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Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

I perfectly understand your fiancé. I think you’re doing him a disservice. Have you asked why he specifically does not speak to his dad but has a good relationship with everyone else? I haven’t spoken to my dad in 3 years too… there are reasons for it and I am finally at peace with that decision. Thankfully I am married to a wife who thoroughly understands and never holds that against me. Your fiancé needs someone he can trust, not someone who irrationally makes decisions without thoughtful consideration of the facts.

MackyNaija:
The genesis of this escape plan stemmed from the Apaartment Complex's ridiculous requirements to either:
i. Pay the full remaining 9 months amount left at move out and get 'some' refund later.
OR
ii. Pay two months of rent in full and move out AFTER giving one month notice. That's 3 months rent in all.

As I no be mugu, I refused. Most things are negotiable I thought - asked them to take one month rent at move out, they refused. So I turned to Mungo Park.

Most states have Laws guiding tenant-landlord relationships. For Cali, it was Civil Code 1951.2...
I could choose to cover the difference between when I move out and when they got a new tenant. I emailed them stating the Law and that I was picking this option. Them no get choice but to accept - it's the Law.

Reasons why I chose this
i. I no get money to waste on frivolous charges (free money for Landlord)
ii. The total cost was high (2 months worth of rent for free) due to high rent so it made sense mathematically.
If you live where rent is $1k, no need to pass thru this stress.
iii. The Bay Area housing market is hot, I was 'sure' I could get someone to rent the place in less than 2 months.

Sigh… the Nigerian mentality. I’m sure they gave you forms to sign that explained all this to you. It is a pretty well known fact that there are strict rules for breaking a lease. You weren’t really smart, you got out of this because someone else was willing to rent from you immediately. If this wasn’t the case, they would have taken you to court, won their 9 months “free rent” and gotten you to cover their court costs too. This isn’t Nigeria were you think “I no be mugu” works.

JAMO84:
Northerners are scattered in the middle East, only Southerners wants to live where they'd have access to girls in bikini and Casinos full of prostitutes.

I very much doubt it. I would assume they want to live in societies that guarantee them freedom and peace of mind. Two qualities that are absent in arab/muslim societies.

JAMO84:
Wasting money on a dead body


ISLAM IS THE SOLUTION FOR HUMANITY

Lebanon, Syria, Iraq, Iran, Nigeria, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Libya, Yemen... yeah no we'll pass on that "solution". There is a reason Nigerian Muslims aren't all struggling to move to Saudi Arabia... instead of the UK and US.

Pipereyo1:
Hello everyone . Pls I have a little problem with my u.s visa I need your help on this forum . I’m a married man with two kids I applied for a visit visa since last year with my wife and two kids . We are suppose to go for interview next month which is march . Unfortunately my wife had another kid which makes it three kid last month January. So my question is how do I apply for the new born baby or is there a way for me to add the details with the previous one I need your help .

How is your third kid unfortunate?

dasparrow:
I don't envy you guys in Nigeria. Food is so expensive in Nigeria now. I still remember when a crate of eggs was N600. Na wa ooo.

My parents sold eggs from our poultry. A crate cost about N100 at the most then.

Nigerians are funny. This was probably your first time on the ski slopes and pictures are promptly going up on NL.

Systrom:
Finally, this V.O needs to be reported to U.S department of state and sanctioned immediately. She is putting too much emotions in her job. I wonder which man break her heart sef.

lol report her to who? She has final authority on who gets a visa or not. Not even the US president can overrule her decision.

ednut1:
you this dude again hiding under F moniker you clearly know nothing about express entry but you dey chook mouth. Some people have gotten PR after sending emotional webforms, some got using a Canadian MP to intervene on their behalf, the former immigration minister of Somalian descent used to intervene and people got ppr one or two days after they messaged him. The prime minister’s mandate this year includes improving the processing times. They know there is an issue with their immigration process when compared to places like UK or USA. many of the government agencies here behave like Nigerian civil service in terms of speed of work ( not corrupt sha) . Stop coming here to type nonsense.

That isn't true. The US process can be just as long and confusing.

What God cannot do does not Exist!!!! My convenant with God is strong and He never lies!! Thank you Jesus!! Arik @flyarikair God punish you and your ill mannered crew with demonic tongues.

The male air host told me at the begining of the flight that i should put my box under the chair, that it will save me incase of a crash, i said stop talking negatively, we will not crash in Jesus name!!! only Jesus can save me!!!

He said theres nothing like Jesus keep fooling yourself and i said to him, Only a FOOL says theres no God. They freaking knew the aircraft was faulty!! Damn!!!!! Bring out my luggage let me go catch another flight. Lousy Bunch

Praising God and cursing the flight crew… all in the same post… Nigerian “Christianity” in a nutshell. The flight host gave you instructions that are standard across the airline industry. Every flight starts with the crew giving you instructions of what to do in the event of an accident. That is policy, nothing to do with your prayers… and no, the air host has no clue if the flight is faulty or not. The pilots don’t know either… landing gear issues are not an occurrence limited to Nigeria alone. All in all, another “celebrity” who is completely ignorant of mundane flight rules.

Moshkom:
I beg you in the name of what you serve, make sure you’re fully vaccinated before your flight day, either by runs or by actually taking them. Because you would SURELY be sent back. Even my guy what was suppose to go to Ghana was sent back with his 1doze of Vaccine. He was asked to reschedule his flight, that was even Air Peace. It’s not even by flight type but countries rules and order.

Be safe!

A vaccine should not be something worth committing fraud over.

Lifestone:
She's protecting her territory. But lady has poor discretion

She's not, she's simply letting us know she picked a man who has no respect for her.

Nchabuomo:
In my opinion, this tie thing should not ideally be an issue. Your job is a tie, which should be enough to secure you a visa. I feel the VO is already biased, given the previous refusals.

It's not. Read the refusal doc again, his salary is approx. 550 pounds/month. Think, if you could find a job that pays you double that, would you return to Nigeria?

Symplyannaa:
I’m going to pursue my Bachelors degree in nursing
RN is my major

Graduated from high school 2016
But I did economics in university and I can’t tell the VO I studied economics….

What should I say when asked by VO in my interview what I have been doing ever since

Say exactly what you've been doing since 2016.

Plantiff:
Fatoyinbo's daughter is wearing an original Balmain polo which starts at 35,000 naira in Nigeria.

She's wearing an original Gucci embroidered sneakers which costs approximately $600.

I don't know how much her Jeans trouser is.

Behind the three kids is a White Rolls Royce Phantom Worth at least 220 million naira. I cannot identify the other luxury car. The articles in the picture of the three kids are worth at least 250 million naira.

Why Nigeria is unlikely to ever get better in a nutshell.

Dremca:
It is so obviously you are Conservative by the way you advocate for open arm carrying and your stance against immigrant policies in california. I won't be be surprised if you contest for a political position under the republican party.

He isn’t conservative by any definition of that term. He is simply brainwashed. Under the old INA laws of the 1920s, immigration to the US was only open to citizens of Western Europe. The civil rights laws of 1965 is what allowed folks like you and me to immigrate here. If white “conservatives” had their way, you and I wouldn’t be here… Trump exposed that dark underbelly.

MackyNaija:
Too many posts and soooo busy doing personal matters but I must reply this post now!

After we move into our house, I go set up cctv system like say I be drug dealer...
Stayed up late last night checking this : 6x cameras and an nvr system, then add a camera doorbell + Mouton sensing flood lights..

Next na to buy pistol, do plenty shooting range training then by AR15 (looks sleeker than a kalash)

Na Texas we deh, I fit buy 10 guns if I want.
Then na me go deh perpetrate the gun violence when anybody mumu near my house.


I haven't witnessed any, when I went to inspect my Camry before registration in Texas, the inspector had a side arm... open carry pistol.. e sweet me to see...
This is Texas and they embrace the Right to Bear Arms.

Bros you’re black, the laws don’t apply to you the way they apply to whites, especially in red states. Good luck encountering the police with your side arm or AR15. Texas embraces the right to bear arms except on every private establishment and government property. What a joke.

MackyNaija:
I'll been to find my old phone and post some news articles here...

They are taxing us to death to fund their giveaway to illegals.
Our county sales tax was upped to 10.75% after we don pay[b][/b] state income tax of about 10%.
Toll $6, I don use Houston Tolls for less than $2.
High occupancy highway lanes, short distance upto $8 after using tax payers money to build the roads?

Where is all the money going to??

Abeg na useless socialist freeloading state, dissociated myself from that rubbish.

Wait make I see my old phone. Lodged homeless during covid in hotels and bought them booze and drugs likely on a regular.

California is a high tax state agreed. But to call it socialist is staggeringly ignorant of what socialism is.

I live in Houston Texas, the toll costs are just as outrageously high… it costs upwards of $40 every two days driving from my home in the suburbs to downtown if I took the highways.

Yes Texas is a low tax state (no state tax), but you pay for it in other ways… during the freeze of 2020, houston lost power for over a week, because the state power suppliers did not winterize their equipment and we are not connected to the national grid. That will NEVER happen in a blue state. The reason Texas is prone to floods is because of the complete lack of zoning laws and absence of flood mitigation… will NEVER happen in a blue state. So enjoy your warped view of red states… I hope you never lose your job and need unemployment insurance or have to rely on cobra for health insurance. Easy to be a republican when you have a stable job.

MackyNaija:
You think Americans are stupid
Na immigrants + people wey like freebies deh vote democrats.

The only saving grace for them be say them deh flood TX with illegals just like they have done in Cali.

I hard for my money and I hate freeloaders.
Have they taken care of the American homeless population?
USA be WHO or Unicef? abeg wey like TX Red.

That’s false and outright silly. People vote democrat because of progressive policies that promote the overall welfare of the society. Universal pre-K, paid leave, increased minimum wage, improved infrastructure, universal healthcare coverage which lowers overall healthcare costs, affordable childcare.

The idea of “free loaders” is standard republican orthodoxy. One that is largely built on bigotry… the biggest “free loaders” in the US are the rich, many of whom pay no taxes and get trillions in tax breaks that never trickle down to you and I.

Everyone loves red states, until they need help from the state. I laugh when I see the utter shock on the faces of red staters who get fired from their jobs, only to realize they have no legal recourse because they live and voted for right-to-work laws!

ratedree:
I am happy you sharing this story so that people can learn from it. it is mine. I am a PR in canada and yes went through a lot fighting for my girls to stay back because they are the major reason i came here. I am also happy and not surprised to read the many comments and diverse views. Indeed it is very easy to judge a situation when one has no idea of the back story.

Like many said, it is indeed true that my poor kids are at the receiving end in all of this. I won't waste thousands of dollars going to court to fight for them if i did not feel unjustly treated. I surely intended to bring them to Canada and informed their dad of my intentions by myself before things went sour.

I relocated for a better life for myself and the girls and i had been their primary parent for 8 years before their return. It was indeed a big change for them to have to return to new primary parents and begin to get used to other people's way of doing things. That is my worry and not the blame game.

But one thing is sure, there is more than meets the eyes. I certainly will not put my kids through untold hardship intentionally. To all readers, whatever you can learn from this story please learn and i am willing to share more from my experience to anyone in a similar situation and does not know what to do. Mistakes are to be learned from.

Options - stay in Canada, obtain your citizenship, go back to Nigeria to parent your girls, then return to Canada with them once they turn 18. Your ex-husband is quite vicious.

Zico0:
Hi, guys
I plan to apply for the US green card lottery, so I want to know when results are released for the year cause I am currently engaged but I'll be done with my business in September. I don't want to miss it because of my engagement.
Anyone, please

Nigeria hasn't been eligible for a couple of years.

JayFredo:
Why do you think all those nations you mention made peace with Israel, US is the reason the moment us is not there, youll see a rapid change of event in the Middle East, Israel should always thank US for their survival. If US normalize relations with Iran automatically Iran will stop the bullying of israel all this is happening because of us. Israel can never act alone against Iran, never bro

...and why do you think Egypt, Iran and others dare to go to war with Israel? Because of the Soviet Union. If the Soviet Union did not exist, Egypt would have been wiped out in 1967.

JayFredo:
Bros you lie, was the attack directly from Israel and not undercover work, is just like saying Iran has also bomb Israel because Hamas and hezbollah drop bomb for now all is proxy attacks not direct and Let me put this straight to you Israel can never launch an attack from it soil to iran without west backing, even with the backing the kind of destruction that’ll befall the Zionist will be great that unarmed palestines will enter them severely

That's largely for a few reasons:

1. Massive disruption in oil flow.
2. the need to avoid a major refugee crisis in the middle east - Iran has a population of 84 million
3. Chance of a large Shia Muslim terrorist revolt that would directly threaten Saudi Arabia.

Everyone, including Iran, is well aware that Israel could destroy Iran if it so chose... so don't be too cocky. As i said, Israel has used electronic espionage to destroy parts of Iran's nuclear weapons program. Just this year, Israeli agents, on Iranian soil, brazenly killed Mohsen Fakhrizadeh, the father of Iran's nuclear weapons program. Iran has not retaliated, because it really has zero options other than using Hezbollah as a proxy.

drlateef:
They have a separate god. Because Allah hates evil people and He is a just God. ISIS and the rest do not worship that God, otherwise they would not do evil. But your bible says Israeli Jews are chosen people, he must be an unjust god.

JayFredo:
So Tell me did Syria attack Israel before carrying this unnecessary air strike on them and what’s up with all the hyping Israel is getting, if you follow Israel media well, the Zionist always threatened to attack Iran because of their nuclear program, it’s more than 2 decades now and they can’t even throw a stone at Iran only noise, so rest i admit technological they’re advanced but real war scenario they can take Iran without west support, even Iran hezbollah got wound them badly talk more of IRGC.

is that why the Hezbollah leader has been hiding in a hole for years?

JayFredo:
Lol, Israel destroy hezbollah? You make me laugh, casualty of Israel to hezbollah is 121 to 250, where’s the destroy despite having all the western backing and military hardware ��, Israel army ain’t fierce in battle like the Arabians or Persian, their saving grace is their technologies and intel oo, starting a war with Iran is the last thing Israel will do before total annihilation. you should be ashamed of yourself for using hamas to count scores. Even 9ja boys brigades go show hamas pepper

This is laughable. If Israel wanted to annihilate the whole of Syria, it could do so in one day. It chooses not to do so because of the anti-Semitic hysteria that would greet such an act. To say Iran would annihilate Israel is a joke... Israeli agents walked into Iran and killed the head of its nuclear program... what did Iran do in retaliation? Oh you guessed right, nothing!

NoSentiment:
When did the war between Syria and Israel started?

1948.

drlateef:
The “chosen people “ of Christianity are daily committing atrocities on foreign lands while the religious bigots clap for them. Is their god so wicked? A god that favours a people committing atrocities cannot be a just god.

So what should we say about the god of the folks in ISIS, Boko Haram, Al Qaeda, Syria, Yemen, Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, Pakistan etc.?

Firefox01:
The most disgusting thing to read on this forum whenever Isreal is concerned is the putrid opinions of Bible thumping idiots who think Isreal is superior to even the US and Russia. Isreal stands today only because of the US factor, not the other way round. Should they lose US backing, that tiny state of Isreal would be wiped out from Earth's surface in a matter of 48 hours.

I think you should read up on the 6-day war... might help you understand why Egypt and Syria have never again made the mistake of taking on the Jewish state. FYI, the US was never involved.

Patrioticman007:
Before the Balfour declaration precisely (1948) there was no state of Israel but jews living as refugees around the world. So just because they are killing Arabs in 21st century doesn't mean they won't go back to their state of slavery like they did during the Pharaohs time, for in this world na turn by turn, says law of Karma.

Lastly why do Christians have sympathy to their god killer ?, the Jews murdered him & set Barnabas a convicted criminal free.

Almighty Allah that freed South Africa from white occupation, will also free Palestine from Jewish occupation.

This is complete nonsense. Palestine, as at 1948, was Jewish... infact, the Jerusalem Post, one of Israel's most prominent newspapers, was called the Palestinian Post when it was first founded in 1932. Palestine isn't arab/muslim, that is the reason places like Judea/Samaria, Galilee, Bethlehem, and others all have Jewish names, not arab names.

AJ85:
Thank you. I am seeking asylum and I am also going to school. I have my work permit and socials . Can she still qualify for emergency

Your mom and sister are very unlikely to get a visa. You're also putting your asylum application in jeopardy... on what basis are you seeking asylum? If Nigeria is safe enough for your mom and sister to live in, why can't you?