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Poster,

If you still don't know anything about Jamacian guy you love very much, then why don't you study your guy and Jamaica culture in order to follow important insights you seek whether he is the right one for you or not at below:

[list]
[li]Trust[/li]
[li]Spirituality[/li]
[li]4 Characters[/li]
[list]
[li]Humility[/li]
[li]Kindness[/li]
[li]Responsibility[/li]
[li]Happiness[/li]
[/list]

[li]Personal Hygiene[/li]
[li]Communication Skill[/li]
[li]Personal Habits[/li]
[li]Strong Connections[/li]
[list]
[li]Good Chemistry and Compatibility[/li]
[li]Shared Common Interest[/li]
[li]Shared Common Life Goal[/li]
[li]Deeper Emotional[/li]
[li]Sexual Compatibility[/li]
[/list]
[/list]

odiaseo:
However, you may be quite a task to find a person that processes all those characteristics before marriage. Some of them may be a must for the person to have had while others he or she may have potentials to develop. We are all work in progress so don't expect a perfect mate.

@odiaseo, you mispelled my username.

@all
Don't expect to process all those characteristics before marriage, work out accepting few bad flaws like @odiaseo has said it all.

TOPIC: Can You Marry Someone You Met Thru The Internet?

Yes, you can marry someone from the internet you both met no matter where you both from by starting with a friendship FIRST, then later date each other face to face meetings (meet in public place in the crowd environment such as shopping mall, bookstore, coffee shop, social gatherings, as well as private at home using webcam/video conference, or internet phone) on the following insights you should feel the right soulmate in order to get married at below:

[list]
[li]Trust[/li]
[li]Spirituality[/li]
[li]4 Characters[/li]
[list]
[li]Humility[/li]
[li]Kindness[/li]
[li]Responsibility[/li]
[li]Happiness[/li]
[/list]

[li]Personal Hygiene[/li]
[li]Communication Skill[/li]
[li]Personal Habits[/li]
[li]Strong Connections[/li]
[list]
[li]Good Chemistry and Compatibility[/li]
[li]Shared Common Interest[/li]
[li]Shared Common Life Goal[/li]
[li]Deeper Emotional[/li]
[li]Sexual Compatibility[/li]
[/list]
[/list]

From my own experience, I prefer person from locally within 25 miles radius of my residence location area on the internet better than long distance in half way around. _{Now i am no longer interested in distance dating anymore.}

Finally, actually it is 50% long distance relationship make work and the other 50% does not work well! Good luck!!

awon boiz:
@uspry1

where r u @, na eastcoast me sef de

Just guess where I am from. I live in the middle state of East Coast within 135 miles away from the Atlantic ocean that is famous for beach and 125 miles from where the US President stay/work on presidential terms- - - central rural small town of 11,000 population that is famous for Civil War/Slavery historical.

Keep in your mind that I am not a Nigerian. Study to learn about Nigeria culture and language.

This topic is really funny!!! Nigerian male bankers flirt girls during the work hours in the bank, what a laugh!!!

Go ahead follow your heart if you do really love her in the quality of best wife/mother material you want despite of her no education skill as one flaw. That is fine with you.

I have seen lot of couples who are married one is educated and the other is uneducated like this one---beautiful job, yes tough hardworking to stay relationship up and down. The key is the COMMUNICATION that is the most important ones of all other foundation of the marriage.

@poster

I also noticed your orignal posting changed. Originally you posted asking us whether should you ask her to remove her tongue ring or not, we answered your question.

All of sudden you insulted us jumping the conclusion, what is your problem complaining about Nigerian girls wearing tongue rings? You did not complaining about Nigerian boys wearing tattoos. What is the difference? PFFFFFFffffff!

What about nose ring? What about triple ear pierced? What about any pierced around face, chest, or private parts?

@niceuzor
We parents have no control over girls who is older enough to be adult (age 18-30) having pierced on their bodies.

Can you tell your own daughter not to have tongue ring? Why not?

Oh Jesus, you are still hard-headed and still clingy to this bad guy who still cheat on you claming you that he still loves you. This is NOT REAL LOVE!

You still have been misled by your emotions, confused, and upset and ignored the truth. Your guy tells you a lie by swearing you to love you but he is only interested in your physical attractions- - - whatever he wants to lure you, woo you, and/or seduce you into premarital sex and promise to marry you.

One day you will dump for good. Your guy is either player or womanizer--- Player/Womanizer does not love you or into you. Cheater is Cheater, you cannot change him at all!

If you still don't believe us Nairalanders telling you that you date wrong guy, then LET IT BE! Don't blame us! Okay!

I think you date a wrong guy that might be player/womanizer type that IS ALWAYS CHEATERS, check the existing thread at below:

Why Do Girls/Women Always Overlook The Nice Genuine Boys/Men?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-101280.0.html

@poster

I don't believe your story something not right between woman who won DV lottery to rush out leaving her husband behind (taking his passport) entering the USA by March 2007.

It does not make a sense according to the DV lottery rules about spouse of the DV lottery winner.

@awon boiz

Nope, you are wrong about DV lottery that is valid for 6 month.

DV lottery is A GREEN CARD LOTTERY or also called a permanent resident citizen only to the qualifed DV lottery winners will be authorized to live and work in the US permanently as long as the winners wish. It is randomly computer selected only qualified 50,000 diversity winners only on eligible countries every year on Oct 1- Dec 2nd BY ELECTRICALLY. 

After the closing of the deadline Dec 2nd DV lottery application, the 50,000 winners will be notified by the regular postal mail, NOT EMAIL or not OVER THE PHONE LINE.

Today, 2006 DV lottery winners already notified by regular postal mail at the end of July 2007 to follow the next step instructions what to do prior picking up their green cards.

Last year, 2007 DV lottery resulted 5.5 million applicants are qualified from Oct 1-dec2nd 2005. Now it will select to notify only 50,000 winners by regular postal mail at the end of July 2008 (next year).

Official 2007 DV lottery results at below link:
http://www.state.gov/r/pa/prs/ps/2006/69146.htm

For 2008 DV lottery will select 50,000 qualified winners to be notifed by mail at the end of July 2009.
Official 2008 DV lottery results at below link:
http://travel.state.gov/visa/immigrants/types/types_1317.html

For 2009 DV Lottery is now closed for Oct 3-Dec 2, 2007 application starting to process until May 2010 then select only 50,000 winners notification by regular postal mail on the end of July 2010.

@finecat

That is what I have been told if you are on the distance and love very much, go get webcam via CyberLove like @finecat has said it.

Still they do not get it! CyberLove with webcam is HOTCAKE around the world. Look at facebook, myspace, and other video blog/forum!!!

Distance communication is GROWING but still 50% of chance working some are not!!! I am puzzled! Does Nigerian lag far behind in video communication technology

Wish you the best luck taking SAT/ACT reasoning exam prior to apply for USA university admission. Here is existing thread found at below:

Date of SAT exam in Abuja and How to register?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-44684.0.html

Not only Nigeria! More likely everywhere in the world you see too many young women with only one child or more WITHOUT A HUSBAND.

A half of those women did have one abortion before marriage everywhere in the world---more likely won't to reveal to her first husband about past abortion unless there is fertility/reproduction problem she will confess.

I heard about the article as well as tv news about in the USA (roughly 12 states), back early 1930s-1960s those women, who at that time were poverty (now working class), FOUND OUT THE TRUTH by the government health agencies, who paid them for adoption services---some on abortion services, did on purpose something happen to those women.

As result of later in the late 1980s-1990s those same working class adult women are frustrated not able to make babies to find out that they now are BARREN. They did not know about it (barren). The majority of those adult barren women are black, few are poverty whites.

About 50,000 or more of those barren women signed the adoption agreement to give up their first babies or abortion agreement promise not make more baby until that age reach for marriage back in 1930s-1960s and does not know about reproduction surgery removal because of their minor ages (under 15-18) to prevent making more babies. Most those women with their parent who were illiteracy at that time because of immigrants. Later when they grow older to get married and tried to make babies. That's what happen!!!

That is sad!!! Now you know why too many childess middle-aged women other than medical reason of barren out there---because of US government health corruption in the past!!! Secret is OUT!!!

I myself do not believe in dream about a man or anything lustful in my head. Neither cohabitation nor waiting for a God sending a man come into my love life. I don't believe it AT ALL. Just use my favorite biblical scriptures: Proverbs 3:5-6 and Matthew 6:9-13 daily basis.

First of all, you need to understand that God HATES vain imaginations (Romans 1:21 and 2 Corinthians 10:5).

Secondly, you need to clean your lust in your dream that is sin like @kobojunkie has said it.

I suggest you to use Spiritual Warfare prayer to rebuke your lust, temptation, forbidden fruits in order to build your strength becoming stronger relationship with God.

Simple go getting the rented DVD gospel movie called "The Passion of the Christ", it tells everything from the begining thru the Lord's Supper prayer, how Jesus is arrested, and why Jesus is crucified VERY CLEARLY!

Let's concentrate on this question: Do babies and young children go right to Heaven when they die?
From the cite source that is found at below link for clear explanation:
http://www.biblestudy.org/basicart/do-babies-go-right-to-heaven-when-they-die.html

What is the spiritual condition of the unborn, infants, and young children? Some believe that because the unborn have never sinned they will be granted salvation and that infants and very young children who die are granted salvation, because they could not possibly understand what sin is. Others suggest that before a certain age, children are not held accountable for sin. The major problem with these beliefs and assumptions is that no one can find scriptural conformation to support them.

Some point to Matthew 18:3-6 and Mark 10:13-16, which say that one must become as a little child to enter the Kingdom of God. Therefore, infants and young children are granted salvation by virtue of their youth. Notice what Jesus really said:

[center]"And he said, Truly I say to you, Unless you convert, and become as the little children,
in no way can you enter into the Kingdom of God. Therefore, whosoever will humble himself
as this little child, this one is the greater in the Kingdom of Heaven". (Matt.18:3-4, Para.)  [/center]

Jesus did not say that little children will enter the Kingdom of God nor did he imply they are granted salvation. In this example, Jesus noted two things that are necessary in order to enter the Kingdom of God. First, a person must be converted. Second, a person must become child-like in humility. It is very clear that Jesus was merely using young children as an example of the attitudes and attributes a person should have if they expect to enter the Kingdom of God.

The Age of Accountability

The age a person must be before they are spiritually accountable is impossible for humans to establish with certainty, because this is God the Father's decision and it is predicated on belief, understanding, and repentance. All three of these are mental conditions and are prerequisites to conversion and baptism. All three are dependent on each other. For a person to have belief, there must be some understanding of what is to be believed.

Jesus says repent and believe the Gospel:

[center]"Now that after John was put in prison, Jesus came into Galilee, preaching the gospel of the
kingdom of God. And saying, The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent you,
and believe the gospel" (Mark 1:14-15 Para. ). [/center] 

To repent, a person must have an understanding of what to repent (literally, re-think) and what the gospel (good news) of the Kingdom is. Notice Acts 16:31-33 and Acts 8:27-38. In both scriptures the people spoken of understood the circumstances surrounding Jesus and what he preached. Therefore, they were able to make their decisions based on the facts presented.

A major prerequisite for baptism is repentance:

[center]"Then Peter said to them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ
for the remission of sins, and you shall receive the gift of the holy spirit" (Acts 2:38 KJV). [/center]

But, repent of what? Be sorry for what? Desire to change what? In order to repent, a person must first understand something about the plan of God.

It is quite evident that a person cannot have the kind of belief, understanding, and repentance necessary for baptism unless he or she is old enough to have developed the mental capacity to make intelligent decisions based on the information presented. It is also evident that infants and young children have not developed the life experience and emotional stability to make and stand behind decisions of the magnitude that must be made before and after baptism. All of the scriptural examples show only adults (including young adults) being baptized. There are no examples of infants or young children being converted.

The setting of a minimum age requirement for conversion is an impossibility because of the differences in the speed with which each individual grows into mental and emotional maturity. The ability to make decisions concerning conversion depends entirely on a person's maturity level, understanding of the gospel, and desire to follow God's way of life. (See Luke 3:8)

Common sense dictates that the unborn, the infant, and young children have not had the time or the life experience necessary to understand the requirements of salvation. They are certainly not able to understand the awesome implications or responsibilities of making a covenant with God. Therefore, the spiritual condition of the unborn, the infant, and young children is the same as any unconverted person who has never had the opportunity for salvation.

God will only grant immortality and eternal life after a person goes through the process of conversion. The unborn, the infant, and young children who die before the return of Christ will be resurrected in the resurrection of "The Rest of the Dead". Those who remain alive at his coming will live into the first thousand years of Christ's reign and have their opportunity for salvation at that time.

Written by: B. L. Cocherell

Don't be decieve the secular picture of Jesus everywhere in the world.

Go look at your bible in the book of Relevation that describes what does Jesus look like, today? His appearance is more terrifying and awesome than words can describe.

The apostle John made an attempt to describe him in Revelation 1:12-16.

Check out existing similar thread at below:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-3059.0.html

I assume she is young WESTERNIZED _(spelled?) "BAD GIRL" wannbe thinking pierced tongue is cool, but not think about the consequence that she will get more problem on tongue when she grow older. Let her be!

If you don't like it, find someone else who is not pierced tongue!!! You cannot force her to be removed it. It is her decision, her style, her body, and her property, not yours!

From my own opinion, it is not good idea to have relationship with someone who is extremely possessive- - -it will not lasted longer in relationship. Read the following existing threads you will find the answers here:

Extremely Possessive and Suspicious Girls - Why?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-99973.0.html

A Possessive Woman!
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-76338.0.html

Is it good to be a jealous lover?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-53219.0.html

I Am Sometimes jealous of my boyfriends female friends
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-100948.0.html

I Don't Understand This Guy! Was He Just Too Jealous Or Possessive?
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-50218.0.html

Suggest you go to the video store renting two movies called "FATAL ATTRACTION" and "NORBIT". It gives you THE BIGGER PICTURE about how can a POSSESSIVE PERSON be. Be judge yourself!

Have a blessed x-mas to all nairalanders!