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millionboi2:
shot up dia


hahahaha
Karma is real....I don't pity women wen it comes to relationship.

Let me shock u,to let u Know dat a guy must ve loved her so much to d extend of marriage within dat period of time she was decivin herself with d said guy and Guess what she must ve bn telling d true love guy.

I'm a virgin... hahahaha


Abeg 4get all dis hoes and hustle

hahha my brother take it easy. While she was in this relationship, she never cheated not even once because I asked my friend and he attest to that. Her yes was yes and no was no. They sometimes quarrel over some issues but not when it comes to flirting from the girl.

AntiBrutus:
Two things I got from your post.

1. Men are confused.

2. The saying that men would never let go of a good woman is a fallacy. Now refer back to point 1; having that in mind, a man can let go of any woman. But then, it isn't really he is fault. Refer to point 1 again, he is confused

See my sister men are not confused. Some of us know what we want. The problem with men is our sexual urge. If any man can control his, then he has overcome an obstacle in his life.

Raalsalghul:
Op help her ministry na. Marry her na

How can I marry someone who dated my friend for that much time and I saw everything that happened between them. Haba na be fair to me. Though she is a good lady that I will recommend to any of my guy that is looking for a wife.

grad2012:
She has a good heart to keep forgiving him, your friend took advantage of that and he lost a good woman.

Her only fault was loving your friend and having a forgiving heart an who can fault that.

I believe in seeing blessings in every disappointment. Well for me I think God actually saved her from marrying your friend and for the times she lost she will recover back.

You see as for your friend trust me sooner or later he will pay heavily,God has away of dealing with cheats like him.

karma will definitely serve him a piece of his cake.

And please even if she had defined her time as you said and given him the estimated time of which she wanted to settle down, your friend would still have cheated on her. He is just a cheat he can't help it.

And let me tell you why he married this other one quick is so that she won't find out who he really is.

Well people change, so he might later change for good.But the deed has being done and it is not reversible. I believe she will find a man that who love and cherish her.

grad2012:
If only we could see a miracle in every disappointment,well for me I think God actually saved her from marrying your friend. She is a good person so deserves a good person and definitely she will get someone better.

You see as for your friend trust me he will pay because God has away of dealing cheats like that.

karma will serve a piece of his cake.

despite I don't support what the guy did...I don't believe in karma. when we fall in love it makes us fragile as humans and thinking straight without emotions becomes hard. she saw reasons to let him go but it wasn't easy. Do you know what it means to be in a committed relationship and just end it like that ?// is not easy my sister

austyn0:
Please ladies define your relationship and set time for him..if he is not ready, please find your way before it is too late .. Thanks

Op, this advice on your last paragraph I beg to disagree please. There are good guys out there with self control just like yourself according to how you mentioned it in your story.

Ladies, when a guy cheats on you and you find out, find the nerve to drop him like it is hot, don't ever hope or try to forgive in the name of he won't do it again or righteousness.

Men were created with this high sex urge and when you allow your sex fantasies rule you as a man, you will always remain a slave to your hormones.

So, if your man truly loves you just as you love him, he won't imagine his diddy in another lady's punnani that is not yours.. Thanchiu.

I couldn't agree less... you are spot on

stupidity:
Sad!!! If I were you, I’ll goan marry the girl. Make e nor waste.


But guys dey effup shar. No matter the cheating, never look down or disrespect your true woman.

my brother is not as easy as that. The girl stays with us for almost 5 years. I watched as they play, act and have fun together. I was wishing I could get a lady like that then..so hardworking lady..

Oshin56:
They will not hear until the relationship land crash like osinbajo own that's when they will be saying all men are equal

I just wish some will hear and not be a victim of such circumstances. I have seen some ladies endure worst just to keep a man. what a society..

Let me make it brief..I have a room mate who is married now. Before his marriage, he dated this lady for almost 9yrs. I met them and it was like love is really a beautiful thing. The girl stays with her brother. She comes around and cook, wash and do all sort just for the relationship to keep going fine. She is not the social type, don't have many friends and always glue to her work. In fact what a man wants as wife(atleast to my own understanding). Now the guy who is my friend is a regular good guy. I won't tag him a womanizer but can't keep his di**k to his pant in some instance. So he cheated on this girl and the girl finds out. She got angry and my friend pleaded and was forgiven. He repeated same while I knew. I called him and asked why he keeps cheating on a girl like this. He said not all guys can hold themselves like me, that it is not easy. I advised him to try to stop so it won't break the relationship since he wants to marry the girl. he couldn't, so he continued flirting codedly. The truth is if the girl happens to be my sis, I would have advice her to move on, but you know the guys code na(though I feel guilty till now). Let's I forget, she caught him again and again but she couldn't let go. The one that broke the camel's back is when he tries to date one of her colleague, then all hell was let loose that the whole family had to come in between them to try to settle the issues. By now she was staying with us because she had issues with the brother she was staying with. I watched as she cried her eyes out and I felt pity for her. The truth is both have invested alot into the relationship...yet it is coming to ruin in just a few minutes. The lady finally moved out to stay with her friend. At this period my friend met a lady in his church and before you know it , they started dating and whooop!!! they are married now within a year..She is out there now, not yet married after 9 years in the relationship....Yet a guy will see her tomorrow and call her all sort of names..never minding her story...what a society for the feminine..I still chat with her once in a while. Please ladies define your relationship and set time for him..if he is not ready, please find your way before it is too late .. Thanks

FreeMejoor1:
Have been snubbing my gal for a week now cause she got me annoyed though she apologized but instead i just chose to ignore her and we just looking each other status no hello or hi or Good morning..so tell me should i break this silence or wait her to do it..cauze it hurts me we dont talk like we used to..

hahha all this child's dating....very soon you will come and ask us if you should slap your gf because she slapped you first...mteeww

ladies will never learn. what happened to the guy's underwear...can't he also remove his..maybe his balls is too small to behold... shame atlast

Mr Falana makes a replica of young Falz.......what a resemblance

queenice7:
it amazes me the kinda people we av here in nairaland. I mean their thinking faculty is so poor and backward it baffles me... few times I av posted stuffs and seek for their advice's, but wot I get from u guys are mean, abusive, thoughtless, insensitive... like wtf, it make matters worst. do u guys know there's sth like depression?? u guys comments fuels it, insensitive most of de times.
the last straw that broke the camel's back was de last story I posted, few hours ago... almost non of the people that commented understood my story, ion know if dey read upside down even as I modified some parts several times and I tried to correct some people, yet you were so in a hurry to hurl abusive words @ me, u were so biased even when its obvious that its de guy I went out with that lacks good conduct, the guy that bulged me by calling me from time to time, asking me wen we'll see, nothing more...maybe coz am a girl in this part of the world... with my experience so far, I think this will be the last time am gona be posting anything here... and I'll advice that you don't av to use abusive words to make a point, you can still sound mature and yet make sense, moreover try to read and understand, and yes, respect the ladies and be equal in judgement...

See there are different kinds of people in this world no matter where you are, be it online or off-line. You just try to find balance in tolerating everyone as you dim fit. But concerning your last post.....https://www.nairaland.com/5052597/being-free-boo-ruin-relationship .. I believed by now if you have read through every comments there you should have known where your mistake lies. If you insist that you were not wrong at all then you still have a lot to learn when it comes to relationship. Note this: many will comments just choose the relevant ones and spit on the irrelevant ones and move on with your life.

queenice7:
my boo tells me everything that happens to him, so do I... he tells me abt girls tripping on him and doing crazy things to get his attention... I tell him each time I make a new male friend and our conversations, he seem cool with it. we live in different States (long distance relationship). recently I went for a training, after de training I was hungry, so I decided to see a guy that av been bulging me to see since last year, since I wasn't far from his office, this is the second time am seeing him and we haven't really conversed. he took me to a nice restaurant and we got food... we were eating and discussing abt politics and stuffs, only for him to start telling that he's Hot, that let's go to a lodge, I was so embarrassed but I didn't say a word to him, he got frustrated and left me in the place after paying for the food. I had to find my way home from that place since we came with a car so I didn't know de road. I told my boo this, and he got really angry @ me, and am surprised coz he called me names like cheap flirt and said he was gona show me... like he was literary threatening me, said our relationship is on de verge of break up coz of this. I didn't see this coming and I don't know y he is reacting this way, maybe coz he feels intimidated by this guy's profile, unlike de other guys I tell him about. I guess I should stop telling him anything, wah do u think?

A popular proverb says...what you won't eat, don't bother smelling it with your nose... I met a girl in church and we interact on a casual level and discussed about what we do. The next thing is for her to tell me that she will like to visit me with her PC so I can teach her some programs since that is my field. I intentionally refused to entertain her approach because we were getting too familiar with each other. Gradually I broke my distance with her not because I can't teach her but I don't want to create something else for myself since I know I am into a serious relationship. Your case is similar, you know his intentions yet you agree on a date with him..Haba!!!. If I am your guy I will warn you never to try that again. But if it happens you have done that before, I will just break the relationship siting that you don't know what you want. My advise is for you to apologise to him and don't repeat it. Especially if he is committed to the relationship...my two cents

After checking the Ovulation Calculator App, I noticed your ovulation and safe period will differ depending on the average cycle length of an individual menstruating.

Amakavula:
Our bodies are quite complex but can still be regulated with effective timing. So you love to get it raw with your partner and can't stand the pills.

There is a brief description of how you can monitor your monthly cycle to Know your safe periods.

.1) From the first day you see your period, take a calendar and Mark 15 days, including the first day when you see the blood.

2.) Circle the 15 days on the calendar with Blue or Black ink.

3.) Now circle 3 days before the 15th day, and 3 days after the 15th day.

4.) Do this with a Red ink ( there are apps for this )

5.) You would notice there are 7days in Red/ Blue ink right ?

6.) Those are your most fertile days or ovulation periods.

7.) Meaning you are mist likely to get pregnant if you have sex during these periods.

Your explanation with that of @Famousqueen is misleading..I am trying to see the similarity yet I am not getting it. I want to know this for my future wife.

Michelle55:
Mothers tends to act differently when faced with issues but that doesn't give the lady the right to slap her MIL back... That was the only way she could show her displeasure concerning what the DIL did, trust me if her son was the one that did such, he would have received same treatment as well. She slapped her not because she hated her but because that's the way that came to her mind to reprimand her not minding who's involved.
MIL are just like our mothers at home, are you trying to say that had it been it was her mom that slapped her, she would have retaliated in same measure?
The way mother A handles issues is totally different from the way mother B will react.
Let's keep in mind that mothers are human and are bound to make mistakes as well, the best she should have done is to let it go, then talk to her MIL calmly after the issue must have died down.. Believe me, the MIL will apologize for the slap and further advice her on how to run her home.
Where I'm having issues with the man is sending her outta the house. I'm not in support of that atall.

I don't think they will agree with you because some of these ladies are wired in a different way. Just ask her if the husband is allowed to slap her mum no matter the situation and read what she will say. Ishilove was saying 98% of the guys will do same if put in that shoe. I don't care if 99% will do it. As long as the 1% will not do it bearing it in mind that if it happens to me I won't take it, so I dare not do it. I am the change I preach.... Not the useless change the govt is dishing out..

farellstone:
even if my wife's father slaps me five times, I still won't slap him back. For one, he is my father-in-law and second he is an elder to me. Haba! When did we lose our sense of morality and respect.

It is hardly you see a Nigerian that has not lost his/her morality due to the influence of the western world. What people like @Ishilove and @funmistiqueen is telling me is that if their father or mother slaps me as the husband, I am free to beat them black and blue as long as they instigate the attack first.. Rubish

funmisticqueen:
so if I am your wife and my father slaps you,will you give him your other cheek? Slapping back was obviously self defense

That is so bad of her. Now you are saying you can do same if it happens to be you, nawa ooo. If your father slaps me, I won't hit him back but I will tell him not to try it again and prevent him from hitting me if he dares to try it. Somethings are not just right being an African lady or man.

I don't get something here, how can you break up with someone you have dated for 8 months and he gets married the next month? That only shows he was dating someone else while with you. Infact most of those guys were dating behind you but you never knew. How can a lady have those qualities you mentioned above and I won't marry her? Except she has irritating attitude that I can't cope with.. That's it..

I think the OP needs forty days dry fasting to help facilitate his self esteem and open his spiritual eyes to see clearly because I don't understand why forcing yourself on someone that doesn't care about you.

Arthurwinner:
What do you ladies really want ?
After all this womanizing attitude I decided to get a real female friend without any sexual related stuff..
I met this lady for one month now and all I do with her is chill out, chat on phone have Lunch's and dinner so as to build a bond for pure friendship but she surprised me yesterday, we were out having fun but then she came up with a question on what i want from her and why I'm actually being so nice, i felt very surprised and abit disappointed cos deeply I was only trying to make her my friend even tho we might turn lovers later but now I don't even think of that...I have never invited her to ma place or even touched her for once so I wana know why she feels da dia is no good man or is she so broken that she cnt see ma sincerity....
Ladies pls I thought that frienships happens when u spend time and communicate with people or am I supposed to chyke her for normal friendship kwa..
She said that she don't understand me , that why do I only bring her out yo just talk, eat, chill and then drop her off without any other thing.....cnt I just have some true female friends without dating or other stuff.

You are talking as if you don't know what your fellow guys are capable of. Some will even do more than you have done just to get to her pant. The question she is asking is a normal thing every reasonable girl should ask if found in such situations. You are to give her explanation on what you want from her and make her understand why you want it at the moment. And be truthful from your heart.

bidv:
There's this girl am currently in a relationship for closing to 10 months now, I recently discovered that there's particular guy that do call her often and often but she denied having anything to do with him. To cut story short after long talks she agreed that she has been having sex with this guy that she started dating the guy before me that she has been trying to quit from the guy after we met. Now.... the pain is much for me because I trusted her a lot and even gone to see her parent for marriage plans, I told her I can no longer continue in this and she has been pleading and begging me sending her frnds to me that she will never try that again that I should give her one more chance.

Please I need sincere advice, should I accept her back? If yes I will forever live with the hurt.
She called me this morning and swore that if she ever cheat on me again let her never give birth for life and said so many other stuffs, I don't know am really confused.

Please I need help.....

My brother I will give you my sincere advise.... See when it comes to marriage never compromise no matter whatever things are involved. A cheat once is a cheat forever. There is something called commitment and trust then comes honesty.. These words are gold when it comes to marriage, any man or woman who lives by this words when it comes to marriage shall have a successful one. Just end the relationship straight and move on. Forget about the swear because it will solve nothing. If it happened you were the one who cheated on her I will still advice her to dump you immediately. God has shown you what you needed to see already it is now left for you to use your brain or your third legs.

Paxie55:
Why should you think of having a gf in your life?
You are not living, the living didn't recognise you naaw.

painment

Paxie55:
That is, if I get married to You, but it's never happening. so, take your L and move on.

You said so many stupid men out there.. so definitely it is not me because You can't even qualify to be my gf.. you will surely get one of those men... trust me

Sometimes I wonder the joy this whites get during divorce. How can I even imagine to divorce a wife of 25 years in marriage? where do I start from? Even if I wanted to, for the sake of my children I wont.. well that is their palava.

Paxie55:
Lol.
I love insulting stupid men that don't know their left from right.
It gives me joy.

You are just crying.
Sorry o.

I guess you might end up with one stupid one as hubby one day...trust me

Makeitreal4life:
Is it a must that you must be rich before you get married
please i need some answers
i want to get married this year and i am not earning much

No, it is not until you have millions before you can get married. But please make sure you have something doing and your partner too so you wont be among those mofos who populate kids in the streets and asked them to fend for themselves by constituting nuisance to the society, which makes people like you and I not to be safe.

Nelson Mandela's struggle was just in vain......

boxer022:
I beg to disagree to your opinion on "no destined partner". I will like to site my reasons from the Bible. God created Eve from Adam's rib and when Adam woke from the deep sleep he saw Eve and said this is the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh. From this point alone, every man has a missing rib and it is the destined lady or female that will match that missing rib. Another good example is Samson the strong who was warned not to marry from outside his tribe but refused and went ahead to marry Delilah. Everybody knows what happened to Samson after that. For you to know who the destined partner is all you have to do is pray and beg God to reveal to you and at His time He will. Where you may have problem is where you get a girl pregnant then there is nothing left to ask for as she automatically becomes your destined partner.

I was enjoying your explanation despite i know what you were talking about until the pregnancy faults. How can I be destined to marry a girl then suddenly i flirt around and get a girl pregnant and she becomes my destined woman..lolz. The truth is you find a woman and asked God if she will make a good wife or hubby to you then the response you get through red flags and the likes will tell you what you want except you turn blind eyes to it. After marriage two of you need to make it work else destiny will be thrown into the dogs.. Finally, you need to know that your destiny is in your hands in which God has placed in it. He will only act as you want him to act. sefini!!!

An adage says what a man can do, there is a woman out there who is equal to the task. I love your write up and I pray and hope your fellow ladies will read and digest it to the fullest so it can break that mentality of being dependent on men. I love career woman so much when I see one. Women like Okonjo Iweala, Oby, Late Dora, Aminat, Alakija and the likes don't have two heads. Most of this women I mentioned have husbands and still on top of their career. Don't let anything or anyone drag you down and please watch your ego or pride as you climb the ladder... @op.... You are really a Boss Lady...

I try to phantom how mature guys or ladies come online in search of a wife or husband. I might be wrong but I think when it comes to issue of marriage, you have to be very serious and cautious of your actions towards the opposite sex because we are talking of a life partner here. Except you are the type in which divorce is on your scale of preference. Goodluck in your search but you don't need to specify your criteria rather find someone and watch the person intently to discover the qualities you are looking for.