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As elections draw near, we see an increase in fake and malicious news!

There is a circulating video online claiming the church in Nigeria is under threat by a new agency being formed by the government.

This video has been fact checked and countered.

So what are the real facts? Watch and find out.

Fake news misleads people and even leads to loss of lives. Let's be careful with spreading just any information.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7BmsaEf2qKY

In 2007 the youths in Bauchi Adopted a slogan which went VOTE, PROTECT THE VOTE & ESCORT THE VOTE. They effectively protected their election mandate thereby aborting any magomago plans by shady persons who wanted to rig the election.

As elections approach, tips are given in this video on how to effectively protect your votes, which can be done pre-election period and on election day. You will also learn what constitutes election theft and fraud so you can Identify it when it is happening on election day.

These are voter education videos everyone can learn from.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DitILK1H1fY

Back in the days, the news that a young lady got pregnant through premarital sex provoked a certain kind of reaction, of dissaproval. No one needed to tell you that getting pregnant or impregnating someone before marriage was simply unacceptable conduct. The fear of the associated stigma ensured you kept your legs together and your knickers, zipped up.

But today, the narrative has changed. More and more celebrities and people who shape opinions are even the ones now spear heading the trend. What we now see is a society filled with men who have three or more kids from different women and women who are now comfortable being called ‘baby mamas’.

The crazy thing about this trend is, it seems the ladies who are most times dumped after having the babies have no problem with this bizarre practice as most of them jostle to be baby mamas to male entertainers.
Change is constant they say. But certain changes are worrying and present threats to our common existence.

There is no clear definitive point of entry of baby mama/ baby daddy culture into Nigerian society. It was more of a gradual blending in. A generation ago, having a child before saying your vows was frowned upon and in some cases not tolerated.

The trend has even evolved from being just a celebrity thing, to even common men. Many girls you meet in the street today, have a child waiting for them at home or with their parent, and they are not even married to the fathers of these kids.

What could be the cause of this rotten trend that has now eaten deep into our today society?

I believe personally, that it all boils down to the falling standard of our morals, as a society today. Back then, most girls won’t even get into an intimate relationship with a man who has not yet performed the necessary rites of marriage on her. But that is not so anymore. The turn of the millennium saw a loosening of the moral codes that had existed decades ago. The parents of young Nigerians are slightly more liberal than their folks were.

Most ladies believe that when they get pregnant for a man, it is an ultimate ticket/assurance for marriage. They don’t know that times are changing. Men don’t care anymore. If you get pregnant for them, they would gladly take responsibility for the child, but still not guarantee you marriage, if they don’t want to.

Another reason is the fact that we now have a very low number of responsible men in the society today. Most men are not responsible enough to accept the fruits of their deeds. They are not responsible enough to tie the knot once the deed has already been done. Instead, they seek the easy way out.

Most times, it could also be a deliberate decision, as most of these baby mamas or papas, had already decided that they do not want to get entangled with anyone in marriage, but just have babies, to keep on their legacy, when they are no more.

While this practice rages on, the society bears the brunt of this menace. Apart from it being ungodly, it debases womanhood as the men now see young women as just a means to making babies but not good enough to wife.

If this trend continues unabated , the society would soon be filled with kids from single homes which are at the risk of developing behaviorist patterns inimical to the larger society. Let us be frank with ourselves, a child needs both parents as well as the love and safety a family provides for proper development and for them to become productive members of society. If one should now be absent, then there is a very big problem.

Most of these kids may even be taunted and called different names by their peers. Just imagine a child being called a bastard! That’s negative signal to the mind of the child already.

Another implication of this ugly trend, is the fact that the child involved could grow up to hate either men or women, depending on which parent was absent.

The downside of all these is that in the nearest future, the society would be filled with individuals with no proper moral backing from both parents, thereby dwindling the morals we hold dear as a society.

We totally cannot eradicate this new trend that has come to stay, but can only try our best to educate our wards on the proper way to do things, so we might come back one day to the high standard of morals we once had as a society.

Read more moral themed topics on www.themoralcodeng.com

Sportwin:
are u ok?
i knw there are two sides to every story

i have had situations where a girl that consented suddenly cried rape when i cut her off

so did i rape her?

if d girls were underaged did he force them?
did he also knw their age ?
did they come willingly to him? or he forced them?

underaged sex is a crime yes ! buh we shouldnt look at it as if he forced them to



you wouldnt forget looks can b deceiving ...see 15 yrs old girls looking all 20
and the fact women can be manipulative

and i dnt knw y of all pple that mentioned me i decided to reply u

Haha, Yes I am ok. Thanks for asking. There can't be a gazillion accusations against one person and none true, you didn't sound like you know there are two sides of a story.

Sportwin:
they are all maddddd


did he rape them?

where they forced?

if u check well they threw themselves at him
now coming to claim victim and cos of human psychology we pity them and villify him


rubbish

All of them right?! Every single, accuser threw themselves at him? And in all honesty you see your statement as having sense? The lots who are okay with sexual abuse and rape. Like someone telling me rape happens evrytime, girls live with it. No big deal! Is this how to think?

Cohabitation before Marriage; Why you should not!

Years back, cohabiting with one’s significant other before tying the nuptial knot was often times described in derogatory terms and often thought of as immoral. Today, the picture is quite different.

While it is still considered a taboo, so many couples are now living together before getting married, with statistics showing a steady rate of increase in cohabitation over the past 50 years.

The Oxford Advanced Learners’ Dictionary defines cohabitation as the state of living together and having a sexual relationship without being married. While most cohabiting couples would deny the latter part of this definition, living together before marriage naturally signals that a couple is already sleeping together. Which is a violation of the religious proscription against pre-marital sex.

Don’t get me wrong; I am not looking at this basically from the religious point of view alone, because this is a choice that actually transcends any particular religion, and it’s not in my place or any one else’s to condemn two people who love each other , for the lifestyle choices they make , that will affect no one else but them. But morally speaking, cohabitation is something you should never indulge in, and I will tell you why.

If you ask most cohabiting couples why they chose that path, most would say that when you move in with your partner before tying the knot, you get to test out what life will be like sharing the same space. Some say that cohabitation helps you to ‘test run’ your relationship and it is the best way to test your compatibility for marriage. Others even cite the economic benefits such as sharing rent, bills etc , as a motivation for moving in together.

Read more at www.themoralcodeng.com

Watch this video from THE MORAL CODE - IRRESPONSIBLE WOMEN EXIST BECAUSE OF IRRESPONSIBLE MEN


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ATvPG-LY3ig&t=3s

JONNYSPUTE:
Women always blaming men for their flaws

I doubt this would be your comment if you watched the video. Its not about blame.

How is this an apology! I don't blame him but those who listen to crap and glorify wrong people! People have lost their families to ritual killings and u sing this, try to justify it and still call this apology. Some more youths with empty skulls are going to take this as said. Do anything to get the money.

Hello Nairalanders. Those who know me a bit here know that I am often involved with discussions on right or wrong. Not because I want to come off as a saint or self-righteous, however I believe that when one observes somethings to be wrong it is better to make efforts to fix it than complain.

I see a lot going wrong in our society and I see a lot going wrong in the way people think hence the actions they take. People like to say don't judge, mind your business and all what not. They seem to hate hearing what is true and what is right. I am lending my voice and opinions through THE MORAL CODE. An animated show, which will be coming soon for your viewing and participatory pleasure.

THE MORAL CODE will trash different burning topics around us, it is not a religious show, the language we will all speak and our religion shall be MORALS!

Before the show starts, do enjoy my picture posts which will raise questions sometimes, give us humour at other times and address issues of right or wrong most of the time.

I appreciate folks I have met here who I have not met in real life but have been very supportive in making this cause a reality! OGAGA you know yourself. Thank you!

So if like me you are crazy about values, principles, faith, right & wrong, family values and more the time starts now to join THE MORAL CODE discussion. Follow me on Instagram @maero41 My Facebook page - @themoralcdeng

ENJOY MY PICTURE POSTS!

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Okoyeeboz:
No ma, she's lucky to have Jason.

Jason is a tech billionaire and he can afford to give her what her colleagues are prostituting to buy.

If he weren't that wealthy, would she still love him the same?

Abeg why asking a question like this. Do you know their history? Do you know how long they stood by each other? Do you think women don't make it by themselves and support their men while pretending to outsiders its the man doing everything?

You men also need to stop thinking only what a woman wants are material things or that they are materialistic, keep thinking that way and that's what u'll attract to urself.

harriet412:
U are so pained

Wonder why I'll be pained? You can't read emotions through texts... In any case they should be pained for themselves.

Emeskhalifa:
See how decent d guy was dressed yet see what the lady wore. Smh
Call them s#x material now and 3rd world War go just start



At times I don't blame all these gurls. Na d ode guys wey no dey gree tell em truth I blame.

I walked out of a girl I was having a first date with coz of indecent dressing.
I can be looking responsible while your lookin like a wH0¯r3 beside me na

Arigato! Ur brain dey there. Now wait for the don't judge crew come for you. Or the some of you do worse fanatics that just can't call a spade a spade.

A woman with endowments like boobs, hips and all meant to be well covered has it everywhere in public view while the man is even wearing a turtle neck under the suit.

Well gladly if this is truly a man picking a bride they both admit they are smelly people by their reactions in the 3rd picture. Nansense.

Stewpid people errwhere!

sacajawea:
And some ppl are still smoking heavily in that Lagos.
Lol i pirry some ppl

looolz! This one made me laugh. Express way to death, seems they can't wait.

AmazingELixir:


Lagos pollution capital of Africa,.... standing along ikorodu road for just 5mins then wipe your face with White handkerchief then you'll understand the severity of pollution in Lagos.

Virtually all the street light lamps have turned charcoal black because of excessive carbon emissions from rickety vehicles from trailers, to danfo, even the new blue buses and ofcourse not forgetting the notorious red buses and refuse trucks.

Lagos is nearing breaking point ammonia pollution from careless urinating and passing of excreta in open spaces is another huge challenge.i don't even want to mention solid waste which is now on the faces of every lagosian.

And population of Lagos is expanding at an alarming rate alongside crimes and associated vices, beggers and deformed people of all extractions inundates the length and breadth of the city constituting nuisance.

Lagos state needs help beyond her borders and until development becomes evenly spread across the country the condition of the state will only degenerate.

Apt!

R0manGreen:
Am not surprised, my first time in Lagos, stuck in traffic....I almost went mad coz the odour and the air wasn't healthy at all, once you enter Lagos from the high way, you will notice the change in air quality

I agree too much. Was there just a few weeks back. Experienced exact same things you are saying. Came back and had skin inflammations as well. I just still can't decipher what people love about that city. The hold up is enough to make one move.

martineverest:
the aim is just to destroy her home...bloggers are just useless.

wish people will learn to fix things than make it worse! She must be facing so much right now! From different quarters!

She's made a very one kind statement. Stuff like this on a public platform! She didn't clarify it well at all
.. In fact nothing to clear. That kind of thought shouldn't have made it out of her mouth! Now people will be looking at the husband somehow, it could be a storm she created by mistake in her home now!

I trust him but don't trust him... A child should have utmost sense of safety from parents if that is absent what remains. I just hope she and her husband have an understanding on this matter, so things don't go south.

Between! What's the aim of this post? Destroy their home?

Rule number one! Public flogging for women that behave like an animal like this! Giving some goats on nairaland more room to insult us. What is the this poo now.

If you wear cloth and any part of your breast is showing you don't have sense. I said it. Money and fame really needs to be handled well.

Made

BanevsJoker:
This story sounds very very white. Black people value family over everything else

Strongly disagree

MajorJeffery:
The groom shouldn't have dated such a heartless lady let alone planned to marry her.

Yep! Narcissistic human being! She must have showed all the signs.

Chubby face was finer! Slim head... What kind of hair style is that... Well smaller is healthier. Anyhow u achieve it. Surgery or not...

ariesbull:
Oga nobody is wishing Lagos bad...what we are saying is Lagos is 70% slum and that is not wishing bad but stating facts

So why do we don't like telling ourselves the truth

You just posted etiosa and island ..what about mainland which is over 80% of Lagos
Post oshodi, ilasa, mile 2 , mile 12, ketu, ikorodu , alapere Ipaja, Egbeda, Imotun, Idumu, orile , ajegunle etc....not only island which is tiny part of Lagos

Let's tell ourselves truth ...it's not wishing bad

Facts! What's in Lagos to enjoy! Air pollution, couldn't recall one time I breathe fresh air. Noise pollution! Human pollution! Bloody hold up. People there need to try the peace elsewhere! Don't try reasoning with sentiments. Some are just blindly in love with their city. I visited Lagos and all I say and keep saying is Lagos needs help! 3hours inside hold up! For what na! Abuja rocks! Can dash to 5places in 1day. Be productive!

Rich, poor, uber, Danfo all of u inside hold up. Nothing like quick drops. Gosh!

jife:
True Omoni should have planned her day if her friend meant anything to her. INI is right

True joor! When you call someone a friend. They'll throw everything aside to turn up for you! If they couldn't, they better be sick, hit by a truck or something. She is an actress that could have canceled her shoot for just 1day to be there. There are subtle signs in people not to ignore even when they say they friends.

mezarddinny:
wife of the most useless governor in the history of mankind

Geee! Brother take it easy! That's my Governor! That's a fatal insult. Beht when did u conduct a survey worldwide that proves him that useless?

Anyway, I agree with you. Young for nothing!

Felixalex:
No mind me jare, Na me de view dem I know... Only exaggerating but it's alarming, many girls have turned it into a profession, twerking on Instagram

No mind them o! I saw a vid of some black guys doing a fast choreography, it was nice. I commented and said "girls should learn this and stop twerking" haaahaha! Na still the same girls come dey attack me o! Say No! I said it is finished. Stop viewing them and helping them blow on IG or elsewhere.

holuphisayor:
Nice feature, since Facebook have been more of a marketing tool than a social interaction app lately.

But sadly Facebook still owns Instagram.

yeah! I observed that shift too in Facebook. Its very effective for marketing a page or business, not so great for social interactions anymore as it used to be! Even though they tried to make sure we only see posts from friends and family and less business pages it's still just there...

Felixalex:
Instagram abi twerkstagram? All the girls on Instagram now are twerkers.

All the girls kwa! Stop EET joor! You must have been viewing too much of such, so Instagram showed you more of such, now u think that's all it has... I don't see twerking vids... Instagram is fast growing after Facebook, there are things in the online space that if we don't embrace we will still be forced to somehow.

PotatoSalad:
I don't like Instagram. People there make me think I'm not working hard enough
Oppression is the new Motivation lol.

Lolz! I love Instagram, people there make me see beautiful things and beautiful places, hence I am motivated to work hard enough so expensive can also become affordable. You must also be following or viewing wrong accounts that have nothing to do than post pictures of a flashy life. There is so much more to Instagram, there are positive influencers there (not celebrities) in fact it can grow your hustle if you know how to use it right. But not forcing you o!