lorretta u: Might be a generalization,but has anyone else noticed such too?
I wonder if there's anything wrong with Nigerian women abroad. The men keep trooping home to marry.Many ladies I know who got married recently married men that came from abroad.
I asked one ersthwhile suitor why he wanted to marry me even though he didn't know me well enough. He said:
''no matter how you are,as long as you were raised in a Nigerian home,you can't be as bad as the girls over here. You need to see what they are doing. None of them is wife material. They can't cook, disrespectful, wild, unsubmissive , bla bla bla.''

That's unfair!
Imagine being on the phone with my girlfriend that lives in UK next thing she says:
'LoLo I'm coming back finally'
And I'm like
'why?'
Hmm- she exhales
'There are no husbands here. I'll come back when I'm married'
is it that bad?
Guys abroad over to you. What's your complaint? Let's settle this matter once and for all

lorretta u: Might be a generalization,but has anyone else noticed such too?
I wonder if there's anything wrong with Nigerian women abroad. The men keep trooping home to marry.Many ladies I know who got married recently married men that came from abroad.
I asked one ersthwhile suitor why he wanted to marry me even though he didn't know me well enough. He said:
''no matter how you are,as long as you were raised in a Nigerian home,you can't be as bad as the girls over here. You need to see what they are doing. None of them is wife material. They can't cook, disrespectful, wild, unsubmissive , bla bla bla.''

That's unfair!
Imagine being on the phone with my girlfriend that lives in UK next thing she says:
'LoLo I'm coming back finally'
And I'm like
'why?'
Hmm- she exhales
'There are no husbands here. I'll come back when I'm married'
is it that bad?
Guys abroad over to you. What's your complaint? Let's settle this matter once and for all

lorretta u: Might be a generalization,but has anyone else noticed such too?
I wonder if there's anything wrong with Nigerian women abroad. The men keep trooping home to marry.Many ladies I know who got married recently married men that came from abroad.
I asked one ersthwhile suitor why he wanted to marry me even though he didn't know me well enough. He said:
''no matter how you are,as long as you were raised in a Nigerian home,you can't be as bad as the girls over here. You need to see what they are doing. None of them is wife material. They can't cook, disrespectful, wild, unsubmissive , bla bla bla.''

That's unfair!
Imagine being on the phone with my girlfriend that lives in UK next thing she says:
'LoLo I'm coming back finally'
And I'm like
'why?'
Hmm- she exhales
'There are no husbands here. I'll come back when I'm married'
is it that bad?
Guys abroad over to you. What's your complaint? Let's settle this matter once and for all

Ihedinobi:
Lol. Ok o, madam. Mr Future Boyfriend must make you comfortable regardless of his upbringing o and expect absolutely nothing but what you have always been in return. Bless you, ma'am.

vislabraye:

Op U shud be happy that you have a man asking your hand in marriage though he hardly knows you.

Alleinad: this thread has been an eye opener to me. There are virtuous women everywhere, it just depends on where you're seeking them from. I also think alot more ladies need advice, its not like they are intentionally that way, its just that they dont know any better. the media has brainwashed them n nobody has sat them down to re-orientate them. my mum once sat one of such girls, very beautiful girl, n spoke to her. the girl used to pass our shop, she was always dressed indecently n had been searching for a husband for some years, after my mom spoke to her, she broke down n cried for hours, she said no one had ever told her these things. long story short, she changed n is now married.
Women r not the only ones at fault, men too. we r in an era where u shudnt beat a woman in the name of correcting her. you shudnt shout at her because ure angry, shes not ur child or slave. you shudnt force her for sex cos ure her husband n then say its not rape, it is. any woman wud react to such . its nt that shes not wife material. if u treat her like filth, she 'll lose all respect for u.

logica: It is hard for a Nigerian dude to settle for a girl who's mostly been passed around. The Nigerian communities abroad are small and we are not Oyinbos that don't care if their friends and acquaintances had slept with their wife-to-be. So the first date is a make or mar; once you as a Nigerian girl start off with a failed relationship, it will be a slippery slope of one after another. Your best bet is to marry the first guy you date over there; because I can assure you that when a guy gets interested in you and checks your background he will quickly lose interest when he finds you'd dated guys he knows.

There are other reasons though, but that tops the list.

EBK2:
@ Op, you cant settle this matter once and for all, not least on this forum. hahahah.

logica: It is hard for a Nigerian dude to settle for a girl who's mostly been passed around. The Nigerian communities abroad are small and we are not Oyinbos that don't care if their friends and acquaintances had slept with their wife-to-be. So the first date is a make or mar; once you as a Nigerian girl start off with a failed relationship, it will be a slippery slope of one after another. Your best bet is to marry the first guy you date over there; because I can assure you that when a guy gets interested in you and checks your background he will quickly lose interest when he finds you'd dated guys he knows.

There are other reasons though, but that tops the list.

lorretta u: Might be a generalization,but has anyone else noticed such too?
I wonder if there's anything wrong with Nigerian women abroad. The men keep trooping home to marry.Many ladies I know who got married recently married men that came from abroad.
I asked one ersthwhile suitor why he wanted to marry me even though he didn't know me well enough. He said:
''no matter how you are,as long as you were raised in a Nigerian home,you can't be as bad as the girls over here. You need to see what they are doing. None of them is wife material. They can't cook, disrespectful, wild, unsubmissive , bla bla bla.''

That's unfair!
Imagine being on the phone with my girlfriend that lives in UK next thing she says:
'LoLo I'm coming back finally'
And I'm like
'why?'
Hmm- she exhales
'There are no husbands here. I'll come back when I'm married'
is it that bad?
Guys abroad over to you. What's your complaint? Let's settle this matter once and for all

nayef:


In fact, this is the case of Sydney;most Naija ladies have been passed around.

2mch:
Passed around? You mean girls in Nigeria who have slept with all your fathers age mates and all your age mates? When you try to seek political position people will be laughing at you. Guy you funny die. Girls in Nigeria are more passed around than abroad. They are hungry and will cheat. Many guys go to Nigeria and do 3somes. Who are these girls they are doing it with. You say we should marry prostitutes? Even village girls are big time prostitutes because of poverty in the country. Tell another lie. You know how men who marry wives from naija get divorced? Like water

ebamma: a word of advice for those guys, many girls here in nigeria can't cook too, aren't that submissive, love expensive wigs, jewelleries, and clothes, so my advice stick with the devil over there u know, cos its hard seeing angels over here

logica: Good luck (Jonathan).

EBK2:
@ Op, you cant settle this matter once and for all, not least on this forum. hahaha.

sexkillz: I noticed that too. And it hardly goes down well, in my opinion.

Why is because those men want someone they can easily control. "sit down here and don't move" and she obeys. The girls there are deemed unsubmissive, and independent. That independence factor drives them nuts. The ladies know better, and know what respect from a man means and would not tolerate trampling on what they perceive to be their fundamental human rights. The men that think this way are usually selfish and egotistical although they might not show it. They think only about how they'll benefit from a "tamed" and "naïve" home grown lady. Now, he's coming home to look for a wife, but he has forgotten now that because he lives abroad, it'll be very difficult to find a lady who loves him for love and not for his money or his "abroadness".

He meets a girl who puts on her best behaviour because, all she can see is her prospects of going abroad.. She is also selfish in this regard and will not show it. When they finally get married and she leaves Nigeria, and the euphoria of getting abroad wears off, you see this same lady displaying her real color. Now she also wants to be independent after her eye don open and she don see as e dey go. The man will see her as unsubmissive and rude and now he is back to where he started from, if not worse.

The devil you know is better than the angel you do not know. Most of those girls they eventually marry are people who were recommended for them, and in most cases, the ones doing the recommending are in cahoots with the lady to dupe them. A lot of negative stories abound. . . There's a lot of eye-shining to be done.

dotcom_na_me_na_me:

[size=15pt]Unsubmisive Nigerian woman in Nigeria is better than Unsubmisive Nigerian woman in diaspora[/size]

lorretta u: lol
I was just kidding about that

Okija_juju: Answer includes but not limited to;

1. The Laws of Nigeria: In Nigeria, the marital laws are more favorable to men. They can divorce their wives and not be tied down by laws like Alimony law, Child support, spouse support, e.t.c..

2. Tradition: Most Nigerian men are still very traditional in their hearts. They may be attracted to the flash, the glam and the shine, but at the end of the day, they still want wives that were like their mothers in many ways. Women who understand the traditional values of marriage and home-keeping. Women who wouldnt start thinking to divorce at every provocation of fight.

3. Upbringing/Character: Most 'Western Wives' are all caught up in this whole 21st century nonsense of 'Independent woman', 'Working Class woman', 'Gender Equality', 'Geneva convention' thing and most Nigerian men are not ready to be married to another 'Man'. We all still want women who understand thier 'Traditional' roles in the home and their responsibilities to their husband and children and are ready to meet them.


4. Food: Nigerian men that have been raised in Nigeria for the better part of their youth have some fundamental that have been inculcated into their upbringing that they most times return in search of. Example: Food; Men may love KFC, but when they return home, they want a steaming hot plate of Pounded Yam (not poundo) and Ewedu soup.

5.

_{To be continued}

Billyonaire: SexKillz, Tell me more......cos I got this pemperempe I liked from Anambra, and there were 4 suitors coming for her last December, (na me give am transport oh), I heard 1 from Malaysia, 2 from US and 1 from London. Why would Diasporans be that silly to come to marry babe wey just comot from my bedroom to go enjoy xmas for East, as in correct by-the-side oshofree.

King Edward I:

Can't agree enough with u. Never been a fan of wigs/hair extensions (huge turn off). Prefer ladies with natural hair; black, white or asian. Ever since I arrived, I haven't found any YET, of note...... Most I come across usually have one demand or the other. Asking once in a while ain't an issue but frequent 'it's-your-responsibility'/'if-I-mean-something-to-you' style of asking....and she ain't accepted/we ain't even married yet.
Some weeks ago, I went to see a lady at her house. On getting there, the security guard told me she had just stepped out. Called her phone and she said to come meet her at a small supermarket 4 houses from hers. No worries, might as well walk down d road to meet her. After getting d things she wanted, we started walking back to the house. The next thing I hear is 'when are you guna you get me a ride?'.... cos she doesn't want to walk in the sun on d way bak to her house. I just smiled.
Wth? 4 houses away, you wanna drive there. You aren't carrying the shopping bag, you're too tired to walk. The car was parked at her house, nowt I could do. It must have been sunny or cloudy when she left her house. Now, the weather is too hot to go back to your house. Obviously didn't say none of that out. She ain't my girlfriend yet.
That was the last time I went to see her and stopped contacting her.

Mikhaela:

What should I expect? I don't understand your statement. I really do not care how you were raised as long as we are compatible. If a guy expects me to cook or be a stay at home mom (If I decide one day I want children), he can walk away or I will. It will never work out... that's not how I was raised.