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lalanice:
The meaning of Godfearing is now different because There are no quality men anymore so we just manage what we got.

I beg to disagree with you. You just have to place your self in the right environment and mingle with the right set of people then you will find the quality you are looking for. Please don't say that again, it's an insult to some of us...

Premarital sex is a grave sin before God, so your reasons to keep your self is not genuine and false if not for God. If you are not ready for marriage soonest then stay out of a relationship. When you are ready the right guy that will understand your modesty and who will love you very much will come your way. Any guy who can't even go into a relationship without sex is likely to be a cheat in the future. Cos he will always want more sex. Every guy must learn self control.

Kidaholic:
Babe, I love you

You love her hmmm, abi you too Wan deposit and go.. Haha

Kidaholic:
worthy? with what I've seen so far, a man worthy of you is yet to be created

Hahaha you are so funny, reading this your comment made me laugh my ass out... So what do you mean by this, are you saying she wants a perfect man?

EasternDamsel4:
"Am not your mate" ahwooo! Even after your epistle you are still daft. More epistles you will still be daft.
See the way you rushed to copy and paste a definition you have simply been bastardizing probably because it's new in your lexicon.
U are obviously pained bcoz of this little assignment I gave you abi Mr "am not your mate".
I am not attacking you in any way. You just read from one person and you have already tagged the other person a "feminist". A term u know nothing about...if not for google....
Abeg let me stop here bfor get more provoked. Lol

Please as a lady mind the kind of words you used on people especially when it comes to a guy because one day a man like him will make you his partner for life. Don't be quick to insult and be slow to give response to people's opinion. I never agreed with him when he tag the lady a feminist because not all ladies with such attitude are feminists. Even the said lady might not know anything about feminism, or have anything to do with it. You should just ignore some statements and move on. Though I know it's because you are a lady that was why you responded to his comment. But no matter what, I don't like a lady that gives insult as if it's a food.

ceeceeco:
Real Madrid and Barcelona always having a fair draw. Uefa Spanish league.

Go to the top of this post and see the analysis of which team can play which team so that you can stop this your ignorance because it is not an excuse.

Pavarottii:
DORTMUND.... club wey dey beat bayern anyhow this season...

No mind am., he thought DORTMUND is an easy tie. The difference for the day will be who can outscore each other because both teams are attacking team.

If you truly love someone the only thing you owe them is to tell them the truth to their face no matter the consequences it may bring. Anything aside that you don't care about the person. After that you can both work out the solution to the problem. Sefini!!

Suchy22:
OK... but what if she keeps those other guys as second options so that when she eventually leaves the guy, she wouldn't be lonely. Not like she's sleeping with those other guys tho...

See let's be sincere with ourselves, most guys this days cannot date you without sex. And no guy or lady wants to be an option, including I believe. Moreover what you are doing in such case is called cheating. Dating is in two categories for some of us.
1. The first time you choose to date a girl because all you want is sex, beautiful and nothing more.
2. The second phase is when you decide to settle down with a partner. Then you check other attributes like attitude, morals and the likes. So it depend on the one you are still undergoing.

Suchy22:
Don't speak for all girls. Sometimes when a guy sees how faithful and loyal his babe is, he takes her for granted.

It is better he takes you for granted so you can leave his sorry ass than allowing different guys to sleep with you. You won't be different from a ******* I guess u understand

IamD18:
The only partner a man owe his loyalty and faithfulness is his wife. That's why I always frown at men cheating on their wives.


As for girlfriends; They have no right to complain when cheated on because they are nothing but sexual-objects and trash-cans created by God for men to dispose their sperms when Hot.

You are condemned and deserve no respect from a man if you are a non-virgin without a husband.

I totally agree with your first paragraph. I believe men cheat for just one reason alone... And that is because they can not control their sexual urge. If you find a man that can control his, then he won't cheat on you. You can take that to the bank

Irenemmeso:
Hahaha! Woww...A 21 years old guy in 400L thinking of marriage??!!
I haven't read about this in my entire life
My dear, this is mere feelings it would soon fade away ok. Just continue the relationship with him once suitors start coming for her please don't hold her back
I wish you goodluck

You learn new things everyday, I guess this is one of them

Plyza:
Am in 400 level of a federal University in Nigeria..I have this girlfriend.we have a serious relationship and am 21.i love her and she does too.i want to end up with her in marriage but don't have money yet.she is a hairdresser and she's good.my issue now is that I don't have money and guys are coming for her,she ain't giving them attention..we share alot together that's why am able to know.we don't have any problems at all...in a nutshell am afraid of not getting married to her cos if I don't I think I might have lost someone great..


Am new here sha

Better set your priorities straight now. At 21 as a guy, marriage should be the least of your worries. Don't ever force her to wait for you. Let her go with her suitor if she chooses to go. Chase success first then marriage can come later. You will still get good woman when the time come for you to marry.

The man has set a new standard that you can dress which ever way you dim fit on your wedding day as long as it doesn't negate any principle.

Only God knows where you meet this type of ladies. A reasonable girl should not insult even if it happened to be your gf. She should have issue with you not your girlfriend. For even picking your calls without minding what you will do say a lot about her. All I can say is both of you deserved each other.

Ikem11:
Ọ dịkwa very risky.

First of all, when u rejected this guy was the reason of rejection made known to him in a polite way?

2. Did u stay good friends with him after rejecting him of u just doing imakwa ndị anyị bụ?

3. For 5 years he kept coming or he ignored u and appeared 5yrs later and tell u, "hey girl am rich now let's get married? "

4. You naming he is rich now gives me little impression why u rejected him cos being rich or poor shouldn't be mentioned if it wasn't an issue

I can go on and on reasons why u can't and shouldn't try dating or marrying him. But first if u can answer those questions above then I will give u honest answer and future gona look like.

Answer this questions with sincerity and your problem is solved..

Saffi:
I’m currently with a Nigerian man, I don’t hate Nigerian men. I just question the things some of you do, dasal

So many will disagree with you because you always come hard on guys. Though some are really pain in the ass, at least I can testify to that.

I know one day you guys will get tired of insulting Nigeria ladies. Please some of you should go to YouTube and type 'Paternity Court', you will see how white women useless themselves then you will give Nigeria girls kudos because what you are going to see will surprise you... that I am so sure. Moreover if you can't locate a good woman out of all the good and beautiful women out there. Then it is what you deserved to get. It's not an insult...

If you are a foreigner and you log into nairaland. Before you even get to know our ladies personally you would have hated them from the beginning. I once opened a thread here to ask this guys which categories of wh*ore do their sisters belong to since they believed all ladies are hoessss. The funniest thing is that most of this guys will still marry a Nigerian woman one day. If you have dated a bad girl or hoe it doesn't mean you should tag every lady you come across a prostitute. If some of us have dated good ladies and believe that we will marry a good woman. Why not ask us how we do it and what makes us so sure of ourselves.

Itannooluwa:
@ op
1)teach them the way of the lord
2) As a parent, try all n ur capacity to provide for their needs nd wants
3) Create a friendly atmosphere with ur kids
4) Know d Company of friends dey keep
5) Be mindful of d environment u breed ur kids

All your points are valid. Though considering number 4. How many parents know the company their children keep? I doubt if many do. Some parents even work from morning till night leaving the kids for maid. The truth is bringing up children in this economy is hard and not so easy because in all you have to look for means to provide for them. And by doing this, you might be neglecting others. May God help us.

solomix10:
That's true, but what about some pastor's children that are exposed to good values and they still go wayward
what's your take on this

Some Pastors fail in this regard because they pay too much attention to other families and their problems, believing that prayers alone will solve theirs. In the bible, Eli was there attending to the growth of Samuel but neglect his own children growth which he later suffered a great consequence for it. Proverbs 22:6 King James Version (KJV)
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

I went to Idumota at Island on a Saturday morning (an area in Lagos) and I saw young girls hustling their life by selling one thing or the other. And most will probably close for the day by 6pm. Then I said to myself nobody has an excuse for being a prostitute or a runs girl because there will always be something for you to do if you are ready to do it.

almangid:
Any advice on what to do?
Started dating this girl earlier this year and I asked her out at a very low point in my life... I was depressed and I had just messed up my previous relationship. I guess I just needed serious validation that a girl could still like me. She is nice and I think she sincerely loves me, doesn't ask for much and is DTF (does pretty much everything I ask). Now I am just tired of the sham dating, during the course of the "relationship" I have slept with and dated like 2 other girls and I'm not so proud of that. So I don't know what to do, I'm scared that if I call it quits, she might v do something drastic to herself *I know her that well. Please Nairalanders advice me on the best way to go about it. NB all my friends say I should continue, that "na she go tire".

I guess this is a case of a guy who doesn't know what he wants. I guess you are still young and naive. What else do you want in a woman if not some of this traits you listed in your write up. You might not be lucky again to have a woman that will love you and be committed to you again like you said. Just take your time to reason and think deeply before taking decisions you might regret in your life.

Some women are possessed with anger that they can kill a lion with their bare hands when it comes to that.... Hahahh

Make your choice first then you can ask others... Is that too much to do?

I don't actually get what feminism stands for because I have read different debate about it from shallow and renowned people. I would always support feminism that stands for equal opportunities for both sex than equality for both sex. The two cases are different in all facet of life. You can't ask me to be equal with a woman I paid 2 million naira as bride price. Africa's culture has influenced negativity into feminism in any way you want to look at it. If I start giving so many instances of that this page won't contain it. What I believe Chimamanda and Co. Should do is to first educate and enlighten the female sex of not being reliant on their male counterparts and fights those traditions that stood against their mediocrity. If they can win this struggle then you can start championing equal sexes and can be reason with. Even some tradition don't even give female children inheritance and you are shouting feminism........ Mteeewww

Hmmmm. Your case is technical for both of you. It is not advisable to date any of your students even if you have good intentions towards her because so many factors will come to play. I will advise you to leave her for now till when you round up your jamb lessons. Then if you are still interested in her you can talk to her direct and see how it goes from there. Though I only support relationships that both parties want to make it work for good not just sex.

I guess you meant to say some girls. Is like saying guys are dogs. Of cos we know some are dogs but you can't say all because I am not. There are some brilliant ladies out there that you need to meet so you can change this your mentality of generalizing every female with dumbness.

I guess @Mr kay101 has answered you perfectly and yet you still blasted him. Then I realized you already know the truth but not ready to accept it. In fact if your mother visit let him also cook for your mother so you will be the happiest woman in the world. Smh

[quote author=Burgerlomo post=72834679][/quote]This is the only advise I find meaningful and will gladly give it to you with pride. Total rubishhhhhhh.

tiffanyfan:
Tell your sister that it's not possible, with guys of this generation, I don't think so. Used to know a guy that loves his girl die, but he still wan die for person neck, if not for my conscience, the girl would have been history.

I don't know why you people mix lust and love together. How can you claim the guy loves the girl so much and still want to die ontop your matter. Nawa oooo do you really know what love is? If you are not faithful to your partner then you never loved her... Sefini!

cr7lomo:
That's just an example because you said they can never in your own words

Quoting the wrong person I guess