₦airaland Forum

ambr055i:
This is the reason you should let your kids be exposed. Guys who grew up under a strong Christian background always fall prey to situations like this. If he had been dating in the past, he wouldn't have been in such a mess now.

If he imbibed his Christian values, he wouldn't date such a girl.

Don't you think so?

What concord should light have with darkness?

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
She withdrew her support from Smith saying he over reacted at the Oscars and that she did not say she wanted to be protected. Now that is coming after Will Smith submitted himself to a rehabilitation center o!
https://www.nairaland.com/7068677/pinket-withdraws-support-smith-he

@bold:

If true, he is on the right track.

The person that should follow him is Annie Idibia.

Wrong spouses are death sentences.

Him: she came for the money + sex

Her: I have been feeding him.

Me: Where is the audio money in the mix? Please send it to my accant while I mediate between you both.

AfroKnight:
A slap on the wrist. This is nonsense. There is nothing disciplinary about this farce.

He can still be nominated and win awards but can’t attend events? That’s the punishment? Rubbish.

Do you want him destroyed totally?

Dude needs to check in for therapy.

I appreciate that Chris Rock knew he was down and did not add to the mess by pressing charges.

heniford2:
if he opens business for you now u will start overiding him insulting him so baba wan manage u if u feel u can't cope file divorce ungrateful house wife

Follow your signature:

Just be a man with wisdom.

StPete:
I'd be very willing to divorce a woman like you who would readily go to a pastor or juju in place of proper logic and reasoning

Before we stone the OP, is it logical for a man married with kids to continually say he is not the marriage type?

To deprive his wife of financial empowerment when he is not ready to cater to her needs and wants?

As a husband, you need to behave in a way worthy of respect before you have the moral standing to expect respect and followership.

If the husband is standing in the position of spiritual leadership as he should, would his wife be running from pastor to juju?

Biglittlelois:
Of course

Why else? Sex is the end game here, or if there is another reason, let's hear it.

Events have overtaken this beht I do not believe women cheat only because the sex in-house is not good.

Heiterkeit:
But in your post I quoted, you said otherwise.

Can you point the exact line I said 'men and women are not equal' ma'am?

Acidosis:
Direct me to where I made this statement? These are your own words based on your personal insecurities. I never at any time claimed that men are superior to women. I don't use those words (superior, equality, etc.) in my "limited mind".

Ladies like you who have failed at being women are the ones seeking validation from men. Love yourself as a woman and if you're too insecure so much that you need to be weighed on a scale, pick up role models from your gender and get yourself validated. Your being equal with a man on paper still won't get you the fulfilment you seek until you learn to love yourself as a woman.



LMAO This is the best you can come up with?? I know you're hiding under a strange moniker to vomit the nonsense in your head but I won't give you that chance.

How can Acidosis, a traditional guy (as you people call me here) live off women?? You dey madt?

Please don't tell me it hurts you then to see Idowuogbo and I relate on Nairaland?

Outside your discussion with Heit....

@bold:
This is solid gold!

NOBODY can make you inferior or below without your permission.

Biglittlelois:
2) Who is complaining? I don't see anyone that fits my narrative complaining, Op brought this topic up as a sort of concern

3) So why do they help themselves outside if they are getting it from their husband? Remember, the topic is about adultery.

2. I meant if a person committing adultery because of a spouse's short coming, they can't complain about the short coming anymore


3. Do wives only commit adultery because their husbands suck at sex?

Biglittlelois:
1. Marry the right person? Everyone, men and women, believe they married the right person till they are in the marriage, then certain personality or traits tells them otherwise

2. Yeah some divorce if they are no longer interested, and some stay because of the kids or whatever reason best known to them, while some prefer to frolick around because it suits them instead of going through the long process of divorce.

3. Sleeping around stops the "endurance and suffering" if the problem is sexual starvation, so instead of the usual "pray and hope for your husband to change" or "watch war room" etc, they help themselves outside, so everyone is good and happy.

1. This cracked me up

2. The moment a person decides to frolick, they have lost the right to complain.

3. Does it? What if the problem is not sexual starvation? How many women are 'enduring' their marriages because of sexual starvation?

Biglittlelois:
1. No one wants to endure in marriage anymore especially women,


since they've been doing that from time immemorial while men behave anyhow they like, so they help themselves outside as best and discreet as they can while maintaining the home front as usual.

1. If women do not want to endure anymore,

Isn't better to
a. Marry the right person
b. Divorce the husband if they are no longer interested

How does sleeping around stop the 'suffering' & 'endurance' they are expected to do since they still maintaining the home front?

Heiterkeit:
This 'I am equal to a man' so you do not believe that women and men are equal?

I believe men and women are equal.

thorpido:
No,I'm not excusing the behavior.I'm just saying that is where some women have found themselves and decide to do something about it rather than 'hope'.

But the 'do something' is not sustainable she is a Christian.

It means multiple adulteries till she is tired.

LadyRosa:
Well,it's no news that there is now a surge in women, married women committing adultery in today's Nigeria.Out of 10 adultery cases on nairaland, more than half has got women as the culprit.Infact, only this week on Frontpage,more than 10 cases from nairalanders has been recorded.

Why now?What went wrong? What could be the reasons for the skyrocketing cases of cheating wives?

Revenge?

Bad xxxx?
Economic limitations and the need to keep up financial independence in gender competitive Nigeria?
Domestic abuse and subjugation?
Religious ingenuity by respected clerics?
Age?
Social media and it's larger than life attributes,a platform where disadvantaged persons can paint a picture perfect life and get away with it?

OR?
Has men become really effeminate?

I now noticed this ugly strain in NL, disgusting yet calls for deep reflection.Our men are becoming more and more loquacious than their female counterpart,they complain too much.This bantle of 'bitterness' associated with Nigeria women as been thrown to the men.Its really disgusting to say the least,I think women are supposed to be the talkatives here and not the men.Omo,the rants are getting worst with the males ñot even giving the women chance to express themselves EVEN on threads that are specifically for the women.I believe that it shows there are more jobless men than women in Nigeria.Loads and lot of verbal assault been hurled and women who have now decided to see nothing wrong in being a baby mama or a LovePeddler.Now,many of them glorifies the word.We can see that with the way a lady exposed her white pant in a birthday photoshoot recently.

So many damaged marriages.Single women and men competing in corporations, having illicit Bleep,going home to sleep like nothing happened , resuming next day competing with each other all over again.I have friends in the island who live like this.The married ones still sleep around,the single ones keep late nights with different guys and in all I noticed they value money more than marriage.As long as the money keeps rolling in,Omo _penis no hard to get,na money be de Koko.
And it is what it is.As long as _vagina ain't free,_penis is and so for the women,it's a win win for them You pay to get mine by cash or otherwise,I get yours any damn time I want.So?

Marriage in general is truly overrated.

It will surely get worst.

1. Marriage is not over rated.

2. The root cause of adultery is greed: I want to hold on to whatever I have (irrespective of how good or bad I claim it is) and get something else on the side. If a husband/wife is not good, let them go and find someone else

3. This new age woke teaching of 'I do what makes me happy' or 'I own my body' or 'I am not accountable to anyone' or 'I am equal to a man' or 'I am free' etc etc have removed the restrictions women previously placed on themselves to be faithful in their marriages.

4. The stupid age long belief that men are polygamous while women are/should be monogamous contributed to this. Regardless of continuously glamourizing homosexuality, more men would be heterosexual. That means they are cheating on their wives with other women. Considering the fact that women are putting much more effort in maintaining their looks today, married women would join their target market.

5. Husbands are losing the quality of masculinity and leadership due to
a. Cheating themselves so they have lost the moral right to demand faithfulness. This sometimes birth 'revenge adultery';
b. Unable to command their wives' respect;
c. Subscription to woke ideas such as feminism. A male feminist is an aberration like a female red piller or a red pill girl.

6. General moral decadence. More men & women lack home training, contentment, sexual restraint etc.

7. Carry over of the wayward lifestyle into marriage. Wokeness would teach you that sex is just sex and you can have your feel and then 'settle down'. Unfortunately, there is no 'marriageometer' or 'marriagepill' that makes you suddenly desire to be with one man/woman after sleeping with everyone.

8. The husband: bad sex, no sex, no relationship and every other shenanigans you can blame him for. However, my opinion is my point number 2: if he is not good enough for you, let him go.

9. In rare occasions, poverty.

10. The news? It has just started.

thorpido:
Moral decadence and social media...ease of hooking up.
The biggest problem I think is a lack of love on the husbands' part.The sex especially is poor or rarely happens.

Is this an excuse though?

Or are we saying husbands in prior times were better lovers?

LadyRosa:
I earn more than my man.

There are several men who gets bullied, disrespected and disvalued by their own 'housewives'.

Tina156:
Another phone

Are we talking about a phone?

I thought we are talking about a mummy who didn't did right.

Tina156:
Do you know I can work to buy another one if I want?

Buy another mother?

Why not?

They are a dime a dozen in Onitsha market

No, what your mum did left.

As a punishment, I command that she begins to did right .

Christianokaro:
Years ago in this part of the world, gender equality was a taboo. Statements like "A woman's certificate ends in the kitchen" held sway. Women were made to aspire first to marriage, before anything else. So much so that some simply ended their aspirations at marriage and those who couldn't get married spent a huge chunk of their lives feeling like a failure.

Fast forward to now, the future of the past. Women who aspire can become just about anything they want to be in the world. From being vice president of the United States of America(Kamala Harris) to Director General of the World Trade Organization (Ngozi Okonjo Iweala) and even globally recognized icons of talent (Asa, Angelique Kidjo, Genevieve and their likes).

But these women are in their 60s and started building from their 20s and 30s

Very good initiative anyways.

LikeAking:
Ageg go rest. U get job, only you enjoy. Did u elp any one during this 3 years?

OP rest.

Na only una dey get the Oil and gas jobs, abeg free us.

What kind of devilish, myopic, poverty inspired, greedy and crablike thinking is this?

Did he help anyone?

Seriously?

When we tell them to be good and choose well, they say mba, it doesn't matter.

The person you marry can make or mar you.

We4all:
Agbaya, she and Pac never had a romantic relationship. She likened their friendship to a father and daughter relationship.

And the earth is flat sir.

angelfallz:
The bolded, God bless you

Very important.

ThierryJay:
Buka Milady. Always on point

Thank you.

angelfallz:
The bolded,
Thank God you said growing up. Now, it is anything goes. Smh.

It is well

Solatium:
You aren't a Man so you can't understand

Well, I have a man who doesn't use 'marriage responsibilities' to stop investing in the friendship we have built for almost twenty years.

Solatium:
Well,i thank God for you that you were able to call it back,you would have found out that he's the same as your husband or even worse than him when it comes to conversation.
Naturally a married man will not go into certain topic at a point in his marital life,not because he's not interested in them,but because the task ahead is much more important when compare to those topics and sweet words your casual friends says to you just to get into your pants.
The moment he sleeps with you,he will switch to your husband's mode of conversation.

Wrong.

Marriage responsibilities is not an excuse not to converse and relate as friends.

It is just see finish.

@chioma134:

Thank God for His grace and your willingness to do the right thing.

@discussion generally: how do opposite sex become 'best friends' married or not?

Then you make it worse by having a opposite sex 'bestie' as a married person.

Growing up, there was a consciousness of conduct between men & women.

Non-lovers did not cross certain boundaries not to send the wrong signals or put themselves in compromising positions.

Today, anything goes and we have thrown caution to the wind.

I pray we return to the ancient path.

Josephnnochiri2:
That's why I love 2baba and others who actually married tru love....
This generation is now marrying what is called money marriage lolz and soon and later, what you will hear is they have separated

2baba married through love?

Are you referring to his song or his marriage?

advanceDNA:
Our Moral standards has dropped everywhere...

When hoe men and hoe women go into marriage, e no fit last...no be prophesy...Na fact.

I will always say it...some people have scattered town too much to settle down.... people just expect a ring on the finger to fix or reset their dirty, undisciplined, wayward life style...


Na garbage in garbage out at the end of the day....

@bold:

100% on 100%

You deserve some bitcoins