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Honestly, it is not.
Tell her to cut it out. If she insists, you too get a sexy curvy female "best friend".
NA she go use her own mind treat her own foolishness.

If u know Wetin all these unneccessary by-force "best friend" of opposite sex tinz don cause for marriages

Wilfredpat22:
WHEN a lady hits you you have absolutely no RIGHT TO HIT HER BACK. Her blow cant knock you off your feet but yours can

Shut the complete and actual fukc up
With that tired Lame manipulative azz line

lefulefu:
hope u do know there are some men when they try to comminicate and talk about some issues with their wife the woman will report the matter to pastor. Any small issue...na to carry matter go give Daddy G.O for church.this could explain why some men are not free with their wives.

Pastor wey been dey look for sermon next Sunday fit just use una matter take preach give everybody for church.

Hisduchess:
this is more like leaving ur private toilet to go use a public toilet at ajengunle.tufiakwa ife anaghi aso ufodu Ndi mmadu oyi.Chi m ekwe especially for those married men who are given flimsy excuse for their ungodly behavior.

What if the private toilet doesn't work and always spoils at the most inopportune moments no matter how many time it gets fixed?

Man no get quantum black hole for yansh naw.

CyberWolf:
Because the girl will provoke him to the extent he can’t take it anymore, then he will beat her up mercilessly, this will lead to his arrest and charge for domestic violence/abuse( Whichever way they puts it) and we all know how that normally works ends...

It's it only girl that can provoke guy?

Simply move your important items to a safe zone, with the understanding that your house is a war zone.

The bitch is broke and cannot finance a war with you.
Put recording devices around.
By the time you have burnt all her paiint and thrown away all her makeup, she too will get mad. As soon as she hits you, call 911. Get her escorted out. Put a restraining order on her, as aided by evidence of the recording devices.

Use the same system to Bleep her up.
How she decides to carry her life from there is her problem.

The truth is, the law is not as biased to females as people make it seem out here. It's just that men don't like to sink down to a woman's level to fight her the way she is fighting him. The law here is set up to work according to the fighting style of women, which is why it looks like it only favors women.

It's just a fighting style. Adopt it and see yourself rid of every crotch-bleeding parasite you ever made the mistake of picking up.

FisifunKododada:
You will not stereotype YET you are calling her akata. Do you even know the meaning of akata?

Do you?

khiaa:
I'm black American and this is the only fair response as of yet, no prejudices or judgments. Kudos to you. Common sense with a fair approach. The OP is lying, there are no Visa's and fees to pay for an American to enter Canada, the U.S. and Canada share the same borderline all we need is our Identification card. I live in California which shares the same borderline with Mexico, since when do I need a passport and Visa to enter there?

You don't need a visa to enter, but you sure as heck need something more than just your passport to stay for more than 6 months or to live there.

MissRaine69:
No business has ever flourished while the owner is away. It becomes a black hole! Unless you plan on making monthly trips ( even fortnightly as I see some of my colleagues doing hair getting more grey with every trip) If not then do what you have to do but don’t leave it to anyone!

If you are in a position to sell do that. You don’t know how your life abroad will pan out. Therefore do not make promises you might not be able to keep. The philosophy of “wait for me I shall return” has caused many men and women to be bitter. A time to settle down will come.

Don’t catch any feelings. I suggest selling and keeping your money and leave if this was meant to be it will be. Now is not the time to be conflicted about things like this. And regarding leaving your business to her are you out of your mind? Are you like seriously doolally?

Most Nigerian women and money = diabolical pairing that does not have a good ending.
Ever!

One of these days, we need to fly, meet up and chill. You think well!


@OP
I always tell people that, outside of a pre-existing marriage, all these overseas relationships do not make sense.
The moment you realize someone is traveling abroad WITH NO CLEAR PLANS OF RETURNING (i.e planning to stay there), then there is no point holding on to romantic relationships.

Release yourselves. What will be will be.
You don't know what/who you will meet here...or the freedom you will need to have to truly capitalize on various opportunities.
In this case, you 2 are not even dating as she seemed to have been pussy-footing around your previous requests.
You don't have any actionable bond with this woman besides your unrequited feelings.

As to the naija business matter, lets think things through...
If you "leave" the business with her, What happens to the business if you don't end up marrying this woman?
Don't think about business with feelings. Sell it. You will be too busy patching together a life abroad.
If you must "leave" it with someone, then let it be with someone you have an actionable bond with like family....and then also accept that you will not see a dime from it and you will still be responsible for its expenses. That way you can be positively surprised if it turns out well.

If you want to help her and her out-of-work situation, you can recommend her to the person you are selling the business to.
Don't entangle yourself unneccessarily.

Unrelated Advice: You would also need to adjust how you reason about certain things outside of naija. e.g Date who you want to date, but only work with the competent. Don't hire people just because you want to date them. Out here thats a harrasment lawsuit waiting to happen

ImaIma1:
Flawed is having bad manners, excesses like eating and dumping plates, farting in the presence of the other, keeping malice, etc.

Domestic violence is not classified there. It is not a flaw you live with or that is acceptable.

Have you ever hit your girlfriend or wife?

No, but you will never catch me saying dumb ish like "Never raise your hands on a woman no matter what".
That is a terribly stupid mantra that trifling women will always feel the need to test when they know you subscribe to such manipulations.

All I can promise is, "I will do my best not to. As long as you don't push me to it...".

ImaIma1:
The bolded doesn't happen with two hot headed male friends even if one is weaker.

There is no scenario where domestic violence is justified whether ill mannered or worse.

The best he should have done was ask her to leave his house and not put his hands on her.

That was the best, but he didn't do that.
If she isn't a saint, why expect him to be?

He's a flawed person just as her

ImaIma1:
The lady is definitely wrong for pouring away the eggs out of anger or whatever.

But under no circumstances should a guy raise his hands on a lady.

If it happened to be his male friend who visited and did the exact same thing, do you think he would have slap him?

But why does he think he can slap her? At that point, the guy became wrong. He just cancelled what the lady did by slapping her.

When 2 hot headed people meet, the weakest will get slapped. This is likely to be the woman.

She has 2 options, stop being mannerless or leave the relationship and go find someone who is not as hot headed as her.

marylandcakes:
Jus realised that this is a fake story, there is a lot of this flying about. There is the one of the woman who her boyfriend bought four beers and she returned two and he poured the two away and she slapped him.
A load of bs ....

You seem very sure about this. Should you?

Saintmary:
You didn't read my comment.

And you didn't read mine.
I touched every facet of your comment. Try again.

MissRaine69:
A very good wife!”
What does this mean after five years of dating?
Do I re- evaluate, challenge or concede that this was not leading anywhere and leave?

It means he is not committed to the idea of that someone being him.

Saff:
My friend it is poverty. Even if he was angry, why the slap? The slap came from frustration knowing that he spent 200 Naira on the eggs that will be hard to replace. No comfortable guy is slapping a babe over 4 wasted eggs. Unless he has a history of domestic violence. Stop lying to yourself.

It might as well be poor...doesn't take anything away from the fac that she had it coming for essentially willfully damaging his property.

Saintmary:
How would you like this comment: The guy is an agbero woman beater, the lady is an inconsiderate spoilt brat. Every male supporting the guy's actions is no different from him.

He might as well be an agbero.
Doesn't take anything away from the reality that she threw away his resources PURELY OUT OF SPITE. If you want to be angry, be angry, but don't start doing dumb shit like throwing people's things away (the very thing you were asked to use less of no doubt). It is equivalent to destruction of property.

Girls and their manginas talk all this ish about not hitting women but she too is also an agbero by the way she acted.
When an agbero meets an agbero, the physically weakest of the 2 will get slapped and this is usually the female. I have no pity for her.

What I find amazing is how when all these stupid girls act up and get whats coming to them it is always the guy that y'all expect some kind of sainthood from and you want to be treating the female with kiddy gloves, even though the biitch is a grown azz adult and knew exactly what she was doing.

Will I slap a girl who empties my eggs down the sink to spite me? No. She gets the door...and the plumbing bill if she also clogged my sink.
Does that mean I disagree if she does it to someone else more wicked than me and he chooses to respond by slapping her? Not at all. The biitch had it coming!

Different people react differently to foolishness. Some like elevated folk, some like agberos.
If an agbero female used to acting up with elevated men who ignores her one day jams an agbero man and thinks "business as usual, time to misbehave", she will chop the beating of her life....and not a care shall be given.

Stupid females just need to stop doing disrespectful ish.

Shugavee:
mtcheww

That is the sound your brain makes when it has exhausted all it's contents.
Go and put something in it jor

Queendiva101:
Common keep quiet! He is broke or maybe they have been having problems that's why he got angry. Sorry what is the big deal if she uses 4 eggs to eat? What nonsense respect is she lacking and what nonsense home training does she not have? Nothing at all justifies a man raising his hands to hit a woman. I am not trying to defend the woman but those who support the man's actions have mental issues.

But thats the issue though. The slap isn't from using, but from wasting/throwing away the eggs.

Shugavee:
firstly throwing egg away is not a reason to slap anyone ,,,, secondly did she buy it to throw it away

Again, where did you see that she bought the eggs?

It's like you are not even using your brain at all.
The thing is confused as to why your emotions are all over the place so it is making up alternative facts to try to rationalize your silly emotions.

Take care of your brain. Life is not just about applying make-up, my dear.

OBAGADAFFI:
Mr Man, if you were arrested for assault, what will be your defense.

Before you slap, first look at where you are geographically.
In naija, people get slapped everyday, no biggie. So pull back and let it rip
If you were in obodo oyinbo, you no go fit even spank your child talk less of slapping a schupid disrespectful girl.

Kriscien:
I wonder if this story is actually real, could just be a tease, however, if it's real, the guy is not worth it. Lady, exit him for good. The sky is falling because of four eggs, you are not married yet, imagine what will happen when you eventually marry him.

And there is no basis for slapping her, except you were there, there is no use reading "attitude" into the instigation for the slap. That's primarily how domestic violence starts, what if she had gotten angry and gone after the man with a kitchen knife? It would have been another story...GIRL STAB BOY FRIEND TO DEATH BECAUSE OF EGG.

It's not his duty to straighten the "brat" let her go with her failings.

This is naija.
If he does not slap her, who will? Obviously her parents didn't teach her sense o he had to step in.
That is why there are too many females walking around without sense in this generation.
The men they are dating are not tutoring them on how to not be schupid.

He has sown a seed in her life
She will thank him later.


As to the knife, now you're just reaching.

Shugavee:
oh please do u think[b] she bought it[/b] to throw it away Definitely the man might hv insulted her.. n throwing the egg is no reason to slap anyone you didn’t give birth to

OMG What is wrong with the IQ of these dumb nigerians?!
Where does it say anywhere that she BOUGHT the eggs?

The variance of intelligence levels on the human spectrum is purely outstanding!

generationz:
mimile93,MakeNigeriaGrea, ebonflexy
did you even read the first paragraph of the guys rant
he said "how can someone fry four eggs to eat" he even went as far as reducing it. if that's not poverty I don't know what it is.
her pouring it away was childish.
But haven't we all been childish before .Haven't you offended your parents even till now ,do they slap you everytime?

The slap is never justifiable.
what happened to just breaking up with her or telling her to leave his house. what if the lady was fragile and died.
you guys supporting him I'm ashamed of you .



may you have daughters that their husbands beat up for every little thing.

There is a way you will treat someone that disrespects you that the person will realize his/her wrong and apologize .
That's wisdom. There is no wisdom in violence.


The cheap skate is even justifying himself .

The man is lucky the lady isn't me . He will sleep in the cell


donstan18 the story is real and the is a pastor and justifying his stingyness.

Too much talk. Key points below:

- He reduced the eggs by 1. The glutton still had a whole 3 eggs to enjoy. This was clearly not enough for her.
- People's pockets are different, it doesn't make him any less human or any more stingy. Stop thinking like a hoe i.e He is not a baller, he must be insulted.
- Be a respectful guest

Deadlywoman:
You can spin this til the wheels fall off... what he did was disgusting. You guys have gone as far as justifying him hitting her because she threw 2 eggs down the skin. It's not working!

@bold: See what I mean? Your subpar female mind can't even help you look at the picture and count i.e (logically deduce ) the number of eggs that were wasted. If you tried really hard, I'm sure you would see that it was 3 eggs. You can do it. See? Logical, deductive reasoning and counting is not hard!

That said,
You ladies can get your emotions stuck on the slap all you want... What she did was disgusting AND disrespectful. You ladies have gone as far as justifying her acting like a shitty guest and insulting the man in his own house. It simply won't work.

Deadlywoman:
God punish poverty

Amen, but are you not seeing what is being said here?
Why is it so hard for females to logically look at a matter and deduce the real issue by looking at the big picture?

Your feminine minds just get stuck on a micro-detail and you are then incapable of progressing past that in logical reasoning.
This is why we don't have many female CEOs I swiar.

Saff:
Why would the guy slap her if the issue wasn’t about money and poverty? If he was so concerned about her health I think a normal verbal correction would’ve happened. It affected him deeply because it was his eggs, his money, his suffering and his budgeting. Don’t tell me otherwise, or you’ll simply be deceiving yourself. You know how protective guys are when it comes to money, esp when it’s scarce to them.

This comment is an unfortunate exhibition of:
- Your poor reading skills,
- Your inability to logically comprehend things as a woman.
- Your lack of wisdom making it impossible for you to assess a situation and extract the TRUE cause of a thing, rather than just the resultant effect.

Clearly she was verbally corrected.
In fact, it was this correction that caused her to throw away the eggs, wasting his resources because, I mean, "How dare you tell me to use less of something ?!!!". If you were a guest at someone's house and you were asked to reduce use of something, do you find it a totally acceptable and appropriate response to kukuma throw the whole thing away because you were corrected?

Apply wisdom when you read a story, and stop reasoning like the shiit in your anus is somehow intercepting your brains logical deduction processes.

It is HER ATTITUDE that caused the slap.
The eggs have nothing to do with it. It would have even been better that she ate the eggs than throwing them away to act like an untrained brat.

bomasek:
Well,if I v the dough,can get my woman a crate of egg,no biggie,

You're not getting it.

It would have been better if she kuku ate all the eggs in his fridge.
She decided to throw them away to spite him after he made a request that she use less, as in "how dare you ask me to use less of something I don't own?! <pours eggs away>" . That one is not a girlfriend.

It is the ATTITUDE that warranted her that slap.
Remove your mind from the eggs.

bomasek:
Just 200 naira worth of eggs,shit is even on radio as a useless topic. Poverty na disease

It is not about poverty.
It is about respect. Something a female with poor upbringing cannot understand.

Agreed.
Any girl unable to see fault in this female's actions simply exposes herself to be a useless untrained tart.

If she wanted to prove a point, she should have put the eggs back in the fridge (even if already opened) and left to go get her food elsewhere if he wanted to be stingy.

You don't then throw his food away and be looking him in the eye. That is agbero behavior. You better be ready to collect slap with that attitude.

Go on, what does this picture mean to you?

QueenSuccubus:
“I sometimes feel like I’m about to pee while having sex. Is that possible?!”




That moment when ur brain is sending a message that u need to pee & ur NUNU is sending a message as well that the DICK is SOOOO DAMN GOOD & u chose to stay---begging the guy not to stop as u cumming and giving him a thick cream-pie while moaning so loud

Amateur!
A cream-pie means someone is licking up both your fluids from your nunu.
Slaves are great for that. Get you one.

Nigerians are always in a hurry to denigrate other human beings because the average nigerian on this forum is languishing in poverty and hunger.
Things don't work in their lives and country. They must say "Yes Sir, Yes ma" to every small boy or girl that seniors them in some way in life. They are in an ever-present state of sufferment and subjugation....which all combined is why they take out their frustration on other human beings they feel they have something over no matter how small...not knowing how pathetic as a group they sound in their insults.

Sure, dude could stand to improve on being a smart eater, but it really only takes months to drop considerable weight. His road to success in that area is a given.
Y'all, on the other hand, after the same amount of months, would STILL be wretched, poor and frustrated...with no clear road to success

Maybe spend time removing the log from your eyes before laughing at the speck in another person's eye.