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Hmmmm I have read every piece of advise given to you since 2015 till date. It took me 3 days to do that. This is 4 years after and you just said you did not end up with any of them. Please kindly share with us your experience with both and the decision you took then. If you can answer the questions @smellinganus asked.. Fine, if not well just open up and let us know the lesson learnt from it. This is not about blaming you for whatever decision you took but getting to know what eventually happened. Even if you lost your virginity then, it is still a lesson. Pls share with us. You moved on and I believe you are doing great.

akaahs:
Been born in Nigeria is the greatest regret and the most depressed

Probably because you were not born into Dangote, Otedola, Ifeanyi Uba's family..... Just thinking out loud

agbonkamen:
una just quote person without seeing my post in different angles. I said "some" meaning not all the guys. There are good girls and guys but they are rare, and many good girls have gone bad as a result of your fellow guys wickedness.....

Put it this way.. You are searching for an apple in a basket full with fruits and someone asked you if you have seen the apple? Your answer should be not yet but I will soon. This means you believe there is an apple there waiting for you. My point is don't center your mind on believing there are many bad guys out there, just believe the good one is around the corner for you. Be optimistic not persimistic.

trapQ:
How does that translate to them having a polygamous mentality?

No one says they don't cheat. They don't just feel it's their right and when caught they apologize to their wives and feel remorseful. Infact do you know they usually whenever they meet someone they know they have fallen I'm love with they serve their wives divorce papers and go be the other person but a Nigerian man will cheat and blame you for cheating.

Habra! Cheating is cheating and it doesn't matter if you serve your wife a divorce paper or not. You are trying to justify one cheat against the other. This is not right.

this is an act of mastering hair cut.........

Threads like this should be brought down and closed if the moderators actually know what they are doing. It's full of shit and nothing to learn from it. Please s do the needful.

Richdad50:


The hypocrisy of these fellas running up and down to talk for the old man is not only shameful but also disgraceful. These same peeps never held their tongue when lashing out at elder Jonathan (ex President).

What the young man did was courageous and very polite. The strength of a man is measured in his ability to withstand equals and superiors.

Name one thing that Wole contributed to this country aside personal honours. Don't honour those who never honoured your fathers.

Richdad

I can forgive this your comments only if you are a child born yesterday. For asking what soyinka has done for this country. The same soyinka that supported the Biafra movement and was put in confinement. The same soyinka that condemn Abacha's ruling and was declared wanted as he flew out Benin.. You must be a joke

BrownCarton:
Was to move to a very high-end brand new apartment, she has seen the pictures but never been there. She followed me there first time, but before we entered the building, I pretended I really needed her phone for an emergency. She was obviously on my back while using it till I went snooping. It basically got dramatic, neighbours got involved. In my mind, I was happy I d confirmed my suspicion. Gave her her phone back with no reaction whatsoever. She got so dramatic on something totally irrelevant with the neighbours and smashed her phone on the wall. We both drove off from there without saying anything. I then blocked her on all mediums. Few hours later, she came to my house, asking me to open to talk which I refused. Left hundreds of calls, I told her to talk from outside. She waited for hours till past midnight and came back the next day. I still won't show any reaction. I only told her from the balcony to kindly go home as I ve decided I won't let her get too familiar again. She would then go and come back to damage something in a bid to get me to react which I didn't. I then dropped off her stuff with a friend so I don't get to interact with her. Now it's literally happening every day.

Some part of me almost felt bad, but another part of me is very happy leaving her to sulk up the guilt. She was a nightmare.


I believe many guys here can learn from my experience. When she shows signs of dishonesty. Cut it off and move one. Unless you want to be the untrusting insecure controlling freak. Nothing good will ever come out of it.

Ah hahaha I just laughed at your last statement bro. There is nothing to learn from you sir. Someone you should have ditch all this while but couldnt because of your lazy emotions. Yet you are now advising who? I can only believe you are probably 25 and below because I will be disappointed if you are older than this. Don't even know how to advise you. After every threads on naira land about all these stuffs yet you still got involved in this pitiable abysmal.

femi4:
Can you imagine, among the 4 best losers....we came last

We love to celebrate mediocrity in this country. If you are not good enough to qualify why bother and later receive beating of your life. I hate when you put your success in another person's hand. Until we start preparing better then we will remain at the mercy of others.. Rubbish excitement

When he is tired he is coming back to give you STDs and other lovely diseases so you can live with it through out the rest of your life..kudos lovely advice

Newswatchng:
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While it’s conventional to think that men are most likely to cheat, the gap is fast closing in between the sexes in this regard. Women, now, are likely to be the infidels in a relationship too. And although it might be difficult to find out when exactly a woman is cheating, she’ll still display certain signs and behaviors that will give her away!

Here are a few signs men need to keep an eye out for to know if their woman is cheating on them!

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All your points are valid though and still correlate to mine of lame excuses.

I don't know how you can cheat on me without my knowledge except I want to play dumb. Truth and lie are two different thing. One is straightforward while the other brings questions upon questions and you start bringing lame excuses. I told my first gf she has started cheating while she was away like 5 months from me. Use your head and not your heart if you want to catch a cheat. Only my future wife deserves my heart.

segunoz:
All I see are supposedly educated people making unintelligent comments for cheap likes and forum popularity.

I blame the OP for blowing his own trumpet. He should realise the folly of his "cause" considering the beer parlour level of discussions on nairaland.

Whenever I see Nigerians complain of racism, it is always funny cos we even treat ourselves in a similar way to how racists see us.

Whites used to see blacks as dirty and uncultured . some even concluded we were animals.

Just consider this, If the Ebira people had a different skin colour, your idiotic notions would be tagged as racist, but since we are all black... I think it is just the need for you to massage your own ego and feel superior.

How many Ebira people do you know

How many of those who are commenting have even met 10 Ebira people in their entire life span

Tribal descriptions are stereotypes. Stereotypes are false. E.G. blacks like to eat watermelons and chicken. Yoruba are dirty. ibos can sell their mothers for money, fulani people love cows more than people.

Nigeria is a really bad place with lots of bad people. We do not even like ourselves.

This is what annoys me the most seeing an educated someone being involved in tribal bigotry or stereotype. You just have to place people according to who they are and not their tribe or skin color. I can't imagine myself tagging any tribe been evil when I have seen wickedness from every tribes. No, I will never do that.

You have tried your best to be a father to her responsibly by staying with her and sending her to school. She is 23 now so no longer a baby. Therefore she should face the consequences of her actions so that she will learn from it and become a better person tomorrow. It is left to you to forgive her but let her work to take care of the child that is if she can't locate the father. Let her learn that life gives you what you give back to life. I hate it when young peeps throw opportunities away. I wished I had this chance growing up not having to struggle by myself to get to where I am today.

So as a developer earning 400k monthly and yet you are telling us that you don't roll with smart peeps to begin with. Then you come online to say you are looking for a smart gf. What happens to all the girls you meet everyday? If you can't find any of them being smart, then you are not as smart as you claim and therefore cannot earn such figure.

First I am angry that we don't get to choose our family when we are born. Some go to religious family, some wealthy family, some ritualistic family, while some very poor family... That itself is bad to comprehend. Am angry that people can just give birth even if they are living from hand to mouth and cannot afford to take care of themselves let alone one other person. Am angry that people can just choose to do bad even if it won't cost them a thing to do good. I am angry that there are so many bad people compare to the good ones.... In fact so many things are wrong in this world

Tboy1419:
I can't date a broke guy I can't date a guy who are earn less than 200k a month, I can't date a guy who deos'nt drive Benz, yen yen yen, see them broken pant tear tear pant

Everyone has a choice in life, so if anyone says he/she don't want a broke ass person..how is that a crime? I don't even criticize or look at such ladies twice. I just wish her good luck with her heartfelt desires. simple as that..

dancok:
Apart from experience, have done my research pretty girls are full of drama in relationships, though i may be wrong for some,
I like fine girls but they giving me wahala, as marriage is knocking i think i will just settle for average looking girl to settle down with, when the desire is not available, the available becomes desire, hmmmm.

For you to even think of beauty when you are talking of marriage means you are going the wrong path.. A good looking lady will suffice. What you should be after is a lady with good attitude, hardworking, intelligent and the likes. Beauty won't be there when you are both getting aged.

Kingosytex:
daddy showkey is right to an extent, how many polithiefcians have efcc jailed? the likes of akpabio, atiku, amaechi, saraki et al are still walking freely and they are here flexing their whole muscle on naira marley


i no too blame efcc, naira marley f*ck up, na him be him own "village people"

This is one of the reason this nation cannot be free from criminals and bad wagons. How can you say Daddy Showkey is right to an extent??wtf!. It does not matter if EFCC has caught up with politicians or hoodlums in the North. As long as you prohibit criminal mindset or acts on criminality then EFCC has the right to come after you and everyone should applaud that for a better society. In fact to me, every Yahoo boys should be thrown into jail and locked up for life.. I guess you might not understand this until you have the opportunity to travel outside this country and see how Nigerians are being perceived as fraudsters even without hesitation.

I hope this match won't make me sleep and yawn..... Two mumu team wey need overhaul.....

Karleb:
Wedding == over.

This won't resolve the function correctly unless you do it like this: (wedding === over).... coders will understand better

My favorite quote from Arya.. I am Arya Stark of winter fell and I am going home.... So much like her

Originalsly:
Hmmm....now I can see why most local degrees are so useless abroad. #6 the topic. For starters.... that is not a question. And what trap?...If you have no problem with any of the questions you automatically lose 12 marks. You must find fault and submit your own question or you risk failing. Is this a good lecturer?...or a lazy lecturer..whose real intention most likely is to select submitted questions for the next exam? Nonsense.... and we wonder why soooo many graduates can't represent their degrees.

I don't really get your argument. But what the lecturer did is commendable to my own understanding. He probably set six questions and ask the students to answer 3 or 4 questions in all. Then create an optional room for the students to score 12 marks freely if they can set a question and answer it. If not, then answer other available questions..simple as that... I will gladly set a standard question from one of the past questions i have come across while studying the course outlines...

saaron:
I'm a Chelsea fan but I want Liverpool to win. They deserve the EPL title.

So you prefer Chelsea to lose which might affect their top four finish.. Haba what can fan are you?

If with his money, he can't get himself a little bit of literacy and exposure then how will he sustain the money he makes. He might end up being poor. It is a different thing to get wealth by any means but it takes intelligence to keep it.

I have read enough comments on the issue and I think you have gotten the attention of some interested men. But what I don't get is when you say you need a financially stable man that can help you and the kids. What that means is that your ex husband is not ready to take care of his own children, thereby not minding another man do that for him.. Haba! What kind of irresponsible man you married in the first place. Except you are not telling us the whole gist... I can never allow another man take care of my kids even if I am not with their mother again.. Some men are highly foolish.

tolanibae:
Dont start a war you cannot finish. I hope you understand that people’s daddy, men, you guys will Prostrate Just to put the head.

Its usually rare before you hear us running after it.

Do your maths, add 1 + 1, and know who loves sex more

See when it comes to sex, guys with high urge for sex loves it more because they can sleep with anything under skirt... But ladies don't need to have urge for sex before sleeping with a guy. A lady can give pity sex, goodbye sex, neighbor sex, friendly sex, and so on. Just name it

Well this is part of life experience some people have gone through and survived. So your case won't be different. It is better you have seen her other side now than later. Just find a way to see her and hear why she is acting up. If the reasons giving is odd and irrelevant.... Make your last statement and move on with your life. But if she is reasonable then you can find a way to resolve the issue.

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Haha haha I had to laugh because it is so clear you are not saying this to guys and ladies of this generation that is ready to dump you or cheat on you if you don't have sex with them.... What a generation!!... Well as for me I don't care if you are not ready to hold yourself, find your way forward.