.

Wedding gift is usually meant for both couple. If the husband has an issue with it, he shouldn't have married up in the first place. Issues like this will continue to happen, it is not a crime to buy expensive things for your own child because she is married.

Snow84:
Learn how to pass relationship-related comments from that Raine80 moniker. If the father had made it known that he gave the car to her daughter, that marriage is doomed, especially if the man is not rich enough to own a car. If the husband is not rich, and the wife is from a rich family, enrich the man, for charity sake, and see the man becoming grateful by loving his wife more, assuming what brought them together initially is genuine love. Before marriage, the father should have tested the man by giving him 1m naira to see r what he can do with it. If the 1m naira vanishes without making any good use of it, the father would advise her daughter to be wary of the man, and steer clear of interfering in the affairs of the upcoming family. You don't have to teach young people, adversities will teach them.

lanrexlan:
Exactly, nature can NEVER be suppressed. There are two extremes and a middle path: The first extreme is celibacy as championed by the catholic church and this is not possible, cos you can't suppress nature and news from catholic homes prove that (As nuns were seen committing fornication).

The second extreme is the idea of free sex as advocated by the west, that a man is free to have sex with anyone he wishes since he is not harming anyone and it's a mutual concept. This is also wrong (But it's not our discussion).

The middle path is what Islam preaches, fulfilling your sexual urges in the right manner. So, when you have sexual feelings for the opposite sex, do the right thing and get married to her, make the right moves, this is one of the means of fulfilling your sexual feelings towards the opposite gender.

This will be just a discussion of going back and forth. Baqir has replied you on this. The chances of a lady dressed in full garment getting raped to a lady dressed in skimpy cloth is relatively low.


These are abnormal cases. Sometimes, rapists of small kids are up to something else and they aren't attracted by her features. Well, we are talking about an ideal situation.

These are rare cases bro and Baqir has also replied this. I don't think we should be repeating the same argument, I am to input my take on the issue and take my leave.

Pre marital sex is not wrong because it is wrong. It is not wrong for everyone but it is sinful for muslims. You cannot convince a non Muslim that pre marital sex is wrong because in actual fact there aren't any reasons why it is wrong.

A fully dressed woman is not safe from rape. Most rape incidents happen within the domestic sphere. Also, the way the world is now, there are men out there who have fetishes for fully covered women.


Paedophiles are actually attracted to the features of their pre-pubscent victims/object of desire. The innocent eyes, the lack of hair etc


We can do without trying to justify Islam based on logic. Logic and religion do not mix. Religion is about faith. If you don't faith, you can't follow a religion whether it is islam or Christianity etc. However I am not saying I follow every Islamic presecription based on faith, there are times when I basically go with my logic.

Another victim of domestic abuse again

How can a submissive woman be into stuffs like this? Why would a submiove women fail to listen to her lord?

Not so submissive, I guess

Insult is a common trait among male members too. Look around you man

mrsmith11:
Must you insult when making your point.

It seems to be very common among female members here then tomorrow you will open a thread that your husband is abusing you whereas you can't. Open your mouth without insulting

SMH

Come on he will, she is foreign and that is the Koko

majekdom2:
you can't take upto half of the poo a foreign babe will give to you. Stop the generalisation, there are independent Nigerian ladies.

Don't you have female friends that can matchmake you with their friends?

I won't say you shouldn't go for wmen that dress well. There are a lot women that dress well and are independent. And I wouldn't say you should tone down your status, it is who you are. Best of luck.

26andsearching:
I rarely speak of myself or status when wooing

U ladies are just too complicated

No, I don't expect it to be relevant to you. You are a US soldier and a Trump supporter after all. Sleep tight.

Missy89:
Better to you remain silent and be thought a foool than to speak out and remove all doubt. Your opinion is irrelevant to me

@Mindless

Everyone reacts to terrorist attack in western countries as if one life is more valuable than the other. We conveniently forget to see that it is more political than religion. The world need to address these issues at its roots. We can't keep living like this. We can't simply go on living like this. What is happening in Syria could be happening to any of us. What happened in Manchester could have been any of us.



@Missy89, you were/are a US soldier. You don't get to talk about anything. Anyone or any country that have helped to widen these differences are one and the same. Yes, you are in the same box as every sucide bomber. You are in the same box as the Saudi government. You are in the same box as the Syrian government. You don't get to act sanctimonious. No, being a US soldier doesn't make you miss goody two shoes. You are as bad as all of them. You definitely have no right to blame anyone.

Well, you witnessed wrong.

lenghtinny:
N*gga I don't know where you came from but can you please shut the f*ck up...
This story ain't what my uncle told me because I witnessed it myself...

Okay, you are still blaming the woman

Mothers also work yet they still find time to bond with their kids.

Mothers can only try but kids never forget.

Basically, they are not responsible for fathers' actions so you can quit blaming them

Gr8amechi:
lol hell no, I am not blaming anyone but rather looking out for ways to make it out. Just imagine the fathers sit at home just to spoil their mother to their kids. My point is the mother has a role to play in the kids not hating the father, agreed the fathers ought not be too bossy or harsh but sometimes children need that extra push to bring out the best in them even the Holy book said spare the rod and spoil the child

Your uncle has been lying to you sir

lenghtinny:
What do you mean by someone sir, I hope you aren't referring to my uncle because if you are then you better take that back please... Don't let me transfer the aggression to you with this statement over an incident you know next to nothing about..
Or do you think I just woke up to cook a fairytale story?

Someone has been lying to you sir.

lenghtinny:
Reminds me of my late uncle...

He was a civil servant working in another state different from where his family resided. His wife was an housewife with 4 kids (2 boys, 2 girls)...

He was not always around, so he didn't know his wife was poisoning the mind of the children against him...
After funding all 4 through higher institutions and they graduated, they now realized that he has been maltreating their mom due to his absence from home.
When He was about to retire from service, trying to finalize his paperwork; this kids took off with their mum without informing him..
For 10 good years he didn't set his eyes on them before he died meanwhile his wife family knew where they were but didn't disclose it.. When their mom died, they buried her without informing him.
He died of liver related problem because he turned to alcohol as consolation and the kids still didn't didn't show up at his burial...
It's been 10 years now

Let's blame women again....Last time I checked it is not women that go about on this forum to prove how and why men are polygamous in nature. Your argument is dead on arrival. Try again!

Ifebazz:
Very easy to see it from the woman's angle alone and pass judgement. Do you know how many women who are thorns in the flesh of which ever man that come their way? Or do you think all or most men love philandering for no just course? More men in marriages are there for the sake of their kids alone, not happiness or peace of mind. So cut some errant dads some slacks as those kids will grow up to see exactly what their fathers passed through in the hands of their mothers when they themselves get married.

You must find a way to blame women. So it is women that ask men to act like tyrant because they are men abi?

Gr8amechi:
yea I get your point, but that's why marriage is for two, that's when the lady needs to help the man, until ladies discover that they are mothers to both their kids as well as husband some of these little issues can't be solved

Not true, my dad once taught me how to solve a mathematical problem over the phone.

Let's ask those men what they do with their kids whenever they are able to go back home.

KevinDein:
Marie, I do appreciate that some fathers are genuine assssholes and this group men have only themselves to blame for being alienated by their kids in latter parts of their lives.

[b]However, some other men find themselves in situations they can't help. They have to live and work far away from the wife and kids just so the family can have the highest possible standard of living. Of course this group of dads will still be underappreciated by their kids for obviously no fault of their[/b]s.

Children actually listen to their mothers. My brothers will not be where they are today if not for our mother......and father.

In my experience, the one that don't listen to their mothers are those whose fathers have managed to denigrate in front of them and those whose mothers always run to the fathers when there are disciplinary issues.

Bobby808:
I have read many posts from this thread including this one. Am just wondering the way most people, especially this era reasons. I mean the way the todey Nigerian thinks. I am a grand father. From records, no woman has successfully managed the home alone. Both mother and father does it together but when the father dies prematurelly, the mother and the children most time do not do well because, it is very difficult to manage the children without the father. Most children do not obay the commands and instructions of the mothers without the support of the father hence the father is described as always shouting. If the father do not shout especually the today jet age where children are very arrogant, desrespectful etc. All these children who posting and are sounding insultive to father and those who prefers to talk down, those children who misbehaves because the father is aged should have a change of mind. The bible describe the mother as a helper. Helper means to assist the father. Therefore, the father is expected to take the lead and to lead involved using all manners of methods to ensure that at the end, a good reault is achieved.
My second son, now a millitary officer in defence headquarters was living with his mother, while I was transferred to PH to work. My wife was always complaining so much so that I was forced to remove him, take him and lived with me until he was able to finish school (university)and now an officer. So if you are still a young man under parents, please, always respect your father when he is old. Do not say he was using force on me and now that I am on my own, to hell with him.

They won't remember the days they maltreated their wives and they won't remember how they considered themselves too alpha to bond with their children through house chores or homework or joke with.

By the way, I don't know that family where the woman is a stay at home mother. It is my experience that both parents provide for the family therefore you cannot use the provider excuse to redirect blame. Fathers who find themselves in this position have no one but themselves to blame.

There is a way to end this tiredness. Sniper is not too costly now . Before you know it you will be in a better place where you won't be tired of matters that do not concern you.

Just inagine

elmagnifico411:
I'm sick and tired of these bunch of hypocrites called Muslim! When christians were about fasting, we didn't hear any noise. Just becos of this their Ramadan they're referring to the govt as being insensitive. Which fast Una dey fast sef? U eat very early In The morning and wait till 7pm in the evening for another meal, is that wan fasting? Mtchew, confused set of people.