Djboosting:


U see sadly, the easiest way to go into a friendzone is SEEKING REACTIONS or VALIDATION from a woman...

Why most men land into friend zone is because they don't bet on themselves and act all cool and nice to make women like them.. they crack jokes ALL THE TIME with women (get the words there - "all the time" ) and they always follow her lead...

Women don't want someone they would be leading, they NEED someone who will LEAD them ..

() I can't start explaining the procedures about the way women are WIRED with typings.. () ..

example of ways guys who fall into friendzone and also the others who don't fall into friendzone talks with women..

**enters eatery or a bar**

Friendzone guy : "can I buy u a drink?", OR "which drink do u want me to buy you, ABC or XYZ?"..
(this one always seek her lead)

Badboy guy : "See I'm going there to buy two drinks, sit here and wait for me"... OR .. "Looks like they've got drink ABC here, I'm getting us two chilled ones" ..
(this guy leads the conversation)

You see the difference In the conversation up there?

Always LEAD LEAD LEAD


if u always lead, no lady will friendzone or whatever they call it... with u.. because she'll be seeing a MAN not just a MALE child to babysit

#peace_man

sadly:
You mean you shouldn't define the relationship but just act like her boyfriend? how is that done and wouldn't it lead to being friendzoned?

jetworldpee:
na wa for your kind person broda, oga teddy had already mention it before never to ask a girl out,just act like her boyfriend, she will always raise her guard once she saw you coming with a question like did you have a boyfriend or will you be my girlfriend thingy, she probably will reply with I have a boyfriend,no girl want to be considered single even if she is fvcking single, attraction should be emotional not logical.... #peace.

jetworldpee:
na wa for your kind person broda, oga teddy had already mention it before never to ask a girl out,just act like her boyfriend, she will always raise her guard once she saw you coming with a question like did you have a boyfriend or will you be my girlfriend thingy, she probably will reply with I have a boyfriend,no girl want to be considered single even if she is fvcking single, attraction should be emotional not logical.... #peace.

teddy7:
Nawa for my kind person? bros I no understand o. its like u didn't read my first post. I have basically done everything Op said. I have done d raport in thats she tells me everything even d ones i don't expect her to. I've been acting like her boyfriend ..jst check that my post. she is definitely attracted and she raises her guard of course by telling me about a guy I never asked about. I normally brush such topic aside by joking 'I ain't d jealous type' or something of that nature...jst d way op said. normally I would av gone for a kiss but she is a very sensitive girl not like the ones i've dated b4. I didn't want to nip my chances with a kiss. thats why I told her how I feel. she said she would give it a thought d last time I talked with her... so I'm currently on d waiting faze ... guys make una try help this my mata.. op, dj boosting, sadly n d rest

sadly:
I understand... on to the babe we talked about last time. I was beginning to feel irritated by her monosyllabic replies and had to ask why she does that as if she is unhappy for some undisclosed reasons. I told her she is more bigger than that and more intelligent or am I bugging her.

The reply I got was rather shocking. She said I am more mannerless than she thought and is that how I talk to people whats my business with how she responds.

Blocked my number on whatsapp and calls. I don't know how to hide when something isn't right. so I guess I lost this one already.

eden2015:
am so appy to av sin such a thread.
U can assist me in ma dating game.
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Djboosting:



Lost? .. To me- No... but if u accept u lost her, It's still cool.. life goes on...


MISTAKES MADE
U see sadly, from the little deep meaning I FOUND out from Ur UN-SEEN convo (conversations) with her, it's like two things pretty obvious here. .

1.. She wants a fling (short time parole) with you, but u made it clear to her U're attaching feelings into the talks.. she saw that and she flaked...

2.. U're trying too hard to please her, to make her happy... U're being too nice.. and worst, U're making it obvious that u really like her and really NEED her.. and most importantly the convo is not sparking any EMOTION from her...

the only attraction she has is from the eye contact from the wedding... but now she's got the real u a little and she felt nothing much on it.. so the attraction dies...


I'm out...

#peace_man

Eden007:
Some girls are very funny. Check this out. There's this girl that attends my sister's church. I met her once in a bank, she recognized me and introduced herself to me I didn't ask for her contact that day because I knew how to see her again. Unfortunately, I couldn't see her in my sister's church the few days I attended. I searched for her on FB and dropped my contact for her to call me that I'll love to meet with her again. She called, but I missed the call. Initially I didn't know she was the caller, so I called the strange number to find out who the person was. She denied and said it's a wrong number. I searched the number on FB her name appeared. I sent her a text to inform her I now knew she's the one through FB and that I'll love us to sit out today. She didn't reply, so I opted to call and hear from her. She said No and hung up on me. Mehn! see this girl o? If she wasn't interested why did she call me in the first place? I don't believe this is a do or die affair. I intend to be a jerk on her and really hurt her ego before I delete her number from my phone. What do you guys think prompted her to act this way and what do you think I should do? There are many beautiful girls out there I can score atleast 5 today. I don't like giving girls upper hand over me.

craiggylad:
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guy ma own advice z dat flatterin will do alot...mayb wen u c her,u jst luk @her amazinly nd say mayb words like jeez its been long av seen an angel dressed in human clothin in form of a gal fwend.....use dat word galfwend so dat she cn c u as som1 alwedy in2 her...u cn send her morning msg jst 2 check on her....nt alwaz o b unpredictable,tell her hw ur head spins anytime u both talk....jst kip on teasin nd make her go down....let her c u as a guy dat she will nt b able 2 do witout...#peace bro#

ibukun3:
Hi Op I av a prob...well am dating dis gal and she was really into me like she calls, textx asks me questions abt me,etc buh all of a sudden she changed a few weeks ago... I. Usually send a morning romantic sms 2 her evry time and morning... I fink it got 2much dt she told me her broda said shld nt receive calls and texts again(don't kw weda dis is true sef).. I stopped calling and texting.. She has stopped calling me or texting me like she used to.. Even on our chts on 2go is nt encouraging.. She no longer opens up 2 me and only replies with short ans like 'k' 'lol' etc... So I did nt chat with her 4 a day nw and up till now she has nt called or texted me.. I really like dis gal and don't want to lose ha.. So pls what's ur advice for me on dis..

Sheegs4gold:
Thank God I found this kinda thread ..weldone OP...There is this girl introduced to me by a friend..we get along with each other by chatting and calling sometimes until her browsing phone got spoil...so I lost the chatting aspect..I was later left with the calling option and I had to sensored my calling cuz of her study..gradually it seems am losing it..I later get close when she was on strike in school and I seize the opportunity to tell her...the response I got is that am late that she already accepted 4 anoda guy...and I love this girl too much..I further ask if wasnt late..what would have been her response and she said it would av been yes...what should I do

xxxtedyxxx:



Dts exactly what u shud do. She is confused becos u av gotten her to a point where is now thinking logically. In other words, she is trying to scale u guys. Dts where the dreaded yes or no comes in. This point shud be avoided @ all cost.

its how u make her feel dat matters. Attraction is an emotional thing, not logical. Logical is wen she has to say yes or no. Dat brings confusion to her inner being.

If u act like a cool bf, and not give a f**k about weda she has a guy before,u will notice obvious changes in her. obvious changes dat direct her on the path of emotional connection.

Think emotions.

xxxtedyxxx:



Dts exactly what u shud do. She is confused becos u av gotten her to a point where is now thinking logically. In other words, she is trying to scale u guys. Dts where the dreaded yes or no comes in. This point shud be avoided @ all cost.

its how u make her feel dat matters. Attraction is an emotional thing, not logical. Logical is wen she has to say yes or no. Dat brings confusion to her inner being.

If u act like a cool bf, and not give a f**k about weda she has a guy before,u will notice obvious changes in her. obvious changes dat direct her on the path of emotional connection.

Think emotions.

WackyJ1:
Fxbot everyday you go out approach a random girl you know and talk to her without any intentions in your mind.
Don't think too much, just move.. Don't bother about what you will say, you're already good with words. Saying junk will help you sef as long as it's funny.

I got over mine with intensive field lectures from a friend.

iamdeclan:
Plz,I need a reply to what am about to say co am going crazy now.
What dies a girl mean when she keeps insisting she can't date u but gets jealous wen she sees u wit oda gals,calls u up to 3 tyms a day,even call during extra cool sometyms and tells u abt all guys dat asks her out/dose dat she goes on a date with...Don't understand her &I rly love her..
N.B her reasons 4 insisting we can't date includes
1)U are my friend
2)all guys seem fakish to me now(because her last relationship hurt are rly well)
3)we are in same level&our future isn't sure cos u mite not b ready 4 marriage wen I am.
But recently,she told me dat she wanna 4get abt d level issh&go 4 any guy dat seem appealing to her.
Pls do u tink she z friend zoning me?? I need a reply quickly

bugzyberry:

exactly my thoughts. like you jst read my mind. will u keep acting like d boyfriend your entire life without letting her know u care about her? i fear u will jst get friendzoned.


how then do you move to the next level like real dating.. as in making it official if you don't tell her how u feel.... Op u re needed to clear this up

You mean you shouldn't define the relationship but just act like her boyfriend? how is that done and wouldn't it lead to being friendzoned?

teddy7:
Nawa for my kind person? bros I no understand o. its like u didn't read my first post. I have basically done everything Op said. I have done d raport in thats she tells me everything even d ones i don't expect her to. I've been acting like her boyfriend ..jst check that my post. she is definitely attracted and she raises her guard of course by telling me about a guy I never asked about. I normally brush such topic aside by joking 'I ain't d jealous type' or something of that nature...jst d way op said. normally I would av gone for a kiss but she is a very sensitive girl not like the ones i've dated b4. I didn't want to nip my chances with a kiss. thats why I told her how I feel. she said she would give it a thought d last time I talked with her... so I'm currently on d waiting faze ...

fxbot:
Thanks Buddy. Been doing that but unfortunately, the girls so far hasn't caught my fancy so I do not proceed after a few words. I told one today while crossing the road. She was on the divider. I asked her why she didn't cross the road as i did, she just laughed and said something inaudible.

Fkhalifa:
my own problem is girls tend to yield or get close to me after sometime....
of which i dont like pestering them after their initial gra gra oti sumi

xxxtedyxxx:


I hope u r not letting this pattern to block d fishes u should av eaten sha?

xxxtedyxxx:



U are on the right track. Keep doing that. Don't relent, push ur comfort zone farther and farther. D best way to learn something new is to start doing dat thing wen we feel fear or anxiety. With time, talking to girls anywhere will become a part of you. Its not every guy dat's skilled in that aspect.

fxbot:
can I have you digit? I need to discuss something with you.