₦airaland Forum

CaveAdullam:
1. If you say they are "horsebands", I get the point. But to say "they lack empathy is a twist of facts and reality".

Ok. Let's go.


2. Genuine love means the tendency to go beyond your boundary and make sacrifices for the person you desire. This can cause you pain and loss, however, you don't care because you are obsessed with this person - your lover.

3. Firstly, is there anything like genuine love?

"Genuine" becomes attached to "love" when the sacrifice of one lover supersedes the other. Or, when both are working together and reciprocating the benefits they gain from each other, albeit, unequal.

There's nothing like "genuine love".

Though, we may want to cancel the aforementioned by introducing religion: God and his worshippers, and nature: a mother and her child.

It seems genuine because both God and the mother are stronger and wiser. They cater for the ones beneath them because they are weak. However, if this relationship between them can tarry amid sin and old age, it would have been "pure genuine love". But this is not the case. In the end, God wants stainless worship and the mother wants to be taken care of in old age. Their present sacrifice is speculation of reciprocity in the future.

4. Empathy and kindness are easy byproducts of "genuine" love, even outside the sexual relationship.

Take note: there is nothing like Nigerian men or Nigerian women. Men are men. Women are women. There will always be tinctures that tend to differentiate them in their behaviors, but these are just social behaviors, that sprout from their culture, tradition, background, etc. To get the full scope of "men are men" and "women are women", you must begin to microscopically examine them from their evolutionary behavior, biochemical makeup, and physical and psychological makeup. Now you don't judge from one demography, you conclude by judging men and women from different demographics.

5. Constant weddings keep churning weekly. Men in their hordes still complain about being manipulated and losing their money.

Young women still see young men without luxury as useless (of course, they are useless to women in the grand scheme of the reproductive game).

Weak men who plead for love aka "simps" still abound.

This evidence questions your take on their level of empathy, kindness, and genuine love. If they were absent, it wouldn't have been the case.

6. To date, (Nigerian) men are still proving their love for (Nigerian) women. Empathy, genuine love, and kindness are famous in men's corridors. They may be suppressed, but for the women they love, it manifests.

7. Meanwhile, men don't marry women they hate. But a woman can deceive a man into marrying her even if she doesn't love him. It is a psychological and evolutionary game.



8. I agree.

But as stated above, relationship is a transaction, love is the currency. It is less mechanical because both love themselves and fight to stay above the odds or see each other not as tools but rather, as an unequal useful pair.

9. Let me tell you, it is women and children that benefit not the man. The man holds a greater power because he's able to provide and protect for his family. What's his benefit there?

10. Women cook and clean, a role that can easily be reversed and given to a maid for lesser amount and problems. But can the woman wake up one morning and pick any man that will commit? No.

You may think that this is the reason women should become independent and have their money. Yet if she gets married, she desires the man to meet up with his primal duties. In egalitarian societies, there are still sexual differences.

11. The benefits men derived are evolutionary. The benefits women derived are evolutionary, physical, material, and emotional.


12. You are correct.

What you must understand is that the average human is under the control of their primal instincts. Despite our evolved environment, that hunter-gatherer instinct wired in us for thousands of years still got a loud mouth and a loudspeaker.

It takes self-awareness to understand another person, only then will you be able to reach reasonable conclusions about people and not fall into feuds daily.

13. Based on their nature and environment, cooking and cleaning were the appropriate ways to get their number 1 priority, which was to get married to a man that will fulfill their needs. In the same way, "horsebands" work hard to provide for their wives.

These were the thought of 99.9% of women even to date. The reason you are objecting is because of the rapid change in our environment, level of exposure, and information consumed.

14. However, there is a need for women to understand themselves before even choosing a man. Here the importance of a father and mother becomes imminent, to guard, lead and counsel her in the way of men and the operations of the world.



15. Financial resources are not all they need, however, come first on the list of what they should possess before getting married.

Finance is important for his personal growth and development.

Without finance, he will be ridiculed.

Without finance, no one will respect him.

Women want commitment, finance signals that. This is what women consider before marriage.

16. Intelligence, personality, wisdom, kindness, empathy, confidence, and braveness comes second. If women chase this second bag in men, many wouldn't have been baby mamas/single mothers who complain about deadbeat dads; finance may not be obvious for this reason, but there was the mystery of it. They made the mistake of choosing wrongly.



17. These personalities may be suppressed due to circumstances at a particular time, but for the average man, these personalities are quotidian in their domain. You just need to observe the way they treat their loved ones and the people around them.



18. Women or not, men must provide, either for their family or themselves. It is because of this eternal burden to provide that makes them dwell less in the emotional domain. That emotional plane is for women because nobody expects much from them.

Men must either provide or create or else, be considered a nuisance. A bigger nuisance if he opts out of the game because he will first be disrespected and later die of hunger.



19. To be sincere, all men desire in a woman is teachableness, smartness, boldness and being able to fulfill her common role: nurturing, cleaning, and cooking.

Woke and independent women going off the scale find a problem with men since in the long run, men aren't willing to comply.

Many men are sheep though.



20. For the record, men don't marry women they hate. The cost of a wedding ceremony and running a family is too risky a task to treat a woman wrongly. Disagreements will always arise but they wouldn't get to the point it will erase his love for her except otherwise.

21. It is left for the woman to do a thorough job on the man she decides to submit to. Women make mistakes in selecting the wrong men and cry cats and dogs when these men aren't what they bargained for.

Thanks.

Cc. Emmaodet, Hedgefunds, Reminderz

SmartyPants:
The skills required to emerge as a first class student have nothing to do with business. First class students belong in the professional world not in the business world selling pant for example.

We are talking doctors, lqwyers engineers, research scientists. They have no business doing business.

Righteousness2:

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stuffs2002:
My former neighbour married a lady from a poor home and she was the first child out of 9 siblings. Imidiately he married her, a large part of the family responsibilities fell on him. 3 of her siblings moved in with in after he got married with the rest always coming and going. He became their "go to" guy for things like JAMB, WAEC, medical fees and othe things. He was even the one paying their house rent in their family house. He was always sending feeding money to the family all the time. He practically shoulders his wife's siblings weddings and other celebrations.

Before he got married, my former neighbour was into private business and his business was flourishing. Now, he flat on his back and has even sold his car because he responsibility of catering for a large pooe family of his wife made him broke.




Cc: MrBrownJay1
UyaiIncomparabl

HandsomeHITLER:
It is not wrong to detain someone for investigation... Especially if they have any proof or reason to. It's only a matter of HOW they're treated in custody; which shouldn't last longer than 24hours. I only wish they were that swift with our politicians. 😒

hammerFC:
THIS IS Y NIGERIA SHOULD ALLY WITH BIAFRA TO RECOVER BAKASSI.


PROVIDE US ARMS, MILITARY TRAINING AND FINAANCE.



WE ALREADY HAVE BAKASSI IN OUR CUSTODY



AND NO INTERNATIONAL COURT CAN TAKE IT FROM US, BECAUSE IT IS WITHIN THE BIGHT OF BIAFRA AND INSIDE BIAFRA TERRITORY.

bitbillionaire:
Pentagon announces new nuclear bomb 24 times more powerful than one dropped on Japan


The Department of Defense announced its pursuit of a nuclear bomb that will be 24 times more powerful than one of the bombs dropped on Japan during World War II.

The Pentagon is seeking congressional approval and funding to pursue a modern variant of the B61 nuclear gravity bomb, which will be designated the B61-13, according to a DoD press release. 

A fact sheet included with the release said the B61-13 will have a similar yield to the B61-7, which according to a Defense News report, has a maximum yield of 360 kilotons. The load is 24 times larger than the bomb dropped on Hiroshima, Japan, during World War II, which was about a 15 kiloton bomb. The B61-13 would also be about 14 times larger than the bomb dropped on Nagasaki, which was 25 kilotons.

According to the fact sheet, the powerful new bomb will also "will include the modern safety, security, and accuracy features of the B61-12."

The new bomb will be deliverable by modern aircraft, the release notes, and will be designed to give the president options to strike hard and large-area military targets.

Source: https://www.foxnews.com/us/pentagon-announces-new-nuclear-bomb-24-times-more-powerful-dropped-japan

Jewessgratitud3:
......but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, e go hard. So those two were not my spec.

JagabanB:
The only thing worthwhile here is the joy of fulfilment.
Nobody will give u extra respect simply because u are married.
Marriage doesn't lead to break through, the kind of woman u marry will determine whether u grow or deminish.
When u live a life so fulfilling that u leave ur footsteps well engraved in the sands of time, history and ur family will always remember you.
Today we talk about Mandela, do u know his sons?
Today we talk about Einstein, do u know his children?
We talk about Galileo, Aristotle, James Chadwick, Charles Darwin, Tafawa Balewa, Zik, Awolowo, Fela Kuti, Amina of Zaria, Mao Zedong, Roosevelt, Washington etc etc, do we talk about them because of their children or because they were married?

RightToReject:
His submission might not have been properly articulated and carried an undertone of self-absorption, he has a point nonetheless. A better approach should be to rename NDDC something like Oil Producing States Development Commission (OPSDC) in order to accommodate both Niger Delta States and non-Niger Delta oil producing states. NDDC, as a name, isn't encompassing.

eruchboy:
Question is how far will the naira fall?

NOwazobia:
I thought you have a law some where that said producers must be contacted privately before making reviews.

NOwazobia:
So, there is a rule for reviews.

I will love to know where such rules are situated.