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Singlenhappy:
don't bring her past into the marriage, she may have done that on request of her ex out intense love. And just because you love a man does not mean you guys are meant to be!

So how does a girl know who she's meant to be with?.

micflo28:
Many nairalanders are unapologetically sexist. They have started accusing the lady of being a LovePeddler. No sex before marriage was an agreement you had with her and not with other men before marriage. Did he bargain to marry a virgin? Every checks for infidelity should start after marriage. Before marriage was not your entitlement entirely. If she has assured him of faithfulness in the marriage, he should settle down and enjoy his marriage. The LovePeddler you were sleeping with, who did you expect to marry them

Checks for fidelity/ body count should start b4 marriage.

The boyfriend system should be abolished because the time girls give to their boyfriend is the time that should be given to the husband so eventually the husbands will feel cheated unless the guy too was a runs guy too with high body count.

LolaO:
Dishonesty in finances means that he was owing different loan sharks a lot of money while pretending to be what he is not with me and my family, which also ties into all the lies.
I don’t feel entitled to any man’s money but when you want to start a home, openness is key.

I liked ur comment and I agree 100%!

Ocholu:
Let me use this opportunity to wish my fellow Nairalanders and Nigerians a happy new year. May God bless us all.

So, this post may be a little bit lengthy. There's no sugar coating, neither is it fiction.

In 2021, yesterday was the first day I went to Church for a full service. In as much as I as I don't go to Church regularly, I have a personal relationship with God. As the last day of the month, I promised myself that I must go to the Altar of the Almighty and Glorify his Name.

I am a Catholic, but I wanted to attend another Church for reasons best known to me. So I choose one of the popular Churches in Naija. I freshened up, prepared myself and went to the Church 1 hour before time (I have a phobia for late coming). As one of the first persons in the Church, I had the liberty to choose a spot I like. Since it's cross over, and for the sake of crashing, I chose a spot that'll meet my many demands.

People started trooping in and wetin my eyes see ehn, hmm. Na young, classy, rich and foreigners de come this Church oh! I immediately noticed that, what you wear to the Church doesn't really matter.

I was still admiring the people coming in, especially the ladies when two girls came in. One of them wore a really tight dress and oh, she wasn't wearing bra and you know bruv, her nip**les were showing. Haa! My Mr Niger D immediately caught signal from in between my laps were it was resting peacefully. I had to calm it down and reassure myself that I came to Church, to rededicate my life to God.

Also, by wearing my senator attire which I invested 15k to sew. I thought that my fashion game would be top notch. But 15 minutes after people started coming in, I realized that I fvcked up! Because, e be like say na only me wear that kind cloth.

At this point, the Church was still welcoming people and also projecting beautiful Gospel renditions on the screens. One woman with her family came and sat close to me. More people came in. Another woman, immediately she met the entrance of the Church busted some amazing dance moves. Omo! "Today na today" I concluded in my mind.

I was still trying to grasp the atmospheric condition when some dude who won Big Brother; I think the African edition came in. He sat two rows in front of me. And this begs me to ask this very important question, what'sup with Nigeria celebrities wearing heavy sunshades even in places wear the really need their bear eyes to see? Even for darkness person go still carry heavy eyeglass chook for eye.

Church service started properly and I must confess that I had one of the best time in the presence of the Lord. The praise and worship was wonderful. I noticed that all the big boys, Celebrities, slay mamas etcetera were all overwhelmed in the spirit of the Lord.

The woman that sat beside me, even after having four children gave me a serious dancing assignment because, I couldn't match her dancing skills.

Lastly, I also realized that mehn, God loves all of us. Regardless of what you do, what you wear, how you choose to worship him. The main thing be say, make you hold and know him.

Mods please help project to front page;

Pls which church is it??

OLULAW:
Those who brought Christianity to Africa spend their time in town and city centres, holding glass of alcohol, drinking their way into the new year. Others hold engagement rings, kneeling in front of their heart throbs, seek their hands in marriage (“will you marry me?”) The countdown is followed by beautiful fireworks. Watch night service is a pure waste of time. Christians claim that God, given his immutability, never changes. If this is true, praying is pointless. Also, Christians claim that God is omniscient. If this is true, he has perfect foreknowledge of future events that he had foreordained. No amount of prayers would change what he foreknew and foreordained…ultimately, humans have no free will. After gaining the highest degree in philosophy at one of Europe’s oldest university and top three in the world, the idea of God, in my view, is the oldest scam. Happy New Year one and all.

Western europeans did not bring Christianity to Africa....

Nairanation2:
Naija is home to d most churchy & religious ppl on earth, yet, see where we are. So sad. What I've come to realise is that religion is a smokescreen for many people... To manipulate, deceive, extort & aggrandize. We're really a terrible people especially d poor. No wonder God gives us terrible, clueless & inept leaders cuz we're a reflection of our leaders. We don't have to be religious to get it right. America is great not because of their devotion to a deity or God but doing d right thing & they continue to have great leaders as opposed to our own zombie in Aso rock. I weep.

Buhari is a great leader....

desiredhome:
He is not, "A black man is a curse to itself" Nigerians are generally wicked/selfish nothing will work with such mentality/mindset....
It's natural, whatsoever a man sow is what he will reap .......

the white man is a curse to itself.... the white man (the black mans burden) us generally wicked and selfish as evidenced by British genocides around the world....and then stealing those resources to make themselves "developed"

Idumuje:
I really wish the north and south part ways. These northern dunces is a major reason for Nigeria’s present backwardness

the north is advanced! if the north part with south the south will be annexed by Britain and u don't want that!

thebosstrevor1:
We all know that the United states is better than Nigeria but stop acting like everything is perfect in that country

there are lot of videos on YouTube of homelessness in the United states.

So stop trying to hype homeless people in the United states.

It is the worst thing ever. You can literally die in the winter

the United States isn't better than Nigeria.. .. Nigeria is much better.....

Karleb:
From the little I read about your claim in first paragraph, these countries claimed France, Germany et al trained terrorists while they (Germany et al) claimed they trained these countries soldiers to fend off terrorists group.

Well, I don't completely trust these developed countries because of their antagonistic involvements in the midddle east.

But you and I know that the reason we still have terrorists in this country is because Islam and our politicians supports it. No offense to my Muslim friends. Most northerners are Muslim and sadly uneducated and poor, making it really easy for these educated and influential political leaders to influence and deceive them.

Most of these developed countries have experienced Islamic terrorism at one point and the reason why they are not battling with it for years is because there majority population are not illiterates and poor or Islamic extremists.


Of course, inflation is everywhere but inflation rate in Nigeria, Zimbabwe and some other African countries are too damn high. You can blame sanctions all you want but know this, these giant nations also place trade sanctions on themselves from time to time. The main reason for inflation in African countries especially Nigeria is the fact we hardly export, we import literally everything.
Imagine Nigeria, a 61 year old country post independence, an oil rich nation without a working refinery?

The reason why Arab money is a thing is because they refine their oil!

Looting of fund is everywhere but they are mostly met with severe punishment/jail term in developed countries but in Africa , it's the order of the day.
A state governor would collect monthly allocation and refuse to pay state government workers for months, even years and nothing will happen.

I'm sorry for the long post but charity begins at home.

If we don't place a value on ourselves by making lives easier for ourselves at home then we shouldn't be angry if outsiders don't respect us or our nation's competition.

bro France regards the African Sahel as the territory because it is rich in mineral resources and they colonized it in the 1800s. 90% of jihadists and militias in Africa are sponsored and trained and motivated by the west which is why they only operate in Africa. how come there are no suicide bombers in uae, saudi and Iran and iraq?

the west are the true terrorists though most ppl won't believe it!

Karleb:
Yeah, we can keep blaming the colonial masters.

Are they responsible for the poverty in the north?
Are they responsible for inflation in Nigeria?
Are they the one sponsoring Terrorism and banditry in Nigeria? If they are, are they the one stopping us from combating these menaces?
Are they the one responsible for looting of public funds?
If they are, are they the one stopping our law from bringing looters to justice?

See ehn, Africa is not ready to develop and its the reason develop societies will never respect us.

yes they are responsible for the poverty in the north... there is evidence that France and French troops trains jihadists and terrorists in Mali, niger and Chad etc who then infiltrate the north into Nigeria so yes they are responsible.

Every country witnesses inflation. 2. inflation can also be caused by sanctions by the west (Germany, France, Uk) as in the case of Zimbabwe where the British and US thieves used sanctions to create hyper inflation.

as for looting of public funds it also happens in Europe e.g. in Ukraine but I agree it's not an excuse.

and I agree about bringing looters to justice....

Karleb:
I do not say these countries have good morals, if they did they would respect AFCON in the first place.

Imagine a country like Afghanistan or Pakistan asking UK or America for respect? That's just how this is.

Let African leaders build their nations. The best way to gain respect is to develop yourself.

Annoying thing is, suffering and poverty in Africa are mostly man made.

that development is difficult with colonists like pests/lions always looking to pounce on African countries....

but china and Russia has been helping Africa withstand such colonial forces....

Rwanda and Botswana are great African countries....

phemmyfour:
Chose to pay for France when Senegal needs you.

it's so sad.... the colonial brainwashing is so full/complete that it will take generations to completely clear....

Karleb:
We can keep blaming them.

But look at Nigeria for example, look at how our leaders are making a fool of themselves and you expect any developed society to respect that?

Funny thing is, as worse as Nigeria is, she is better than a lot of countries in Africa.

@ur first sentence -do you know that as we speak, France is currently trying to take over and control of Mali, Niger, and Chad? so we hv to keep blaming them IN PART.

However I agree with you that many Nigerian leaders are performing below par.

btw do you know that UK France and Germany always try to interfer in Africa elections? even the recent Anambra State elections, UK "election observers" were present.... the UK has no moral high ground at all...its an evil amoral state.

Karleb:
Respect is earned. Africa does not respect herself.

The whites no dey try sha

it's France Britain and Germany that installs puppet leaders in African States that makes it look as if African countries don't respect themselves....those three countries are THIEVES.... they held the Berlin conference in the 1800s.... to divide up Africa for themselves and till today they haven't left Africa alone....

ArchiLimited:
Even Africans are disrespectful to Africa. Most Africans, including the ones living in the west, are actually not proud of their roots. A typical example from this article, we can see that only ONE out of the hundreds of Europe based African players have spoken out in defence of AFCON amidst the western media backlash. I listened to Trevoh Noah talking about his African roots with great pride on American national TV without any apology and I was like, this is it. If all Africans talked like this about Africa, trust me we've gotten on the right track.

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British, German and French media have instilled inferiority complex in Africans using such terms as "third world countries", etc...

but in truth African States are superior to those 3 countries but the Africans themselves don't see this due to years of colonial brainwashing...

Iyaebe:
Mtcheww, all these abroad boys no get money,na just fake accent,its small small girls that see them as a big deal

my internet girlfriend how far

Stargurl20:
Lol .... U know what I've noticed so far since I've been giving little attention to this forum? I've noticed females to be stronger, more mature, intelligent etc than their male counterparts in this forum ( this isn't because I'm a female). Like what the f**k! Una no dey tire? A day wouldn't pass without men on this forum bashing females.

You as a men just take a look at what your fellow male just posted above. No one is stopping u from taking cognisance of females' body counts, but shouldn't he be posting same thing about male? Oh..... They are males and it's men's world na .



Wonder how u guys we react when u give birth to female child.

u have some valid points and hence forth I will start posting about men's high body count too.

Stargurl20:
All topics always centering around women, yet, they claimed to dislike or hate women.

lol feel free to create ur own dat centers around men na...e.g. signs a man is a male ashewo.... create it lets discuss....

Bigfish121:
When she has alot of male friends

very true!

funshint:
Do you really have to go into topics like that? Oh you think those who have a perfect marriage today don't also have a dark past? Even you as a man, how many girls have you led to go and do abortion during your sexcapades? Oh you think yours is less dirty than hers. I say it again; most men are hypocrites.

Ashawo man deserves ashawo woman for marriage….. and vice versa….:

I only have issues with ashawo women trying to settle with good Christian guys who kept themselves….

osaeti:
Y always her always I don't understand, wat about him, his past, how many ladies he dicked, how many guys dicked him join, how many ladies aborted or have a child for him. Pls check his past life too before husbanding him. Mak person no go marry curse instead of husband.

I agree with you that it goes both ways….

Exceed15:
Bro, I took time to read through. See ehn marriage will not suddenly change how you feel about her. Since her physical appearance is a concern to you kindly release the lady and let another brother who appreciates all the sweet qualities you mentioned have her. If you go ahead and marry her out of pity , it won't stop u admiring the kind of girl you desire

However, when the girl with the big yansh begins to show u big wahala don't run to NL to disturb o.

is it really possible to get every single quality u want from one girl

FernandezPablo:
Mister you didn't mention that on your post..stop the generalisation..

it's not a generalisation....if a girl features any of those things it doesn't mean she has a high bc...it simply means you should look for confirmatory signs (to confirm the SUSPICION), be vigilant and thread carefully.

JoyousFurnitire:
Did you do a sample survey? In which lg, state or country? Where? Because I can't just believe someone will go up there posting trash? Do you expect us to go about with this your yeye reasoning?

go ahead with such gals n.a.. it's not by force to believe me

Candidlady:
smh! Joblesnes!!

ur now my internet girlfriend...yay! kisses

dontrulee:
Every lady claim to be a virtuous woman.
Only few ones will tell you they're bad but even at that, they'll still claim to be good.
Girls hardly have direction, it's the guy that leads and direct them.

The spiritual ones are the worst, I see through them easily like water. I just need to meet you once to know your weakness

spiritual gals are quite narcisstic!

FernandezPablo:
1)so all plum gals have a high body count?
2)very wrong..
3)she might be stressed out and other stuffs might contribute to her looking older than her age..
4)she might be a religious person..good for her..what if her dad is a pastor and she's expected to always be present in church does that still mean she has a high body count?

read where I mentioned inference, deductive reasoning and probability.

Any girl that wears waist beads, 95% of the time sells herself to the man that is the highest bidder. they tend to hv high body count.

Also if she has tattoos or noserings.... bad sign...

JoyousFurnitire:
How does this make sense to you? What are the evidence of your research?

This is deductive reasoning and inference. obviously it's not 100% accurate - these are more or less indicators and or estimators of probability of sleeping around

Also if she's very active on social media always posting pics of herself then the body count could be high as well!