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MissJoy29:
If I get wind of my husband-to-be dressing & looking like the guys gays in the second picture in the name of bro-dal shower, I'm definitely calling off the wedding...
















Otherwise, I will loathe him for a very very very long time!
Gosh!!
Look at them posing in those short undies!!!

Anyway, let me save my breath. It's obvious they are gay men.

I thought men already have bachelor parties?

If I remember correctly, men had their bachelor party thingy before bridal showers came up?

The effects of weak, effeminate fathers and single mothers who can't raise men.

Also a fall out of continuous shaming of manhood and masculinity.

The women are rushing to become men; the men are rushing to become women.

Sad.

I think it is each to their own.

For me, I love the 'unity' that the whole family bearing one surname brings.

Besides, every woman is unofficially Mrs. X (whether her name is changed or not).

I love Danielle Crittenden's perspective on name change:

Mr. X marries Miss Y to become Mr. & Mrs X.

Mr. X even though not 'visible' brings a new identity to the table the day he gets married because he is forming a new family with Miss Y.

I think the name change process in Nigeria should be made simpler so that wives willing to change their surnames are not discouraged.

LegitGirl:
You're too emphatic with your opinions. Lots of married people, men and women, have forgiven partners who cheated and continued with the marriage.

1. You're saying they're all insane and got esteem issues?

2. No, they're not. People have different motivations.

1. Very funny

2. Very true

socialmediaman:
At this point I think you should let yourself be a student and devote 100% of your time to becoming a specialist in computer engineering. Learn everything there is to your course that will enable you to become the best out there, as good as the best computer engineer anywhere in the world.

This is the time to acquire the skills that you’ll need to be able to walk into MTN or NLNG and demonstrate a top end skill and a manager will instantly hire you. Google and find out what skills computer engineers need to get high paying jobs, now is the time to get those skills. Don’t depend only on what you learn in school. It’s not your certificate that matters in today’s world, it’s what separates you from other people with the same certificate

@Ninetails:

This is what you should be doing.

Focus on being a student and LEARN!

descarado:
Just finished the coming of age 2521.
Gosh, I cried bucket of tears.
The best coming of age drama I have ever watched and so realistic. Beautifully finished
Have you watched it? Had always loved the male lead. He has improved a lot from his days of the bride of habeauk( don't know if I got the spelling)

This one you cried, let me try it out

This abi: https://www.netflix.com/us/title/81517168?s=a&trkid=13747225&t=cp&vlang=en&clip=81571717

Lordmech:
One of my colleague at work came begging for cash and I ask him. What happen to your ATM or salary and he reviewed that the wife is the one who sees alert and holds the card.. I was shocked.
My pipo is this love or stupidity?

Why is the husband begging for cash?

Even if the wife manages the family money, they should work out a system where everyone gets an allowance (monthly/weekly) for their personal stuff.

They would also decide their expenditure and disburse accordingly.

If it is not working for both parties, then they should look for another way to manage their finances.

Any method that would make either the husband or wife 'beg' for basic funds is demeaning and disrespectful.

kennethfranc:
Am 21 and I also experience that mockery from fellow guys but I always laugh over it

Birds of the same feathers flock together.

If all your friends are mocking you for your virginity, you might want to change them or add new ones who think alike in sexual matters.

Ninetails:
I don't know if this is the right sections. But I believe this section is filled with matured minds.
Not long (this year) I turned 19 but all this while my parents have been keeping me indoor and isolated from friends in the name of We Don't want you to be with the bad Guys. that's not the issue, the thing is that am not working and that makes me feel so lazy. I mean I want to be working for what I eat and wear. I want to feel and be like some of my mates although I don't like their Lifestyle.
But now my question is that is it right if I leave home and stay with my uncle who stays alone and let me be Working under him?.
I mean it that right and will staying far from my family make me a better man?

You are just 19 years old.

Still a child who while has started making little decisions should still be under the coverage and protection of your parents.

Are your parents poor?

Biko enter university and learn a skill by the side (if interested).

Aiye tin dori kodo ke.

19 years talking of manhood.

Have you started going beards?

Because the cheated husband doesn't want to continue while the cheated wife wants to.

The choice to leave or stay lies in the hands of the cheated party.

truthsayer009:
hahahaha, the way you are ranting is the same way women are ranting too.

The major problem is that our brains are designed to function distinctively opposite to women's brains. I really can't understand why the creator did that.

Too much wahala.

This is hooge!

Congratulations David Omo Adeleke.

Juoflife1:
The people at the back didn't hear you.
Louder

You need a mic?

siofra:
I just say make I tell una.

Never leave a good woman because she mistakenly slept with another man Thank you

Awon 'accidentally' geng members

truthsayer009:
Because it means their education was a waste and they should return their degree. If education cannot bring us out of mental slavery, what will?

For example, a little study I did shows that men who are traders are fond of sponsoring a young lady through university hoping that she would marry them, meanwhile an educated man who has already been through school knows that It will be difficult a thing to accomplish because only money isn't going to be enough win that woman over If the man isn't educated or exposed himself.

Education or exposure has nothing to do with these things.

I have seen women who have achieved fantastic stuff at work still believe men are superior to women;

I have seen women who are high fliers still tell you that 'career' women don't make good wives'.

Or the ones that give their husbands their salary out of serious compulsion.

Educated men still do stuff that makes you wonder where they left their sense.

I know a senior academic staff in the university that was regularly beaten by her efulefu husband.

Like my people would say: Oro ife, bi adanwo ni

truthsayer009:
Na wa oh, I assume her family doesn't also know what is happening & she is also an illitrate. This should only happen in poor homes or communities, not average middle class homes.

I mean the reason for attending school is to be enlightened. I am not sure this OP or the woman in your story are not educated. You can't go through 4 years of college uni and be dropping all your funds for your husband just to collect a penny, kolework.

The family has to be really poor as well to allow this to happen. Someobody will be collecting my Sisters funds and be giving her penny, lmao. E no go happen.

Why do people think only uneducated/ poor/a certain class of women are victims of abuse?

@Pees123:

Your priority should be to stop the forceful contribution of your salary & collect your ATM from him since it is not voluntary.

Won ku orire.

If you ask the offense, you would hear 'she ate two meats', 'she did not wash the toliets' etc.

Peeps, please birth the number of children YOU CAN CATER PROPERLY for!

Romanoff:
Not all women wants an older man, a lot of women wants men in their age bracket, especially for marriage.

Me I see any man that's more than five years older than me as a daddy.

Real Daddy wa

MrBrownJay1:
this isnt the funniest part in this whole story....now check the picture again: so this is a woman, who wants to look/live like a man, to thereafter be with a gay man...so technically this is a woman who likes men but wanna look like a man too?!

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As in, confusion galore!

Oluomofx:
Dear nairalanders, I lost my mum recently due to illness, will you advise your 83years old father to remarry a 60yrs old woman to keep body and soul due to loneliness.

In theory, there is nothing wrong with him getting remarried since he lost his first wife (your mom). Sorry about the loss of your mom.

In practice, I am just wondering the kind of marriage they had that he is willing to remarry so soon after her death & at his age.

I would rather he gets a male/female nurse/nanny/companion.

So sad especially as Olu Jacobs is ill.

I feel for the parents who after guarding themselves for a long, long while entered the news like this.

Children, when you know your parents have built a legacy, be careful in your choices & actions that you don't ruin your parents' legacy.

Parents, while working very hard to build a legacy for yourself, don't neglect raising your kids so they don't ruin your legacy.

Romanoff:
Everyone here is the one that was lost due to pride.

None lost a partner because of pride.

Awon weyrey dey disguise.

Love, love, love everywhere on the OP.

It's not like you know what love is.

You don't love yourself, your wife or the lady you are stringing along.

I hope she opens her mind and gets wind of who you truly are.

Make una die this matter na.

descarado:


You haven't seen anything yet.

Them full Abuja. And the funny thing is their wives cover for them.
That car they drive, na madam buy am.
House o, house rent, giving him money to give his people. His people will thank their son and probably bad mouth wifey

Just to make him feel like a man.

One lost his job and packed up. Wifey was doing everything. Her income wasn't enough. She was going about meeting people to help her husband with job.

At a point she resorted to begging to buy food. Told the man to go to his father's family house with the kids for now cos she can squat with somebody and the kids will eat and be taken care of in lagos. Oga said that's an insult. And she loved this guy so much. She indulged him. A masters electrical engineer degree holder and so handsome. Always in the house. He don't talk.

Women dey suffer. Just that society makes them mute. Don't un-dignify your husband. Respect and honour him. It is well

There is another breed of husbands that works, earns more than the wife and still not contribute (financial, domestic etc) in the home.

The things I have heard and seen.....

A husband splitting mortgage 50% with his wife when he earns way higher & only husband's name is on document.

Abi wife struggling with fees while husband is buying designer shoes and wristwatches.

That's why when I hear split bill 50 - 50, I am wary.

When people shout that all women should work so that their husbands would not ridicule/disrespect them, I laugh.

In addition to looking for you don't want, one needs to look for what she/ he wants.

ThamesWater:
Funny but true and I'm sure your kids must have been dumbfounded at the above scenarios but they don't understand where you are coming from.

Raising kids in the West where black kids especially black boys are picked on by the institutionally racist system is not for the faint hearted.

I remember years ago in London when the nursery said my son was not talking fluently at age 2 and so they recommended speech therapy which I bluntly refused telling them that he would talk in his own time which he did.

Ffwd 2 years later when he was 4 and his teacher was in my opinion picking on him too much and I told her that if she does not leave him alone, I would report her to my father and she then asked who my father was and I pointed to the sky and said God is my father.

The UK is a place where the educational system picks on black boys disproportionately and my seeing how the system has encouraged single motherhood which may be a big reason black Carribean boys/men represent a disproportionately large population of british prison inmates had already preconditioned me before having kids that if i had a boy child in the UK, it would be fire for fire between me and the system if they tried any nonsense with my son.

Around age 4 the UK educational system dignosed my son as having ADHD and they recommended that I should take him to a special school. At first I obliged and took him to the so called "school" but alas on my first visit with my 4 year old son to the so called special school, i noticed that it was not actually a school building but a one storey house that could pass for a residential house and the only 2 pupils at the "school" was by 4 year old son and another black boy and the sole teacher was white, male and of Bobrisky's inclination (if you get my drift).

I already knew I was not leaving my son alone in this mans presence for even 1 second so I waited for the man to step out of line by shouting at my son for running around and i just stood up and dragged the boy out of the so called "school" telling the so called "teacher" that my son is no longer coming to his school and i took him back to the perplexed main stream school.

Their next step was to call me to round table meetings with various so called specialists with PHD's in different educational fields but when they see that my first question to them was to ask them if they were really doctor's with MBBS degrees or just had PHD's, they shockingly look at themselves with the knowing look that this one will not swallow anything we tell him and when the recommended that they put my son on some tablets to cure the so called ADHD, I bluntly refused.

What I did was to use "tough love" therapy at home and as my google research said not to give him apples or any food containing salicylates, i withdrew apples from his diet but I think it was the 2toughlove" that did the trick as i myself know that he was a handful as a child but i was not going to let them send him to a school house where he was one of the only 2 kids there and the teacher was an effeminate male and neither was i going to let them damage his brain with drugs.

When he was going from primary to secondary school, the primary school sent a file to the secondary school labelling him as special needs but i was not perturbed 'cos i knew that I was not going to take my eye off the ball as pertaining the close marking and tough love I showed him at home to straighten him out.

Also he was not allowed to roam around the neighbour hood after school or at weekends and i encured i created a tailored timetable for him on Saturdays that included study time / breaks and play time and in the bathroom i regularly pin positive affirmative quotes to the mirror so that my kids regularly see it as they are washing their hands.

Tough love at home did the trick with him and he is now a respected contributor to British society.

Coming back to your story, I know a couple in London where the 23 year old son was rude to the mom who reported him to his dad when the dad came home. Dad tries verbally correcting the son, leads to an argument that degenerated into a physical combat between the man and his 23 year old son .

As the physical combat between son and father progressed, the son was having the upper hand over his Dad (who was about 50 at the time) as the son was using some deadly choke holds he learnt in the gym on his dad and at some point he tied up his dad in some martial arts knot such that the dad could not move and had to cry out for help to his wife by frantically calling her name and saying he was tired and running out of breath at which point the mum had to bite her son in order to have him release the stranglehold on his Dad.

The woman told her son to leave the house and he refused and she then called the police whose first move was to try to arrest the woman's husband on arriving thinking it was a case of domestic violence until the woman told the cops it was not her husband but her son that she wanted thrown out of the house.

Another London parenting story was where a 10 year old Nigerian boy called the cops saying his mum beat him and when the cops knocked at the door the woman dragged her son to the door, opened the door and pushed the boy out of the flat in the cops direction telling the cops they could have him and telling her son that she wishes him well with his new parents and then she slammed the door shut and locked it.

It took a long time of the police pleading with her at her doorstep before she allowed the boy back into the house.

What some parents go through in the West in the hands of their children is better left imagined.

I even heard of another middle aged man who had a heart attack and died while raising his voice to discipline / shout at a misbehaving child or is it that nurse Mrs Kalejaiye who was stabbed to death by her 23 year old son in the same London (the son is now serving life in prison) .
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-essex-33204248

Ku roju, baba gidi ni yin.

angelfallz:
1. what is a skater skirt?
2. what is the name of the skirt she is wearing?

1. Fitted at the waist & flared at the hips

2. A straight pencil skirt. The 'issue' is her shape.

folake4u:
Lmao I go make heaven oh.


To be honest, the whole thing didn't make sense.

Lupita and The Rock facial expression was priceless!!!!

They provided live entertainment.

RockWill Reality Tv Show.

PrimadonnaO:
That poster you're responding to is laziness-apologetic.

Or just mindlessly defensive of his gender.

Or both

angelfallz:
The bolded,

We would soon get the updated version of the manual.