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BrutalJab:
There is absolutely nothing in the brain of a poor man like you to even explain.


Have you been able to help your miserable self Poor man.

Poor people call others poor.

BrutalJab:
Should they now stop spending their hard earned money because they were born into poverty?



Why do a lot of poor Nigerians hate the rich and upper class This is an observation that I have noticed tho.

I can't help you if you lack comprehension skills.

GOFRONT:
Good for her....

BTW, when will Adesua Etomi get pregnant??

Never mock anyone. Even if you already have kids, don't forget your own kids will likely want kids, so will your other loved ones. Most people are quick to stigmatize others forgetting that karma is a stone throw away.

Poverty is the root cause of most of our reasoning, attitude and actions. Even when some make money, the poverty mentality still remains. Nigeria is a poor country and most rich people today were born into poverty. You can't really reset the mind at old age.

What's the cost for 2009 Honda Civic or 2010 Matrix? Now that border is closed, are u still assuring us of 48 hours?

"Whom the gods want to kill, they first make mad"

He wants to help you get a job, yet you already have an office. He proposed and you declined, yet you are the one needing cheering up. Not everything should be on social media.

You guys just drop account number randomly. I thought the best thing is for people to ask questions, investigate and then ask for your details. Anyway, I hope help comes your way.

While we condemn his actions, our atrocities are not as bad as the Soith American countries that destroyed the U.S with their drug trade. Panama, and Columbia have done 100 times what we will ever do.
Nor be we bad pass, our problem is just self hate. We hate each other and condemn each other. Even in something like a romantic affair, men and women scheme to outdo each other and bring each other down.
The question now is who do this to us for Naija? Other African countries ain't like this.

Sad but it looks like a 'chop and clean mouth' case. While I sympathise with you, it's not just a male thing, women also lead you on, collect money, attention and gifts and later turn a guy down.
Some people are users, that's just the way they are. My advice is to stop calling, if he decides to start the romance again, try not to fall for the come to my house persuasion. As for me, the woman I fell in love with was supposed to be a chop and no commitment kind of relationship until I realized I had an angel in my hands and I'd be foolish to let her go.

We need an age census of the boys on this forum. Wait till you grow up and start interacting with women then you will know the answers to these questions.
You guys level of maturity is so shocking even to a man like me. Always asking silly questions and bashing women. It's disgusting and tiring. There are bad women just as there are bad men and vice versa.

The Japs need to lighten up. Japan is a very cold place to be in, everyone minds their business. I remember my mum went to Japan about a decade ago for a month and she couldn't wait to get back.

Going back to the topic, grueling work hours leads to fatigue which in turn leads to decline in sex drive. That's a simple explanation to why the Japs are having less sex, I strongly believe that this is also not a recent trend. The Japs have always had a 'lower sex drive' due to their socio-economic lifestyles.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I'm in my mid 30s. And yes, all is well.

You look like you're in your 20's. If you are indeed in your 30's, then I'm afraid you are lagging behind in terms of intelligence and emotional maturity for your age. You should be more worried about that.

Might be hereditary, seeing that you don't know how to use him for male and her for female correctly. He probably will pick up.

Zinny25:
I don't understand guys.... I dated one like that for one year and through out the relationship I never asked for a dime because I don't know how to, moreover I'm employed and he never even gave me #100 recharge card not to talk of giving me money. I had a pressing need at a time this should be after 10months of dating, I reluctantly asked him to borrow me some money, I knew the courage it took me to open my mouth to ask him,and he refused. In his little mind he's wise,no girl can eat his money...Guys are scum

Why 'borrow' from him? Don't you have family and close female friends? Or better still, why not take a loan from a financial institution since you were employed? Borrowing money is so easy now from these institutions. They even entice you to take loans. The real issue here is woman want to be paid for being in a relationship. It's the monster that men created, especially the early Yahoo boys and rich illiterate traders.

Incoherent write up. Not everyone should be writing.

Girlfriends had initiated sex frequently in the past, even begged. But I have never had a random girl make a move. I have gotten green lights though but I didn't really pursue it because I wasn't feeling the girls. When I was like 11, one older girl- a neighbour- tried to seduce me in her parents house when she was alone, I was young and naive and didn't understand what she wanted. She wore only a nightie and nothing under and told me to touch her. I just stood looking and before anything could happen, someone knocked at the door and she told me to leave through the back door.

You collect allowance from a younger friend and yet you want to advice him. First advice is for you, there is something called respect and self pride. Very soon, the 'young' friend will begin to send you on errands, that's if he hasn't started already.
How can he listen to you when you are his employee? As for wasting his life, that is his business since he probably is more than 12 and understands the concept of good and bad, let the parents deal with the consequences of over indulging. Better give yourself brain and stop collecting handouts from a kid.

I like my space, I like my privacy, I like being alone. While I was dating, I used to go days without calling my girlfriends and they were always very mad and misunderstood it for lack of caring. I like going out occasionally, with just a friend or two to have a drink. I don't think I'm an extreme introvert, I do pick my calls and I sometimes even call friends if I haven't heard from them in a while.

What I hate the most is gatherings like concert, church, seminars and anywhere you have more than ten people at a time mingling together. Even as a married guy, I sometimes find time to sneak away in my room just to watch movies or browse on my phone whilst avoiding the wife and kids. Same way I sometimes tell them I'm driving out for some hours to have a drink with my guys. Sometimes I feel I have my 'extrovert' moment as I just want to leave the house and socialize. I'm not that introvert that can stay indoors for like 5 days straight, I must go out and interact even if it's just 1 hour in the space of 5 days.

https://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/anxiety-disorders

Anxiety disorder. You need to see a psychiatrist.

Is she the only girl in the world? So you'll go through the stress of moving, paying for another flat with all its attendant costs just for a girl you might soon get tired of? If you do eventually tire of her, what next? Things are not always what they seem when dealing with people from afar.
Let her know you want something with her but she can't come home to avoid people having a wrong impression. Take her to a hotel and have fun, that might just be all you need to reset your brain.

It's a wicked world, however we don't chose our families, they were bestowed on us. That means that if we are not loved by them, please by all means try and move on. Family is supposed to be everything but you can't force anyone to love you.

I'm kind of like that, I do miss people but sometimes my pride makes me chose to lose them instead of trying to plead with them to be in my life. Apart from my parents, siblings, kids (and wife) everyone else is dispensable. That's just the way I am. I've always taken break ups in good faith, though I do feel emotional but I never go back, except they come back begging.

jess2019:
That's not true. I dont need attention or validation from anyone. I don't make friends easily and I prefer friendship from a distance. My life is so busy that I do not even have time to visit people. I rest on my day off and prefer staying indoor than going out. I opened this thread to find out if I was wrong and if people can react to this extreme just because they are not specifically informed about someone's pregnancy. I wouldn't be opening this thread if this is just between us ladies but the husband also extended it to my hubby and ghosted him. He didn't reply his text or call him back.

I will do same, if people want to be left alone, I leave them alone!.
You guys should move on, if the friendship is meant to be it will be. You don't need to come online and create a topic for something as trivial as this.

Most Nigerian women will marry themselves soon enough.

Nigerian men say Nigerian women are useless, Nigerian women say Nigerian men are useless. This invariably means that Nigerian's are useless. This is the impression foreigners see and trample on you people, keep shaming yourselves to the whole world.

This isn't bad luck, you are too trusting and unfortunately, most Nigerians don't deserve to be trusted. You will bounce back I assure you. For you to have achieved quite a bit at your age shows you are hardworking, you just need to make better life choices. We have all gone through challenges, the most important thing is learning from your mistakes. It will be silly of you to still keep doing the same thing when you bounce back.

DanXplore:
LMAO! I thought I was the only one. People think it is a sign of openness but to me it is just irritating, embarrassing and annoying.

Openness ke? It's disgusting. Go to the toilet and fart or fart when you are alone.
I'm put off by people who nag, who are belligerent and who always look for an excuse for their shortcomings instead of owning up and be open to corrections.

LewsTherin:
Can I join in spending your money?

I don't think it's just luck. In your short paragraph you said "I have learnt to deal with it" and "now I'm used to it"

It's about compromise. You know what you want, what you like. But you are willing to give some of that up for what she wants, what she likes. I'll bet there are things she gives up for you too. That's just it. You both are working at making your marriage work.

I believe ALL marriages will work as long as both parties work at making it work. But as long as one or both parties are only interested in having their own way, OYO.

You are right though but people do change. Some show their true colours while some are influenced negatively by external factors. You are right, those involved must decide to make it work but sometimes one party start to decide otherwise. One is lucky to find a partner who decides to remain on the same page.

She should accept the proposal of the other men and collect their money, don't give out a dime to her. You are a student and you don't have any money.