ExBanker: Nairalanders, I want you to judge if the conditions I gave this girl is okay or it is too much
I met this girl around June this years. I really liked her. As I was asking her out, I was always taking care of her. Buying her stuffs, giving her allowances and supporting her. Then the relationship started last month officially when we smashed. I continued to take good care of her. But note that before we officially started dating, she showed half interest. She wasn't really into the relationship. When we started dating, she showed same attitude.
Her much elder sister is a hair dresser. Like 7 years older. She lives with the sister. The sister shop is in one hidden corner. They hardly get customers. So both of them are always broke. I have being supporting them. This month, their rent is expiring. They intend to move to a better location. The new shop is N75k per year. My girlfriend asked me for support. I said I will give them N50k by August end. Since they were expecting N50k from me, they gathered all the money they have home and abroad and paid advance of N30,000 for the new shop to secure it. Last week, my girl asked me for N7k for something. I told her I don't have. I am gathering money for the N50k. It is a lie sha. the money is already there.
She then asked me to borrow her. She will pay me back. So I gave her. By weekend, she was acting funny. I told her I am tired of the relationship. She should forget it. It turned to quarrel. Then she left. We quarreled on phone till Monday. I think they felt bad that I am leaving out of the deal to help them secure the shop. On Monday, the sister called to quarrel with me too. Imagine.
After everything, today, my girlfriend called to apologize. I told her that I have forgiven her. But, for our relationship to continue, there is one condition. She asked me what condition. I told her that despite the fact I have being supporting her and her sister, both of them still had the gut to talk to me anyhow. I will only continue the relationship if I will be having sex with the 2 of them. She was shocked. She wanted to start talking nonsense. I told her to shut up and relay my condition to her sister. Let the sister call me to tell me if she agrees.
Please i need an advice on the next step i should take in life. I am a guy, 25 years of age and still living with my parents, though i am not jobless but recently my bank account just hit one million and 200 thousand naira.
So my parents are advising to buy a landed property in my home town that will take about 900 to 1 million naira. But the thing is that i am 25 and i feel at my age i should no longer be staying with my parents, so i want to rent a flat and furniture it to my taste, i feel it is time to move on, i need my freedom to finally face life like a man.
So my question is, should i purchase a landed property at 25 and continue living with my parents or pack out and start my Adult life. Note: i am not jobless".
I am a parent and i would give my son similar advise. They give you good advise and know best for you, buy land and start building instead of packing out don't listen to all these small boys and girls.
CuteMercury: Good evening ladies and gentlemen, so by next year or next two years, it is now 100% certain that i will leave for the United States of America.
Though i am educated but what i have come to understand is that in our world today, most especially in the United States of America, learning a skill is very Very important and you can can never go broke or jobless if you have certain skills in the United States of America.
So i want to use the rest of this year to acquire a skill that will be of great help to me when i get to America.
So i have decided to learn interior home and office designing and decorating.
I want to ask if acquiring a skill of interior design is the best for me or what are the top skills you think i can acquire or someone can acquire before travelling to the United States of America.
Don't listen to all these people are they in USA. Go and learn Mechanic carpentry
8. Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings.
9 Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation.
10 Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.
The first thing is to be born again and sanctity so that you can be holy to see God. After this your tithes would be acceptable to God but your soul first. According to the verses above if you're not paying your tithes regularly you won't make heaven because the verses call tithe defaulters robbers. How can a robber or thief make heaven? I am also guilty of this may God help me.
End time. Secret society are now having meeting in the open and the witches and wizards that fly by night to suck human blood are not ashame to show up
finnacle2020: Samuel Sochukwuma Okwaraji (19 May 1964 – 12 August 1989) was a professional footballer who played internationally for Nigeria.
He was also a qualified lawyer who had a masters in international law from the Pontifical Lateran University of Rome.
He collapsed and died of congestive heart failure in the 77th minute of a World Cup qualification match against Angola at the Lagos National Stadium in Surulere, Lagos State on 12 August 1989.
He is also linked with the controversial match between Nigeria and India which was claimed that he scored the only goal against the Indian side 99-1 which leads to his death on the pitch.
sanyablaze: A lady on social media has revealed how sexually aroused she becomes upon sighting a rich guy with a car.
According to the lady via her video below, her legs spread out very fast when she sees a rich guy who has a car of his own.
The lady seemed very serious about what she was saying as she further expressed her desire to finally meet the man of her dreams and tie the knot with him.
In her words;
“My legs, they spread out so fast, especially when I see a car key. I hope I’m going to find that man”.
You love and want to marry a man with unmatched genotype? You are even thinking of ivf you better think again what is after 6 is more than 7 according to Yoruba proverb. You better detach yourself from this relationship and forget about years you have invested because there are many many years ahead in marriage pray to God to lead you to a better man.
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Desperado78: The Governor shared the news on his official Instagram and Twitter accounts few minutes ago and he also urged lagosians to calm down in this festive period.
Carchoice: I was at shoprite yesterday evening, I bought other stuffs and 10 packs of durex condom. At the point of payment, all the stuffs I shopped were on the counter and all eyes were on it. I could hear murmurs and giggles. Even a lady I perceived to be a baby mama sef join dey laugh.
As a careless Nigerian that I am, I went back to the condom shelve and added 5 more packs. E shock them.
Why the hypocrisy? For the background they are sharing HIV and donating pregnancy here and there.
Liar! 15 packs as if it doesn't not have expiring dates? Story for the gods.
Mccullum: It is systemic retaliation of what US fighter jets did by harassing an Iranian commercial airliner over Syria, according to Iranian government accusation against US, It is war game indeed.
You don't know the whole story. US Fighter jet requested that Iran plane should identity themselves for their mission but they refused. If not US FIGHTER jet was able to identify it as commercial airliner the latter would have perish
I will really appreciate if moderator can help push this to front page.
Firstly, insults are welcome. I reside in Europe. Two of my friends they are biological brothers, they've been sucking me. I have been sending them money regularly for years, yes years, but I now realised that these people are not ready to work or learn any skill. Even their own biological brother in abroad reported them to me and doesn't take them serious anymore except their mum. Infarct, i used to send money to their mum too. But they just keep asking me for money everytime. Imagine I just sent you money when you said you are sick, two days after you sent me voice record asking me for money to rent a shop. Then the younger one who's chat bellow asking me for 100k for three of them as if I am picking money on the floor here. To some people in Nigeria who always think all nigerians in diaspora think we always think you're begging for money whenever you say hi just to hear from us, it is not the case. How about this too?
I am really tired. My wife who always agree I should help them have started complaining too. These two friends suddenly changed because I used to send them money even before they ask. It's like every week one problem must happen to them that require money. They will just send account number and the deadline time. They keep coming, coming, coming back again after giving. I have paid hundreds of thousands of naira for visa processing for one of them maybe at least they will stop asking me for money and one will be able to help his brother, but the visa was unsuccessful.
Few days ago one of them ask me to give him my sister's number that he just want to greet her since it's been years he saw her last. Behold, the next day my sister called to ask when did I hear from my friend last and did he mention about financial problem to me, I told my sister that he called me two days ago and asked of her number which I gave him. My sister said he requested for money to support his house rent and she sent him some money. I was shocked. Can you imagine guys? My friend. I am not saying it's a crime for him to ask my sister money but why lie to me that you just want to greet her when you asked me for her number? Whereas I just sent him money too not even up to a week.
See another demand again, see my reply, see his reply.
I know one or the two of them will start gossiping me around that I am proud, but they won't tell them about the good I have done for them, I have been doing. They won't. Some friends are not worth it anymore. I am very upset now that it's affecting me mentally and with my wife. Even my children were asking me last night "dad are you alright, you're not happy".
You know what again, one of them sent messages to my wife asking for mobile phone. I saw it but my wife didn't know that I saw it not until I responded to him myself and told my wife to never bother. My wife later sent the phone to him. Since then he's been using that opportunity to demand from her. Though he eventually stopped it but continue asking me only.
I have sent so much money but they just never stop asking. And I am not the time that take pictures and flaunt them on social media. I live my life on low-key.
I need your honest opinion.
Insults are welcome I promise I won't react to any insult.
I wanted to block them on my social media especially on WhatsApp but I had a rethink so they won't feel like I am proud because I am in abroad.
I am here in USA too the same story here. The best thing you can do now is to block them at least for 4 months. Let them say what they want. Even as we are sending them money they would still be blackmailing us so man up and block them stop free money for 4 months and they would come to their senses and find something to do.
Cti28: Food is ready. I just Caught this monitor Lizard in a bush close to my house. Well I have never had a taste of it and doing so might not be bad.
How do people have liver to eat lizard very disgusting. South West don't do this
Ninobraw: I am a guy of 29 years old and she's 24 years old. She is a nurse and she is working and earning good salary. We have been dating for the past 3 years, ever since she came into my life things have been moving forward. Between the space of three years I was able to buy a land and build two flat (almost completed) and also buy a nice car. All this was possible because she was in my life. She assisted me with the money she accumulated before she met me, (2 million naira) gave it to me to add it to the money I was using to build the house, she has really been the best thing that has happened to me. We both have never cheated on each other, I'm very happy having her in my life. During the period of covid 19 my business was shut down totally she was the one that sustained me Althrough and never complained.
She later resigned from her nursing work and started her own chemist shop, I supported her with 300k she rejected it and asked me to add it to the money for house project. She is making some good money from her store any way.
Now we plan to do our marriage by December and I budgeted more than 1 million naira. the problem is that she insisted that it is too much that I should not spend more than 500k that's been a problem to us but later settle it. because she won't just listen to me she wants me to spend less than that the reason why I wanted to spend more than 1 million Naira was because she deserves it.
So because of that we adjusted the marriage to three months time since it's just 500k I am spending now my question is can I spend 500k for a moderate marriage? And I wanted to do something tangible for her because she deserve more than everything I have, please what other things can I do for her that will be equivalent to everything she has done for me.
Since we have been dating she has never asked me for big money and also when ever I give her she always tells me that she gat money that no need to give her, in fact she love me so much that she don't even accept money from me unless gift. Now I want to do something tangible for her because since I have been dating her she doesn't allow me spent on her that much, and she doesn't complain.
Judolisco: Only northerners can start a revolution in Nigeria... And mayb Niger deltans... The rest na chicken dem be especially the yoruba's.... 1 sec dem don put fire 4 everywhere
Violence and civil disobedience is not in Yoruba blood we are law abiding citizens. Violence and disobedience that killed about 14 millions in your generation during civil war and you have not learnt your lesson
Romance › Re: Please Help. Is The Condition I Gave My Girlfriend Too Harsh? by Thereishel: 10:14pm On Aug 21, 2020
We do not practice tithing, and no collections are ever taken at our meetings. (2 Corinthians 9:7) All our activities are supported by anonymous donations. The Governing Body, a small group of mature Christians who serve at our world headquarters, provides direction for Jehovah’s Witnesses worldwide.— Matthew 24:45. 