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kennygee:
I've got all of that and I've only given all of myself like that to one man but it didn't lead me anywhere so.

I'm only reserving it for the another person who shows he's worth it.

My personal attribute will rub off on the guy tho. Cause he'll have to step up.

But women who ain't worth it want to be spoiled, pampered and loved. If you are selecting whom to treat right, then it's not part of you. Something innate always shines through.

kennygee:
Money management. I can manage money for Africa.

I once helped an ex save 40k he spent on beer ever month, he doesn't drink anymore now self, last I heard.

Packaging: I might not be rich but there is no environment I find myself that I won't flow. I can be down to earth to the unschooled and still rub minds with professors.

Communication: there is no topic I am totally ignorant on. I know about sports, politics, local and international, tourism, agriculture, science, literature, entertainment, etc.

Better prayer life: we have to be praying partners. If we can't pray together, why are we in a relationship?

Support system: I might not have the solution to your problems but I can make you feel better after encouraging you and there are times, together, we can brainstorm for possible solutions.

Not all of us are your definition of slay queens.

You haven't said anything. Money management is good though, kudos. The rest is just your own personal attributes.
What men want women to bring to the table is:
1. Helping manage his finances.
2. Bringing up great business ideas or letting him know of good job opportunities that can increase his resources.
3. Giving him sensible advice, for example, letting him know the dangers of certain dangerous habits.
4. Being there when he is Ill or vulnerable.
5. Loving his family and friends like your own.

We want tangible things.

Nor be only major, na field marshal.

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things
I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends are her's at a lounge(paid all the bills).

so the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised too produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my account as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.
this new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.
On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).
so I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

my friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
they are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly ...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

Move on man. It's not worth the stress. It's getting to the stage now where everyone should start dating people within their social and economic bracket. We need to start staying away from leeches.

kennygee:
No. They didn't just meet. They were already dating. Read the first page. I am not talking about greedy and materialistic women. Read the comments on the first page.

Stop jumping into conclusions. Nobody said I didn't help at first. When the demands became much i started wondering if she was with me for love or for what she is getting. This is a lady I want to marry not a fling. We are humans and we want people to marry us for whom we are not what we have.

nonxo007:
Bro how's married life like ? I want to settle down but fear of the unknown no gree me.

Na luck everything be. Some women will make your life sweet, others will make it miserable. It depends on what you end up with. Sometimes it's when you are in you will realise you've been scammed. For me, so far it's been beautiful. I got lucky bro.

A good girl if this is true. But a man should know what he is getting into when playing the fields. He should know the risks involved. You either cheat, get caught and regret it silently, all this lamentation makes you look weak like a sissy. Take it on the chin and move on. What is yours is yours, stop this pathetic begging.

Not first date. Actually she agreed to date me and we dated for a while. Then the billing started, house rent, clothes, this and that and I had to flee. I really liked her and wanted to marry her. Funny enough she's a sweet girl with a great personality but i don't know what the whole demanding was about. It's been almost 10 years now. Whilst I have since gotten married, babe is still single. If she wasn't so demanding I believe she would have been my wife now. I hope she finds someone as she was a real sweet girl.

Rednaxelot:
That is a big lie.

Many 28years are married

Go and do your research.

backnbeta:
I don't think she had him that early, that guy should be in his 20s...Bukky Wright's official age is 52 pr 53.

She's 52 and let's say he's 24 which means she had him at 28. Majority of 28 year old girls nowadays don't have serious boyfriends. I still consider it early by today's standards.

Some bras now have their own nipple. It could very well be such bras.

You keep indulging this 'thing'.

An ambassador is a representative of a brand. Get someone who knows how to guzzle beer and not champagne.

An ambassador is a representative of a brand. Get someone who knows how to guzzle beer and not champagne.

This girl should better leave music and face activism.

The beauty of birthing early.

I just love seeing women running up and down the field, so sexy.

Inferiority complex. I bet my mothers pot of soup you would have dismissed him if he was a Nigerian living in Nigeria. Even if he loves you is that all that matters because he is white? I thought women took their own feelings seriously? I know how many times women have uttered that word, "he's nice but I feel nothing". I bet you'll feel something by force in just 3 days cos na whitey.

Mindfulness:
Who told you that liberal women do not take care of their families and do not respect their spouses?
I have travelled wide and far yada yada yada. I know that the spirit of confusion can haunt one person when she begins to realize that there are no simple categories to put people inside.

Which is your other moniker?

Get the fúck out. Is everyone as jobless as your likes to be creating monikers up and down? Ozuo...

Let people practice their culture in peace. In the old testament people spilled blood of animals to appease God and it wasn't diabolical, but u call this diabolical. Culture is a way of life of a people. Serving their 'juju' doesn't make them inferior to any culture in the world. It doesn't make them undefeatable in war, they are just doing what they believe in. Let's learn to mind our own business.

Unfortunately your president doesn't read. This man is a thief, budgeting millions for uniform. Anyway, he is looting for Osinbajo and Tinubu so I expect him to get another term. The man has been in the news lately hyping his performance. U can tell that it's simply propaganda.

I expect people to criticize the message. They'll come at you for making sense. Sex is no big deal, it's your body. Life is more than marriage, don't please anyone. Pursue your goals and career, live freely and be happy etc.
It's funny how social media works. Only unwise people take what they read here seriously. Only unwise people will join the band wagon. In the real world, I see women who cook, take care of their kids and husbands etc. I've travelled widely and I see the same scenario from country to country, continent to continent. Who then are these liberal women who don't care about family life and respecting their spouse?
The so called feminists are either single or divorced. The married ones fall in line at home and preach feminism online. Young girls please don't be deceived by what you read online. Respect your bodies and hope for a decent family life because at the end, nothing truly matters than a loving family. It's all we've got.

There will always be a person who deviates from the norm - a deviant. I always wonder why people don't generally believe strange stories. Some people take delight in being different, either by choice, conditioning or genetics.

Like me ancestors will say, everyone is always right.

Hehehe. These small boys who take all sorts will not disgrace person. Thank God say I don marry, how would I have coped with this generation. I like it slow and systematic with rhythm. I hear when these guys are pumped they go hard and fast and the girls keep screaming harder.
No wonder people are dying during sex these days, something that was very rare in the past.

I promised never to propose to any women until she starts hinting at marriage or outrightly wants to know where the relationship is leading to. And it worked for me.
Let a woman be eager to marry you and not vice versa. Most men have married women who really didn't want them, that's part of the reasons we have all sort of complaints from married men today.
For this to work, you have to be a decent man, you cannot be a cheat and a woman beater and be expecting a woman to be eager to marry you.

So this is what all these 'feminists' look like...

A thief wants to probe a thief. Only in naija.

LilMissFavvy:
Yes, show a little appreciation and stop whining over the little token you spend. Can you impact positively on a woman who impacts positively in your life as well? Would your male ego not feel bruised if your wife is more successful than you? I wouldn't know. Marriage is prestigious to both men and women. The only reason a lady will wish for marriage earlier than her male folk, is Nature. Nature designed women giving them a time gap for natural procreation, tho artificial procreation processes has now made things easier. If not for this, a lot of gals would not be bothered much about marriage.

What token? Who is talking about spending? Men and women are now equal and should do things equally. Keep your name if you want. You are the one talking of appreciation? Why should I appreciate you changing your surname to mine? Of what value is that to me? I don't know the kind of men you hang around, personally I don't rate people in terms of financial success. As long as I put food on the table, put a roof over our heads and pay my kids school fees, my wife can use her billions to buy Ferraris and Louis Vuittons if she pleases. Only insecure people are moved by other peoples financial successes.

LilMissFavvy:
No please, I was not trying to look down on the amount of bride price, ok? My problem is that the men complain about it, they make so much fuss about bride price, they feel the women are not worth it. Yes, the bride price is significant, I only mentioned that some bride prices are so cheap, to clarify my views on why men should stop complaining, cuz it's not too much a sacrifice. Am not even bothered about name change, my point is, men should always remember that a woman had to let go her father's name, which is a big deal, to bear his name, show a little appreciation, simple.

Little appreciation for taking my name? Does taking my name add money to my bank account? I'll rather have a woman who impacts positively in my life who keeps her fathers name than a liability, a nag and one who takes away my peace but chooses to take my surname. Who surname epp? Marriage is more prestigious to women than to men, that's why they can't date a man for a long time without asking for marriage. They feel they need to be married to be complete. They probably are the ones who need to show appreciation.

Smile4mee01:
Brother, I will be 34. I am seeking that concrete reason as well. I just dont see it.

When you meet a good woman, you'll surely find a reason. However, its better to be single than be with a person that adds no value to your life. Some women just bring misery and drama.

Backinfront:
Men know they can never approach some types of women except they are made, be that kind of woman. They don't call this type of women gold diggers, they are called status symbols or trophies. Men desire trophies not struggles. I am a man so i should know. You are a woman, ''ride or die'' is for slaves.

I hope you know for men to desire you as a trophy you have to be very hot or very smart If you are not from a wealthy home. I hope your sister is either gorgeous or super smart. Nobody is going to run after an orangutan or a plain Jane. There are millions of women out there. You need to be outstanding to attract successful men otherwise, your DM will be flooded by broke asses and you have no choice than to marry one when menopause approaches...