₦airaland Forum

In this capitalist world, the roles aren't cut and dried anymore. Back then, in ile Yoruba, women worked and still took care of the home. The roles are clearer with the rich. I once read an excerpt (it was on twitter) of a book and they mentioned that one of the reasons the slavers took your women was also because you worked them like men . Think about that for a second. A child on her back and farm produce on her head after tilling the farm with you. The interesting part is you will still see this form of madness in Nigeria.

A lot of married Nigerian women have always paid their own bills. We know them. The ones working in schools, banks, ministries, even market women. The complete separation of roles where the man is 100% responsbile for bills is a foreign concept. The foreigners have even left that behind a very long time ago. Your average Nigerian man is too poor to foot his bill and his wife's bills.

That house chores you don't want to do, you will do it by force

Yoruba movies can't pass on ridiculing albinism or people with disability.

Mariangeles:
The way they even portray them in our movies make matters worse for them. Like an object of ridicule not worthy of any respect.
If stares could kill, no albino would exist.
Then, there’s a Nigerian tribe that has this superstitious belief of a pregnant woman most likely to birth an albino child if she stares too much at an albino.

According to some reports, they’re are even hunted and killed like animals for some kinds of ritual in some African countries.

I can't stand bigotry in whatever form. What is wrong with people?!

Personality, lifestyle and the type of people around you play a big part in how much you end up spending. I am a big believer of cutting my coat according to my cloth. A million should be enough.

You two should discuss how you will resolve issues.



In Nigerian's dictionary, hot temperedness = abusive.

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Modernizer:
well, i really need to settle down, and im really not the type that eadily gets into relationships. so im wondering how long it would take me to reach this extent again with a new person

No you don't but isn't it convenient you chose a time like this to make a cas for R Kelly.

wordbank:
Sometimes judges behave like junkies, especially on female related cases. As much as women has sworn your downfall, judges will definitely dig their pit in between their legs.
A lot of innocent men have been penalized over consented affairs, but for the fact that he is an alpha, pussy judges will sway just to hit the simp way.

Na that hammer go kill dem nonetheless I don't support rape or any sort of abuse

This is the reason. How is that hard to fiigure out? @op.

InfernoNig:
It's not easy to cook soup and go to market all the time. Them dey tire ni. Beside soup things are expensive.

Mompha?

The people that have been to hell and back

Emotionally intelligent but you were bonding with lonely full time house wife in her house

Transfer your salary to your wife so she doesn't
nag you.

I say don't transfer your salary so she doesn't nag you. What exactly is the problem?

The idea is not bad I would rather it depends on trust, their financial and marital goals and the partner that isore financially responsible.

Kobojunkie:
You are still suggesting that a man should be the one to spend the money on behalf of the family rather than the woman here.

Also, what issues are there to avoid that are avoided when the man is the one spending the money for the family?

Motigbo

Dapcity007:
Feminist will always be a cancer to society,we are the antibiotics for them

I don't have time for redpillers. Believe what you will. We can't mix.

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Lmao. It is going to shock you that many western families still have the same traditional roles with a modern twist. Many wives and mothers still cook and do most of the chores. Blame divorce rate on women's access to 'ego' and in other cases, common sense .

Dapcity007:
That's why western societies with equalist relationships are divorcing at 50% Marital rates and Marital rates are declining, except a man is in charge,that marriage will fail, these was a know fact for most of history in every civilization and era, divorce was so rare and family values were sacred until mordern day Feminism via Egalitarianistic-Equalism ideology

No. It is because it doesn't make sense to me. I have had my fair share of budgeting for the family at a very young age. If the man is responsible, he can spend his money for the family without giving all to his wife 'to avoid issues'.

Kobojunkie:
Because you don't believe you are capable of handling such responsibility in a marriage?

Whatever rocks your boat moonpie

Rubbiish:
Lol u can't speak for your brothers
It has nothing to do with masculinity!
Just like a man wearing a G-string even the most civilized will frown at it! The scenario that poster narrated is not what any man would wish for.

Who told you they are not assertive . Speak for yourself mister .

They are assertive and very shameless. You will call them sir where they stand. Beta male

Dapcity007:
Shaming men as usual, nothing unexpected from a feminist, a man that can't provide and assert dominance is highly unattractive, period, women are evolutionary hardwired to seek better, wiser, taller, stronger,richer, than them, that's the only way they can be in their feminine and deffer to his authority for the relationship to be successful,

I still won't support it.

Kobojunkie:
It wouldn't work in every marriage ofcourse.

My dad? No

My brothers? 100% yes. You think everyone's masculinity is as fragile as yours. . They are every Alpha male as well of that is what you are looking for.

Rubbiish:
You are a lady & won't understand!
Take that post to your brothers or dad!
No man will ever wish for such, that is not how a man is expected to care of his family! Any man in such condition is just helpless!

He is useless because he takes care of his family?

Rubbiish:
God forbid!
No man would ever wish for this!
It is a curse!
That man is helpless!

Uhn

I am a woman and I won't support such advice.

spice123:
My brother, I was out of job for like 6 months and wife took care of all the bills excluding rent and school fees and nobody noticed or knew I was out of job. No negative attitude showed up and I will tell you why. A close friend gave me this advice and I will share same with you. When you get your salary or business profit, remove your t-fare/car fuel and give the rest to your wife to manage the home. I was very hard for me to do but t I summoned courage and since 3+ years I started it, I have complete peace. Infact, my wife was praising me on how I was able to pay all bills and manage funds. By the time your wife will mismange the home funds (feeding, rent, kids sch fees e.t.c) she will wake up and realize that paying for gas in the home is the least issue. You will have utmost respect bro. I have been married for 7 years now.

Call her and speak to her please

The ordinary Nigerian can't follow his passion because it is common sense to follow money when you are from a poor country.

Lucas4903:
It is because they follow their passion and not the money that their family already has. The ordinary Nigerian is a worshipper of money and will do any and everything to get money including selecting courses they feel it's gonna be a high end return one. At the end no one is actually following their passion but the money.

We assume a lot about the wealthy

Love love her

I am loving this new development.

How much is your cousin paying? Is it enough to pay for the papers, logistics and administrative costs?

kingphilip:
Is FG actually paying for the exams?

Just hearing about this because upto 3 years back I know my cousin made payment for his

A lot more average students write external WAEC than prodigies.

Martinez39s:
In sane countries, there are special classes for prodigies and gifted children. These children are even given the room to flow at their own pace as long as they can handle it, even if they will be many years ahead of their peers.

Here, they don't want brilliant SS1 and SS2 students to write ordinary waec, instead they want them to unnecessarily waste time. In this country of all places. I SMH for this country. Why not overhaul and reform the syllabi of secondary schools instead?

They can test their preparedness in the confines of their house. Their schools can hold mock WAEC for their third semester exams. FG should not be paying for these exams. It is an unnecessary cost.

kingphilip:
Most SS1 and SS2 pupils who write these external examinations at that level do so to test their preparedness for the examination.

Most of them still end up doing SS3 because before the result comes out, the next session would have resumed.

I think they should also ban the writing of Primary School leaving certificate in Primary 4 and 5 if that is the case.

This measure won't solve anything. They should let those kids be!!!

Shey they don't want those examination bodies to be posting outrageous profits ni?

And if they don't pass?

Shey no be money dem waste?

When you choose to be stupid unprovoked

DrChukki:
An Igbo female soldier assaulted an Igbo Corp member... This can hardly be seen among Hausas or Fulanis.

How do you have the mind to assault your fellow lady who speaks the same language with you and both of you are in another land...

I'm not being tribal here but I'm passing a message to my Igbo brothers...

To me, the lady leaving the state is a good idea...

My intial reacton

tonyashburton:
Slowpoke le leyi oh.Nonsense from the first letter to the last full stop.
Seun abeg use vacuum cleaner take comot this rubbish before what happened in 1982 happens again.

Older parents can keep themselves busy with activities, religious associations or charity causes. They can even offer to babysit or look after children for the younger couples around them.

Winneygirl:
Career biko.

No one was born into this world to be a spectator.
You can make something of your life.
People are talking about taking care of children. Children will grow up and leave the parents behind.
Children are not a retirement plan. Anyone thinking their children will "take care" of them in old age should ask themselves, "am I taking good care of my parents in their old age"? There are many retired parents who are still paying school fees for their children.
Do you know what the future even holds? Please build a source of income for yourself and your wife for old age. Your old age is only as sweet as your income at that time.

Career for both man and woman!!!

I understood you perfectly and you are still wrong.

advanceDNA:
If u don't understand my comment
...go elsewhere jare...