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We live in a soft generation of overpampered souls and weak psychological entities. If life/marriage was simple then it would be a fairy tale, people can fight, argue etc, there's nothing emotionally damaging about it as long as they reconcile and allow the good times to outweigh the bad times. A 2 year old kid will not remember NADA! Heck I barely remember anything before my 6th birthday.

Furthermore, if seeing parents fight scars children for life then such children would be crushed by the harsh realities of life! From failing a class to broken hearts, from stress on the job to having a family of their own. Life is not a bed of roses and rather than raising a physically and emotionally weak child through over sensitivity training, I would rather the child experience life as it is and be better prepared to tackle ANYTHING!

Whether we like it or not, Corona is here to stay, just like Malaria or thyphoid, it will be a normal part of society and the genius minds will come up with a cure. People will still die from it but it will no longer be sensational news, people will no longer wear masks. The natural world is upgrading its ecosystem and corona is just another change agent/catalyst!

Humans trying to act like Jesus but even Jesus requested a timeout when he saw what this world had in store for him. Y'all better wake up and realize no men of God anywhere, what we have are actors playing their part and sometimes we get to see their true colors when they go off script

Fourwinds:
the man will go to jail and of course the girl will have a better life... The man is a pain... Do you know what is called emotional and psychology pain? That is what the man is to the family

There's no guarantee in life, don't be surprised that the woman would be the one to tell the court she no do case and that it was not his fault. LEt's pray the woman finally gets the courage to do the right thing instead of putting her child in such a predicament!

Fourwinds:
now let me put this straight.. If that man is responsible, it is now that we will know... If he fails to pay that girls fees and upkeep then I know he wasn't suppose to be a father in the first place.. I don't know if you are a Christian.. I the Bible parents were told not to provoke their children to anger and the children should honour their parents.. That girl was provoked... Even if she is a child, you have no right to treat her anyhow

How can the man pay school fees for a child that had him locked up? Please let's be realistic here! If this man goes to jail, the child must stand by her actions and be prepared for adulthood. In advanced countries children over age 18 are adults, it's nothing new. All I'm saying here is that the best thing for the child is to ensure her mother does not go back to the man, if she goes back I can assure you lif will be hell for the child and the woman won't defend her.

Forget Bible here, let's face reality. In Africa, no child has ever had his or her parents arrested and gained something positive out of it, it always ends in more misery. In advanced country, even in advanced countries, the man is not responsible for the child pass the age of 18.

Fourwinds:
the wife is an adult and the useless man feels beating her like a toddler is the best solution? And for the daughter to speak out is wrong? So he is a money bag, meaning he can do and undo right? The daughter is now a bastard because she spoke out? Is the man no ashamed of himself if he is not no longer interested in the marriage court is one of the avenue to seek amicable solution.. What I see in the man is a big probably educated illiterate who is egoistic and money deluded idiot who only find joy in melting his frustration on his wife... Such a men are well known to cheat on their wives because they feel they have conquered that territory that would have hampered their immorality

Parents are supposed to protect their children, this does not only mean physically but emotionally and spiritually. the father has failed in this regard no doubt but the mother has failed as well by allowing the situation to deteriorate to this extent. Now when a child gets involved and is directly responsible for bringing her father to shame or possibly in jail then spiritually and emotionally this child is broken.

This is why I said, "This is a lesson for all women, never put your kids in a compromising position, never force them to air out the family's dirty laundry, do the right thing and leave an abusive relationship if you feel there's no amicable solution".

Often times in situations like this we focus only on the man and ignore all other factors, I know people don't want to blame the victim but every action has an equal and opposite reaction. I have never supported any woman fo staying in an abusive relationship because of the children, IT MAKES NO DAMN SENSE....

Now that the child was forced to act like the adult, what do we expect to happen? DO WE THINK THEY'LL GO BACK TO BEING A FAMILY? DID THE CHILD MENTION WHO PAYS HER SCHOOL FEES? IS THE MOM READY NOT TO GO BACK TO THE GUY? IS THE CHILD READY TO HUSTLE BY HERSLEF OR IS HER MOM READY TO FOOT THE BILLS? HOW WILL SUCH A CHILD BE TREATED BY EXTENDED FAMILY? IF THE DAD IS THROWN IN JAIL, WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR THE CHILD?

I'm just showing the type of questions reasonable people ask in situations like this, we all know in 9ja after the initial gra gra by NGOs and advocates, the family is left to suffer. If the mom had acted with courage, the child would not need to act hence saving herself from a whole lot of confusing questions.

There's a difference between being a gentle guy and being a dumb guy! A woman that you are in a serious relationship with has no business communicating with her ex, if she believes she can't do without him then she can go to hell! Now, you eventually married such a woman and she's still communicating with the guy yet some tin heads are telling you to have a talk with her, E NO GO BETTER FOR SUCH WOMAN! My guy BE A MAN, your cowardice/gentleness is going to end up giving you hypertension in the long run.

If you truly love this woman then you want the truth as quickly as possible, KINDLY bug her phone, get cold hard evidence then present the evidence in front of her parents! When you do this, two things will happen, either she changes for the better and you reconcile or she enjoys her newfound freedom and says DEUCES! Either way, now you know where you stand and you can move on with your life! BE A MAN, TAME HER BEFORE SHE KILLS YOU!

Fourwinds:
how many agreed to what you wrote? Can I see the counted votes? Keep deceiving yourself with your rubbish talk

What are you a 10 year old? You think agreement is by likes or shares? Mehn, if your brain is too simple to comprehend what I wrote why don't you just let it be or better yet tell me what exactly you disagree on and we can have a sophisticated discussion instead of this fuckery you keep typing!

Fourwinds:
you wrote nonsense

Don't worry, what I wrote was intended for those with an IQ above 20 .

CORRUPTION IS NOT STEALING....Abi this oyingbo people no sabi book again . Anyways I'm waiting for Buhari's tenure to be over so that we can discover the next group of extraordinary looters under his administration, ALUTA CONTINUA

So what's the intended result? You continue to blame your father but your mom is the enabler, was her feet glued to the house? Before anyone shouts she did it for the kids, kids are grown now, what next? What has the child actually achieved by doing this? Nothing guarantees that the woman won't return to the man after all is said and done, where does that now leave the child? In the father's eyes she is the equivalent of a bastard and knowing how most men reason, she is better off never knowing her father.

This is a lesson for all women, never put your kids in a compromising position, never force them to air out the family's dirty laundry, do the right thing and leave an abusive relationship if you feel there's no amicable solution. There's no reason to continuously endure a battered face and body, this is not a correctional slap but a beat down. DON'T BE SO USELESS THAT YOUR KIDS MUST FORCE YOU TO GLORY!

jcross19:
if you are using covid19 then I know how myopic you are! this pandemic is all over most of the world and now that the cases are getting down and is clear to voters that in the midst of this pandemic the economy is growing back gradually... don't use pandemic as a campaign gimmick even death of Floyd can't change anything because of the population of the whites...so all those people that hate trump are just immoral, how can you support abortion?

There's no need to argue with you anymore because it is a waste of time and energy, so let's be factual:

1. Are you located in the USA?
2. Are you able to vote in the US presidential election?

If both answers are YES then we can let the November election decide but if answers are NO then what's the use?

jcross19:
is a lie , you did not vote for him!!!! November is at the corner it will shock you !!! biden have been in over 30years no achievement for him and you think American are like Nigerians that vote because of likeness huh? I laugh you... they used pandemic to campaigned against him, it backfired on them, now they resorted on using riots exactly like APC. it won't work because the Americans are seeing the Democrats as anti-american that want hand their country to China....

Over 180,000 people have died in America has a result of Covid 19, George Flyod, Breona Taylor and countless others at the hands of over zealous cops yet you believe Trump will win because your brilliant, world acclaimed mind tells you he will? No data, no historical anecdote, nothing....Just the opinion of a random element on Nairaland, do you even know the states that are called swing states? Do you know the states with the largest electoral college points? Did you even bother to read post election figures from 2016 to analyze why Trump won and why it is different this time? No of course you didn't, you rely on your brilliant mind.....YOU CAN'T MAKE THIS SHIT UP....NAIRALANDERS AT IT AGAIN

sbaks:
You see my problem with Africans, they always look down on themselves forgetting their roots of poverty. Little wonder the whites always remind them of their roots but alas they (whites) are given the racist card when they do. So for your mind your voting for him makes you achieved? It shows you are not even doing well there (if even true you are there). You see my problem with poor people? Okonjo iweala had been there for years but saw the citizenship as worthless. She held on to her "Nigerian citizenship", you wey be kpako dey see voting as achievement. Choi! SMH. So long you are African, YOU ARE WRETCHED. People from Lagos island would always walk with pride knowing fully well that their village is a city (even if they are not buoyant financially). Poople from villages with no civilism won't do same mind you (no matter their wealth). They'll always claim the nearest civilized village. That's your case oga. YOU ARE POOR. And real rich folks don't even laud it sef. There are whites here but they don't laud it or call nigerians poor only kpakos like you.
You indeed can take the man out of the gutter but cannot take the gutter out of the man. Kpako runs in some people's blood. Poverty mentality smh

When you're a product of a failed education sytem, you tend to reason like a simpleton! When it comes to voting or exercising my civic duties, YES IT IS A SOURCE OF PRIDE! This has nothing to do with money but the pride that you contributed towards the future of this great country. The jargon that you wrote looks at things financially and I guess to a primitive mind like yourself, money is all that matters in this world . I called the guy wretched because he has no say in what happens politically in the USA, if you can't vote or participate in the economic, socio and political climate in the USA yet offer opinions that makes you look like an expert in our affairs then you are simply WRETCHED/UNFORTUNATE! I could go on and on but to what end? I have already given you importance by replying, anything else from this point on is a waste of time and energy!

jcross19:
ahahahahahaha Mr man you better wise up the polls now are going against biden, the unrest have opened many eyes of American citizens to see how devilishly Democrats are !!!. that unrest like have said have damage Democratic chances , even burning bibles, destroying crosses, shout death to America. the only people that want trump out are just illegal immigrants, drug pushers, lgbQT and terrorist Muslims!!!.Democrats failed the attempt to impeached him , they will still fail. you will disappear after the election am sure of it.

Okay, you can continue singing your baseless rhetoric while not having a voice in how the election plays out or you can take the voice of an insider well versed in data and believe me when I say this is not even going to be close, Trump's own base are the ones turning against him. He has lost Banner, he has lost 50% of Foxnews and most of the U.S generals are against him as well, 20 prominent politicians have publicly said they would vote against him and he is failing miserably in swing states. Look at the last election, the states that gave him the election, Michigan, Pennsylvania and Florida are now firmly BLUE/DEMOCRAT......Without these states he cannot WIN, Trump is my guy, I voted for him in 2016 but only a sheep would refuse to admit that the nation's problems are too complex for his fragile mind.

Originality007:
No wonder u keep jumping from one moniker to another other, it only shows how pathetic ur life is

LMAO.....Now I know you're trolling, go to bed FOOL

jcross19:
The unrest was created by Democrats and is now backfiring on them. all these unrests are the instrument to vote back trump to office.

The unrest is justified, everyone is angry after George Flyod but I do not support those who are looting innocent shops and businesses. The unrest will cost trump the election, whether he leaves peacefully or forcefully that's another question....lol

Originality007:
Abbeybailey same as sonoflincoln, stop lying u never voted for him. Trump dont even need ur Vote, and is going to win gallantly

You're welcomed to read my profile and see over the years how I've defended Trump, unlike wretched people like you that sits in 9ja with no voting power, I actually contributed to him becoming the president. It's funny tho, you actually believe you're important enough to lie to

9jaDoomCountry:
You voted for him from Amukoko polling booth?

Yes of course, shebi na your mama dey sell us pure water that day.....BINGO

GamalNasser:
Abbey bailey quit the lies you never voted for him in 2016

You sound so intelligent....Did you build your brain in Alaba?

EzzyCarter:
Funny thing is no matter how much this guy "goofs" before the election, he's still going to win. Don't be deceived by the media . To the Nigerian leftists/Biden soldiers, all your rants or hate won't stop him from winning. Americans love that mothr4cker

He's not winning bro, I voted for him in 2016 but this time around he's gone! Too many factors working against him including himself. He's simply not going to be able to use the element of surprise this time. No president in the history of the USA has won reelection when facing a double crisis(Covid and civil unrest).

Wahala90:
yjh

Don't really know the point of this, is Buhari seeking a third term? Better forget Buhari and focus on the next election between the next Northern puppet and Southern puppet, either way Nigerians will continue to be ruled by puppets .

All employees who turned out to be successful entrepreneurs did so through enlightenment either by realizing they can no longer be a sheep or by life forcing them to evolve.........The path to success is fire....AGNI PATH

The best and brightest group in Nigeria is also the weakest! It's like a curse, our Igbo brothers cannot succeed in Igboland because there's nothing there so they go to other lands, develop it, enrich it and then complain when they are reminded that they are just tenants. It happened in Lagos and China, happened in the North, it happened in South Africa and now Ghana.....Must you wait for Lesotho before waking up?

lekki1444:
just because you are married does not mean you are soul mates. there are also twin flame married couples

We are talking about the typical african settings, where parents gave their blessings, where church/mosque gave God's blessing and you're here shouting about Spirit. Ogun kill such spirits

lekki1444:
well you see you are a spiritual being and the flesh is just a housing and so your spirit is expressing disgust at what your flesh just did. your flesh is controlled by the dark part of the spirit and so the light part of the spirit is expressing disgust that you let the dark part of the spirit lure you into creating spiritual bonds with entities that will diminish you and your destined pathway. basically your path has been blocked and the light part of the spirit is disgusted that you shut down its destiny to ascend into the light and transform you into an ascended being and the dark part is showing remorse and the light part is showing disdain

This would be true except it happens to married couples as well hence nothing to do with spirits, UNLESS YOU ARE SAYING MAN WAS NEVER INTENDED TO HAVE SEX OR PROCREATE?...Abeg try another theory!

Bigchristo:
If they really wanted him to be handling national issues why didn’t they vote for him during elections?they refused to drag Buhari and Osinbajo that’s supposed to be running affairs of the country, Some Nigerians always channel their energy to wrong direction.

By your statement you just agreed with them that Atiku is no better than Buhari . Welcome to the Animal Kingdom

Ayilara1:
. I've heard you
1. Since I was born, I've never committed a sin that warrant such.
2. If you have nothing to fear you'll do anyhow and sir every religion is rooted in fear, Christianity very much inclusive.
3.Saudi is not Islam and there change is something already predicted by the prophet, ain't new to us even if they start to walk naked. A time is even coming where there will be no serious Muslim in Saudi in itself.

I'm done

Ayilara1:
Religion is different from law? Do you have a religion? If you belong to any of the Abrahamic religion, what was the 10commandments of God? Merely words not laws?

What's the essence of religion if it has no law? I don't know about your religion but Islam and it's law are inseparable.

To avoid unnecessary redundancy I wouldn't repeat anything of forgiveness again aside this

Forgiveness is for God and his prophet to give not our e.g a raped girl might decide to forgive her rapist and neglect charging him to court but in another scenario where a girl is raped to death, it is the responsibility of those in charge to charge the rapist to court and not forgive him.

The prophet might forgive if he is alive but in his absence it's ours to stand for is name.

They only question should be is death sentence not too much and not issue of forgiveness.

In response to your last paragraph, only three sin in Islam leads to killing of the doer and not all sin and the wisdom behind it to reduce the doer e.g adultery in Saudi is minimal and if you do it, it is not something you can be proud of in public as in our environment.

Why is china rate of corruption minimal in comparison to ours? They kill the money stealer.

Again you're missing the point and arguing baselessly! Why are you not dead? Can you boast that you've not committed a sin since you've been alive that warrants death by stoning/flogging etc? Once again you're confusing man made laws with religion/worship of God! I beg you to learn the difference, even in the Quran, the Almighty Allah says he pardons whom he wants and crucify as he pleases. His ways are not known to man, man's justice is not his justice. Any religion founded on fear and punishment is sure to perish, this is why even in Saudi things are starting to change, women can now drive, capital punishment for adultery, stealing etc has reduced greatly, if you don't see the difference between Muslims in Qatar/Saudi and those in Northern Nigeria then this dscussion is over!

Ayilara1:
When it change it becomes Islam no more and that group might no be Muslim but just a trying affilate.


Peace is not the absence of violence but enforcement of justice.

Forgiveness is for God to give and for man is justice to prevent increase in disobedience on earth.

Why do you kill a killer?
Why do you want a rapist to be killed?
Why do you want our politicians to be jailed?

Why not forgive them so as to be able to preach peace and forgiveness well?

Religion is different from law! There's a reason Islam is called religion of peace and I advise all justice seeking/blood sucking people to find out why! When Islam is looked at from the foundation/root level, you discover the message of love, you discover the message of peace. This is the difference between extremisim (Those who base the religion on the justic prinicple) and that of true believers(Those who interprete the religion from the standpoint of peace and unity).

If forgiveness is not part of Islam then we should all be dead because I assure you we have all sinned today!

Excuses:
Islam already has six sects. existing since for a very long time..

Not really, It is only really two...Sunni 85% and Shiia 15%. Within those you have different variations but nothing really separates their fundamental beliefs which is all about leadership. Sunnis belive in Sunnah/written instructions from the Holy Prophet while Shiia believe in Imams/Ayotollahs. They all still share strict religious believes in terms of blasphemy and religious duties. If Islam is truly to change, a new group must emerge that will preach more about peace and forgiveness than obedience or punishment!

Openbusiness:
See I'm not disputing it with you, You don't have to tell me. I already know. I know Buhari regime is a useless regime, I know Buhari regime is a disaster. But so far Buhari regime is still occupying Aso Rock, then Nigerian citizens must continue to knock on the door of his bedroom till he opens the door and answer us. I have no business with SANs and lawyers in Kano not rushing to help that man, I have no business with Kano government saying they will sign his execution. They are not the FG of Nigeria. My business is with Buhari regime that is the FG of Nigeria, and Buhari regime MUST help his citizen regain his freedom. If Buhari regime like, let them be 99% useless, but we will never allow them to be 100% useless. Even if na 1% service to perform their constitutional duty we can get from him, we will squeeze out the 1%. The mama wey say him baby no go suck breast, that mama sef no go sleep. We go cry till Buhari regime comot breast from bra for us to suck and enjoy our fundamental rights guaranteed by the Constitution of Nigeria. Buhari regime, we go suck your breasts till our cheeks grow fat whether you like it or not, na our right as citizens.

Ok I admire your faith.....Keep fighting the good fight, I would rather use my time and invest in a country that still wants to be saved