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I just hope that guy is sincere with this his business proposal. You need to be vigilant as well such friends are never sincere and are only after their own interest, if he will only call when he needs you guys' favour and now this sound fishy to me. In as much as you guys have talked it over i hope you know exactly what to do now and how to do it. Its good this is a faceless site otherwise i dont ever interfare in oro oko and iyawo. The guy might just still want to continue his using your husband, imagine 'i will send one car at at time and you must tell me how much exactly you see them' business partners indeed. i do like business with my friend and i know how we do transact the business. Just so he doesn't hurt you the more talk more with your husband let him try it out once or twice and see if he is actually sincere if not let him sell his cars himself and let your mas stick to his business abeg.

and this may interest d poster

Doctors abandon hospitals, take up jobs in telecoms, banks
Muda Oyeniran, Lagos - 14.07.2008

THE brain drain currently plaguing the nation’s health sector may soon worsen as doctors now prefer to take up juicy appointments in the telecommunications and banking sectors of the economy.


Investigation conducted by the Nigerian Tribune has revealed that at least three out of every five graduates of Medicine and Surgery now eye jobs in telecoms companies and banks.


Further investigation showed that those who do not go for jobs in telecoms companies and banks now prefer to set up health-related non-governmental Organisations through which they could earn hard currencies from foreign bodies.


According to Dr Kunle Obagaye, a Senior Registrar and immediate past President, Association of Resident Doctors (ARD), Psychiatric Hospital, Yaba, Lagos, the action of the doctors was not unconnected with the poor pay package and condition of service of doctors in the country.


“Some of them have seen many senior doctors and consultants wallowing in poverty and they are just being proactive by going for a less stressful but more financially rewarding career,” he added.


When asked to comment on the issue, the Provost, College of Medicine, Lagos State University, Professor Oladapo Obafunwa, said he was not interested in commenting on it.


“I am not inclined to comment on the issue. Thank you,” he told the Nigerian Tribune.


However, a top official of a new generation bank confirmed to the Nigerian Tribune that the company had many doctors and pharmacists-turned bankers on their payroll, adding that they were doing well on the job

Its suprising that up till now people still dont understand this 'living abroad' thing. The last time i was at home, i lost my luggage and had to go back to check at Airfrance office, there was this gentle guy who was sitting majestically on his table with computer and phone in front of him and was talking to someone on the phone to help him tell someone to get him a drink. This guy said to me 'aunty they said that Dublin is the in thing now' and that he wants to just go and leave there at all cost, i look at him and took my time to explain to him how it works, at the end of my sermon i realised i only wasted my time as this guy told me he doesnt mind whatever the situation will be.

Those at home simply dont want to hear this, they'll tell you if you are there and surviving they will also survive. They are ready to travel to the west even without visa, they just want to get in. I hope people will begin to see how important it is to be legal here and that its not just that easy. I met a guy recently who was lamenting and regretting disposing off his properties and resigning from his job just to get here and just while we were talking about it his friend called and said at all cost he should just assist him to get in, this is somebody who is still regretting his action and they will not believe him.

God have mercy! Only God knows what will become of Nigeria if all our 'brains' stay put abroad due to lack of wha'ever

I was well prepared for all these bashings and i wont bother myself responding to abusive responses. Yeah i know she is not bound by marriage but this is not someone who just came from somewhere and just impregnated her and ran away. He was a kind of brother in-law anyone would wish for then, they were together for quite a good time because even the issue of travelling came in and hell NO she did not try to tie him down with pregnancy, the pregnancy came and she nearly died from the shame because it was against our upbringing, she almost aborted it but the guy will not allow it, she was also too afraid to do that and coupled with the guy's insistence that she keeps the baby she left it.
Its good to move on with life and so easy to say but she is still not able to come to term with the fact that the guy is gone, today she will say 'me i will just 4get him and marry' the next minute she will say 'but she 'Dapo' (not real name) can do this to me sha? and she will answer herself NO!

Sure i wont even wait for a year if my husband should say that to me but we are all not equal, she was a complete gentle girl to the core and never messed herself up. I am just thinking of a way to make her see reasons to move on but i doubt if moving on to her can ever mean having another relationship. Everyone in the family has tried to talk to her but to no avail. No one will tie her on the bed for another man, abi.

davidylan:
When is this movie hitting the shelves?

I'm awaiting it too lol

I waited 3 years to take care of my first baby husband

Washing clothes, laying bed but not lying on the bed

I have two boys now expecting hoping to have a set of triplet, all girls

Nothing like pregnant man she is a woman God work can not be changed hence her ability to get pregnant after the silly change over. God is not man o otherwise me i will never give him pregnance since he choose to change my original plan.

choicehome:
Should Husbands be allowed into the Labour Room [center][/center]

Yes

choicehome:
A woman once said at a salon i went to do my hair that she prefers her husband to be by her bed side during delivery beacuse seeing him, will give her the courage and strength needed at that moment.[/color][color=Black]

No it wont give her the courage but make her want to pretentiously add to the pain so that he feels 'yeepa this thing is not easy o'

How many kids?

A many as as one can afford to take care of. I'll love to have about 2 dozens

My husband

I really love to but have not discussed it with my husby hope he feels same way too sha

Nothing as long as you are ready to be the 'wife'

lucabrasi:
i think you should quit giving yourself a high blood pressure over it,once you have made your stance known to your husband then just forget about it and quit bugginh him about it,remember people telling you to confront him on here will not find another husband for you if the shit hits the fan and each time you have a row with him is putting more strain on your marriage,the yankee guy is enjoying his life and family and you are having a world war with your husband,you should be thankful its not a lady because what would you have done then?or if he s doing all this for a lady that they were ex in school, don't bother yourself and when he finally comes to realise it,you ll be the first person he ll report to about how ungrateful his friend has been,and then u can reply that nooo,i think you should help him more after all he s your friend

There was nothing in my post that suggest this lady should fight her husband and i think its only he that wears the shoe that know where it hurts. Marriage is not something to be endured but enjoyed because it a lifetime commitment. Its simply not helpful to the marriage for one to seal issues bothering him/her in because it will definitely affect the relationship.

Imagine the husband not willing to pick his WIFE'S PARENT up at airport but could take his friend's wife, mother to and fro places to get visa. That is unreasonable to me, she needs to talk to him and get things straight instead of living in deep hatred which is unhealthy for a successful marriage.

Afribiz:
@ Ayo, I know i really need to talk seriously to him, But please, what words should i use this time around, because I've been cautioning him over this, but he always feel adamant. What actions should I take?

Honestly, i don't know what exact word you should use. He is your husband and you sure know him more that me, there must be a way you talk to him about other issues. Dont shout at him don't fight him bear your mind and let him know you are not happy with his action in this regard. Look for a good time to talk to him and ask him questions, let him know you are not happy about his inability to render help to your family. I really don't know what words but sit him and let him know how you feel. I want to believe answers to your questions to him may go a long way in helping you. Good luck.

I do so much believe in marriage and i love couples being FRIENDS. When our parents say 'Olorun ase yin ni ore ara yin' (God wl make you each other's friend) we don't seems to really understand the weight of that prayer but believe me if couples are friends then the home will be as interesting as school hostel.

Ore, you need to be your husband's friend and be happy with each other so please work it out, you know the way tongue and teeth fight and i second after they are friends again. May God help you out, Good luck

I dont think its appropriate no matter what the situation is. You have right to ask questions after intervies and you can ask whatever you are not clear about, you can also politely make a complaint, but walking out? no not good enough.

Think of the roles you will be playing in the 2, relate them to your course of study and personal interest, think of what you'll love to see yourself doing and you can choose. Do it prayerfully as well and also think either you want a job or a career, consider job security as well. Good luck

boris4luv:
hello good day.
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A lil bit of info please if you dont mind, i am keen to know about it.

Alldruns:
Thx for that.

However, i think if you're being sponsored for d trip, presenting a savings a/c is just a supportive proof. But a case where you're sponsoring self and u have to present your pay slips, then a savings a/c. Does it tally?

Won't they expect a worker who collects regular salary & pay slip to have an active current a/c?

Please I still need more light. I don't want to narrow my chance. Can't risk visa denial,

Thx - All D Runs

I was not sponsored, i did sponsor myself and presented only my saving account with my payslips, like i said i don't know what is obtainable at the moment, that was 2003

Afribiz:
Thank you all for your encouragement. It's nice having people like you on this forum.

@ Ayo, thanks for your concern. I wouldn't really say it's in his blood, because, when it comes to doing such things( such as picking up my parents from d airport) for my family members, he starts "raking sense". He gives excuses of how busy his schedule is. Maybe that's even the most annoying part. But then, anytime we need financial support, neither this his friend nor my hubby's family members shows up. It's only my people that renders such help to us.

Sounds like inferiority complex to me, my apologies but that's what i feel. Why will he not be available even for your parents but always available for his friend's family members? I dont understand, ore, you need to talk to him o seriously and let him explaine what the hell is behind this if there is any motive behind such behaviour. Could he be one of those who worships their 'abroadian' friends? My husband's case is a bit different he is there for everyone my family, his, my friends, his. Really you need to talk, u know the importance of communication in marriage, there may be a reason for it which he sure need to explain before love flies off which can be very dangerous for your marital life.

ifyalways:
lol
The poor man has nothing to comfort himself with,no recreation,no outdoor activity Xcept pounding out his frustrations every night atop the wife hence the very flenty flenty children.Moreso they can't afford family planning or know anything about it.

OMG! u ppl will not kill me with laughter o

Esss:
The answer is simple.

On like the rich who have money to shape the future of their 1, 2, 3 , 4 Kids _{(training one to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer, name it. wether they like it or not,)} The poor can only play russian roulette with their kids hoping one of them would be the chamber with the bullet in it.

If he has 10 kids, definitely not all of them would be successful, so he is hoping that maybe;

1. One of his daughters will be pretty enough to land a rich guy for a husband.
2. One might branch into prostitution, Travel to europe and break bread.
3. One of the sons might end up a big time footballer.

e.t.c

This is too funny cant stop laughing

succesful as in making money by texting?

Wen u arrive late in the evening and while d plane is landing u look down and all u can c is electricity in 1% of d whole city

kenflipper:
MOHIT247 what re you waiting for?, Lets say u re comfortable in Nigeria, don't u have brothers, sisters or relatives that would take advantage of such existing opportunities?

Check:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-61751.0.html

aysometin:
I am Brtish but I live in Nigeria, I was thinking UK but recently my Bro-in- law suggested Ireland. need your contributions

Then UK is your best bet.

Recently removed mine when i realised i've added  enough fat that if it's left any longer it may have to be cut with cutlass to be able to get it off my finger, eating to much, may be. My husband understands the reason why i had to remove it and it raised no question, hoping to get us another set shortly.

Tats:
See this one also

http://www.mailonsunday.co.uk/news/article-1033436/Sixth-work-experience-stole-thousands-law-firm-cheque-scam.html

Incredible! A lawyer-to-be? Could this be blamed on poverty? Definitely no! or on govt's failure? definitely no. I doubt if this could be blamed on the parents as well because for them to have her achieve this much at that age means they care for her and perhaps spend both time and money on her. May God help parents in these days with bringing up children o. I can imagine how shameful the parents would feel.

Its sad but some of the parents has failed in their responsibilit. It starts with tenagers leaving the house for nights and the parents think 'this is abroad you cant be too hard on them', some pierce their made kids ears (something they would ordinarily not do should they be in their country), boys wearing trousers falling to their their kneels, girls showing off all vital parts they would not allow in their respective countries, and the parents thinks its cool, its a free world and you will be jailed if found instiling some discipline in your kids, nonsense. Some are too busy with work they dont know what their kids are doing, some dont see their kids for days due to work, work, work which to them is more important.

Its really sad, a friend of mine who teaches in a school in UK tells of different stories daily and one wonder if these parents really deserve to have kids at all. They can not train their children when they can be corrected and then it becomes a problem when its too late to put things right.
I wonder if its by force to leave abroad. You'll see some kids and argue they are Nigerians until you hear their names, its quite disgraceful and their parents thinks its a country where you cant chastise the kids, rubbish! Everyone will give account to God.