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helpishere:
Interesting!

German writer Esther Villar, in her book "The Manipulated Man" that caused outrage and hostile criticism from women, explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves. They have pretended to be the oppressed sex while, in the real sense, they are the oppressors. She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like courtship and finally marriage, hence the saying "a man chases a woman until SHE catches him"
In her book she explains how the man is tricked to care for the woman and her offspring all his life. He rolls the stone like Sisyphus and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of sexual pleasure. We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the women uses and has used this for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.
She goes ahead to explain the rivalry of women, how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for her alone. Like a slave owner, she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.

Esther Villar’s sentiments are captured by Nigerian poet, critic and Writer Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book "The anatomy of female power" (AFP) and Will Farrel's "The Predatory Female”. They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. Matriarchy has ruled, not through brawn, but wits and tricks, women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited sex in human history (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).
Chinweizu calls the ritual of dating and courtship training, like that of a horse. It’s during this time that a woman, having kept the man on a leash by denying him sex and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.
The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the woman and her friends where they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a slave. The man, on his wedding day, waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a Sisyphean life rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon, having society and the government checking him and always ready to jail, shame or exile him for absconding his duties.
Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her slave in check.

Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to tame men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother, how he is shamed for cooking for himself and doing other domestic chores by his own mother who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule. By getting the man to hate domestic work and having this hated by enforced by culture, which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing laundry etc., the mother trains her son for the woman who will captivate him and, when the time comes, his wife takes hold of the man's stomach and, by getting him addicted to her body, she holds him by the two, in bed and in the kitchen. With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.
In the "Myth of the Male Power", Esther Villar's " A man's right to the other woman" "The polygamous sex" the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women and, by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world

Presidents, Emperors,Kings are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule by pulling the strings from behind the curtain.

Ok that seems to make sense in a monogamous relationship. But what about a polygamous one? Does the man break out of a woman's manipulation by going to the other one who's ready for him?

youngest85:
There's difference o
You can't compare afang soup with ewedu o

Abeg explain better. We don't understand. Is it not just a sensation that you get from one woman you get from another? Abi na what's the difference?

Amanda4life:
PRETEND YOU DONT KNOW WHATS GOING ON.

ASK YOUR DAD TO GIVE YOU THE TROUSER YOU WANT TO REPAIR.
COLLECT THE TROUSERS BY YOURSELF AND GO AND GIVE IT TO THE LADY TO REPAIR.

AFTER REPAIR TELL YOUR MUM TO GO AND COLLECT THE TROUSER FOR HIM.

IF YOUR MUM ASKED WHY.

JUST TELL YOUR MUM YOU HAVE A REASON YOU TOLD HER TO GO AND COLLECT THE TROUSER by herself.
She should not allow your dad to collect by himself

BUT SHE SHOULD NOT LET YOUR DAD TO KNOW HER WORRIES.

Don't involve the mum at that stage, you will only make things worse.

I hope you guys will say that the OP should mind his business if it was his mother that was tripping for another man.
Well, OP should find a way to talk to his dad over what he feels, maybe over his favourite activity, especially after getting closer to him.

Trueigbo:
Every hour is ok to pray but that 3' o clock is powerful because that is the hour our Lord Died. Just as people prefer midnight prayer to any other time.

It's called Divine Mercy time

Jesus I trust in you

Was it the 3 o'clock of Nigeria or the one of Calvary?

CAPSLOCKED:
YES.
IT'S THE ONLY TIME OF THE DAY WHEN GOD IS LESS BUSY AND AVAILABLE TO LISTEN TO YOUR PRAYERS AND WHININGS, AND HOW YOU TRY TO CONVINCE THE MOST-HIGH MOST-WISE GOD TO ABANDON HIS DIVINE PLANS AND MAKE ROOM FOR YOUR PERSONAL WISHES AND DEMANDS.

Lol. That logic is flawed. God is always busy at different timezones.

Nna17:
Focus on your dreams, don't give a damn about this anymore.
That which you desire will find you naturally.

Big lie. What you desire may have found him but he doesn't know it yet. Dreams could be built with a partner. Some are that way.

Stacyomolola:
U should be happy, were u expecting final year student when u are just a fresher.
U shouldnt even have any relationship at this stage atleast get to second semester or level 200

The mistake I made while in school. Now I am left with even trying to meet online just like I tried asking you, but you were ignoring me. Bad advice to the guy.

Iamgrey5:
Bro stop wasting your time on these guys.

Some of these people started following American election simply because they felt Obama tumb print all the votes for Buhari in 2015.

Lol.

Hopebringer:
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Thief

See venom! These people don't hurt you wella.

gypsey:
I don't ussually take this so called pastors serious but this mattew pastor is absolutely correct.

So until they say whatever you are thinking, that makes them correct and real? How do you ever learn when you are wrong?

NaijaMutant:
Why won't you take the mark?

Do you really have an option ?

This is the main point of my post.

No man can fight the Antichrist and his government.

So what you are saying is that since you can't fight it, you will take the mark and then go to hell?

NaijaMutant:
My recent post on Facebook.

I've taken my time to read and listen to supposedly intellectuals who have turned protagonist of various conspiracy theories. These supposedly intellectuals are people of great influence in the society, ranging from pastors, politicians and social media influencers who have used their various platforms to air their views which have consequently formed the opinion of their followers.

First of the conspiracy theories is the 5G saga; I'm not in anyway trying to oppose or approve whatever you've come to believe about this.
The only Challenge I have with this argument is its link with the New World Order.

The second conspiracy theory is the Covid-19 vaccine that is purported to carry an implantation ID code named ID2020 which is likened to the Mark of the Beast. (Discerning Christians should understand this better).
This, like the first is also linked to The New World Order.

The funny part of this saga is that I've seen so many supposedly Christians trying in their little way to fight against this. They think they can stop what's about to come. They even quote scriptures like "I will build my church, and the gate of Hell shall not prevail against it".

My question is:

1. What's your fear?

2. Do you think you can fight against The New World Order ?

3. Do you think the New World Order is out of place?

4. If you can stop the Anti-Christ from fulfilling his purpose, that means you can also stop the coming of the Messiah.

5. If at all the New World Order is not another conspiracy theory itself.

Understand the times and stay rapturable !

You are talking as if you do not understand why they are trying to stop it. If it's truly the mark, would you take it? Especially, when it's required to do anything in the social sphere?

wman:
Lol. So many conspiracy theories flying around.

I like Pastor Chris and respect him a lot, but I don't believe this.

Which one is true?

1. The virus is caused by 5G

2. China created the virus to dominate the West.

3. American soldiers that participated in the 2019 Wuhan Military World Games brought the virus to China.

4. Bill Gates and co created the virus as a population control scheme.

5. The New World Order will create a vaccine for the virus to rule the world

6. Democrats created the virus in conjunction with others to bring down the government of Donald Trump

7. Donald Trump created the virus and waited till it spread so much in the USA, so he'll emerge victorious and win the November elections easily.

8. Coronavirus doesn't exist. You only get it from the test kits.

9. There is no coronavirus in Nigeria. The government is using it to make money.

10. Coronavirus doesn't exist. They are using the opportunity of people staying indoors to lay 5G cables.

These are just about it.

edoboy74:
Ashawo, I know your plan ��� you wan sugar cost your reply make one or two okpopai’s reason you based on one side local government and if they do you go chop their pussy then wash hand run. E no go work I done cast the laws of Nairaland for your body and you no go for commot am.

See eh, I want to lay it pomp and plain. Just the same way a married lady laid it pomp and plain for me the day she asked me if I was ready to date. She first started by listing everything I could be buying for my would be girlfriend that I intend to marry, even though I knew she added some things to cheat for her female folk. But I listened carefully and I asked her, "what about her? What do I gain from being with her?" She said, "You must dey collect" as she opened her legs and pointed to her....betweens. Even, there I still knew she was cheating because, there should be more. I understood and thanked her. Me bah, I won't ask for your genitals when we're dating but touching touching and sometimes spend on me, you must do it if you want to enjoy dating me.

Lexusgs430:
Relationship is a 2 way street...... Some ladies always expect to receive, but never give........

All they feel they can offer is sex...... No be both of them dey enjoy the sex........

My point is that, even the sex they are not giving.
Some may claim that they are coming around to cook and clean my house. Like say I no clean before. I can also cook. Still, as a single guy, I know how I get my food cheap. Cooking or not. One thing I want is that since I really detest meeting prostitutes, we could at least be intimate. Even if it's not sex as in vaginal penetration or even MouthAction, I have got ideas, but they too mumu. I won't be talking but since they are talking about guys who are not providing during courtship, so am I.

Firstorderwizard:
I intentionally fake stinginess to enable me weed out fake girls with fake love.
95% of girls failed the test but my current babe
passed and she is reaping her rewards bountifully.

I have my rules for spending on her though

1. I only give when it is necessary not when she wants
2. I give to reward her when she does something impressive.

For example, through her efforts, I got a contract that fetched me a huge sum of money and juicy business connections.
I rewarded her by sponsoring her master's program (not by giving her cash).

Marry that lady.

I have just been reading this and I understand the feelings of the OP even say I be guy. But, the thing wey dey pain me pass is that this is the same feeling guys get from girls they are supposedly dating. After all the shawarma, beer, nkwobi, isi ewu. Common kiss, no way. Allow make guy at least dey handle breast nah, never. You go think say na till marriage she dey wait. When you don marry finally, somebody dey wey no fit Bleep him very beautiful wife two times per year. Some ma na only honeymoon Bleep produce the children wey dey the marriage. And yet many women go about the relationship without seeing anything wrong with it. Me bah, I can't do pass myself. If I no dey feel you physically and emotionally, I no fit marry you. Even dating sef, na audio alert you go dey get. I don talk my own finish.


Meanwhile, there are so many simp guys on nairaland. Chineke meee.

SweetCunt97:
Atleast women are the ones preventing humankind from going into extinction so you nigerian guys better drop the frustrated attitude and give them respect.

How are they preventing it?

vickydevoka:
Please drop ur phone number lemme chat u up

Drop yours instead

vickydevoka:
I'm scared of investing in forex. Buh I need a good guider

I forgot to add, that the reason why no one can teach you Forex ( I am using this because I have a stake in it) is because there's always change everyday. Only the talented can spot the moves they bring. I can show you some moves but you must know, it can change before next week. Same goes for marketing.

vickydevoka:
I'm scared of investing in forex. Buh I need a good guider

1. There's no better guide than yourself.

2. Research all the ways all the ways you can
make money online. I say this because what may work for me may not work for you. For instance, my thing is numbers and calculation so I am well suited to things like investing but I have a website and YouTube channel to try marketing but I don't get paid from it, even though I am not giving up on it because there are people earning huge from it and I will once I find my edge.

3. Never pay anybody to teach you. Whatever they want to teach you can be gotten free online.

4. Majority of information you can get are trash. The internet or educational resources like books are good at telling you "what" exists but don't tell you "how" to use it. E.g. Because everybody's using a blog to run Google AdSense, books will tell you that's the way to do it, but it's wrong because, instead of writing blog posts you know nothing about, you could get a video that will explain better and use it to drive ads with better results.

kikero:
Obj had economic issues during term 1 (the argument then was that we should vote for him because he had to repeat) but during term 2...oil prices started to rise again, he made the wise decision not to bring in control on prices on the GSM sector...which meant job expansions...and he also got a good deal on our debts (67% forgiven, the rest paid off)

And Obj's military rule of 1976-79 was smack dab in the middle of the oil boom years of the 1970's

Even then, our economy is vulnerable because it is reliant on the price of oil(my ultimate point) , and if oil prices were high under Buhari now, I would still be making the same criticism by the way.

It's Buhari's hardluck that he came into power when oil prices had collapsed for a year and running both times (1983 DEC, and 2015 May.). The problem i have with him is that he had the tools to get us out of the oil induced recession...and did not use them at all.

You have finally agreed to him without knowing.
If he was a decent leader, he would have studied the problem and used his chance. But did he do it? No! And the history of his name and recession continues. Well, I am neutral to Nigerian politics. I am not for or against. You play your edge and I play mine.

fineboynl:
The entire world and Nigeria would never recovered from this in 10 years to come. Those should allow people get infected and and build natural immune and resistance afterall the virus death rate is low. Should we destroyed the world economy for such?

Guy, you have no conscience. Choi!

Esseite:
Dollar would start crashing very soon...

Reasons:

- The borders are shut..
- The airports are shut aswell..
- Out major concerns now is food and water..
- Supermarkets would run out of foreign produce and resort to locals.
- Those turkey and dubai clothes cant come in now.
- cars are not coming in aswell..
- Chinese factories are shut aswell..

Its purposes are defeated, the demand would drop very soon.

I laugh in pidgin.

Ogo1982:
Those Greedy BDC are the Cancer of our economy

They always create panic and hide dollars to sell later at high price

Oga if what they have in their possession is not valuable they won't sell it at those prices. Look for your own edge. That's how you beat them.

drololaaof:
Weaked people the money changers who is going or buying abroad at this time. When nearly everywhere is locked down what do they exchanged . By this time the naira ought to be stable.

Lol. I laugh at your ignorance.
Let me enlighten you.
In global foreign exchange turnover, goods and services can be just 1/3.
2/3 is value and investment.
As far as currency is being used in any two regions, whether it moves from one region to the other or not, despite wars or plagues or any other crisis or not, people's value perceptions about anything will always change compared to another.

GermanMelania:
What do you produce and export? You import everything. You wont eat local rice for the betterment of the country. All thoss small small actions count.
Oya creat covid test you cant.
Naija is bad naija is bad but we are all contributing by buying imports
Only nollywood exports and makes us money but we still abuse them. Shior.

Do yahoo boys count?

vickydevoka:
Whether de doller na 500 naira. A provisional store seller will still sell things for 5 naira profit.#pathetic

As in eh, you got me. But picture it this way, your provision store is a better savings account than your regular savings account in terms of returns. Even provisions sellers can inflate their prices during scarcity. That you can't do with a savings account. But, it shouldn't be your main business that keeps food on your table. No no no. In this day and age, your main business should be online, generating foreign exchange for you. So even, news like this won't make you angry. Infact, you would be happy that you're in Nigeria, which has determined that their currency will keep dropping thereby allowing you to enjoy your life cheaper and cheaper.