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Just look at the conversation between @duggedised12 and @hopefulLandlord and see how a subject should be debated on or argued upon. Not bringing your frustrated soul on any one who disagree with your opinions or comments. Kudos to both of you.

Gambling or betting is greediness in making fast money without much effort. Forget about this useless depression you are talking about because people have been in worst situations and they live. Look for a job and start it no matter how little it is and see yourself being lifted up in no time. Nobody brings success to this world, it was made here and I am making mine right now.so nothing stops you from making yours with diligence, focus, smartness and hardwork.

Elder0001:
If someone truly loves you they won’t cheat on you. Cheating is never a mistake,it’s a choice.

If a man claims he truly loves you if he wanna insert his preeq into another woman pussy he’ll puke .

God bless you for this. I have told people several times about this and yet some still argue with me. Well I believe there is nothing like love in a relationship except in marriage. Love is being built overtime not this bf or gf kind of unfounded lust they claim to call love. The word Love has been misused, misunderstood, disfigured, battered and destroyed in today's society.

NwaAmaikpe2nd:
Happy first sunday of this month to you all.

Today suppose to be a happy day for me as it coincide with my mum's birthday which we have planned to celebrate.

But it turn out to be a dissapointment because my fiance broke up with me 6 hours ago.

I don't know where i wrong him o.

My only pain in this breakup is that he may withdraw his support financially in regards to my sibling schooling,which we now be my priority.

I have never fallen in love with a man before except him but he decided to break my heart.

I don't think i will ever love a man again for a very long time because it seems they are all same.

How can you claim all men are the same if this is your first time you are falling in love with a man??abeg think straight

You should have had a foundation of no sex before marriage with him when starting the relationship. That is only when I can fault the guy for not honoring it. But if you never had such and now you refused to let him do it after all his commitments then I will say you brought this upon yourself.

goldony:
It is Ur state girls that are olosho. Anambra ladies are business minded, super intelligent, homely, always beautiful with good height, that is why most Anambra men prefer marrying their women. When U want to intimidate them,they can dare you.
You are the one spewing trash here, I know 5 imo state guys in oil company that refused marrying their imo state girls before they were transferred to work abroad.

this is what i am talking about. You had to attack all his people because he did the stereotype thing. Imagine calling all anambra people oloshos even when he is yet to meet one tenth of their population. People are full of surprises..

Pchidexy:
I guess you are the illiterate fool! Stereotypes are held on to by illiterate people and hateful people like you. You are not better than anyone. Nairaland, a faceless forum,gives everyone fool a chance to form boss

Must you call her a fool to prove your points? Just dish out your own opinion and move on..is that too hard to do..haba

AwkaetitiBabe:
Form boss? Are u sure u even okay upstairs? Is that what u could deduce from my post? Abeg some get it twisted biko

Both of you can still share different opinion without insult. I find it disturbing when two mature people can't discuss in peace..

Right from my birth I have heard the saying you leave a snake and kill an mbaise person.haba what is evil than this? And some people believe this. Some even say igbos eat people..lolz..another say Yorubas don't take care of their wives. Another says ilaje people are wicked. Edo people are fetish and diabolical.hahha. what more have I not heard. I have dealt with different tribes to know that there are good and bad people from each tribes. So my parents dare not even tell me where to marry from. They should be concern about my happiness, that's all. The worst part is that most of these parents claims to be Christians and Muslims and still hold this beliefs. Yet they claim to know God and serve but never heed his words when it comes to certain things...simply hypocrisy.. What a selfish parents most of us have

I have read all the comments from first page to this one here and all I see is my parents say this and that. This is modern age and so many things has change yet some people still take it upon themselves to still leave in the past. How can your parents decide who a grown up woman or man should marry? All tribes have wicked people for sure and no tribe is excluded from bad behaviours. Your experienced with people you meet should determine who you marry not your parents or someone else. That person who is good to your parent is worst to another person in the same clan and conditions. What is racism if not what I just read all through these comments. Hmmmm

The bible says in Jer. 29:11....that the thought he has for us is peace and not evil and to give us an expected end.. Now take note that the expected end is positive and not negative. But he has given us the power to choose between life and death therefore it now lies with you how you end it. So you can die before the appointed time because it now lies in your hand. So many have died due to their own carelessness, some died because of others mistake that falls on them, some died because they couldn't afford better treatment when they became ill. So yes you can die any moment,any time due to so many factors.

Our mind has a way of playing tricks on us. Some secret are very important to share with your partner because it may cost the relationship in the future while some should stay hidden especially when no health concern is involved. If I tell you a secret and same acts plays again, you might find it hard to believe my side of the story...that's another angle to look at it.

Ishilove:
So what do you tell people that have been married for over 50 years and counting? Going by the circumstances of your marriage you are not in the best position to give any kind of marital advice, dear.

Instead, go and learn from the elders on how they have made theirs work.

Thank you jare...all this young generation of men and women don scatter everything with sex sex and sex...how can you not trust your spouse.someone that will give you food, care for you and your children.infact I don't understand op at all.

Starz825:
He is right...don't trust anyone...not just ur spouse ...
My definition of trust here is don't expect perfection from anyone....hope for the best in them, prepare for the worst from them...they are in humans....they can grow ur heart so expect that...

Nawa for you guys ooo. I can't even marry a woman I won't trust..never ...not me. It is better not to marry at all

LilMissFavvy:
Which research? Besides I do not understand what you mean by love peddle, but in marriage, women are far more faithful, that's my point.

Who gave this your stats about women being faithful than men ? It's a fallacy from the pit of hell. Both are guilty as charged

AstroG1:
Bro,Leave Chenzen. The guy is a confused niggur


Let him be advocating for those that always play the victim cards even when they are the ones that caused it.

Chenzen,your miseducations are misyarns are blabberdash. They are the Weak and feeble guys.

I have said several times that ladies has a lot to loose when it comes to relationship palava. Do you use body count for men but will not hesitate to throw it to any lady that you feel deserves it..ba

Some girls can be funny and stupid at a certain age. How can you do this to your parent? Instead of you to go home and meet your parent, you are forming wifey to a student...chai this life don't scatter

Raalsalghul:
What's your definition of love.
Feelings or Actions?

Anybody that cannot practice the love specified in 1cor 13:4-8. Then you never loved.

castro316:
hmm. I can see that you are learning. Learn well. A virtuous woman acquires wisdom in the inner most parts

Even after learning some still become victims.

sanmtiago:
feelings

What you call feeling is what some people lust after and call it love. People no longer love because all they do is do the opposite of love in a relationship.

Leriebloom:
I wouldn't say it was 100% the man's fault
(90% maybe)
The lady had issues controlling her anger which was what led to her loosing her womb and life.
She should have gotten a psychologist after she had made the mistake of loosing her womb.
I blame her for wasting her years on him due to the toxic relationship they had. He only made her situation (anger) worse.
She was literally feeding him but she still didn't see that he was using her.
Dude was lazy and selfish because he watched his wife hustle to pay the bills and he didnt see the need to get a per time job to fund his project.

You have said it all. A man of such is toxic and harmful even to himself. Which yeye battery dream. If the woman didn't sacrifice herself to keep the home going the battery would have been dead and thrown inside the garbage. What a great movie ..

I guess you are joking with this writings about your name . I bet you the day you will meet a Victoria who happens to be opposite of what you are then you will hate the day you were given that name. Names have nothing to do with your personality. Some don't care about their names while some make sure no stain comes near that name. Your name can mean success to you but failure to someone else. Kudos to that guy if he truly means what he wrote about you sincerely. Never let him go if he happens to be one of the good guys out there because we are scarce to come by. Have a nice day..

MichaelsHope:
No. Her intention was to come back, but I have made up my mind. If I will give her the platform to come back, her pains will be eternal.

She was my junior in the University in the same department, I met her during one evening class, I have forgotten her memory, I was in service when she said, she want ME, I told her I don't have the time,


The moment she comes in all my savings during NYSC went down. I missed out on a master's programme I registered for.

before that time, I didn't go after women, it may takes years to take another step, though in my late 20s.

bro, no need to think in that direction again. Just let it go since you have moved on. Some break up hurts alot especially when you sacrificed yourself into it.

Every tribe has its bad side. I don't have problem with any tribe rather the personality of the person I want to marry. If she fits all the boxes I want in a woman and will take me as her number one then I care less about her tribe. My wife will be my number one because I want to spend the rest of my life with her and divorced is not an option. May God help me.

Somebody should please help me tell Tammy that even Vardy who is better than him has not being guaranteed a place in England team.He still sits on the benched. Tammy should better reset his brain because he needs Nigeria more than Nigeria needs him.

Our parents really messed up when it comes to sexual education. They nearly made you believe babies come from heaven not from sex..lolz..I had a young girl of 16yrs and very close to me.she came to me one day and said she has sensitive issue to discuss with me. Then i gave her go ahead.she said boys are disturbing her and she wants to know if she can have bf now.that her classmates have started having bf. Then I asked her first that she should have discussed this issue with her mother first that she will explain better to her. She said nooooo, that she can't.she said her mother will not understand her. I was sad for her for not having that connection with her mother. Well i gave her my advice and hope she listens. As long as our parents fail in their responsibility to educate their children about sex then teenage pregnancy will continue to grow higher.

bassette:
you see it has worked because from your end you had decided to be celibate.

Its one of the hardest things to happen yeah but when a woman decides to walk that path then you can say the battle is almost won.

But on the other hand you must understand your sexual compatibility with the man you are with so that when you guys decide to start having sex there is won't be disappointment

so if I knack her and we are not compatible then i move to the next one and continue until I get the one that is sexually compatible with me ba? this is just an invitation to free sex my broda

victorian:
What if it has password, how do u Open it?

Lemme tell u, I have a married female friend whose husband was carrying women after he got a plum job and a jeep as company car. She didn't even need to crack his password before friends came to her, saying they see her husband with different women at clubs, restaurants, hotel and all.
She has 5kids for him. She's a housewife. How can she now divorce him? She thought deeply about it.

She can't? She can't pay the school fees of her five kids whom the husband enrolled in good private schools . She does not have a job! And she's not ready to leave any of her kids behind if divorce happens . It's not like the husband is throwing her out. Four kids are in secondary schools while the last one in primary school . She is in a fix!

She talked, threathnend, cried even reported him to elders in his family, he simply told his family members, look I'm giving this woman monthly allowance, I pay the children school fees, they are all. In private schools, I gave her a car, the store room and fridge is filled with food. What does this woman want again?

Uncle please I'm. Late for work, I don't have time for this meeting. I'm late.
He walked out on everyone. She was shocked and crying , saying girls have bewitched her husband.



Anyways lo and behold he contracted aids. He knew at late time., since when he knew he stopped having sex with his wife. But d wife didn't know, she thought one his side chicks must have charmed him. She kept praying to God. Until he became ill, to cut long story short. He died of HIV.

And he didn't transmit the disease to his wife. The prayer of the wife made him. To have conscience and not infect her with HIV.

So how do u see this scenario?

Prayers of the wife made him to stop sleeping with her. Not even checking his phone. She called a family meeting because he stopped sleeping with her, not knowing he was protecting her from himself.
You see life?

My Pastor says just place your wife or husband in God's hands. Let God handle them.. Las Las if they are doing bad behind you. It will be revealed one way or the other and you will be saved from their games.

This one you are always saying my pastor, my pastor. I pray and hope he doesn't lead you astray. The scenario you narrated is just one in a million. so many have been a victim of HIV/AIDS and different kind of diseases from unfaithful partners . I will repeat that the earlier you know the better for you. I can tolerate so many thing from my partner but not cheating. And I will make sure I never do same. You need to go out there and weigh the options of seeing the devastating effects of cheating partner on their spouse before you know if you are to follow your pastor or not.

ericsmith:
I am really surprised @ ur decision, nevertheless i respect it bro, buh with these kind of decision the only way you won't get burnt is to settle for a virgin.
The bitter truth is guys like you pay for the sins of the bad guys, women are creatures full of deciet, if she is not a virgin trash the celibate story.
lf what you want is a no sex r/ship ur best shot is a verified virgin ...otherwise be ready to tolerate a cheating partner, we know ourselves

She said she is a virgin. I believed her because she had a solid background and decent. Atleast that is what she appears to me. She doesn't even like to kiss. She does all these attributes attached to a virgin.

luvyaself95:
it's nothing like block heart but it put heart in safety zone from those manipulative, deceit and lie ladies out there.
when you meet good lady you will know or you don't know how to interact with ladies.

How many ladies do you have to date before you meet the right one? 2, 4 or even 10.

Darevofpeace:
.......bros,the fact is that you as a man must always be on your game in any relationship.
Firstly,have a life that consumes your time schedule outside the relationship. This would reduce wasting unnecessary energy in all those drama's from your girlfriend.
Secondly no matter how much you love your girlfriend, do not show all the affections immediately.
By the virtue of women wiring by God,they only remember the good deeds of the present by a man.
Since they are emotional being.
Thirdly,make your money and consistently work on your financial independence.This days,naija women date a man whom they love and marries a man who is ready,therefore forget about love and just be ready.
There are many things I want to type here.............

We rarely see because I am the busy type. I work mondays to saturdays so I have no time for side chit-chat with anybody. May my distance was the reason I didn't catch her on time...maybe

victorian:
My Pastor said its uncalled for.

And if one didn't marry their wives or husband's from night clubs and brothels, then why get suspicious checking the partners phones?

What are you looking for?

It's because u feel suspicious of your partner and u don't trust him. Or her that's why u check.

For me? I don't have time to check and I don't want to know.

Because assuming my husband is cheating on me and I know at the late hour he has a kid with another woman through his phone. What will I do?

Divorce him? Or pretend all is well and be living with him. In bitterness and anger?

I don't need all that shiiit!

I like to live a peaceful life. Because the day I find out he's cheating and got a child out there. That day my peace is destroyed and only God knows what my reaction. Will be.


So it's better I don't know.

checking your partner's phone has saved alot from disasters such as contracting HIV, time wasting and so on. The earlier you know the better you move ahead.