₦airaland Forum

kings09:
This woman shld take it easy na. N10? Haba. Unless d man thinks 1dollar is now equal to 1naira.

True. But most of these factors come at a premium if included. Not many can afford.

Sometimes in real estate, you may have to let development come and meet you in the hood than seek an already developed hood. Unless you have lots of money.

Acepen:
Thats wat am talking about...now this guy don get new package...no 2nd hand.

While it great, there are a few things:

(1) None of us can scrutinise or verify it.
(2) No guarantee of successful marriage. Financial & economic pressures and the grind of daily life take a toll on marriages.
(3) Occurrences of sexual incompatibility are now quite common-from man not lasting in bed, woman has no desire for sex, etc. Leading to break-up.
(4) It should be between two people whether they are virgin or have a high mileage already.

In all, HML to them.

Cool. At least.

Anonylander:
Free cat suya for you Mr. Katsuya. Take as u want dear takasu lol

Drchristian:
well said.
but you do agree to d fact dat my write ups are totally true? cuz I cannot lie against my people.

Yoruba doesn't have to feed me with lies to knw.I've done my own research. Some bini people sud stop constructing lies too.

"Uselu" was where prince Oranmiyan founded d first palace. he later ruled as a king for sometime bf he left his Son "Owomika"(Eweka) on his throne.

Do u knw dat Uselu is used in several towns in yorubalands closed to oba's palace.? Uselu is a yoruba word that means "Making of a town" or "d rulling of a town" it simply signifies a Yoruba man has ruled d Benin Palace in d past.

Oba's use is another yoruba word in Benin while "Ogiso" is d translation in benin.

Do u knw Oba Akenzua ii was born and raised in yoruba land.....he speaks only Yoruba language and he was d first Oba to banned Yoruba as d official language in bini's palace in 1934.

DrChristian,

Very good that you have brought your ignorance of Benin history to this public forum. This is the problem of raising kids away from home. The history they know is tainted by their environment. I have had similar experiences with French Caribbean, Dutch Caribbean, British Caribbean descent people in Europe regarding history of slavery. They end up admitting that they have NEVER read a book written by an African on slavery. Only those written by descendants of the same slavemasters. Hence their biased approach of blaming only Africans for it. While this your claim would make you popular & be more accepted by your Yoruba hosts, it is a fallacy & capitulation. I have no doubt that you probably have a Yoruba boyfriend or husband by now. Women do all things for love.

First of all, Oranmiyan's abode was not at Uselu. It was in Egor/Useh axis. A couple of kilometres away from Uselu. Egor & Useh are two ancient villages that have practically grown together to meet Uselu and now all part of Benin metropolis. Reasons are simple. (1) Oranmiyan married daughter of the Enogie (Duke) of Egor called Ogiegor. An ancient duke of Ogodomigodo (as Benin was called then). (2) The Evian/Ogiamien family had emerged the most powerful ruler in Benin in the absence of an Oba-Godo (synonymous with Oba of Igodomigodo). This was before 1169 AD.

Evian/Ogiamien family ruled Benin City proper, supported by other chiefs who had all grown to enjoy the power they arrogated to themselves during the interregnum. That is, between the demise of last Ogiso to going to try bring back Ekaladerhan (by now Ododuwa: coined from Izoduwa & Ima d'odowa) from Ife. Evian/Ogiamien had grown so powerful he vowed to prevent anybody coming back to Benin to reclaim Oba-godo crown. The last thing a new king from afar needed was a war. Chief Oliha & other chiefs like Ero, Edohen, Eholor Nire etc who persevered also knew how powerful & resourceful Ogiamien was. For the time being, Egor, the domain of Oranmiyan's respected father-in-law was a safer/better place to be.

Uselu was a decent sized village/town and only three palaces are known there. (1) Iken Palace. Iken, a local chieftain & warrior died fighting imperial war against Owo. Oba promised to get the crown prince to hold forte for Iken, who had no male heir pending his return from war. Iken never returned. In Iken's memory, the Oba made all crown princes upon coming of age to leave Oba's palace & reside permanently Iken's palace. Around 500 years on, the tradition remains as Edayi n'Iken/Edaiken's (One holding forte for Iken's) palace for the crown prince. The other Uselu palace is the Queen Mother's palace. Started by Emperor/Oba Esigie of Benin for his mum, Queen Idia. A Queen mother if alive still lives there till today.

You narrated words that seem to have come from Yoruba language into Benin. Very interesting. But you clearly lack knowledge an area of humanities called Philology: study of origin of words. If you knew, you'd be aware that both Yoruba & Benin languages belong to the West-Benue-Congo/East Kwa branch of Niger-Congo language family. This East Kwa also includes Igbo, Idoma, Fon, Ewe (Ghana/Togo), Ebira/Igala (Yoruboid), etc.

The closer geographically & culturally two or more languages are, the more the words retained together or even cross-assimilated.
Note also that Benin Empire had swathes of provinces (something Yorubas like to deny today) in Eastern Yorubaland. In Ondo/Ekiti. The boundary between Oyo Empire & Benin Empire was agreed as Otun, today in Northern Ekiti. I'm a direct product of this imperial period in Eastern Yorubaland and known relatives are still all over the place. From Emure-Ekiti to Owo. With so many Yoruba subjects, many moving to Benin, the imperial capital, to show off their skills & talent for patronage, won't they come with their language?

In Edo state today, precisely Ovia, many people from Yorubaland populate dozens of villages & hamlets. A dialect similar to Owo Yoruba are still spoken alongside Benin. I mean just 45 minutes to 1 hour drive from Benin City. Including my village. You clearly fail to see the effect of that imperial period migration on Benin language because Yoruba people claim it never happened. But there are living evidence like me and thousands more.

As for Yoruba language spoken in Benin palace as proof, it also shows your shallow knowledge of royalty historically worldwide. That a different language is used among the inner circle of the palace is not new.

French was the court/palace language across Europe for centuries. King Louis XIV of France (lived 1638-1715) made France, in his long reign of 72 years, even more of an epitome of high culture & style. More than ever. It also became the language of international diplomacy, basically until 1945 as America gained more influence post WW2.

Most British monarchs including Henry VIII that founded Anglican Church, and his courtiers were fluent in French, a century earlier. When Europeans were scrambling for Africa in Berlin in 1884-85 conference, talks were conducted in French. In fact, to be a courtier in King of England's palace, you had to try hard to use connections to do some training in the palace of the French King (very hard to get) or in the palaces of one of the dukes of France back then.

Queen Elizabeth II & Prince Charles speak very good French till today. QEII is of German origin. It does not make them all come from France.

In royalty, tradition and custom are retained for centuries, albeit minor changes over time. Coming from Ife, Oranyan, a Yoruba speaker, came with his courtiers too. Many of whom stayed behind in Benin after Oranmiyan left.

The Yoruba courtiers certainly would have spoken Yoruba within the royal court and may have helped to create a certain linguistic culture there. One of those who came with Oranmiyan is Oloton, and his descendant, Chief Oloton remains keeper of the royal ancestral shrine till today.

You also made a false claim. Oba Akenzua was not born in Yorubaland. He attended King's College Lagos. Not unusual to spend many years as a teenager in Lagos and learn the language.

TO BE CONTINUED..........

You also quickly mentioned "Owomika" as evidence of Yoruba ruling Benin. Again here at best, you did a very superficial research. Nobody has said Oranmiyan did not come from Ife.

Like I made clear above, Owomika was possibly surrounded by many Yoruba speaking courtiers. And kids understand languages spoken around them daily.
But as a child he had speech disorder. If you're a medic, as your moniker implies, you should remember from your Pediatrics & Child Health rotation what these disorders are. "Owomika!" was his exclamation upon winning a game of seed. Seed games are common all over Southern Nigeria. Owomika/Eweka became his regnal name. Akhue seed & Ogirise are still played till today in Edo.

You need to remember that by around 1169 AD, Yorubaland was not this relatively homogeneous tribe you have now. The term Yoruba did not even exist. You were Ife, Oyo, Owo, Ekiti, Ijebu, Awori, Egba, Ibadan, etc. Until Ajayi Crowther standardised Yoruba language in writing, people spoke very different dialects all over Yorubaland.
Similar standardisations occured in Germany by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, In England by Shakespeare, earlier in Greco-Roman antiquity by Strabo, Pliny, Plutarch and others through writing.

You cannot take a "local champion" view to history, culture, philology & anthropology. You consider them in a universal context, noting the local peculiarity in a comparative manner.

I'm writing all this to jolt diaspora raised people with very tenuous links of blood to Benin (without the culture) but still want to masquerade as an authority in Benin history. Under the guise of "I'm a Benin person". You have a lot more to learn about Benin.

bennyrazz:
@uniqueB so you met your husband on facebook and you dated for 3yrs without seeing each other (how do people get to do that long distance relationship stuff) and after 2yrs of seeing each other you got married. Very interesting episodes.

The bottom line is the way he got and bed you via social media is also the same way he gets other women. Now for starters, he is bed-wetting because he has been afflicted by one of the women he sleeps around with. It is like a curse and I don't think he can stop cheating with just your pleading and understanding. How does he get money to give this women in the first place if he has no money? What is the background of his family? is your husband's father polygamous? I'm sorry to say this but nothing good comes the way of a man who causes his wife pains. Even if you don't curse him, your pains will. And that is one of the reasons why marriages suffer fimancial poverty.

Please this is very superstitious & unscientific.

In fact around 1 in 100 people can be bedwetting well into adulthood. It is condition called sleep enuresis.

Causes are many & varied.

Has he sought medical help? Many do not because of shame & hide it.

I will comment later.

What he did is bad BUT not illegal.

But the girls did something illegal.

One should be careful to separate something morally wrong from legally wrong.

If a girl was caught dating two brothers would publicly "nakeding" her be justified?

Beremx:
So he can't drill a borehole in this twenty first century for the old woman?

O ga o!

Saraki sef!

My friend, please continue where Saraki stopped.

If others had done what Saraki has done now, maybe SP would have done borehole as starting point.

Many ordinary humble folks like us ensured mum had borehole 20 years back, when it was still mostly manually done. Not because we had money, but because one thought it useful. Many at that age still ask parents for transport money. But God has been faithful. It is often not how much you have, but what you think is useful/important to do with it.

Perhaps Rasheed had too many folks to care for in his heyday, but that should have been done many years back.

Failing that, Kwara sate has a govt. Heck, 9ja has a Federal Govt. It would have been a chance to redeem Nations Cup '94 promise of a house to Yekini & others.

herbie27:
So what if he's 40?, the most important thing is that they found love.

He nor sabi anything. Some never even get 55 years old dude to marry sef, he's talking of 40. These days preachers are saying babes should shun jobless people and work shy loafers, why should she follow one small boy?

This dude probably has a nice house, a car and good job or business. Just what MoGs recommended.

martineinstein:
future leaders,indeed....just look at d kind of youth nigeria is breeding....smh

is/are there any difference(s) btw these people andd boko haram/avengers?

A wicked system can only produce angry and disillusioned youth. Our human resource is our biggest asset. But if that asset is poorly prepared for the much more globally competitive future ahead, we are in deep trouble.

The few exceptions won't suffice. For example Dangote being Africa's richest man has not made the generality if Nigerians rich. It has to be sustained growth & progress across the board.

Proffdada:
to enlighten your myopia, he actually helped a lot of fledgling comedians in yoruba and nollywood. Don't get use to that phrase, it makes you look stupid

You know people just talk anyhow.

Aluwe has been entertaining with his comedy, for the love of it. When parents were advising their kids against acting. People like him, Late Herbert Ogunde (in a class of his own), Olu Jacobs, Jide Kosoko, Pete Edochie, late Sam Loco, Late Justus Esiri, late Giringori (using 200 Naira only to run each episode of New Masquerade), Clarus, Ovularia, Zebrudaya and others persevered.

Their perseverance encouraged those who started Nollywood proper.

Keneking:
Ok, at least Arla is signing something, unlike their compatriot Fresiland that visited recently with a Fulani herdsman to take pictures with Buhari.

Useless investors and their drive for cheap gains.

Investors always want profit. Huge profits. Any sane investor from abroad coming to invest in a place with unstable economic policies, no light & poor judiciary must be tempted by massive gains.

If not, it will all end with MoU. MoUs are 100 for 1 Naira. Aside the photo opportunity, very hard to see results.
Ogbe probably means well but circumstances could thwart his efforts.

Why has Dangote not branched into it till now? Question.

piagetskinner:
who's rukky Sandal's?

A lady that Rukewve (Oghenerukwve) designed her sandals.

Good. At least she has her own furnished house/flat.

Whether own property or rented nor matter for now.

But....it looks cluttered to me still. No space. I love minimal furnishing BUT plenty of space. You can make a small parlour look big by drastically reducing furniture.

It's her taste, so cool.

ijustdey:
this is where the woman must have known that the marriage is dead in arrival if a man could stop making love to you just after three months of wedding....
the handwriting was on the wall but she refused to see it until he brought a girl not unknown to her and called her is "sister"..

I guess the platinum digger was the first guy to accept a no sex relationship.

Our people say "person wey use goat set trap dey expect to catch a big cat/predator".

I'm sure while they were doing no sex "ish", he was digging this his "sister" with reckless abandon outside.
In real life now, I have seen a worrisome trend of no-sex courtships crashing with a a year to 2 years into marriage. Either following childless ness or story of uninspiring sex life.

We hypocritically downplay the importance of sexual compatibility. Anyone who mentions it easily becomes seen as playboy or a slut.

At a time majority of people engage in recreational sex before the age of 21, no sex relationship, though commendable, it's often just a game. A Woman banging for good 15 years suddenly start forming chaste, to impress a guy. It hardly works.

As this story has shown, not every guy values or even wants virginity.

Her poor experience in dating made her very naive. A sexy grown ass lady was brought into your matrimonial home as his sister. Haba!
By a pauper for that matter. Chai!

@OP,

My dear, as it stands, nothing you can do. Kukuma just count your loss & move on. He has chosen another over you. Apparently with his family's awareness or even blessing sef. Though he probably deceived them with stories of childbearing issues on your part.

The other lady might be pregnant, but who's to say that preggy does not belong to another man outside? A lady who "get such mind" to invade a matrimonial home can equally bang another man aside your hubby.

edlion57:
Y is it that every thing that gives me joy is bad
Sex is bad
Alcohol is bad
Etc

Soon SE or Dream team winning a game will join the "baddie list".

Very funny to site Shoprite in Onitsha.

It is a business town that offers everything fairly cheap.
It is also not like Owerri or Enugu with many schools that has thousands of Ajebutter students.

So who will buy at those outrageous prices?

Doug07034780891:
Bubu is on retirement so he does not bother about the economic future of Nigeria. We should endeavor to elect young educated vibrant people who still have their future to face than someone on retirement who doesn't care anymore than doing whatever comes to his mind.

Hahahaha!

Imagine using time for slippers, reclining chair and smoking pipe to run a country as difficult and challenging like Nigeria. And we expect rapid growth and development?

My impression is that considering the things we do in this country, we have all virtually subconsciously given up on 9ja. Never mind all the Up 9ja! Up 9ja! Shouts when we win a football game. If not we the masses would make different choices and force the elite to sit up.

wellmax:
Cristiano Ronaldo Driving His £1.7m Bugatti Veyron Into His Mansion (Pics, Video)

[size=18pt]Where else do you want him to drive it to [/size]

Into Papa Obruche and Rukewve raffia palm hut in Enerhen, near Warri.

henrydadon:
western culture finally taking over our women that they seem to be forgetting they are African women whose body should be seen only by their husband..we just keep on loosing our self to this modern day shiit..if my wife do this kind of thing am sending her packing..i no pay bride price for noting

To them everything Western is cool, African is primitive.

Give it some years, African women will be walking around n.aked with just a patch over pvssy & nipples.

emeijeh:
Hahahahahahahha
He don go forge am come...... Like duplicated key.

You gonna loose man.
Read my lips

The bros just recently learnt about Oluwole.

I guess some APC goons told him "bros, nor fall person hand na. Ordinary 9ja certificates you cannot arrange? Not even Toronto or Chicago own sef. Haba!".

paschal47:
see the girl's head, so long.

And long throat abi na long lips to match.

9jacrip:
One person once alleged APC did not have a plan as to how to achieve the items in the manifesto until after they have been declared winner. Prior to the declaration, they were rather prepping for a violent conflict amd setting up a parallel government. Their own victory & GEJ's concession came unexpectedly for APC.

Thus far, the allegation appears to be true.

Yours truly certainly said so back in May 2015. Many others did too. It sounded outrageous then. But towards year end without ministers and no plan, it made more sense.

Rest assured that if GEJ had refused to concede and held on to power, by middle of June, APC would have had a parallel govt. Possibly with Tinubu as foreign minister. To use "Chicago" learned tricks to incite the Americans against GEJ.

See how Tinubu smartly shied away from cabinet position. He realised soon enough after APC won that Buhari's govt is headed for failure.
Tinubu can later say "well, I was not in govt", I was just a party leader".

halfricanadian:
for real no reasonable woman will leave d arms of a man that truly shows her love

nd for my type dat stays during thick nd thin if i shd leave a guy it means volumious pains is wat i feel i wish any one Good luck

#smiles i cant force any one to love me

i hold onto God

a man marries nd treats very very well d woman he truly loves

if u are being maltreated nd treated like trash he doesnt love u

u are an option he needs till he finds d woman he wud giv d white wedding gown to
#no hard feelings

Not entirely so.

I know some ladies at the moment who want only wealthy guys. Not just comfortable guys.

They argue that the poverty they had seen around them has made them allergic to just comfortable or ok guys. They say they will cope with all other possible disadvantages as long as wealth is there.

Now, will those girls care about an average guy who truly loves them? I doubt. Not all girls are like that but I suppose there are some more out there.
Some women just cannot be pleased. The more affectionate & caring you are, the nastier they get. They think you're weak. They rather want to be dominated & controlled. I have seen some who said if not beaten, they lose control. Some are clearly not normal. So it is not same for every woman.

Some women also tend to believe liars and disbelieve honest ones. I still cannot figure out why. Maybe truth is too simple & lies can be quite elaborate. I have even warned some babes to be careful. They dismissed it saying you are jealous, mind your business or simply began avoiding you.

When the warning comes true, they come back to become friendly. By which time one just look at them, smiles or even has no time for their friendship anymore.

san316:
that is what I suspect. After giving it to other guys or while giving it to them, she was either claiming virgin or no sex before marriage for thepoor husband. She come let the man jerk off soteeey hin tin slack.

La WA ooh.

I was going to ask seriously: was it a case of no sex before marriage?

If so manage it like that biko.

If you buy a bale of clothes at Takpa Market in Cotonou, you can get anything. So manage it ma.

aenero:
If that story is true,that's no wife but a LovePeddler... And besides that's an insult to the word 'wife' if such a woman is named wife too... She's a whoooore

I cannot be sure about love-peddling but that kind of secrecy regarding previous kids is common. Most common in 9ja cultures that frown seriously on pre-marital motherhood.

So women do everything to present themselves as chaste or decent.

The one I know hid three kids she had from two or three men previously. When she finally married, the children visited regularly but hey were presented as nephews!

This woman also did something else that showed her secretive nature and led to the loss/death of a child. I cannot elaborate on it. Only when she died did the earlier kids come forward as her biological children. Everybody was stunned.

Then all fell into place. Her previous act of disastrous secrecy now made more sense.

The woman one had known for about 30 years plus of coming into the marriage had deceived everyone. Who knows what other secrets she went to her grave with.

otukpo:
The situation of Nigeria now is beyond fracture.

Nigeria is in shreds at this moment and i wonder if we can ever get it well again.

You mean it is now a case of amputation, with the limb just hanging on with tiny peace of skin?

Fact is Nigeria never was one. The euphoria of independence in 1960 faded very quickly.

Soon it was state of emergency in the West, Igbo killing in the North, 1966 coups, civil war & more coups and downward spiral ever since.

adoniza:
Confirmed, we're now officially in another dictatorship.

Quite Sad

You know Nigerians have not really known proper democracy aside 1960-1966, 1979-1983, then 2007-2015.

1999-2007 was a quasi military regime of OBJ.

Most Nigerians under 35 have not really lived under proper democracy as teenagers or adults. Unless they have lived abroad in a democratic setting.

Therefore, the brutality the elite unleash on them always has enough people in support. Either on emotional, religious or political grounds.

Which part of Nigerian penal code forbids naming your dog whatever you like? Is the name Buhari patented by the president?

Anyhow, the dictatorship some Nigerians love so much is here. Because Shagari, Yar'Adua & GEJ that chose to entrench democratic ethos were labelled weak or clueless.

ManMountain:
I agreed with you completely, but to me, it was sill the best decision at that time, when you know where Nigeria was coming from few years earlier to that time.
The alternative was to continue the cycle of annual bloodletting in the name of coup.

Your assertion makes sense. But every big political decision made for immediate expediency has VERY heavy long term cost & consequences.

Suddenly meritocracy & seniority became expendable. While coup bloodletting cycle did not continue, a pattern soon spilt over from the military into the civilian system, camouflaged as national character, that has entrenched mediocrity.

Remember that Nigeria has not had a constitution written by civilians since 1966. The number of deaths from failure of state occasioned by mediocrity far outweighs any bloodletting that could have resulted from coups. Except you mean that the life of one top military officer or an elite civilian is equal to 100, 000 lives of ordinary masses that have died from poor roads, hunger, poverty, poor medical care, unpaid pensions, police brutality, etc.