₦airaland Forum

The signs are always there. I keep telling people and they keep denying. 'Oh, he was perfect '.
A philandering boyfriend becomes a philandering husband. A disrespectful girlfriend becomes a disrespectful wife. What you see is what you will get. You either chose to live with what you see or you get out. There is no middle ground. People marry lazy women and unfaithful men intentionally and are fine with it during marriage. It's all about choices.

She's insecure. One of the worst things to face in a relationship is an insecure and suspicious woman. They come with lots of baggage and negative energy.
Personally, I don't know what your relationship has been all this while, this may just be a one off, however, if this is her everytime attitude, you better re-evaluate the relationship for your own peace of mind and happiness.

Try and get a girlfriend. Learn the ways and thought process of women. Don't think of marriage yet till you understand women a bit.
Also ensure you are financially stable before contemplating marriage. A man without an income has no business thinking of marriage.
If you find a girlfriend and she is right for you, then you can gradually start planning your future with her. If you rush in, you go rush out. Na small small.

I'm sure the owners of the site hired people to be creating new monikers and coming up with stories.
You don't have feelings, then stay on your own. Na by force?

Always whining. When engaged ladies are looking down on their single friends, you would think they have won the Nobel prize.
Later they start whining.

Any man or woman who complain about their spouse is an âss hole and deserve what they get. I knew the selection process I went through to get what I want. I know the 'diamonds' I let go off for my own peace.

If you follow and accept anything that comes your way, you deserve what you get. I don't want to hear people change because people don't.

Whatever makes you happy. I have learnt to always support men till proven otherwise. There are lot of bad men around no doubt but women are known to be dramatic and blow things out of proportion.
Anyway, you have the right to leave if you feel that's the best decision for you but I ain't calling your husband names till I hear his own side.

Nairaland should start a movie drama channel.

Gullible Nigerians. How will the new boss do that when he isn't yet confirmed by the Senate. No wonder pastors and yahoo boys swindle you.

Unmarried people have more sex, a fact most married people don't admit. Sex is blissful with a new partner, whether married or when single.

As per the OP, I don't know what you mean by walk of shame by a lady. There is no reason for a woman to feel shame after sex with her partner.

Was that tummy for real? How do people let themselves get to that stage?

kunmiiii:
B.Fowler a disaster Bandwagon of ignorant propagandist, FYI...Fowler has an incredible scorecard.
A 20 percent increase in collection margin, to generate N4.03 trillion in 2017, N5.320 trillion in 2018, and an estimated N8 trillion bench marked for this year. This record thumbs Fowler as an history maker, leading the agency to set a new record of highest revenue generation, not to talk of the reduction in compliance costs. Please, say what you know oo!

Tape it, that's propaganda. Listen to those who operate on a level you know nothing about.
Fowler was a disaster. Firs didn't meet it's target since Fowler came in. How do you measure collection? Meet 100% target. We ain't even talking about the value of previous collections and that of now.
If not that he was a conduit pipe, he would have exceeded the target. Out of 8.9 trillion target this year, go and mark what will be collected.

PataAlhaja:
I am not impressed by his resume.

He's not even an ICAN member.

Neither was Fowler. I may not be a Buhari fan but I like the fact that he does what he thinks is best. That man was a disaster and was just a conduit pipe for his boss.

Floryangel8:
I've been using this for 8 years now

I used mine for 6 years, then the spinning section stopped spinning with full load. You have to put a few clothes in before it will spin. Recently replaced it with exactly same model. Stress free washing machine. I've not really had good experience with the automatic though.

Is she going to pay her off at the expiration of the 4 months to start her own business? If no, she should walk away.
If yes, let the husband go and defend her. Let her also go with elders to go and appeal her case. Insecurity is a terrible thing.

Ladykiss:
I sincerely appreciate everybody advice and I will try to end it.

To those throwing insult thank you too but am not the source of your bitterness, if someone has snatched your husband before go and face the person not pouring your bitterness on my post.

Shut up, when you bring your trash to the public, expect people to talk to you the way they deem fit. You should accept any comment in good faith, nobody forced you to bring your story here.

You are pathetic for wanting to go back to a man because his wife mocked you. It shows you have little value for yourself and zero morals. You even don't mind being a second wife to get back at the wife. You are amongst the lowest of scum with this type of thinking. Give yourself brain and move on before they send assassins after you.

You never know, your friend might just surprise you all when he unveils his mansion. He may be the type that believes in delayed gratification.

You can still bring it up with him though. Tease him, 'my man, why are you still in a one bedroom ? You wan carry your money go heaven? Common, give the family some comfort na', something along that line.

At the end of the day, you have to respect whatever decisions he takes. You don't love his family more than he does.

This regime is so concerned about taxing it's citizens. I'm yet to hear of any tangible plan on how to industrialize the nation.
You don't build a country by tax, you need to industrialize. Produce goods and services, which will increase foreign revenue and reduce unemployment at the same time.
I am sorry for the so called leaders we have at the helm of affairs. This country will just keep going round in circles.

This is hilarious. He should have added the wife's picture to complete it. After all, we now know Tunde but we don't know the wife.
How do we raise an alarm when we see them walking down the street holding hands?

This is what we call killing him with love. That's an average of 28k per shoe. These are decent shoes.

My people are gradually having sense. If we all start learning not to impress others, crime will reduce drastically as most would start living according to their means.

Relationship is more than nomenclature. That one is a father doesn't mean he gave fatherly care and affection. I dislike entitled people.

However, I will advice you place him on a monthly stipend. Whatever he gets is what he will ever get till the next month. Learn to stand your ground no matter the tales he comes with.This is a middle ground between helping your father and also ensuring you don't go bankrupt.