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Onyi22:
Pity yourself

Yen yen yen

Rubbish

I pity this dude

You need to see a doctor ASAP. Loss of smell and taste is not a common symptom of corona virus its mostly mild. I suggest you not take embark on any self-medication,its harmful and detrimental to your well-being. Seek professional help.

musa234:
OP you made valid points really .Most guys have made women feel entitled. Now these girls act as if they are doing you a favor by dating you. It's really funny because you are the one who should be doing them a favor by dating them because they are mostly liabilities and have absolutely nothing to offer than a slippery hole in between their thighs.

"Slippery hole"

There might be reasons for this behaviour, such as:
-low-self esteem
- financial challenges
- health issues

My point is a well-rounded guy will never take or lower himself to such low level.

Happy989:
I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

Shut up, you MF. You are already cheating on the poor BF. Its pathetic how unfaithful people could be these days.

Just quit the damn relationship so he will find someone who cherish and love him for he is. Such a lovely guy doesn't deserve a scumbag like you

A minute of silence for all the innocent men who were accused falsely of rape

Its normal, don't give them your dreams other meanings, its natural. Don't heed to advice of overzealous religious people.

MrChriz:
Your friend doesn't listen to advice, so der is nothing u can do + keep ur distance if u knw wats ghud for u...

You just said my mind

Caxmir:


Your username says it all "CYNOSURE".

He's obviously not interested in ur quantum physics and teleportation induced sci-fi series.

have you asked him what he really likes to discuss?

As everything shouldn't be about you, you , you...... he might be a foodie, perfume freak, Bible eater, spice analyst, meat biologist but no!! you won't talk about those, forcing your opinions and topics down his keypad, making a young elder brother unhappy.


If he's not giving you the vibe u want better leave him in peace than pieces. He deserves to be happy not suffocated with meaningless rants.

Excellent contribution man... Don't mind that OP

mikebabs101:
why are you trying to judge me lol, she was good to me and I was good to her , the sex is mutual and she love sex, the point is she's is too manipulative to be taken serious on the long term , if you read the my story again, I stated I broke up when she tried some game with me , it really has to do with asking me to pay for her house rent in school when I know she has parents. Even if I could afford , I witnessed with my eyes ,how she took a guy that was kind to her for a fool, I won't put myself in such a situation

Nice reply man, totally support your decision to dump that scum. Really smart from you bro.

Openbusiness:
Geisha child. Na your grandpa i be oh

Spaghetti child shut up

NengakGodwin1:
Okay. We've heard you "spagetti" child.

spaghetti child

After reading your post and almost all the comments here, I deduced:
- its highly unlikely she is pregnant
- You are panicking due to anxiety and ignorance
- You claim to quit if truly she is pregnant - such a vile human you are
- for you to have unprotected sex as a first time with her shows your foolishness and dumbness
-Most Nairalanders are hypocrites


My take;
- make sure you carry out a pregnancy test - either from a clinic or using pregnancy test kit( I am serious)
-Educate yourself on sex
- And if she is really pregnant then inform her aunt
- focus on building your life.
- finally be calm everything will be all right

Peace

Joycekkh:
This is why I always advocate for celibacy. Stay away from premarital sex.

Are you a virgin?

zuby4real10:
Haba my oga I can not be tired all the times of my life even early in the morning after waking up from sleep. As for the banana diet, I will try and add it. Thank you

Only banana? How does that adding that to his diet prevent him from sleeping immediately after ejaculation?

Raulboy:
Happy Sunday people.....I might sound Corny but am a very jealous type this morning I escorted my girlfriend to the junction of my street to take a bike after a rough night ( you know what I mean...lol)....feeling like the igwe in my area....on getting to the junction there's one bike man there and we know how okada riders do ( 2 passengers) my girl got on the bike ....cause of the weather and no church everywhere was dry no passenger to carry ...so he took her alone.while I was waving and watching her go a tall build guy stop the bike ( going in the same direction) knowing I was still watching she shifted in the middle like a sandwich....she could have gotten down and let the guy take the middle seat ........now I can't get that picture out of my head .....anybody been in this same situation?

The fact she adjusted for a guy on a bike doesn't mean in anyway that she is a LovePeddler

socialmediaman:
You seem to be ignorant about rape! A lady has the right to withdraw her consent at anytime she doesn’t feel comfortable having sex she earlier consented to. If she does, you should IMMEDIATELY respect her decision. It’s her body, not yours. There’s no excuse for rape and there’s no way it will happen if you understand and fully respect the fact that her body belongs to her and she can withdraw her consent any anytime she wants.

Before you have sex with a lady, make sure she’s comfortable to do it, ask her if she’s comfortable. Yes, get her consent. I believe if she was the one coming at you, you’ll expect to be respected as well. Don’t try to coerce her into doing it, that’s not right, it’s rape. Ladies are not sex objects, sex should be an activity consented to by 2 people who willingly participate in it, not by one person who just thinks the other is a tool for him to satisfy his sexual urge.

Be Informed!

Where in his write up did he attempted to rape her? Its clear he is just giving guys a flow of how things are in reality

Benitam:
The rmelationship is just about 6weeks old. I might come off as desperate if I ask, don't you think?

"The earlier you solved a problem the better"
". A stitch in time saves nine"
" A stumble may prevent a fall"

Meditate on these proverbs.

Ifeoluwaleyi:
Hi Famz, I need your advice, I have been in this relationship since 2016, I met this girl in my church, I have been very popular in my church and this girl was always smiling and winking at me from her seat admist the congregation, one Sunday after the service, I summoned the courage to talk to her, she was so beautiful and intelligent, we started the relationship but few months later, I noticed she was too gifted and knew about several things without being told, she even did some extraordinary things I can't talk about now, I approached her one day and asked her to tell supernatural powers but she laughed it off and said she is just gifted, some days ago, I asked her again vehemently with all seriousness, she couldn't hide anywhere again, she told me she is afraid that I may not be able to sleep in the night if she open up, I decided to man up asking her to tell me, she said she's been in the Marine coven since childhood, I asked her what they do, she said they kill people, initiate babies, cause road accidents, she told me she wasn't sent to destroy me but that she loved me dearly and would give me all I need and protect me with everything she has, I have been confused and I don't know what to do, please advise me,

People like me don't believe in such BS. But you do, so I advise you either quit or flow with the tide.

sesameq:
guys what do you think?

Arsenal may win the cup in a year or two time so your logic makes no sense.

That said, how about punishment for fake accusations?

Benitam:
I only stopped when I noticed I was the one calling more. Even to reply my messages sef is war..

I suggest you hold a face-to-face discussion regarding the viability of the relationship so as to know where you stand. It will also give you a hint of whether you are on the same page or not.

Princesslee:
Yes I know and I have apologised wholeheartedly. There are times He insulted me too.

Maybe he is like me because I hardly forget things - Apologies accepted but back With you? Never again

Benitam:
Hmmmmm... Thank you for this your post, I just started seeing a guy that seemed to be nice initially, he calls at least once a day in the first 3weeks but after that it's been like once in 3days. I do call him also but I just decided to stop to see if he'll change. From your post, I can conclude he's really not into me..

You guys should be calling each other when needed, it doesn't have to be always one person. If its a one way street then its a toxic relationship.

Princesslee:
I met this guy on Facebook may 2017 and we started dating November 2017 without seeing each other, I school in Unijos while He works in Lagos and He promised me that distance will not be a barrier but the truth is that the relationship has always not been Rossy.
We always have issues and it's always as a result of not seeing each other like for instance we saw each other Just once last year and same for now this year. I always beg him to allow me come visiting and when it's time He comes with an excuse so it was becoming too much and making feel like am desperate and as a result of that I flared up and insults him.
The past 6 weeks has really been hell, I always calls and he never pick up but always return the call after some hours. And He barely called whenever He is at home. It's either he is on his way to work or coming back or going to buy something and feels He should tell my Good night.
Exactly two weeks ago He called me around 11am and the truth is that I wasn't feeling too well and after we finish talking I didn't hear from him until around 5pm then I called twice and He didn't pick up. He later called around 9pm and I asked him why didn't pick up nor returned my call anymore and He said he was not having airtime and strated complaining how I responded to his call that morning. I tried explaining to him that I was sick and He started shouting saying if I can not manage that I should walk out of the relationship and He asked me to call back if I wished and ended the call.
To summarize everything I tried calling for like countless times and he didn't pickup, I sent a text that am sick and he replied sorry. Since then He has been showing his true self and I was scared the relationship might end, I sent him a text saying am missing him and he replied that we will talk the next day. I called the next day but His phone was switched off and after sometime connected, He requested I gave him some time that He will call me back but He didn't so I called again and He immediately sent me a text reminiscing me that I once insulted last year March and He has taken enough from me that He needs some space.
I swear with my life that I truly love this guy to a fault and I have already told every members of my family and friends about him. I most times post his picture on my social media page and everyone knows about him already. I really don't know what to do anymore. Please I need advice. Thanks so much and so sorry for the long post.

You don't respect him if you do you wouldn't have insulted him. He has my support and full backing. He shouldn't be in a place where he is treated like trash when he can be treasured elsewhere.

Leave the poor guy alone

izzou:
[color=royalblue]That girl is too young to start ruining herself

I don't think I'll be able to mind my business, if it was me[/color]

What if she is the stubborn type?

Your unsolicited advice will enter left ear and pass through the right

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Have you ever seen someone who's sexual likes and preferences were changed?

Its incredibly hard, its something beyond your control. Even if the person change publicly he will definitely digress behind the scenes so forget matter.

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

21 years is not a minor anywhere in the world.

Dobson43:
Quick points here:

You were supposed to mind your business.

You crossed a line poking your nose in her personal affairs.

Being her Boss doesn't give you the right to judge her. She is under contract to serve you in a certain capacity. Stick to that capacity.

If her atitude to work affects your business in anyway, then you can let her off.

Why should you be bothered as a father? What's the point of drinking paracetamol on another man's headache?

If you had used this amount of time in snooping around in pushing your business forward, you would actually enjoy better patronage.


You should draw a line as regards your relationship between yourself and your workers.
It appears you have feelings for this lady thus your uneasiness that she has underperformed in your own estimation.

This time actually do mind your business.

Nice comment, most bosses are like this OP - bunch of controlling and annoying MFs

Amotolongbo:
We should learn how to separate business from personal life.

She is your sales girl, relate with her strictly on business and show less concern on her personal life.

The way I’m reading your message, there is already a growing emotion in you already towards the girl, the reason you felt so highly disappointed and wanna lay her off, not because she is underperforming but the way she chose to live her life, which should be less of your concern.

In as much she is performing her responsibilities to your satisfaction and not using her “wayward” life to affect your business like she did the first time she went for abortion, leave her alone.

The only reason why you can lay her off is if she goes on abortion again and that makes her to take a time out of work and underperforming.

So much sense in a single comment

Damn! I hope this OP sees this comment.

Her sexual life is none of your business so long as it doesn't affect your business.

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.
Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.
After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.
I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter? Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

You are are gullible for mistaking spirituality for morals. And besides you can mind your business. she is your employee not your child.

Vyzz:
I am even afraid to walk behind a lady now...

Oga don't be naive and timid.

They can only accuse you if you allow them. You are a man, act like one.