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Those saying the university don't have a right to expel her are naive and don't understand how coperate structure works.
You are bound by the laws of the organisation as long as you are a member of that organisation, whether within or outside the premises. That's why politicians in civilised societies resign when their sex tapes are leaked even though they are adults, they have embarrassed their party and constituency.
Resign from the organisation and you are no longer bound by their laws, that's why Babcock cannot do anything to me if I have a sex tape.

Who dem catch be thief. A lot have done worse but they were stupid enough to video themselves.
It's a pity the stigma will forever live with them just because of a few minutes of 'pleasure ' and indiscretions.

Sometimes I wonder if people know that some Americans are homeless, live on food stamps, cannot afford healthcare and live a shitty life. Just asking.

Stop dating kids.

She's beautiful but what exactly is this post for? This is supposed to be a faceless forum.

Data, my cable subscription and fuel.

It never ends well. I once dabbled into one but thankfully she was a temporary staff and finally left after a year. It was a miserable year for me. It always starts as fun and adventurous, stealing kisses and if you're daring enough, doing quickies.
However, it quickly gets tiring, drama creeps in and you regret the relationship. Going to work every day becomes a chore. Terrible moment in my life then. Avoid dating anyone you will see every day except marriage of course.

When a man is unlucky to marry a hóe that's what he gets.

ubunja:
You speak like a made the rules. If it seems unfair take your issue to Mother nature.

Nobody made any rules, no rules in life, all this is just your opinion or rather ranting.

ubunja:
plenty. What makes a pussy wet is a man's good body. Not a pretty face. Women don't masturbate to pretty faces but to good bodies. Hit the gym. Get that six pack and those abs.

Also be clean.

Well, I'm not referring to myself. Don't forget some men neither have attractive faces nor great bodies.

What are the chances that an 'unattractive ' man will ever get chosen? Hmmm

When God wants to bless you, He finds a way.

The devil comes to steal, kill and destroy. John 10:10

It's funny how most women want to be supported by a man. We all have equal opportunities and some women even earn far more than men yet they still seek support. I wonder who will support us as men.

Bro get a machine, these are no longer issues to be discussed. Throw the clothes in the washer, set a timer and go have a beer. Nothing wrong in washing your own clothes if you don't have a machine. Nigerian's fuss too much over every thing whilst leaving the important things unattended to.

This is slavery, a man who loves his wife wouldn't allow this.

Maturity is when you can be the bigger person. Let it go but just send her a message that you wouldn't tolerate such again.
The worst thing that can happen to anyone in a relationship is to be with a bitter and insecure person. It's a terrible experience which I have once experienced. Never hesitate to break up with such a person. Negative energy abounds in such relationships which is very unhealthy for the sane person.

DanielJones:
We all marry for a purpose. Thank God @OP stated his own clearly. Why run him down because of his reason for getting married? You go to a store, you see a product, after checking its description, you buy it, but it fails to give you what you expect, won't you feel cheated? That is of course a breach of contract. So let us be calm about castigating this guy here. His wife could have just cajoled him into believing she is clean but now she could just be hiding under the umbrella of pregnancy to show her true colours. Na Dem...I just want us to take a chill and view it from his perspective too. However, I still support that he gets a cleaner with affordable price.

That's what is called superficial. If you marry a woman you love who happens to enjoy cleaning, even when she stops cleaning, you would not be considering abandoning the marriage.
The same applies to beauty. If you marry a beautiful woman whom you love, you will still love her when that beauty fades.

You married her because she could clean. Now that she can't clean you want to run. This is a lesson to singles. Marry for deep reasons and not for superficial reasons
Enough said.

Richy4:
I will not basically call that a selfish reason... Though I like her honesty too much.
Based on her keywords,
--- Suitors are scarce.. It could be interpreted as she doesn't want to be alone. therefore any man is all good.
---Father figure for her kid.. which to me is not all that bad and could not be interpreted as selfish.
--- She wants to prove a point to the EX that she is capable of getting a man..

It all sounds to me like a lady that knew what she wanted.. It is not compulsory love must be on the agreement.. But if love eventually comes, I think she will be fine. But Since love was not included, we cannot tag it as selfish...It's like a business deal to be..
For those that were thinking it was because of relocation, If the man happens to tell her that she can do that and more but with the condition of relocating with her, Is that not a perfect deal, is anyone worse-off, It would have been a perfect match made in heaven. at the end everyone gets what he or she wanted.
(though I still have to stress there are 65% chance that the man was on that relationship because of how he feel.

This is marriage, a life time thing but its looking too technical with a lot of plotting and projecting. The reasons people get divorced so much is because they go in with expectations of certain outcomes and when it backfires they chicken out.
She's very honest and I like that. However, you don't necessarily need a husband to give your kid a father figure. Uncles and brothers can play that role. She should first find love before thinking of the other aspects otherwise it will only be a disaster.
It's better to be in a long term relationship and be happy than to wear a ring and be miserable. She's not so interested in being loved in my opinion, she just wants a husband.

You have done your best my man, I salute you. However, this issue of tithe for a struggling man is unacceptable for now. You should wait till you are a bit better off, after all if you have an emergency and you need a loan, the church wouldn't give you but will advise you to pray.
Life is tough for a man in this country. To be honest I don't see anything you can cut out apart from the tithe. It's easy to talk of a side hustle when you don't have capital. However, if you can find a service to offer at weekends that will bring you extra cash, do not hesitate. You are a disciplined man, alot will rather spend half of that income on wine, women and gambling.

Desperate people will always run into trouble. You are obviously desperate which is not going to end well. You are into this for selfish reasons, not because you want to love and be loved.
Recondition your mind and seek love, then the issue of marriage will not seem this complicated. Never be desperate, it shows and will make others capitalize on it.

MrBrownJay1:
let me think like a 5yr old here:

why should they think of transgender men when talking about sanitary pads (its not like these confused men have their periods, is it)?!

For the females who no longer want to identify as women and have now become 'men' but obviously still have female organs and have their periods.

She's a brat, drop her like hit coal. Obnoxious girls are a big turn off. Better not put a ring on it or you'll regret it.

Better than infidelity, rape, wasteful spending, STDs, becoming a public dog etc. I don't know why masturbation is so much talked about. Like everything, keep it moderate. I would rather my kids are masturbating than coming home with unwanted pregnancy or HIV.

Some people don't seen to understand the topic. Typical of the people you find here.

1. I believe the black race is cursed. Of course there will be exceptions but generally, the black man has serious issues. From Haitai to USA to UK to Africa itself.

2. I believe religion should be practiced solo. Gathering of people to pray to me is hypocrisy. If you love God, stay on your own and commune with him.

3. Africans are too lazy to think, so they come up with things like jazz, people turning to animals etc as an easy way out to explain things that should task their brain.

Badboibipo:
Isnt that the point of my post? Trying to know if admiration for rich guys was valuable as compared to a broke guy? Wtf if you weren't so insecure about how I described my dress pattern you would know we just literally talked about the same thing FFS JEEZ

You creating a topic for this shows you are not very bright. Men don't have time for girls giggling at them, only little boys do. Then again, I should probably allow you enjoy your childhood. Goodbye son.

Badboibipo:
In my case staring equals admiration because in a week at least one person says I'm very handsome to my fucking face, and no it doesnt excite me cuz like the topic only money really moves women. Dont come here feeling bad cuz I say girls admire me, it doesnt mean I can Bleep any girl I like it's just admiration I get it doesnt have to hurt u so bad. I didnt bring it up in my write up so i dont hurt insecure guys like u. If u cant relate to the topic Bleep off, this shit isnt for ugly niggas

You are obviously a child. A woman's admiration has zero value. You're probably still a teen.

Hurting her will eventually mean hurting yourself. In those days not eating her food would have worked but women of these days are hardened o, dem nor send. Na you go hungry.
Try talking to her and if no changes, continue getting away for a while. That's the only way to keep your sanity.

You're probably deluded, it might just be your imagination or perhaps your dressing looks awkward.
Staring doesn't equal admiration. With time you'll know that.

You are facing a time bomb. An insecure and angry woman is a terrible combination, you will always be plagued with negative energy and unhappiness. I once had a chick like that, she always had a way of spoiling my mood. The girl was always suspicious and it became irritating, I had to drop her like hot coal.
Ignore that talk of someone saying you need money, the greatest foolishness with most men in Nigeria is that they equate money to love. A woman will never love you irrespective of what you have, she may have sex with you but you can never buy her heart. I wonder why NL men keep talking of money always, it's irritating. Make money to be comfortable, pay your bills and help others and not to attract women.

@wjames

Once a week is a sweet spot if you ask me. With the wahala of raising a family, once a week is very ok. We all started wanting it every day but now, most times we just want to sleep, no power to dey hump up and down. With marriage, it becomes more emotional and less physical with time. But once a month is a bit too infrequent, if you said, once in 2 weeks, I'd have said no big deal