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Merry100:
How old were you when you had your first bf/gf?

I was 19 , very young and fresh then. I remember I met a lord who is older than me ,like 7 to 8 years difference, her eye tear wella. The way she was rolling with me made me fear o.


That wan pass me o, but she like me because I was young and handsome.

turmacs:
That is a lie, heaven knows he tried to rape those poor ladies...All these Nigerian men that some how found their way to Europe and made one nonsense money, their preeq to dey stay one place just like their useless and broke counterparts back here in Naija spits on their bald heads...He must pay enough millions so that those ladies can go and receive mental health evaluation to free them from the trauma the konji infested guy has caused them

Shut your stupid mouth🤫🤫

goldust777:
He is not a simp narcissist get level there is surface narcissist the average Nigerian girl and pathogical or deep narcissist this are the real demons in humanskin that can send you to aro or yaba mental asylum/mental hospital by merely dating,marrying or being very close to them

Why do you only think of female narcissists?



Have you ever thought of male narcissist too??

goldust777:
Nigerian veteran Nollywood actor saint obi wife was a female covert narcissist go and google what happened to saint obi and where he is today

What makes you think every man is like saint obi?

Saintinoo:
That is the reason I said you dated one of those Nigerian girls and not a covert narc.

A covert narc is like an eagle, she monitors you often, knows when to roll on the floor to apologise, even give you the said attention, all this she know what she is doing. Most of them start changing when you get married to them.

This girl at a stage in the relationship will beg and beg, and make it look like she will die if I leave, all was to get me deep and committed.

They disguise as that dream girl you want, and when they get you, they start destroying you. You are not strong than man that were once destroyed by female narc. I doubt you have ever dated a covert narcissist.

From your write up I already know the kind of man you're. That guy you replied to is also saying the exact thing I told you in my previous comments, but you still don't want to accept that you're a simp. And the funny part is that, you want every man to believe that no man can handle a female narcissists just like you. It is very very wrong of you to think that way. Have you ever thought of Male narcissists b4?, or a Male and female narcissists dating each other b4? Have you thought of what will become of their relationship , or you believe is only women that are designed to be narcissists??

If you've ever thought of this I don't think you will be saying all this things you're saying.

Saintinoo:
I know for sure that I am strong of a man emotionally than you. What do you think simping is? Try get into a serious relationship with them and see.

Don't describe that as emotional strongness but inaction on your part.


Secondly, telling me to get into a relationship them and see is very funny and senseless, because you believe every man will behave thesame way you did.

VinnyBaba:
For our Nigerian Girls, It's a Rich and caring Guy.

Sth, Like a God-fearing Yahoo Boy.

or A Caring Married Man. 🤨😕

Hahahahahahahaha

LittleBigDick:
That hair style is for broke ass bitchs


My woman won't never go on that bleeped up hairstyle

Receive sense IJN


Amen 🙏

Candidlady:
They are both wrong

Meaning you believed the impotent man's story 🤣

Hate me a man that shoot blanks...

Deceitful man.. why didn't he tell his wife his condition .. pastor my fair sexy ass

Can we see the ass pls?

tonye33:
I have been married for 14 YEARS and 'we' have 3kids(all boys) but none of them belongs to me.

5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling from Lagos to Abuja and our car skidded off the road.
I was the only survivor of that accident, my friends died. I spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can't have children.

I gave my life to Jesus Christ and became a committed Christian after the incident.

In summary I became a pastor in a local church in my community 5years later and met my wife in the process.

I did not tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me.

6 years into our marriage, my wife got pregnant and had 'our' first child.

To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA and it was clear I wasn't the father. I repeated the test for all 3 children and they are all not mine.

I have been living with this situation for the past 8 years and I am beginning to get irritated by both the children and my wife.
My wife pretends to be a good wife. She goes around preaching to women in the church about the need to remain faithful to their partners but she has had 3 children by another man or men I don't know.

I want to confront her, but I am confused as to how to go about the situation.
I am just angry and irritated by everyone in my house lately. I feel like a total stranger in my own home.

What should I do!?

--Please advise him.

Confront her and show her the DNA result, or else you'll die in silence.

Candidlady:
Men at work


Not my business

Let em kill exterminating each other until they are no more


Iwant a peaceful world with less men

After exterminating themselves there'll be no available penis for you.

These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.[color=#000000][/color]/quote]


Don't think every man is like you. You're a simp, that's why you go back begging her even when she did wrong to you .


I wonder how you still describe yourself as stubborn when you can't act.

tolue42:
When I tell people that population is one of our biggest problem, people will be looking for excuses


In 1960 Nigeria population was 45million, that same year UK population was 52 million

2023 Nigeria population is above 220 million , that same UK is just above 65 million..

How are we going to live a better life when we are not even productive like the UK..

If you say population is our problem what will you say about China sir??


Let me clarify you, our problem is not population but bad leadership that fails to encourage productivity among her citizens.

Machinegun91:
Babalawo is not God


Stop giving Satan praises

It's not praise but the sad truth.



Most Women this days are ready to do anything to make money o.

babakb:
I hope you know that there are a lot of men that are losers, and losers can't lead.
This example is based on a true story, A man got married and took care of the family for 3 years then he lost his job, his wife continued taking care of the family for the next 7 years, tell me, just tell me how can a man like this lead

It depends on your own definition of the word loser.


Secondly, why would you conclude that a man is a looser just because he lost his job and couldn't cater for the family financially? You didn't even give clear reason why the man couldn't cater for his family after the job lose, if it is as a result of health issues, spiritual issue or he's still trying but no way, or he just relaxed and watched the wife do the whole thing??

Lastly, I'll never support any man that sit down and allow the wife to cater for the family, any man who does that is not been responsible to his family. And he deserves any insult that comes his way. But if is a temporal financial challenge then the wife must understand and cover him up while he try to rise again.

Thelastjoker:
Chai, man marry man
what is the difference between him and that lady

Is not everybody that is carried away by nyash and breast like you.

greatiyk4u:
First class graduate of University of Ibadan, Opuofoni Freeborn Ebimotimi has been beaten to death in Bayelsa for stealing bread.



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0JpCeHy3h9tV5e2ZxUEGYqxB7ZczNi9rrXVNRdCLpCZf1GhKKTWWw2kc8ST5GeYRvl&id=100053881129641

With this kind of news coming out, some people will now tell angry Nigerians to move on after the charade call election was conducted and manipulated for our o
Oppressors to keep oppressing us.


It's Peter obi or nothing.

TinubuShet:
The thing be say I do not want to give her the phone sef cos this girl never post me once and she Dey post other Guys and her argument be say , good boyfriend scarce make her friend no come snatch me that’s y she Dey hide me , imagine

I understand your point, but next time don't be in a rush to throw insult like that.

taylor89:
Orphans with Vagina everywhere

I wish say God created every human with Gbola and pvssy

Make everybody dey Fvck himself all these rubbish would have been avoided

The moment they know they’ve vagina under them boom you automatically owe them money

For TOTO wey even get infection

Hahahahahahahaha

Unyimekelvin:
I will free her to breath for now...later i will drag her again.🤞

Don't drag her again, just advice her but not on social media, either face to face, call, or text message.


She's way older than you, so give her that little respect. But whenever she brings up marriage issues remember to strike her with advice. Some women don't want to change but they want people around them to change.

Unyimekelvin:
I posted here somedays ago,how my aunty is searching for a husband with a good character but don't want to change her own character..

She such a harsh, aggressive being; i have ever seen on this universe 😕😡😡
She said i hurt her feelings with those posts nd she's not gonna forgive me...

she even cursed me,by saying i Will not have a peaceful home when I get married...😡😡😡😡 She has blocked my number.. She said I'm judging her nd she's not cool that!!

I need some advice please, should I apologize to her or let's it slide!!🥺🥺🥺🥺

I'm a bit nervous but I was doing the right thing now!!!🤔🤔😳


Aunty Helen, hope you are seeing this.🤞🤞🤞 ✍️✍️🤞

They say the is always bitter. You did a good thing by telling her the truth, which she's struggling with and angry about. Just leave her with her pains o, if she's sensible she'll reflect on her character and change her ways.


Some women sometimes can be very funny o, they'll be praying for God to give them a good and loving man, whereas their character is bad and demonic nature. God is not foolish to answer such prayer na. Light and darkness can not stay together.


I have a sister who's also looking for a perfect marriage but has a questionable character.

TheGiftedOne:
I keep hair and that requires regular maintenance. My barber use to collect #300 per cut (Low key salon for ordinary Nigerians). After the subsidy removal I went to shave and behold I was charged #400 while full cut was #500.

I just returned from the salon where I went with the mindset of paying #500 for a full cut. While I was still cutting, something was telling me to check the pricelist just above the mirror, because in this country nothing is stable. Boom!!! 🔥 Omo! na #700 I see. Thank God I just withdrew 4k before entering. I paid up in utter disbelief.
Now I'm wondering how much those high-class salon that use to charge #1,500 to #5,000 before will be charging now.

I'm already thinking of buying a clipper for my wife to be my exclusive barber. Before she go spoil the hair reach five times, she go don sabi. I'm ready to make the sacrifices, afterall our friends for UK dey run am due to the cost implications.

Biko how much for haircut for your side?

I pay 500 now o.

[quote author=NwekeUG post=124366643]Nigerian Lady Graduates With First Class Honors In Medicine From Russia Varsity (Photos)

A Nigerian lady, Udeh Chiamaka Victoria, has graduated with a First Class Honors in Medicine from Stavropol State Medical University in Russia, IGBERETV reports.

Stavropol State Medical University is one of the oldest universities in Russia.

She took to Twitter on Monday, July 10, 2023, to celebrate her achievement.

I graduated with a First Class Honors in Medicine. God did it
I wouldn’t have done it without the support of my family, friends and most definitely God.
It wasn’t an easy journey but here I’m.
First class honors bagged.
It’s now Dr. Udeh Chiamaka Victoria MD pic.twitter.com/bSSqFtI0yg

— Dr. Udeh Chiamaka Victoria (@__ChiAmaKa___) July 10, 2023

with brains 👍🍾



Congratulations princess 🙏

purples25:
Why is it that you guys definition of love is for the poor woman to suffer and suffer...before you know she loves you? It is odd to me. I have never thought about a person I love, and thought happily about how the person will suffer for me. Or fantasized about how the person should be happy to suffer for me. No, what I think about is how to make the person's life easier. Also, if someone I love is suffering for me and angry about it, I will feel guilty and bad. I won't label the person a gold digger, or wicked. I will try to make the persons life easier.

Why don't many men sit with so called unattractive women, and agree to endure, that they will wait until she becomes beautiful to their liking. Out of love. Because this is the equivalent of a woman looking for wealth and security with a man. Men never take below their standard, and if they do, the woman must receive I'll treatment or insult for that. So why are you guys always expecting women to look the other way?

Well, it must be because men do believe they have rights to more than women.

Why is it that you women like despising broke men, even if the man have good life vision and great potential, you still leave them for already made men??


Secondly, you talked about how you can make a person's life you love easier because you can't see him suffer, my dear just speak for yourself. How many Nigerian women can boldly do this exact thing you said for their guy, is it this empty-headed, gold-digging, dependent bitches that will do that ? And that's why majority of them are not getting married.


Nigerian men Don't just call Nigerian girls gold-diggers for nothing, they have a reason for doing that, I'll advise you go investigate proper.



Lastly you talked about men enduring until the women become beautiful enough, my dear beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

purples25:
100k cannot pay rent in two months. Won't you transport yourself, eat, bathe and wash clothes? What will happen is that such an income earner will struggle to pay rent.

You talk of sensitive women. Are men sensitive when making their choices of women? Money can even be earned, but can a woman of average looks easily make herself to be naturally beautiful and curvy? No, but that's the harsh method you guys use to pick women. At times you won't even treat average looking women like they are human beings. But it's your turn now and you want females to be sensitive about what you may lack.

Finally, even on the case of working together, it can be done. But two people earning little pay can not magically make bills easy to bear. They and their child/children may suffer for some time first. Which is where the man will start blaming the woman for his misfortunes.

First of all you talked about sensitivity,yes you need sense to make the right decision.

My simple answer to you is, nothing brings breakthrough like planning, action and grace. No family, couple or individual that comes up with such method that won't succeed, it's just a matter of time. But the problem is that you women never want to be be part of such process because you want them already made.



With that three methods up there those couples can manage and save from that 100k while they slow down on their birth process and plan for future expansion of their finance. Two head is better than one.


I still repeat that's what sensitive women do, cos I've seen it with my eyes. Learn how to solve problems not to run away from it or be waiting for already made men, if you're not there wen the man suffered and made his money, don't complain wen he marries you and treat you anyhow.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It would interest you to know that many women are the main financier of their homes. That it never gets to the ears of the public doesn't mean it doesn't happen. But then, let us pretend that men are the sole providers. 😃

That's a big lie my dear, not this lousy Nigerian women that can even put their pants on social media, talkless of saying shit about their family. Where did you get your facts from sef?


It really surprises me o, this Nigerian girls I know, majority of them are solely dependent on their husband or boyfriend for everything , they have nothing to offer to their family and society at large except vagina, that's why most Nigerian men don't value them. Only few Nigerian women with substance and fear of God, I mean very few like 5% can cover their husband's in times trouble without the public knowing.


You fail for this one aunty.

Foodqueen:
To buy credit is easy, to pay back is a big problem to so many people.

When u sell credit to people that u will normally see everyday, they will change their route, and u won't get to see them again till u go to their house or jam them on the road.

I can't give example, my eye don see shege.

Hahahahahahahaha

dealslip:
Let me advise the young men and women here.
Men: If you earn more than your woman, never fail in your duties to love and cherish her. Always display your masculine energy - treat her like a human being, don't see her as a dependant but as a companion. At least you were not the one feeding her since birth, some one was. The fact that they handed her over to you in marriage, doesn't mean she stopped having value and needed to be discarded. Respect her feelings, stop saying women only need money, the more you keep that detached mindset the higher likelihood she isn't going to be loyal. Since everything is transactional with money and no strings attached. If she earns more than you - display your masculinity, still love her but do your responsibility. Always acknowledge her efforts but never allow her to take over your responsibility. Men are usually scared to death to acknowledge their women's effort or high status. Once a woman realize you don't even ask her for help or turn down the help and let her know you have it taken care of, she will respect you the more.

Women: if you are earning more
Avoid helping men except your help is requested. they may accept your help but they will despise and resent you. Men have been conditioned to be providers and when you constantly take up that duty, they begin to see you as a rival and will not even appreciate the help. Even if it becomes critical - pretend to loan them. Ego is a man's biggest problem.

If you are not earning more and you hear stuffs like women only like money, my dear run for your life because you will be verbally and emotionally abused. Make sure you create strong boundaries as well.
Finally for both men and women - please marry a person that shares your exact value and the values you admire e get why.

See how bias your statement is. Just imagine the long epistle you wrote for men and you called it advice, and the short note for women.

Since you said men are conditioned to be providers which is true, you also need to know that men are also designed by God to lead in the family, which many women that earns more than their husbands wont allow, resulting to power struggle between them . All because the wife and the husband want to lead, and we all know that's a man's position.


It takes a God fearing woman that earns more than her husband to still be under the leadership of her husband that's also doing his part. All this thing you wrote up there wont still change anything for a woman that earns more than his husband.

Zigzagman:
Mazi Dimaya, you're just a broke dude

That's just the sad truth, whether you like it or not.
Most men don't have issues with their wives succeeding, but the problem is that they allow that money get into their heads, b4 you know they'll turn their husband's to slave and start talking to them anyhow. No single respect for their husband anymore, all because she earns more than him.

UyaiIncomparabl:
OP, 5 years and you're running out of patience.

Women should learn to be ruthless and selfish when it comes to taking several decisions like this one. Many men in this dispensation wouldn't take half of what you accept from them. If this man was the problem, the woman would have hung in there, stayed patient, prayed, and done whatever society expects of a good wife. Should we turn this table and demand the same measure from men, they will leave you in a heartbeat unapologetically.

Lest I digress, there are several invasive and alternative methods your wife's predicament can be treated which can make her tubes open. Leave IVF. Consider alternative and herbal methods as well.

As a couple who wants children, I would always advise not to leave caution to the wind after a year of trying for a baby. Problems are better solved from the infantile stage.

If you are reading this thread yourself and the thread originally belongs to you and not some ploy to garner comments from Rubyjade and friends, I'll implore you to follow @fertilitywarrior_withadesewa on Instagram. Send her a message and perhaps, if you like, you can book a session with her. I can assure you with my full chest that you'll carry your baby in your arms soon.

With the advent of natural herbs, alternative medicines and roots, and technology, infertility is a past worry. Don't despair. You'll have your child soon. My thoughts are with your wife. I can't imagine the pressure and worries she must be passing through.

Cheers.

As you're encouraging your fellow women to be ruthless in treating their husband's in situations like this, you should also encourage them to ruthlessly hustle and add value to their lives too. Just to balance up.



My opinion though.

OkwuMajesty:
There are two reasons why they don’t tell their salaries:

In general case, if you tell your salary to your co-workers or friends, they can develop two kinds of feelings:

Feeling of Jealousy, or

Feeling of Competition.

Either of which can turn bad against you. You may notice change in their behaviour. In many cases, your co-worker having more experienced than you (getting less salary) can start judging your skills w.r.t. themselves.

In worst cases, they can start questioning your credibility for the position you work or even start tarnishing your image.

Some people feel bad about themselves after knowing your salary and in many cases they try to find ways to increase their salaries too, either by switching or using your salary reference to get hike.

Managers often get to hear these during hikes, “If he (teammate) gets that much, why I cant get more having more experience”. Teammates can develop a feeling that you should be doing more work as you are paid more.

People start judging your lifestyle based on your salary. They never care about your liabilities.

You can become a bank for some of your friends. You may have to lend money every month. The moment you stop lending money, your friends will start calculating your monthly expenditure and begin assuming that you might be having money but you don't want to lend. This will develop negativity.

What do you think?

You're 100% correct on this one 👍


It happens alot.

Englishisamust:
. Where unaa dey see work??

You're 100% correct on this one 👍


It happens alot.