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Iyaebe:
So you married better husband abi?im coming for him.Name and address please .

This thread na cruise

Flamemignon1:
And who said nail polish were created for women? They stole it,the same way they stole make-up and heels....both were made by men for elite men with heels made for butchers to get the blood off their feet before the advent of western religion and dude....no one is living in your forced gender roles and gender assimilations anymore, it's 2022. When someone says it's "toxic masculinity"....y'all will start to get your wings in a bunch. Masculinity is multi faceted and you don't force your societal white supremacists version of it on people, if it's anything,it shows how completely insecure you are because you are scared of change.

P.S: I respect men who don't adhere to societal masculinity and challenges the norms,those are not just men but sigma males,the highest archetype,they give society the middle finger and they express themselves the way they want, that's a man. Are you man enough to wear a skirt in public....no because you are scared of what your "bros" will say.... that's not a man, that's a puppet with society pulling it's strings but yet again I expect nothing less from a redpill advocate

It is no longer Alpha Beta Consulting, it is now Sigma Six?

Las las, a maa wa alright.

beautyhd:
I’ve seen a man with waist bead.

What a woman can do, a man can do better

Angela62:


Thank God I'm married.

I married when men head for this country still correct. For those looking for husband, my prayers are with you.

pansophist:
Finger painting? Like, seriously? So men now have begin painting nails. And proud of it even.

I even saw some with leg chains. I shook my head. I'm not a woman but I dare speak for them. It's disgusting, unmanly and effeminate.

OMG. Ewwww.

I don't know about anklets however fingernail painting especially black is not new.

@effeminate and unmanly: it depends on the man's carriage in addition to his assessories.

meobizy:
Nairalanders are gay and don’t know it.

Are you sure they don't know it?

What do you do?

Make a choice to sleep with the prospective client or not.

I also love Minister G.U.C's songs
1. What He Says:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RuA09Q3Z9Sw

2. God of Vengeance

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=727K1tRPI1s

3. Knowing You

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FXB49aSIs74

I just noticed that R. Kelly's account has been deactivated on YouTube.

Sad, his works were superb.

Bruno Mars & The Silk Sonic Band: Leave the Door Open


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=adLGHcj_fmA

angelfallz:
your number 4 don't say that in America or any American online forum. They would use you and do pizza

Not all of them are insane

And no amount of denial changes nature & commonsense.

Konquest:
Gosh! You sure do.

You must be a full professor
of psychology. I read the entire
post though.



OK! Here's my take on this topic:

1. Women are MORE emotional
than men because y'all are
naturally wired to use the "right"
side of the brain [which deals with emotions] more than the "left" side
of the brain [which deals with logic!].


Brain scans and neuroscience research affirm these facts, and
I've got books in my home library on titles such as: "You Are The Placebo" to back it up.

2. Bukatyne, did you know that women have a sharper sense of smell than us men? There are
more "nerve endings" in the nasal
region of women so this makes
women to pick up smells faster
than men!

3. It's the same way that the clitoral region is packed with a lot of "nerve endings" and is very sensitive. Men don't have such concentrated nerve endings on the male glans [which is the clitoral equivalent].


4. I'm emphasizing these 3 examples
to let you know that women are
wired differently from men... Even
though men and women exhibit
the "twin aspects" of emotions and
logic to varying degrees.


Ciao.

I would like to be a professor some day. I have always said Dr./ Prof. was the only title I would be interested in bearing.

1. Well in practice, we see a different thing play out. While men would not cry over the littlest thing, they express loads of emotions from anger to rage to fear to joy to passion etc. at all times.

2. Yep

3. God loves us like that

4. Men and women are wired differently: I 100% agree with you and it takes foolishness to argue otherwise.

@bold: please share more.

Mindlog:
Psychology 101 class.

102 might be coming soon.

When you examine a fetus before the age of 16weeks, you won't be able to tell if it's a male or a female, it's from the 18th week (can be earlier or later due to lots of factors) that the difference starts to show...

This difference is largely due to testosterone, the varying degree/concentration of this (and other hormones) causes structural changes in the fetus and thus in the overall behaviour of the child...

When the child is now born, the child is treated differently by society, a male is taught not to cry, because it is believe that crying is "weakness" and men shouldn't be weak and the other hand, women are taught to be expressive as regards what they feel....

According to lamacks theory of use and disuse, the traits you don't use, you lose. And since this boychild is taught to not show emotions, that part of the brain starts to shrink over time, whilst that of the female thickens....thus the reason why women appear to be more emotional than men...

The entire point I'm trying to make is that, men and women are different largely due to the society he grows up in, that's why the children of Nigerians who stay abroad before coming down here tend to act differently as compared to those born and brought up here in Nigeria....

Thus societal influence is the major factor why women appear to be more emotional than men

Interesting; nature vs nurture argument.

I would not agree women are 'more emotional' than man in the literal sense; each sex just exhibit varying emotions more.

ChemicalReaction:
1. Nice thread, ma'am.

2. People actually think that been a good girl is about been introverted or quiet or even reserved.
They think those who smoke or party or extroverted should be termed "bad girls", lol..

3. What is even funnier is that they think the reward for being a GOOD girl is good husband. Interestingly, their definition of good husbands is a "wealthy man who spends". The place they think good husbands abound is in clubs, not pulpit.

4. The truth is, all of the attributes I mentioned are mere attributes that in no way determine a person's goodness or badness.

5. Been good or bad is seen in how you treat people(including yourself) and react to situations.

1. Thanks.

2. I actually believe there are good girls and bad girls based on their attributes which includes physical/social. However, I have realized that a good girl morally can be a terrible employee/boss/wife/mother/daughter/neighbour; a bad girl morally can be a fanatastic boss/friend/employee/wife/mother/daughter etc. etc. The problem is when we don't realize that every facet of life requires certain input and think being 'good (actually holy) is enough to get you anything apart from the right standing with God and/or good energy from the universe if we are looking at Karma.

3. Ironic considering a 'good girl' would not even be in the club in the first place. Maybe their definition of a good husband already tells us that a good girl doesn't 'deserve him'

4 & 5: treated in point 2.

Stargurl20:
Hm...

Does this answer your good girl inquiry?

jmoore:
If you marry a bad girl, you are finished. If you marry a bad man, you are finished.

Being good is not enough. Make sure you activate wisdom when choosing the person you will marry.

On point

anuofGod:
Yes, we do
For me, I'll never say it or make move, I'll only think of it and move on
#I can't jump into bed with a man I can't have a serious relationship with.
If I fantasize on a man, I can't ever start relationship with him coz it won't lead anywhere.

When I was working in Lagos, once I was in tricycle in opebi going to work in the morning.
I saw a guy standing by the roadside.
The guy is soooo fine, melanin cute guy, I stretched my neck out of Keke and was so carried away in the hold up ogling the guy o.
He noticed, he was surprised and he smiled.
I smiled and Keke kept going.
For days, I look at that spot every morning maybe I can see him.
And I asked myself why I didn't drop to collect number, he would have given me. #laughs
But I wouldn't have called him even if I did.

I smiled while reading this. I could picture the scene

@OP: Yes.

Atiku can father Makinde so his actions irrespective of political inclinations are in order.

This is even more unbelievable than the initial thread.

Since the seller could afford to put a whole egg in it, is it not wiser to just make egg rolls?

For peeps saying the buyer is lucky: she wanted meatpie and not egg pie.

Selling egg pie as meat pie (better value for money or not) is fraud.

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

Sounds like you are battling the spirit of rejection.

Did your dad reject/disapprove of your birth? Did your mother think you are a mistake or unwanted?

Whatever the case might be, your belief in God would come through for you.

It is not over until it is all over.

adaperry25:
shes also puzzled

Why?

How has she been handling him before?

descarado:
Buky, try and watch something in the rain on Netflix. Have watched the drama twice.
Presently watching business contract. Said I will wait till it finish airing but the male lead is one of my all time fav. Temptation

I couldn't finish something in the rain

The ML in Business Contract is sweet

I loved his pettiness when he told her to re-do the White Kimchi Ravioli over & over

GloriousGbola:
all this is story.

you think that Ebun's company does not have sound , well written policies on bullying, whistle blowing etc?

you think they dont have an HR department [by the way - HR is not your friend. the main role of HR is to PROTECT the company from employees]

as to workplace toxicity - people who do not work directly with Ebun may have different stories about him. to them he may just be the driven oga. CEOs fall into the seven professions mostly likely to have psychopaths. so in several other forums, EBun will be looking like a charming down to earth guy.

unless there is a major incident - you will be thoroughly shielded during your workplace interview from the actual corporate culture.

if anything you are more likely to be bowled over, esp if you're young at talking to some superstar ceo.

no be today? who remembers access bank it shall not be well with them ceo. dude was so petty, he actually had IT forensics guys track down just who shared that nasty email



this is it. and even then, some people still thrive there. so i would be wary about giving advise. there are people in that office that have completely jelled with that Ebun fellow and can work with him. they may even respond right back. Bleep you too man , butt heads and do power handshakes

Good insights especially on HR and people thriving in toxic places.

The OP gives a guide sha.

Alwayshungry:
Always look at their shoes..

If they are wearing cheap shoes.
Be prepared for a battle.

What about your mother?

Is going through the gate (except if locked) not easier than jumping the fence?

Is it not easier destroying the sim card than jumping the fence?

Except she is not coming back to the home/marriage, this absolutely makes no sense.

The wife should be mentally evaluated, something might be wrong somewhere.

POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

@bold:

When he helped you with wedding drinks, you did not think him unworthy?

Since it sounds like you just married, could he mean that you have shown more care towards your car than wife or even yourself?

Could it be that your frequent car washing causes shortage of water? If everyone in the compound shares the same storage tank, then your frequent car washing is wasting water and inconveniencing your neighbors

It could just be bants; I have a friend who says he cherishes his car more than his life because of the amount he spends maintaining & fixing it.

Some posters are already telling you to 'man up and not tolerate the rubbish'.

You need to CALM DOWN, assess the situation and best case ignore him.

Jokkarm2:
Is simple, keep him where he belongs to. That kind of person na jealousy go kilam. Just start minding your business. If he talks trash, ask him to go and hug trasnfomer since he does not have job than to talk trash.

Almost same thing happened to me, my in-law brought in Benz in December for the family to use before they went back, so one day I drove the car to my counpound, everyone liked the car, my guy that shared flat with me opened his mouth and said " this my car na oppression ooo" I was like how ? Who am I oppressing? Since that day, I vowed not to Cruise with him because his mind is not good. Once a while I drive the GL450 4matic just to warming it around.

@bold:

How did you deduce his mind was not good from the bold?

Isn't it a compliment like 'babe you are a killer'; 'dude you are hot' bla bla bla

A few months ago 'press us, we are your neck' for a hot person was reigning online.

Not everything is fight or 'people's mind are not clean towards me'.

wonder233:
If he tells you, that you wash your car too much, then you actually do! And need to reduce it. It is not everything that is a beef or bad belle. You're wasting water. In Nigeria, most people actually don't know water is a resource that needs to be consciously conserved. It gets depleted and can run out like other natural resources if not prudently utilized. One day, you will put on your pumping machine and nothing will come out from the borehole.
I have actually told a neighbour point blank to stop wasting water, everytime using hose to be splashing water on his car. We don't have any form of familiarity at all, so he respected

Hmmmmm