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It's all about creating a balance. All things being equal, no one gets envious or jealous without feeling threatened. It's the fear that makes an individual jealous. E.g my friend or partner may stop communicating with me because they're doing better than I am and they may leave me. So in reaction to that, I start getting jealous. When two of you are going on the streets and you see one admired while you're not, you start feeling you may be abandoned and so envy and jealousy creep in. That is why it's better one gets closer to people of his calibre and if they step ahead, it's either you also move up or you reduce your presence around them.

SultanOfPuna:
Ur case is different
Girls wise up faster than guys
This boy is still speaking baby language
I doubt if he is aware of what was going on

You're right to say girls wise up faster but brain development is not as you think. The boy may feel nothing now but if he continue seeing that for at least a month (still not conscious), you'll be surprised he'll grow into it and changing him would be difficult.

There's this saying that one's problem would look like a pin when one sees hills of challenges facing other. I completely forgot I had dead people still stuck in my own memories when I saw the stories.

To everyone that's lost a spouse, child, sibling or parents, may you be comforted throughout. God guve you the strength to move on since the dead have moved on though leaving painful memories behind. Remember every other beautiful and sweet people around you and get comforted.

Timbers:
I can't believe Nigerians mocking a humble, hardworking and caring man like Abba Kyari who laid down his life for the people of the Nigeria and even stood in place for Buhari when he was sick.

This man led the Nigeria Army to victory at Aba before conquering Port Harcourt and sealing a victory for Nigeria during the civil war

Such a hard-working man who always donated money to the poor and in hard times refused to be given a ventilator so as to save the people.

He will surely be missed and may his Heaven be like the Nigeria he left behind.




I just dey joke ooh Abba Kyari na gay.

Na so...
Thank God you're not bise....

Am I seeing Kim being praised here or what? She came to the limelight through a controversial way...but perhaps, that's her good side too. People see pigs and leave, people see pigs with diamonds in their necks, forget the dirtiness of the swine and live with it. Life is shaa complex.

People saying 'Nigeria should do or that, don't you kmowthatk Nigeria is an advanced nation where the identity of health workers and patients are well protected? How many times have you heard about ''due process"? That should tell you Nigeria is well advanced than the USA, UK, Spain, France and Italy out together.

It doesn't matter whether you give them education or not, the thing that separates them in politics, also separates them in economy, their social life is separated and even their religions are not left behind. The tribal life nkor? Very well separated. How can they progress then? Let them keep shouting about 'poverty, corruption and underdevelopment'. They'll never develop until they realise that the same skin covers their body no matter who they are.

#shame!

SenecaTheYonger:
How can he do something like that? Why did he suddenly become rude? Is this the alpha male I keep hearing about?

That's not and will never be an alpha male.... you've got an amateur, immature, insensitive guy there who slides to ladies dm like predators looking for food.

larryking540:
An average 9ja doesn't even have time to sit and meditate ,they just wake up in the morning and start calling their friends and party mate ,that's y many of them just live life as the day rolls by ,not knowing they have lived half of their daily life in the dream ....


When I was still in the University,I always had a dream of wat lecturer will set a day to exam ,till date my reading partner can't have a day roll by without calling me even after graduation ,
Or is it the one I dreamt ,one of my close lecturer was going to give me problem by changing my siting position during exam day , since them I became very ready in the physical by totally avoiding him and it worked ......

Or is the one I dreamt 10 years back that I will be out of 9ja soon stay legally in another one's land even shaking hands with police man ,,,and it's all reality now

Pray you, be sensitive to anything that might make you lose that. A lot of those who got inspired by Ben Carson forgot the part where he mentioned that he was taught in his dream and exactly what he was taught came out in the exam. Gifts of dreams are only given to people who are conscious and reflective however, there are things that make people lose that. I hope you've identified and are avoiding them.

Davoneskay:
Sleeping positions have nothing to do with spiritual paralysis. I once believed sleeping with ones back can cause sleeping paralysis. Make I even burst ur brain, I sleep buck naked and I don't get harassed. In fact, sleeping with ur back laid will give u better remembrance of ur dream.
Fear, living with possessed people, inactive spiritual life, and spiritual impurity may lead to sleep paralysis.

The few times I've experienced it, was because of the way I slept so it's my experience.

BadRadio:

The third picture here, is that not 'ile-eye'? Our own sandcastle. You just took me back to my earliest childhood memories. I was probably less than six years then. Sweet to remember those times but who would go back there?

Thanks for the pictures though.

mabeni:
I Wil surely give it a trial

Unless you're prepared to experience sleep paralysis (it has a name in psychology that I've forgotten), I will advise you not to try it.

On another note, you need to pay more attention to things around you. There are times when just a sound, a face of someone or something around will trigger your memory and you'll remember everything. I don't know much about dreams but most times when we forget dreams, it's mainly because we've not been observant. Anytime you wake up with a forgotten dream, have a time when you'll reflect and quiet your mind. But most importantly, be spiritually active. It's more beneficial than knowing the meaning of every dream.

Beauty....the beast!

By 'interested in reading', I thought you meant to say reading just for gaining knowledge. Reading because of exam is not reading at all. Once the exam is over, you lose a vast amount of what youvey read. Moreso, reading for exams comes with a lot of pressure that makes it difficult for the brain to assimilate a large chunk of information you're trying to gorge in

However, when you read just for knowledge, you gain a huge amiunt of unconscious learning that comes handy when you really need them. The brain is more relaxed at this time, so it feels free to analyze and synthesize what you're trying to put in it. This is why people like Einstein who wasn't really a first class student and was working in a patent office could write articles and journals that got him the Nobel prize. The reading that transforms people is the deliberate reading, it has led to revolution in philosophy, science, religion and government. Deliberate and intentional reading is what Nigerian youths need if they really want transformed minds.

This has every iota of truth in it but the narrative is gradually changing...some husbands have now become gigolo with their wives' approval. But I think it has to do with how they started the relationship. If the woman has always been dependent, the day she gains financial independence is the day she starts bragging. But if they've always complemented each other financially, the husband may experience less stress when the wife has to feed him for five days.

PS: the calculations of a bachelor. I wanna read what married people have to say on this.

ZetaBeta:
Taking your own life never has a valid excuse. They're others in much more shit than this

As much as I'd never support suicide, I'd still keep being realistic. It's better someone slides into shit; that way, the shock won't be too much and he may adjust. But when everything is good and Rosy and all of a sudden, shit happened, controlling that might be too much and it is only the presence and understanding of loved ones that will keep such individual. That's why someone will suffer for 20 years and survive the same thing that troubles another person for 2 months.

Asquare84:
So because SARS harrass him he decide to kill himself

No... because he went into debts amounting to thousands of dollars due to SARS harassment, because the experience couldn't leave him and weighed him especially as there was no one to listen to his story. I pray you won't experience heart wrenching emotional torture like that.

Nbote:
We like to dwell on very irrelevant things... Isn't Kyari d biggest victim of d virus so far? We jus luv to live in denial and bark at d wrong trees

Seriously I don't understand. We just like sensationalizing everything jare. Someone was asking if the other victims of Covid-19 are beneath Kyari. Well, my answer is, they're not. But have we had anyone whose death through Covid-19 made headlines and shake the whole nation as this? Even BBC calls him "a powerful man in government".

purpinkx:
The problem most humans have is seeing things in extremities, black and white, no middle ground.

[Some] Rich people [I've met] are greedy.
[The] Women [I've met] are wh°res.
[The] men [ I allow into my life] are dogs.

Etc.

We don't like to use the words in the brackets because it exposes something about us, and it makes our argument invalid.

I saw a research on coaches and training facilities.

According to the research, when a coach, for some reason, likes a player and ‘thinks’ that they can go far in life, the coach gives them more training opportunities, corrects them constructively, freely offers useful tips and tricks, as well as become interested in their progress.

The player feels encouraged and, most times, becomes successful.

However, if the coach, for some reason, doesn't like a player and ‘thinks’ they don't have what it takes to be successful, he doesn't invest( or ’waste’) his time on the player. After all, they'll be no good.

Subconsciously, the player picks up on this and behaves accordingly. A few see it for what it is, do all they can to prove the Coach wrong, and they succeed.

A real life scenario. There's this shop I usually Barb at. There are two barbers in the shop, but I like one more than the other.

Even if the barber I like makes a mistake in my hair, I still feel dope AF. But, the other barber could give me a clean hair cut, maybe even better than that of the barber I like, and I'll feel my confidence drop until the hair grows back. I even had to get the barber's number so I'll schedule a haircut with him before going to the shop.

It is what it is, we are humans and we all have biases.

Could it be that you are projecting your expectations of these people on them? Or that you're attracting what you think of?

What a sensible analyses you've made here!
I'll call that 'Preference Bias' and it happens in the world of education too.
If a teacher sees a child and assumed that the child will be intelligent, he/she gives the child more attention, asks more questions and expects more from the child. The child notices this and adjusts accordingly.
Meanwhile, the ones that have been ignored take cue from that and also act accordingly. They assume in their head that their lives isn't to any good, they're bad etc and this will in turn make them all the negativity they've thought of.

We have a natural tendency to be biased towards something or someone instead of another and this shapes our view of them and ultimately, the results we get from them. Even our experiences on life is full of biases which eventually favours or disfavours us. It's all about being unassuming and opening one's mind. Give everyone a chance no matter who they are. I've met someone I didn't like at the first and second meeting but by the year ending, he was closest neighbor, friend and confidant. Let's give all at least two chances.

Chi59:
Another post that will attract women - bashing comments. It's easy to insult women for enhancing their looks through makeup, forgetting that most of the acne that spoils a woman's face is due to hormones associated with menstruation or pregnancy, two things, a woman can't avoid.
Trash!

Your comment alone has suggested bashing where none currently exists and I don't think that any man who understands the reasons for women's face getting spoilt should go ahead and bash them except of course, people over-makeup and some get angry for 'trading with the wrong customer'

BroOptimist:
What a low IQ statement!

I strongly believe that you will find your lost "thinking cap" one day.

Shame!!!

Commander-in-Chief of IQ assessment of the Federation! I would have assumed you to be highly intelligent if you hadn't resorted to insult. Intelligent people don't have time for insulting people even though they're very witty. I hope you'll discover how much Nigeria stands to benefit when you exploit and improve your intelligent.

This is a public forum and you're free as I am, t express your thoughts.

It's pictures and threads like this that reminds me what Nigeria would have been like if it's well managed. Indegenous industrialization in the East, Extraction in the South, Services and entertainment in the West and Large Scale agriculture in the North. Nigeria would have been like China: producing everything we need and sending the rest to the world.

It's already too late to be tribalistic, we're all together hooked up in the hole...but we can still get it right when we recognized our differences and face it squarely.

This people again...they couldn't make any significant contribution to the present issue other than to spur controversies.

People should be careful of Covid and Muric, they really sounfs alike...

CoronaVirusPro:
The FGN needs to focus on the region and put palliative and mitigating measures in place.

Palliative or educative measures? The region will be the most difficult one to convince about Covid-19. Does palliative measures now come before the citizens' awareness.

Just look at the way Covid-19 is spreading in Kano...

PureGoldh:
Someone should help me tell that her friend that "Money is not everything"

Marriage na for better or (for) worse

No nau...the world has changed that notion. Marriage is not "for better or not"

sanmtiago:
the guy is just too complicated to be a leader although he is still smart

Really, he's a complicated guy.

wisdomiskey:
As stated in my original post:

Keeping infected people quarantined is one thing, but keeping healthy people under house arrest in the name of "lockdown" is tyranny.

Can we still make this submission if the Covid-19 affected areas are facing WWII? Too much ease, comfort and propaganda in the name of rights has made us forget that there will always be difficult time in the world. The 200million dead people by the Bubonic plague would have been happier to be kept at home than to go out and die.