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fruitysmoothie:
Good evening house, pls I need a teaching job in warri. My specializations are English language, Home economics or social studies. I will be grateful if anyone can connect me to a good school within Warri. I can be reached on 09026902067.

GreatResearcher1:
What do you mean? That boys are part of that thread being deleted? I don't think so. Though people who commented on the thread before it was deleted were much of boys. And they didn't say anything bad. They saw the wedding invitation card and they wished us success.

GreatResearcher1:
It was on this platform that I came in search for a wife and people here wished me well in the search. won't it be somehow that I found a wife here and refused to invite people here?

She only told me not to post her username.
Honestly am tired.

seniorgozman:
Lol, until you visit our prison, then you will know the importance of being very careful. Something like this put my friend in prison up till now

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

SSAwhistleblowe:
It won’t work I know those types of men you will just be giving them more power to behave that way... such men thrive on malice it’s food to their soul... make up your mind that he won’t make you sad... then since you have that kind of partner and if you want your marriage to work o (which is a choice cos you don’t have to stay in an emotionally abusive marriage) you have to refrain from keeping malice cos if you go his way the marriage will scatter... such ppl are covert narcissists but the level varies.... ( a typical narcissist will not even give you money for home upkeep but rather milk you dry financially so the fact that he even gives you money shows he is not a totally bad man)

find out which strategy best works to penetrate his malicious brick wall..

Number one ignore him too like I said earlier you sef don’t talk to him , don’t cook, and when he cooks dish your own and eat too behave as if you are not hurt by his action..you can even jokingly ask him what he is cooking or buying for you to eat and laugh even if he ignores you...when he buys the food and brings it to the house you sef carry spoon and eat from the food telling him this food is sweet o where did you buy it don’t even do as if it’s paining you..laugh and smile around the house as if nothing is happening... make calls and laugh loudly with friends and family while on the calls... watch movies , play music and dance ... do these things with him in the house o.. you sef go out to have fun and don’t tell him where you are going .. try this for some days and see how he reacts... if the guy weak know say all he is doing na wash and try to hold a conversation with him.


Then if he becomes aggressive or withdraws even more and his attitude worsens just know that this one na devil o and never really loved you in the first place cos no man can avoid talking to a woman he really loves for days under the same roof... we can now think of other strategies including prayer to turn his stony heart to a fleshy one biko.

goodgirl2409:
My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.



He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

UPDATE.
I want to add that it is not sexual incompatibility.
When he is in his happy mood, I would even be tired of his endless gist. S-x will be very great. He is kind and caring. Such a wonderful man. In fact an angel. He would even wash my underwear’s and clothes.

But when his mood start which is his mood most of the time, he won’t talk to you, he won’t eat. I will finish cooking, he will go outside and buy another food and come and cook. He won’t come back on time. I will ask him what is it, he would not respond. He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose. I am a peace loving person. Everyone around that knows the story
always say that he has a problem.

Appelmoik:
Eagles height international school is in dire need of a music teacher and a fine art teacher, the person must have studied the aforementioned subjects in a tertiary institution.
That's all I know pertaining to Warri for now.

kelish:
kaduna

kelish:
i have taught on different occasions, the pay isnt enough to sustain yourself not to take of saving. plus family contributions.

kelish:
i wish you can understand

kelvinboj:
Good evening NairaLanders....
I need y'all opinion on the best thing I can do.
So there's this girl am looking at tying the knot with very soon.
I met her around November last year through a friend and we started dating days after and prior to that she suffered heartbreak with a dude and it was a little bit complex cos she attempted to take her life when it happened and that resulted into her being hospitalized for days.
Considering the fact that I knew how nice she was to the ex boyfriend and how badly the dude treated her, I felt like showing her loads of love and care will result into me being pampered with so much care by her.
So here's the issue,
All her friends are the bitchy type, like girls who kinda depend on guys for everything and live above their means tho I feel like I can transform her as she once told me she can cut off every sort of ties with them if I want but I shrugged that off.
Am super nice to her but she gets to take advantage of that and take me for granted.
She lies so much like she once told me she's coming out from a mall whereas she was leaving a guy's house and when she later confessed she said she escorted a female friend there..
I don't see her to be someone who is trustworthy and I don't even trust her one bit
Her birthday was March and I got her gifts worth a lot of money but even with all that she still told me a guy who once asked her out months ago wanted to take her out for her birthday and she wanna request for permission tho I declined and she apologized for not even refusing the guy's offer.
And she once texted her ex without my knowledge and the dude said he can't wait for them to have romantic moment together and she smiled via an emoji, and even collected money from the dude secretly but she later blocked him off when I requested her to.
Quite a lot of bad things about her but I've never for once commit a crime or did something bad so far so good.
Am always the one telling her this is bad and stuffs like that and no one tells me to do the right thing before I do.
Worse of it all was her ex is the kinda guy that treats lady anyhow and to the best of my knowledge she can't dare to try this with him...
I don't know why me who is the nice and caring guy is going through all this.
And what's bothering me is I'll soon be going to Germany for my masters and I don't even trust her one bit cos she's done a lotta bad stuffs when we're still kinda in the same vicinity.
She's a finalist in a school in Ogun but based in Lagos and I stay in Lagos as well so it's some sort of long distance relationship.
Please NairaLanders just help me out in anyway you can on what to do cos I've not been myself lately and am so bothered about this issue.
Please kindly ignore the punctuation errors and grammars just typing with my phone

mrgoodd:
The love started rough at first because she didn't want too give in at first, But with patiency and transparency she fell, Not that I am not rich but I know I don't have what she has and that's not my problem at all and that don't even bother me at all, Now the question is this , How can I control someone wealthy than I am without me getting her mad or making her feel I am doing too know,, You know the way a lady with money think is different from the way an average girl think.
Please Keep your comment if you have not experienced this type of relationship before, I need matured and experienced men here pls.

Emeraldgist1:
Forgive any grammatical error please. My relationships don't last and am yet to pinpoint the problem out..

I grew up among boys as the only girl child, I tried to study out what every guy wants from my brothers and cousin brothers too.
Since I think I understood guys better, I have ventured into 2 different relationships that never worked out.
Am not the demanding girlfriend, I can so strongly say it anywhere that I have never demanded anything from d guys in my previous relationships.
Am so heartbroken right now that I don't even want to have any emotional attachment with any guy.....

N.B- mumu comments are allowed�

ahahnow:
I have been Instagram stalking a guy and I want to get him to talk to me but how? I made some comment in regards to the news about the earthquake to strike a conversation but he didn't respond. Should I just leave him alone?

Zabiboy:
good day nairalanders...
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i wont say much here tho...if u r interested, jzt frop ur email...then i'll send you d link and if u have aby problem jzt let me know...
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drop ur mail if interested