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Everything listed by the OP is correct and many more. Nigeria is drooling in her own mess and shitss. I could remember in my 4OOL as a computer science student, I saw some course mates of mine who couldn't operate any programs in a computer..Well will you blame them? when they have never set foot in the comp. lab before and can't afford one. It was by the grace of God and my extreme measure that I became the software engineer I am today. So many loopholes in our educational system and it is not going away anytime soon.

Some ladies are gold diggers, some destiny breakers, some beauty without brain. Yet with all these negativities attached to them there are still intelligent, hardworking, decent, smart, goal getter and well loving women out there. I have seen ladies you will wish they are in your life. So for you to believe there are not good ladies out there, then I am sorry for you.

AstroG:
Boss
Leave that Asslicker,
His doing all these rubbish because of one ugly,archaic and village girl like that,and the girl is popular here on NL
He is trying to win her LOVE

Must you attached every comments or posts painting the ladies good as asslicking huh? Pls get your priority right because not everyone believe in your agenda or assessment of women.

chenzen:
Matthew 26:52

This verse does not translate to karma in any way. It is only telling you that a pilot is closer to death by plane crash as an armed robber to being shot. With time I can provide you so many references from the Bible where karma never happen to people who deserve it if we are to go by your word. . Any Christian that even believes in karma shows he doesn't understand what 2 Corinthians 5:17 is all about.

chenzen:
There s no escaping. ur actions today will be replicated by someone else someday, if u dont live right and treat these innocent ladies with respect and care.

karma wont spare you... it wont spare u cos u ll surely have daughters ... and for those who would attempt to dodge karma's hammer by avoiding the girl child through scientific methods, ur sons wont be spared.

So before u start counting census of how many girls u ve disvirgined during your life time...
THINK TWICE!!!

My brother if I say you are living in a dream world you will think am not being fair to you. How can you look at the unfair nature of life and still believe this ur karma thing.. Lol.z . I believed in treating the female gender right always and I try not to take away the innocence of the younger ones. But whenever I look at the things happening around me then I fear for my unborn female child. It has nothing to do with karma.. It's just the reality of life happening in our society.

Hamachi:
If only Nigeria guys can handle girls heart the same way they handle Bet9ja slip.Relationship would be better

Only if you know what they do to any Bet9Ja slip that is not productive? They tore it and throw it inside the Garbage bin..And that is how they throw unproductive ladies too

At my 18, I just finished secondary school and all my thoughts was to get into a uni, build a life for myself, how I will never become poor. To think of a gf was dead not to talk of saying falling in love. I don't actually understand teens of this age and time. They just talk about falling in love all the times. May God help you op

stillondmatter:
And some are still over-selective even at 30+ .

"Well, marriage is not meant for everyone"....has been their favorite song at that particular age

No lady is over selective at this age you mentioned just that they are taking precautions not to be victims to failed marriage after all their wait.

This your question reminded me of what I heard yesterday from a friend. I asked after a guy and his babe of that year(far back) and what he told me makes me sad and angry at my fellow guys. Some guys are very wicked and might eventually not find a happy home because of what they have done to some ladies before leaving them.

Follar:
A lot of women put in more effort in making the best meal... Even parents drill ladies to cook right because it is believed only that way will she be able to keep her man... The society also believes a woman who can constantly satisfy her man in bed would keep him in check... Yet women go tru the stress of cooking and sexing and men still cheat on them... Hilarious right
And the reply men would give is.. Men are promiscuous in nature,,,, who declared that ??
What fact can prove that? Cheating guys should just go back to mummy and get home training

I have asked some why they cheat and these are the answers they gave me:
1. He cheats because he can't be eating one type of soup everyday.
2. He cheats because his wife doesn't care on the condition that he must not marry another wife(being a Muslim).
3. He cheats because he has high urge for sex, so keeping one woman is a no(MOST GUYS ARE IN THIS CATEGORY).
4. He cheats because the woman cannot satisfy him alone. But she is okay in other areas.
Let me stop here.

Pattypatt:
Office romance breeds gossip.

I am not even talking about the gossip but putting emotions in place of professionalism is what might be at stake here. Especially when quarreling and both are asked to carry out a task. Human deficiency may come in which may affect the job because you were trying to avoid each other.

emkz:
I think your bolded submission is summarily flawed. From my observation, marriage spurs certain people to bring out their worst (or best) traits. A good girl from a decent home would not become a bad girl during marriage assuming no other internal or external variables persist, e.g., bad friends, wrong conversations, absence of self-will, lack of self love, et al. However, a girl with a predisposition towards immorality during singlehood would amplify these attributes during marriage, also assuming no other extant variables are at play. The gulf of distance is not a variable that determines loyalty, rather it is a personal choise like the one you made. From all I have written here, this is the point I wish to emphasize.

I think i understand your point, but I can't take some naive chances based on the information on LDR i have at hand.

emkz:
A man worked offshore and stayed long periods of time without his wife. She stayed loyal.

I once had a girlfriend whose sister's husband had been away for four years. She was loyal.

A woman went to study for three years and stayed loyal to her man across the Atlantic.

Another woman came from Panama to do an internship in the UK, and she stayed loyal. How do I know?

A story was shared on instagram about a man who left his wife for 8 years to hustle abroad. She remained loyal. The man is now doing everything to compensate her for his long absence.

My point is that when people end up with the worng people, the relationship is bound to fail, distance or no distance.

In addition, circumstances can keep a couple apart, and if one or both of them decide to play away games, I think it should be peculiarized to them and not generalized to every instance of long-distance relationship. Like I said in another post, someone who has a tendency not to be loyal does not need the gulf of distance to manifest the traits embedded in his/her DNA. A person who has been disloyal before and got away with it would be disloyal again and assume he'd get away with it. Let us not use the foolishness of the senseless few to discourage people who are working hard to make their relationships succeed.

My guy I think you are missing the points. I for my self am faithful till even when I marry. But guys looking around and you see the rate people cheat and clean mouth as if nothing happens is alarming. That girl or guy you see everyday and smell decency in her might surprise you to know that her neighbors sleeps with her anytime she wants to. Meanwhile she will tell you she is only dating one guy. A guy told me she has a gf who is in Abia and still faithful yet a virgin. Yet this guy still sleeps with ladies here in Lagos before he moves back to Aba.then I asked him how can you have a lady of 26years and still a virgin and faithful, beautiful and yet still cheats on her. What else do you want.? He said he is a man and he can do what ever he wants. So cheating is too rampant today for you to now stay miles apart. The only exception I support is when both are already committed looking forward to getting married. Anything short of this is fallacy

Pattypatt:
First off, that girl is not smart, office romance is a no-no, secondly, I have tried long distance relationship and none have worked out, so I gave up, there must be cheating whether you like it or not, unless ofcourse the four people involved in the relationship are comfortable with it.

I liked this part where you said office romance is a no-no for you. Keep it up. I advised my colleague too to stay off it. It brings so many negativity and most times end with bitter taste than good.

jessysparkles:
My dear that's why I said seeking God will help in that regards because I believe whatever is meant for you will surely be and whatever is not yours can never be yours.... May God guide and direct us

Amen ooo my sister

Temmywrites:
Ubunja
Why would you have unprotected sex with a woman that you are not married to? When you throw stones make sure you don't live in a glass house

lolz I just laughed at your comments because you sound as if you don't know your fellow gender again. Few years back I was dating this girl and she won't allow me to use condoms because she says it pains her and she doesn't enjoy the sex. Now because we were both young and foolish. we continue in that acts. Even when I asked her what of pregnancy, she told me as long as I won't deny it. com'on isn't that foolish from both side.Thank God I escaped and never put her in child's way(Would have regret it for the rest of my life). Now if you think young girls and guys don't engage in this stupidity today then I will say you still have a lot to know or you are in denial. But if you know they are into it, then you should expect them to bring children into this world in which they can't cater for.

Habeyy:
amen to ur prayers
As I pray you find a good woman,I also pray for myself to find one
But brother,do you know love shouldn't be one-sided
I like the bible verse you quote buh I must say ,it can't only be "love" if all the bible requirement you mentioned are met by the two parties..
Thou nothing like perfection in love but partners shouldn't use that as excuse to break others by committing immoralities.
How can I claim to love someone or vices versa if I don't care what the consequence of my actions and or inactions will be on the other party
I am not shifting blames here
I'm typing based on experience and realities of the modern age
Broda,"eyes don see a lot"

The biggest challenge in that bible verse is if you are willing to sacrifice all that for love and yet your partner does little or nothing in returns. las las love go scatter. And that is my biggest fear in marriage

Habeyy:
That's is just the ish
Many ladies out there want a side mumu that will be on a total lockdown fr them will they flirt around the town
The bitter reality

The ones in this categories are the ones that believe beauty is all it takes to get a man. They want to fling their fingers and men should be crawling at their feet. I have seen some of them.

lefulefu:
lol most times it does not work. This is what scammers use to prey on their victims. Its better dating someone u can feel and touch rather than dating someone u just met on d computer or fone who could be using a fake pix as his or her profile.

The one you can feel and touch sometimes are even scam at the end of the day. Let alone the ones that are miles apart.. Haba

jessysparkles:
It is not easy @ all....but whatever will be, will be. Its just to seek God's face in such kind of decision to avoid wasted years...

See my sister so many have gone into wasted years because of this. I shared a story sometimes ago about my friend and his gf courting for 9yrs and yet today they didn't marry. They broke up because of this same cheating and the guy today is married while the lady is not. This life can never be fair to everybody..

lefulefu:
lol long distance relationship bah? d one dat is even worse is hooking up with someone on facebook and instagram and saying i love u i love u.u will be doin online for yrs with someone u havent met face to face .falling in love with a pix and for all u know it might be a yahoo boy posing as a female on d other end.dats d worst part in long distance dating.

Hahaha when I see people doing this I just laughed because I wished they know what I know or what I have seen. Some people will not accept this probably because they have seen where it work with one or two persons they know. So it will surely work for them

[quote author=SmellySperm post=80636324][/quote]Abeg let her allow the cat out of the bag

What you have now is not love but likeness or probably lust. Only time will tell if it's love or not. Yet I can feel the butterflies in your stomach

MariaLavina:
Long distance what?



lol... make I no talk

Abegi talk let's hear your own experience or what you have seen on LDL

SmellySperm:
lol ....long distance relationship na scam na,am in it but my mind isn't there cos i cheat and i know she does as well,we are just there decieving ourselves and i kinda enjoy the game

This correlate to what I commented above. You are cheating because you probably believe she is doing same. In the first place don't date someone you can't trust. This reason you stated now will make long distance relationship a continual deceit.

Hahaha that girl probably has a better suitor waiting for her. Just using this one to pass time.

His case might be they have enough to even waste around and it won't affect anything or anyone. Yours is to advise him about his way of life. If he doesn't listen to you just move on. If he keeps giving you willingly without demanding pls collect it. But whenever he gives you and want to use you as slave just reject it and stop the friendship immediately. Else you will be face with two things....
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I throughly envy this man, because being a $billionaire and still Jesus in you settles everything. It brings your mind to rest and makes you see life in a far better view than being poor.

Majlaw:
It work well for me... Until I saw her wedding IV.

Haba.... Are you saying u were still in a relationship before she showed you an I. V her wedding

theSpark:
Well thank God I had already made up my mind not to do initiate any relationship on a long distance basis. I can't rule out having to move away due to work or something. That one is manageable but I can't know someone is faraway and enter a relationship with them.

Imagining that! A lady traveled all the way from delta to Lagos to meet someone I know here in Lagos and they spent a week together. She happens to be a student. Are you telling me that girl may not probably has a bf?

J111333:
It depends on what you define love to be. I love everything God created including animals.
Now, women want men to give up everything else just to "love" them unconditionally while they themselves don't. Isn't that stupidity?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a).
Now this is love according to the Bible but when I read that Bible verse and think about loving my wife same. I began to doubt if it is actually possible to do all that. I am not talking about this fake lust bf and gf profess in relationships and call it love. Well only time will tell and I pray God help me I meet a deserving woman as such.

Congrats to you as I wish same for my self... Very soon God will make it happen.