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It’s been a week filled with all manner of drama. It’s not that Nigerians don’t do good things, I’ve come to realize that bad just has a louder volume and reach, hence why it seems only bad things trend. So the saga we’ve been experiencing has mostly been from our educational institutions. From the 5 students who beat their fellow student, to the mother who went to fight or defend her daughters fixed eyelashes in the famous Queens college and finally to a most scandalous sex video that trended as a Babcock school incident.

People have said a lot. Some feel nobody holy pass so what’s the big deal in what she’s done and feel the school should not have expelled her. Some think after good discipline, she needs to be reformed.

Well The Moral Code is here to address issues of Moral decadence without all the sentiments people love. Moral decadence is eating us up in Nigeria, we are not only dealing with corrupt leaders but morally lax youths.

A girl from the same Queens college won a prize for the school, but we can’t hear her because another person’s act supported by her mother has overshadowed her achievement. This is why I say and believe, moral decadence comes back for us in many indirect ways while many will tell you to mind your business as long as it doesn’t affect you.

Well, here is The Moral Code not minding their business again and bringing you The Babcock saga examined from the angle of those involved.

THE PARENTS
In this whole saga. I pity these set the most. Her parents. Too many of us take our parents for granted. We forget that even if they are not seeing us, they are to be respected and regarded. We are an extension of them. Parents do try to bring up their wards well, nobody wants a mess for a child. However, I feel bad for her parents the most because, only parents can imagine the horror of waking up to such viral video or receiving a phone call that informs them about what’s going on and then they have to see it. If indeed her father is a clergy man as being spread. That’s even worse, how does he stand at the pulpit to tell people about God or morals when his own house has been soiled, when she has snatched his moral vibe or energy to be credible to speak. How will her parents face their families, their friends, neighbors? Oh the shame. I don’t want to imagine. A child that people rejoiced when the child was born and they gave her a name and predicted great things in her life. I really really feel for the parents the most.

THE SCHOOL
I have nothing much to say about the school. Like they say when in Rome, do as Romans do abi? If you come to my house and I tell you my rules, you either stay or you go. They absolutely reserve the right to keep her or send her away and are not obliged to listen to anyone. It was their decision to make. Their reputation was and is still at stake and many parents just changed their minds about sending their kids to that school, think about that as you abuse the school too.

HER FRIENDS
Some are laughing. Some don’t know how to take it. Some have been warned by their parents to stay far away from her, some will stay to comfort her, some will pull her out of the rut, some are waiting to taunt or blackmail her with this incidence years later. Some might have been involved in leaking the video. It goes on and on. Human nature is dynamic.

THE GUY
Not sure it’s ever going to change that a guy doesn’t get to be shamed for sex acts, the woman takes the hit more. Who knows him? Who’s talking about his parents shame? Nothing at all, it’s as if he doesn’t exist. Hard truth.

THE SPREADERS
There is really no gain in spreading a video like this, but till now people are dropping their emails and numbers to get the said video, people are probably making a business out of it. Why? Where is the sense in what you are doing, isn’t it a mind troubling matter for you? Don’t be the reason a problem escalates or a negative thing gets spread, you are spreading something involving another human being’s dignity. Sometimes I just Kent deal.

HER
Let’s face it, if you like call it judging, the girl messed up. She didn’t just mess up, she’s been messing up since, her mind and actions have gone far in this rut hence the boldness in the act exhibited. Some say you are an adult and free to do as you like, I laugh at them. An adult who’s school fees is still being paid right? who still has people to answer to. You had just one task, which was go to school and get an education, instead you added other immoral extra curricular activities. When you were doing the video forming badt girl, you didn’t know it would be your undoing months later.
You took a decision and now you are facing the repercussions of that decision. In life we keep taking big and small decisions, they always lead to something, good or bad.

So that’s just stating the facts, hard girl hard girl! This is the outcome. That’s not judging, it’s stating the obvious. That said. Of course this will be a dark period, but there’s no one as long as they are still alive that cannot turn around and retrace their steps. Oh! everyone will forget you soon, something else will grab their attention. Treasure those who will stand by you, lean on them to make it back out of the dark place. What you chose to do with your life from now hence is up to you.

In conclusion, everyone will still talk, some will be logical, some will continue to say the most unreasonable things. As for those saying, nobody holy pass, we all do it, we are all hypocrites. Abeg make una march una brakes there. There are people, who early in life, took a decision about what they wanted, and where they were headed. They stuck to it. You’ll never catch them doing certain things, stop assuming the world is a certain way because of your own realities and lifestyles.

I’ll just end by saying, may we not trend for the most negative and ugly reasons.

Source - www.themoralcodeng.com

EkopSparoAyara:
Convince me that this is God's judgment on her...

hmmm... Convince you. I may not be able to do that. Except explain what I have come to understand. Some calamities that befall us are sometimes are due to something we have done or keep doing.

This may look bad for her now, but it can be the best for her so she stops being so vile, hardships are not always bad luck, hardships can e used by God to save one from something terribly worse later i.e going to hell.

This is my own understanding. People's cup do get full, when they get excessive and heedless. Think of nations that existed in times past who were warned again and again but they turned away.

God teaches them a lesson by allowing some things to happen, mostly after a warning. In her case, do you think there wasn't a time her conscience told her to stop certain things, or someone advised her. Etc. Those were warnings God sent her way.

Like I said, I can't force you to understand this, it's my own understanding of how some things work based on observation, intuition and research.

anslem04:
Before you conclude abt blaming men,u av to put to consideration population of women along men ... the chances of a man meeting an intellectual lady if he hookup of with 10 ladies a year can't b more than 2, which means men have to do more of the average women. in d midst of scarcity men jus av to make do with alternatives, n even if yu don't want to loneliness is nobody friend.
most of these guys askin you jamb question av yu eaten n stuffs is becos they don't see the potentials or endeavours on urside that could help them thru whats on there mind ... when i had these gurl workin in a microbank, i stil kept my aspirations, ideas of xpansion to mysef, becos talk like these bore average gurls, u"re a man figure tins out on ur own n bring money jare buh these babe will talk of investment opportunities , ideas, new Smes & money makin topics ... that unlocked me to relate more with her on that level.
buh i aasure yu chances of meetin intellectual guys is so high ... don't giv up

Then I guess it's a two way thing. Quality human beings regardless of sex are scarce. But why would you wait and kinda assume all girls are dumb while refusing to indulge in some conversations that help you figure who they are, faster.

Cuz adulthood is stressful enough. If I'm looking to make friends, it better be worth my while for business, for career or for a meaningful relationship. No time wasting so I can say NEXT asap! Lol!

I always find it hard to believe girls are really that dumb. It's not my own reality, but yes the internet proves many people don't have sense. One cannot be amazed anymore.

Queentee214:
Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me


Thanks

Please remain confused, I beg you. If someone calling you prostitute in front of a whole community isn't enough. Why don't you wait till he pours acid on your face out of anger. Afterall he is a good guy.

Verbal abuse and anger issues is just the beginning. I pity how people don't value themselves.

anslem04:
Need i remind you of a saying which as becum an actual fact; " you can't give what you don't av''.
In r/ships, is not until you start giving her aptitude test b4 yu knw she is intelligent/smart or industrious ... from mere gist you can detect if she is intelligent. another fact about intellect beings is dey can't resist sharing n learning , so even if d guy refuse to bring up topic that as do with his dreams & aspiration d babe will ask
most naija babe have nothing upstair aside been materialistic, its so easy to knw dem, cos they will never ask d guy abt is dreams & goal ,all they knw hw 2 ask is, hello av u sent it !
Bottomline an intellectual babe won't even wait 4 her man to run an aptitude test on her b4 she start showcasin her potentials

That's true. It's also the men's fault for encouraging these girls to be mediocre, because too many men are also mediocre.

I find too many men not able to hold intellectual conversations as well, very few. Na wetin you chop, what are you doing, what's fun to you them go dey ask. Eeesssh! As not as I'm not a teenager, basic conversations piss me off.

Generallll:
You just don't want to come to terms with the reality MISS POSTER.
Nigerian ladies ve nothing to offer in a relationship!!!! Period.
Infact most ladies this days have no difference with those ladies at the brothels, they date you, give you sex and extort money from you, an average Nigerian lady has many boyfriends and she bleeps and extort money from them all.

Then something is wrong with the circle you roll in. That's what I tell guys that always say this, the places you visit will contain certain types of people. Soo...?

EkopSparoAyara:
On different platforms,i have read people's view and opinion about the Babcock University Student... The hypocrites are saying her expulsion from school is good punishment and that prompts my question; what if God punished everyone immediately for every sinful act would we survive it?

Then we'll have more sense and stop daring Him at every twist and turn just because we know judgement is delayed. That's the answer to your question.

Even this too is God's judgment on her. Better to face the music now and retrace steps than to end up in hell, cuz that geh no dey horyt o!

Befii:
If d people r civilized enough, perhaps some would understand, what happened to this girl is an act of exploitation and breach of privacy, cause d girl is an adult and she has right to live her life.

She's an adult but, who's paying her fees? Who's house is she living? Who still buys her clothing? Who sent her to school? Lolz! She's also very very civilized in everything she did. Civilization is having sex in public view like animals do, with someone in rehab, wow! So civilized.

Yes, once the camera was involved, it became public view whether she knew it would get out or not. Right to live your life should be treated with caution.

genq:
You sha want every woman to end up as miserable as you. Period-licking feminist lesbiaan!

And you called someone else bitter! Seems it's venom seeping through your own veins.

This is what happens when some people have a phone and fingers to type. Not everyone is deserving.

All your comments explain your first comment. Sense if quite far from you

genq:
Here we go again! Another topic posted for the sole purpose of inviting frustrated NL femcels to come bash your husband.

Just a quick question based off the highlighted statement below. Why is it that a man can feed, house and even clothe a woman and the children all of his life but you will never hear him announce this to the hearing of others - but let a woman pay the bills for just one out of thirty years, the whole world must know and we won't hear the last of it!

In what way are you different from those you claim will come here to bash or say Bla Bla Bla! What solutions did you proffer.

I was hoping for an awesome comment after the first paragraph, but Olympus fell. Because sadly in the whole write up, this was the only thing you could quote and pick out, you didn't understand that this was mentioned as within the context of the post and not to brag. Damn you are slow!

So are all the people who gave you likes. Indeed majority don't always have sense.

It's men like you, who when she foots the bills in a situation like this, even when she mentions it to no one, will still come and shame her privately or publicly with words like "is it because you did this?"

Pls just hush, it's better to say nothing than spew trash.

dazzlingd:
Let's replace her with you, tell me you have never received doggy before....now if your doggy sex tape get released, do u deserve someone or people to stand with you or this persecution she's suffering...learn to out yourself in people's shoes..

You might have been doggied, you might have cow ridden....enjoyed all forms of sexual acts and even worse yet you crucify the girl because she was caught of the same thing u do in secret

Your questions are quite foolish and lack intellect. Hence I won't indulge you with yes or no to your nasty questions, because the answer will never matter to you.

It won't matter because you are seeing the world from your own reality and lifestyle, your thinking is caged in that reality. Hence you can't see beyond these questions you are asking.

And I really pity you. Now, it's a good thing you are really concerned about a wild girl, instead of ranting here, find her, comfort her, get her a lawyer or better still, in solidarity to her. Release your own sex tape to show her she's not alone. How about that? Or get her a good lawyer, foot all the bills.

That will be better for you than attacking people with sane thinking here. Abi, how you see am?

studentofTruth:
Was she the one who released the video?

Did she sanction the release of the video?

The boyfriend committed a crime against her, and instead of helping her get justice, everyone is condemning her. What a people!

Dear human! If indeed you are a student of truth, then maybe your truth is just relative. What is truth and what is absolute truth? Everyday you make decisions, there's always an outcome of the decision. What you chose to eat, what you chose to wear. Sometimes outcomes of decisions are consequences. She knew it was on camera, she allowed it with her eyes and brain wide open.

It didn't matter that day, but months later, it mattered. Mind you, it's not yet clear, through who or how it got leaked.

Actions and outcome of actions. Remember that in your truth and stop getting all emotional.

osazsky:
see internet lawyer,better people like permanent secretaries,managers,Clinton doged d bullet though have been sacked cuz of this not to talk of a student,no wonder we celebrate corruption in this country,if this thing happens to any president in d world apart from Nigeria d president go resign before d sack letter comes but if na Nigeria he will start begging and d people will b supporting him like the slapping senator,in a sane country dat slapping senator suppose they jail not national assembly but I still saw people begging for him no wonder nobody takes us serious as a country

once you want to push for what is right, once you speak with a voice of reason. You begin to hear things like, you are forming holier than thou. You begin to see pity party, ayah forgive them now.

As in this case you begin to hear steewpeed questions like have you never had sex? Same youths meant to have sense, meant to push for the right narratives are here defending rubbish.

They always fail to see how every matter relates in the bigger picture when they say things like what has this got to do with corruption in the nation.

How can multitude of people not have sense all at once? No wonder the country remains like this, it's a painful process to watch.

CsRockefeller:
Do u really know what you are saying?

A student in one of the Ivy League Universities in the US made a professional porn to raise funds for her tuition, students stumbled on it, it went viral and they expelled her, she never returned or sued the University.

Do u guys talk because you want to say something or because you have something to say?

lolz! Good question! Now see how he or she went "in saner climes" those famous lines they like using to sound intelligent

CsRockefeller:
Day after day, I see reasons why I should leave this country. It's sinking deep everyday in all facets.

please stay! Others fixed theirs, let's fix ours too, we can maybe manually wash the brains of this morally decadent youths

Eddygourdo:
awon omo sex tape, the porn actors guild member, I hail you pass.

Give me the link to your own sex videos so I watch it and be hypocritical of it as well.

Spoilt brats of this generation. You don't know sex is for inside the room "in private" abi.

Messed up millennials

That's a beaurifu Gbas Gbos! Lolz! Porn actors guild! Not all Millenials are stewpeed tho.

The real hypocrites are those saying her rights Bla Bla Bla! What about the rights of those paying her school fees too. She had just one task. Go to school and get an education. But no

Venerable612:
Some things are not excusable in the African society; and public display of sex before marriage is considered one of them.

It doesn’t mean it has to always be that way - but it is what it is.

I want to believe the Schools decision is as a result of the social media outcry - and to serve as deterrent to present/future students not to indulge in a public display of sex.

If you ask me - nothing wrong with this decision. An institution is free to determine the standards they expect of the students they give their degrees to. It’s all about reputation.

Gbam!

Alexaonfleek:
i wish I could give u a million likes for this comment.
In as much as they are trying to uphold morality,expulsion was just too harsh.They could have suspended her or maybe made her to stay back for a year while simultaneously showing her the error of her ways
What if the girl out of depression now commits suicide,they will still be upholding morality at her buiral abi?

I'm not trying to demean the school management but do they want to say that none of them,not even one of them never had sex in their undergraduate days?

Of course there are people who never had sex in their undergrad days. Do Y'all think everything is abt sex. I tire o. Now secondly even if they did, abeg did they bring it to the market square for the world to see. Only Animals do that. To what end is recording a private act?

It's sad, for all decisions we take. There's a result for it, positive or negative

dazzlingd:
So if the act did not take place in the university, then why expel the girl..

Are they OK? It's her life, the person that leaked the video should by crucified not the girl..

The sad thing is that the hypocrisy of the society won't let the girl fight for her right, no one will stand with her, even her family will abandon her. Otherwise Babcock will go down by the time they face law suit

Question. If you woke up to this video as her dad or brother, will you stand with her? Honestly.

Akiika:
The girl should go to court! What she does on her private time is her business, she is an adult in the University for crying out loud. She is the victim here for crying out loud, she didn't release the sex video. She is in the school to be trained on a profession not to be policed for subjective morals. Can we stop this hypocrisy and stop judging the girl for doing what majority of you do? Sex is enjoyable and she is entitled to go get what she enjoys.
If a supposed institution of learning is acting this irrationally, then i have given up on Nigeria.

yes pls give up, because your energy and that crying out loud is misplaced. You really believe you are making sense? Okay well you can also get her a lawyer, a good move to make. Foot all her bills in the lawsuit.

A school is meant to instill character in you as well. We are still Africans and have values. You can say it's holding us back all you want, but moral decadence is a problem in itself, tied to the bigger jigsaw of corruption.

It's lewd, and barbaric. It's sex yes, not meant for public viewing like in the animal kingdom. But since a girl who's fees is still being paid thinks it's okay to embarrass her family name. What can I say.

Now rules are rules. Wonder if you'll say the same if that school belongs to you, and you wake up to find your investment trending for the very wrong reasons.

We need sanity in this country and it starts from little things. Go to school and face your studies but no. You are making sex videos with an ex student of your school. And you oga are hear ranting. Also imagine this is your sister or daughter and you wake up to this horror. You may not survive the shame. Think!

The best way is to confront the sons of bitches. Call them out. Do not hold back. Start up a racket in the office when your boss is around but make sure you state precisely what they are about, what they are up to. Don't sugar-coat it. Don't cower when they try to deviate from the subject matter. Stand firm. Don't let them escape that day. Choose a glorious day to do it & make it count.

You might get a 2-week fine but they'll never try sh!t with you again. Heck, some will even switch to your camp out of shock.

Tried & trusted method since 2010


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The best office politics is to be humble and a "yes sir" man/woman.

This is the secret of my getting to where I am today despite the odds against me being a black (dual citizen Nigerian born American for that matter) young man among my ranks.

I advise people not to engage in office politics but to be loyal and humble to the core. Be a one minute man, be a fool, give up your rights and privileges when the need arises, and above all build an impeccable character for yourself and see your bosses wanna make friends with you.
Today, I have friends that ordinarily should be my heroes and celebrities because of those virtues I listed up there.

hmmm... I'm sorry, feels as if you are saying many things at once and the points disjointed from the bigger picture. What's they koko of ya message?

pocohantas:
I do not really understand her issue.

Someone played politics with her and she is now a supervisor. This should be a good thing right?

She is tensed on how to lead because she is a talkative and it has been used against her in the past. This isn't rocket science, stop talking too much.

Yeah! Sounds like stating the obvious

bigtt76:
I believe the victim needs to be punished too if found culpable of inciting the accused persons' anger through defamation of their character. It should be nobody's business how the other party chooses to live their life and should not go about revealing nasty things about them without their consent.

I guess the investigation will reveal much more.

Maybe you know something we don't, or one of the bullies isn't your really close friends. Whatever the case, the video evidence is their undoing. Evidence is their and people must react.

midnighter:
Big shame on your parents!

you do know there are parents who bring up their wards well, but they'll go out there to behave like animals. It's just sad their parents will get dragged in this too

Parenting is such a strong part of the life of an individual. The home as a foundation forms the behaviour, habits, believes and more of an individual.

The Moral Code asked 7 regular Naija mothers their experiences and lessons learnt from parenting their kids and here are some of the things they had to say, hoping parents and would be parents learn a thing or two here.

Real Life Lessons From 7 Naija Moms on Parenting Their Kids:

Oluwabunmi Remi-Tijani of @abcsignatures – Based in Lagos

Kids learn more from what they see you do than what you say. For example I’ve seen our son put his pairs of socks in his shoes after taking them off just because Daddy does it.

I have also learnt that helping them acknowledge their emotions makes them more aware of and describe their emotions, rather than subduing them. Our son now says it when he’s angry or upset. Was shocked when he told me earlier today that he was nervous in church cos of the crowd he saw.

So, we only allow cartoons from Friday through Sunday, because it got to a point, it seemed that was all Daniel lived for. You can’t ask him to get you something from the next room without dashing off with a Super Cat Speed (Thanks to PJMasks). Started noticing the behavioural change that could only be traced back to his favourite cartoons. So, we cut the time back, but then, it’s played a major role in his vocabulary, even I trip and I’m always proud to be his mom when he talks outside or even within the 4walls of our home. People hear him speak and are like, this is truly ‘Bunmi’s son, I know only 35% of how is speaks is from me, the rest is from Disney and Nick Jnr.

So, I sit down with him to watch, just to know what messages are being passed on and all, and we have banned Ben10 in our house since like forever….. He tells other children who are Ben10 fans that it’s not a good cartoon for them to watch. They’ll be disrespectful and won’t be kind to others blah blah blah

My husband gets the door for me, I had to insist cos I deserve a gentle man and now Daniel doesn’t jump down before his sister. He helps her get down from the car and he’s very protective of her and me cos his dad upon leaving the house or when we are driving off to school tells him the Barton is now his and he must take care of the girls. He sometimes outdo himself….., but I am raising a gentleman and he’s willing to be one.

When he messes up which he does on a daily basis as we always have reasons to yell the house down on a daily, he says “he’s sorry”, even after I’ve spanked him.



Mariama Bobbo – Entrepreneur/Business Adviser based in Abuja

Kids don’t really understand shouting!
They might seem small but eye contact and explaining to them what they did wrong with a firm warning works better.
Most parents think they don’t understand the calm heart to heart talk
Never secomb to tantrums : a firm NO repeatedly keeps you at an advantage!
Allowing them because they are crying means they get the answer to what they want!
Scream and you get, It should never be so
What you permit you allow!
Likewise and business wise I have come to learn great lessons from kids
1. Persistence
2. Emotional blackmail (emotional selling point of view)
3. They ask without fear of objection


Bliss Edwin-Udeigwe – Working class Mum based in Kaduna

What I have learnt through parenting my kids is PATIENCE! I use to be a woman with zero tolerance for anything that stresses me out but my kids have humbled me in so many ways.

My son for example will not eat until he is fed… I have done everything in this world to make him feed himself but I haven’t found a way out yet. So if I want him to eat something tangible I have to get down from my high horse and feed a four year old boy.

Truth is I feel so happy doing it too, because the series of “thank you mummy for feeding me” and “I love you mummy” that I get melts my heart every single time.

I cannot be SELFISH anymore! I think of my kids first in all situations.

I had to turn down a good paying job because the timing would make me miss so much time with my kids. I ended up picking a lesser paying job just because it afforded me more time with my kids.

Adaeze Thelma Onukwugha – Nigerian Mum based in Oman

This is a topic no one tells you anything about, you learn everyday. There are no manual to it.

Having my kids have taught me a great deal of patience. Kids will push you till you turn red! Many times I lash out at them and spank them but this doesn’t always help as they are kids and the forget things quickly.

I have said to myself that I won’t raise my kids like my parents did. Communication is all we need to raise kids. I apologise at will towards them so they can see that apology is not a thing that should be done by them alone, but also parents should do it.

People advice me on how to handle my kids but I will say this, ignore advices from people and study your kids. Every child is different and has different personalities.

My advice: parenting is not an easy task, caution your kids, spank them, ground them, apologise to them, communicate and explain things to them, do not put fear in them. Above all do everything in love with them and be their someone they can confide in.

Sherifat Balogun – Veterinary Doctor based in Sokoto

Parenting has taught me that kids are very smart but still they do not fully understand the consequences of what they are doing. So patience is key.

Never be too fast to head for koboko ni gbogbo igba (heading for the cane every time) Nice talk works too.

Above all I have learned to always be of good conduct and tell them the reasons for things. Even if its about Democrats and Republicans.

Rosemary Oyiza Bello-Salami – Working class/Business Mum based in Kogi

Parenting has thought me what True love is. You find yourself Loving someone beyond words. Your child needs comes before yours, their welfare is your Priority.

It has also thought me Patience because you have to most things at their own pace and with Love. My child is my heartbeat.

Winifred Chidaalu – Working Class mum and Fashion and Lifestyle Blogger based in Abuja

1. Patience is very important because the mind of kids is filled with foolishness,
if you are not patient, you may find yourself hurting your child for something
that should be normal for kids.

2. They learn a lot from the adults around them,
so be careful what you expose them to. for example;
how you treat the babysitter, how you tidy or litter the house, etc.

3. Kids like to learn what they can get away with,
so they will dare you, throw tantrums, reject meals, etc.
To see what you will or will not condone. So you have to be alert
to avoid them controlling you with their emotions…
For instance, we know everyone has a favourite food,
but my kid gets to eat everything I present,
but get extra on her favourite food days…
so she understands, she can’t be choosing
what to eat and what not to eat.

Source www.themoralcodeng.com

bukatyne:
When you say circle, are you talking of acquaintances you can subtly part ways with or friends like business partners etc. you can't do without?

Are you also talking of dating one person, did not work out thingy or casual sex with a number of them?

If it is ex, I believe the person should be mature enough to move on and treat you both with respect: if it is causal sex with multiple people in one circle then you might want to move on.

Also, you say she is trying to be straightforward: in sexual matters, you are either straightforward aka faithful or not. If she was used to having causal sex in the past and she wanted to change, she knows the situations she should not get into.

You might also want to know why she wants to change: her biological clock is ticking and she wants to settle down? She has seen the error of her ways and truly repenting? She wasn't wise enough to discern when she was in a relationship with herself and had sex too soon? She had psychological issues and used sex to fill that need?

In summary, if your spirit does not have peace with this lady, move on.

While I understand the sentiment behind not wanting to start afresh, a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.

Everything that's been said and would be said. This covers it neatly, logically and sensically. Aluf all you have said.

Dannonye:
Why the stress
Nudity is a choice
She'll give account to God her creator and not to any man
We should all focus on getting to heaven.

That's how you see it. But it's the same society you live in these things happen. Even if you think you are strong and they have no influence on you, think your kids, or other loved ones. That everyone will account to God doesn't mean our mouths should remain shut over what could still consume us all.

We were glad to find a voice like that of Joke Silva reacting to what the lazy yoots of our time refer to as the happening thing.
In her words “I really don’t get this… the lady half exposed, the man fully clothed… do we get the implication”.

It would continue to be a baffling scene seeing unclothed ladies vs fully clothed men, as seen in pregnancy shoots, in birthday shoots, in pre-wedding shoots and even in actual wedding photos.

Stinky looking pictures as viral once again. well here it is fixed by The Moral Code.

No to objectifying women. No to nudity. No to everything that reeks indecency. If climate change is destroying the earth, moral decadence is destroying humanity.

livebyday:
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Alright since you are done , do have a nice life

Sucks to be you right ?

Cheers

Stop trying so hard to sound woke! As for a nice life, even your imagination couldn't come close to what I have.

livebyday:
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Done?

Not quite, and if you do have a job, it should be taken away from you and given someone else based on merit, cuz you obviously cut corners in the name of connection. Now I'm done. Bye.

If only he knows what he is dancing to. I doubt he'll want to be involved in such nonsense.

livebyday:
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Trash

Know the right people. You will get the job even if you use pidgin in the interview
Infact you won't attend any serious Interview

Posts like this are of no use to any Nigerian job seeker
Just know the right person

Case closed

This is a why you may never get a job. It's okay to calm down and learn