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acidtalk: Black man is generally more wicked than any other race.
They hate seeing their fellow man progress and don't do much either to progress.

That is why I have learnt to choose my friends very carefully. My friend in real world aren't up to 10 but I can tell you that despite that, I can do something huge with just that number...

ItsModella: India again?? They always come up with all the weird stuff...na wa o.

You shouldnt be surprised. There is one handsome india actor who hardly look anything indian but an American, he too has a double thumb. That guy fine oooo no be small.

usmsam: Mumu! Pakistani people r not arab. They r indian. Please go back to school and take geography lessons again. Mtcshewww!

I am highly disappointed that you tell someone to go back to school for the same course you yourselfe have failed woefully. How is a Parkistan an Indian? Do they share the same country, national anthem, flag? You tell me.

He who knows not and knows not that he knows not is a--------?

lastpage: Tell your guy that "Once a cheat, always a cheat".
It is still good that its early days and no kids are yet involved.

No need to cheat, let her have the "Corper guy" that is so sweet she cant wait.
Let them enjoy themselves to the fullest, no need to hide.

As for your guy, let him go to church and do "Thanks giving"!
God just added to his years on earth!
He will meet a better woman than that 'Bleep-addict'!

Lastpage!

Good advice... I used to feel bad that I was cheated on but reasling that it is better than marrying such a ho' and the worse is that the guy she cheated with has been having her since 3 years we parted and no plan for marriage. Though she was begging me and willing to tell me anything to believe and accept her, she didnt know I was just probing to see her n.a.k.e.d.n.e.s.s. and after everything, I felt she is the worse thing that has ever happened to womanhood, talk about someone without shame.

Telling me that she has only been fvcking only that guy( he deflowered her while we where dating) in 3 years... she purpoesly did this because she thought the guy would get a job and then marry her, but alas, in 3 years, na so so fvck the guy dey fvck and no marriage plans. You know that kind of break up in which both party gets tired of themselves but non wants to tell the other to go, that is what has happened to her...

Czar-Chris:
I know the ladies will hate me for what am about to post, but what the hell, if don't like it, go bathe on top transformer. .
This is all true, it happened before my eyes(not some nollywood ishh). I was in Schlum then, I had a boss, real big man in all true sense of it and very kind. He had hotels and estates everywhere. He loved and trusted his wife so much, she had everything. One day we were having some drinks in his house, he went into his house to grab more bottles and overheard his wife telling someone "I love you" over the phone in a hiden corner of the house. O boy all hell broke loose that day. When we calmed the situation, he pretended to forget the whole issue. He somehow managed to take his six kids to South Africa on vacation, silently did a paternity test and found out that only two of his six kids where actually his. You should see a grown man crying like a baby, it was just heart rendering(i believe that this and other experiences i had in life made me view women differently, but this was the defineing one). Any woman I marry must sign a pre-nup, and the kids must undergo a DNA testing to put my mind at rest, that am not raising another man shit as mine.

PS:It later came out that his colleague in the office was responsible for 3 out of the external 4.
Guys underesteemate a woman at your own doom. QED

Jesus! Woe bethide that woman! Woe onto the day she was born...

^ ^ that is silly to consider a woman's financial capacity for marriage.

OP if your friend is patient, he should wait for her but I would advice he does that with a back up plan because women are unpredictable; she may end up loving someone else.

It also seem the lady is young but your friend is over due, pathetic! He is probably in his late 30s I guess.

Ariyke: What is it with u and Nigeria self

190 still feel pained for being played by a naija chick.

Am with you 190, anyday any time.

my brotherI was applying for that position when it went off so, I couldnt submit. It was supposed to be esignature stage ooo. I dont know what will happen to my half field data.

na dem know oooo. when I realised it that was when I stopped worrying. Though this forum helped me network with like minds when and I freshly out of school a month and half back which resulted in me netting a $500 deal. it is a long story but Seun does not want the successed to keep pouring in by helping to add more value.

I dont have their time... I was even surprised when one of my thread made the front page.

Acidtalk, you are a Nigerian and you should know that most like to play god when given a slight opportunity.

Give a beggar on the street the same priviledge and see him acts as if he never was a beggar, even to other beggars.

That is the Nigeria we live in... so pathetic.

OP( BIG TO TO), I was never a cheat till a girl cheated on me and I learnt to play the game too.

Go park canal!

It depends on the kind or colour of the lipstick used... some are complete turn oFf for me, especially those RED ones.

YUCK!

fluid26: Hey bro, your story is quite deep and disturbing. You should know that mind games are almost always inevitable in any relationship...friendship, dating, even marriage!

You appear geared up for the endgame, sequel to a cascade of heart-wrenching events. It's really sad that she did all that to you under the guise of adventure and you being inexperienced. It's even more shameful that she chose to seek a redress giving reasons of naivety and peer pressure amongst others.

Here is my argument: what will you gain by checkmating her?

Let it go. Do not be the harbinger of her nemesis. Your vengeance would only be a pyrrhic victory.

True...

acidtalk: Well, in as much as we talk ill about them, we can't do without them.

true... but for now, i dont need them.

WackyJ1: ^^^ PLAY IT MAN PLAY IT WELL

No problem... This will teach her a lesson she will never forget. she kept spewing rubbish and not knowing that I was doing my own calculations.

ANYWAY,THE GAME HAS JUST BEGUN!

vascey: Come on guys, don't judge the girl. Everyone makes a mistake. Moreso she was just a kid. I mean at 16, what did you expect. She hasn't seen the world and is naïve about a lot of things. So I'm not surprised. However, dealing with the aftermath is what I expect folks to talk about.

Finally, no matter how well intentioned the guy was, he shares some part of the blame. It is NEVER advisable for a guy to commit a girl as young as that. 9.99 times out of 10 it backfires.

Thank you for quoting me. Why do you people condone certain things by shelfing it with silly reasons? WHAT IS WRONG IS WRONG! age or no age. At that age would the OP put her hand in the fire is she was asked to do so?.

My ex has been saying the same thing that she didnt know what she was doing at time and that she was listening to bad advice from friends, wanted to have fun and she was still young. she said so many things just for me to believe her.

I still talk to my ex not because I still love her but for a different reason which she will soon find out and if she ends up killing herself, that is her cup of tea.

Since yesterday, I have been on phone while she kept begging me.

Some girls are evil and devilish... what makes my own case worse is that I was still mourning the death of my mother when she carried out her acts and she did it withouth saying sorry. Just for once sit down and think about that for a second. Imagine losing your parent and having a heartbreak... no be die be that? In the last few days, my heart is now like a stone and I dont feel attracted to any girl any more, no matter her beauty.

Now while talking to her if you are very good at asking questions,you will find out the truth.

What led to my break up with her was that she had sex with another guy and still abused me physically by inviting another guy to where I was and whom she later left with.

I said would she say she hasnt had 5ex with other guys since that time(2009) and she said no(A BIG FAT LIE) but she has only been having sex with the guy that deflowered her since that time( SHE ONLY USED THIS BECAUSE THAT IS THE ONE I KNOW OF). and she said I was inexperienced ( can you see how selfish some girls could be?). You see that? that is a way to justify her act.

So, I said so you mean you are still dating that guy(the one that deflowered her) she said yes, but I am surprise that you still wanted me around she also said yes that she wanted me around because she love me(madness)... (IS THIS WHO WAS BEGGING FOR FORGIVENESS?)

The bottom line is that she felt that guy was in a better position because he would get a job and marry her.

Well in 3 years now, na so so fvck the guy dey fvck her and no plan for marriage so she thinks I am an escape route and a plan B while holding on to plan A. Another thing is that she is trying to use psychology here by confessing and even going up to the extent of telling me that she has been fvcking only the same guy all this while( 3 years)... so that I will see her as a repentant.

Another thing she said was that time, I was too serious and that she wasnt ready for that back then. oooh... so na now u ready? okay... she wanted to have fun and she even went as far as saying she had her fun well.

There is nothing I hate as when someone thinks that you do not have the same brain as they. I have been avoiding this all this while but I think it is high time I told her that I too know how to play games and play it better than her...

She did a lot of mind game and hoping that they will work on me but nothing happened... but she would find out when it is too late because I warned and was sincere to her... whatever happens to her in the end will never be my fault. AND I think it is better I deal with her than doing so to innocent girls.

LET THE GAME BEGIN!

acidtalk: Hope say no be men you dey do oh?

brother, what I meant is that I dont feel attracted 2any of them.

So pathectic...

Now that ex of mine finally realised that guys no dey show face for were she dey again

The guy who she gave her virginity to even while where dating is still the guy dat had been fvcking her since 3 years... hmmm

But now, she finally realsies that the guy is not planning to marry her and now looking for an escape route...

she is still with the guy till now but trying to look for a guy that will marry her and so, chose me. i dey laff.

me wey be say every girl,no matter her beauty sef, be like man to me.

woe bethide the day some girls were born!

salam001: To aspiring actors,mind the role you act,this man was always acting a Cripple

I cripple? na u 1st talk am oooo. I have never watched him play such role.

Hello Ladies in the house.

What is your thought about having fun in a relationship? Is it a standard that you(a girl) MUST have fun just because guys are flocking around you?

Is it a criteria that you must have fun with other guys that come around you so as to be matured enough before marriage?

I asked because I had a talk with a lady and she said she had her fun well and that is it when she gets married that she would now start having fun? And meanwhile she was cheating with various guys( which she termed as FUN).

I had to raise this question in order for us see what your views are.
It seem that a lot of girls see this as the only way to WISE and matured before marriage.

over to you guys

pendo89: don't 'proposes' to her yet because all you are doing is thinking.You think this and that about her.Be friends and let it pick up from there.

Good advice... I once heard a story about a guy who did this and the result was devastating... the girl vex because she truly like the guy as a friend such that if she were ill, she would ask her friends to go call the guy and people thought she was 'in love'with this dude. So, his friend tempted him into wooing the girl... but that ended their friendship.

Talking about being too reserve, that is not a problem. I am myself but took sometime to let that go. But I still have traces of that in me.

I know it is not good thing but you can help her... you can make a better person. There is way around that. With a little push here and there, discussions and communication with her will help her out. That is essence of a better half, you compromise.

rkout4luv: Thanks for taking so much time and putting up this examples..... Like you said, am not perfect myself.

Anytime bro...

You said it yourself that she is trying everything to do those things you want... try it with someone that doesnt love you and see.

Op, how many domains have you sold?

Op, honestly, I dont see anything wrong with her. Na sociality go solve your life chanlleges? which is worse? A girl that dumped you when you had nothing or one that stucked with you through thick and thin. My brother, you better stay with her because you dont know what the next girl would be and then, you will start missing her. it would be too late then.

see, I have seen it happened before, one to my elder brother and another to my uncle. they left ladie who truly loved them and what was the result? DISASTER! the ladies that came into their life there after was hell.

For my uncle, he got married to a Nigerian lady in the US and the lady was almost suffocating him with family demands, tellling him to bring the brother, do this for her mother and all that. That lady had one issue for him but he left her because he could no longer cope.

He came to Nigeria and married a supposed nurse and then took her to the US... another wahala. The girl got there and turned wild according to what I heard and this caused problems for my uncle that they had to deport the lady and almost deported my uncle... but being a smart hard core Naija guy, he found his way into Canada.., and thank God that heis doing well now.

He has just married again... but na small girl him come marry. Age is no longer on the guy's side. But as small as I was and over 20 years ago, I remembered he found love and there was this lady that truely loved him... she was willing to do anything, she was pretty and extended the same love to us. I remember how she turned my little sister's birthday party into marvel... it was as though she gave birth to my sister.

But in the end, any time this lady takes in for him, he would beat her till she had a miscarriage. this happened more than three times.

My brother, may this never be your experience... please. You can sort these things out with her. I strongly believe that you can irrespective of what anyone say.

My elder brother on the other hand left a truly loving and caring lady for one flimsy excuse... but the girl that had an issue for him almost tore us apart, she even went as far as causing enimty between my brother and his long time childhood friend...

Is this the kind of life you want...?

Who no go know know!

You dont know who the next person might be. I have never been fortunate to find one that loves me and if I do, I will not be foolish to let her go just because of her flaws.

OP, dont you have your own flaws? Are you that PERFECT?

Kingsleyinfo: thanks,
I would appreciate the link very much.
when u come around i think we should meet

i am currently in warri now but hopefully not for long.
Lets see and exchange ideas,
hopefully we could learn a thing or two from each other.

I believe a man who stops learning starts dying....

all the best.

send me an email to doyen2fine at gmail dot com. please give your handle in the email so that I know who I am dealing with. thereafter,I will send the link.

hehehehehe.... ANOTHER VOW?

PLEASE, HOW MANY MORE VOWS DO WE HAVE ON THE LIST BEFORE 2015?

Yomieluv: Women,why do you like loosing diamond,when picking stones.if you truly love him,you won't cheat on him.

I believe you got burnt with the guy u went with,and then want to retrace your step.

To hell with you,girls like you are the reason girls are called bitchh.

If I were him,I won't take you back,nobody wants a second hand.

If you can cheat on him,despite being nice,you have the tendency to do it again.

Brother, true talk. She got burnt that's why. And that's a more reason why I never accepted my ex back. Logically, if it had worked out with the other party, she wouldnt have felt any remorse... any. She would have gone on to enjoy the apple all alone.

But in most cases like this, the girls often get used and dumped by the guys they cheat with.

And that serves them right...

OP, you just have to move on because as someone already said, he may never trust you again. somebody did that to me and that was the end.. she tried to get me back but the trust is no longer there.

Though she cruely carried out her acts without thinking about how I would feel but after choping the kondo or kondos(plural), she wan come back buy the trust was no longer there. I didnt want to put her through what she did to me and I honestly and sincerely told her that I no longer want her because the trust, love and attraction is DEAD!.

I guess that's what make me a better human than her.