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I wonder when infantilizing women would stop

'Femi Adebayo sleeps with married nollywood actresses' in an accusatory tone.

It does not occur to the blogger that these women are actually cheating on their spouses.

Thankfully, it is sleeping together: not the sex for roles they have used to rope the male actors & directors in the past.

Mindlog:
Do she even still have a marriage? A married man who confidently have sex with another man's wife is not worth wasting time on.......he has little time left.

He should confidently have sex with single ladies?

mardis:
So the husband is even proud cheating with a married woman, he is doing to his fellow man what he can't tolerate. Well, the wife shouldn't worry herself at all. She should just ignore the man, there is no point in leaving the marriage because that is what the side chick wants. She should just transform herself to be more sexy, dress sexy. Pay attention to her appearance. If she is fat, she should try and loose weight. Attend occasions and function where she can meet and hook up with friends especially male friends.

I don't even know what to write, but if am in her shoes i will know what to do without raising a voice.

The side chic or side hen did not want her to leave her marriage; she wanted to chop her husband on the side.

Remember the side hen was/is married and not planning to leave her husband till madam reported her.

That's why one needs common sense.

Since she had decided not to leave the marriage, common sense would have told her to look for a solution that would let everyone maintain their lane.

What was she expecting when she reported the side hen to the husband?

Even if her husband is not interested in marrying the side hen, he would make the marriage more uncomfortable than it already is (If his side hen loses her marriage).

Her village people were at work here.

thorpido:
That's why when you have sex, you cannot 'went your way'. Sex comes with responsibility!

Good thing the child looks like him. If he needs confirmation, he should do a DNA test.
He should man up and begin to take responsibility in the child's life now.

Women have a upper hand in this stuff sha

A woman can force a man to be a father; a man cannot force a woman to be a mother.

Aye le

NaBanga:
She did right by her son. The father does not want to take up the responsibility. I have heard the father is also married with a family abroad. After all the media proclamations and appeals to big men, the Jeremi family does not acknowledge this child. The father does not want the boy. So to legitimize her child in society, Linda is giving her child a legitimate name and tie to a family.

So with all Linda's stance on celibacy, she SLEPT with a married man?

Shior!

Pegi23:
You sound like the type they can easily lure to something..so because ur husband listen to tupac u decided to like it too..Mrs liker(I hiss In spanish) what did u love that your husband doesn't like before but because u love it he decided to love it too(well nothing..look like you are the only one liking what ur husband likes)..stop making things center around him jare. Rather make him like what u like also. Marriage is for two not for one..

Na fight?

Preshieben:
judging from your moniker..

It will take a long time

Hahahahahaha!

Why na?

Geesaintagape:
It happens to me too.
Egusi was my favorite b4 marriage and my wife detest egusi, now I don't like it again

That's the way it is

However, being with many partners destroys the ability to bond and mirror.

The money

He is gradually looking good again.

Giving MJ vibes in some pictures.

Modified:

Watching Jaiye Jaiye.....

Dude needs to stop whatever he is doing to himself.

koyyess:
It happens in friendships too. Nothing special there. He is indirectly influencing you. I do hope you don't completely lose yourself in the process. Everything should have limits.

Na wa!

dominique:
The op may be exaggerating but truly there are plenty scantily clad girls at malls these days catwalking around the aisles with nothing to buy looking for hook-up clients. Since they're no longer allowed to loiter around hotel and airport lobbies, malls are the next best place to seek clients. If your son brings home a girl and you ask him where he met her and he says mall, use koboko to chase her away then use it to flog sense into him. May our sons and brothers not be an olosho's retirement plan o

But some of these girls come with their guys na?

Or are they planning to port there and then?

@Your prayer: A solid amen!

Lamanii22:
Amen! God bless you hun

And you too.

salisuammy:
I say let me help their confusion na

Abi?

She left her husband sleeping besides her and did investigative journalism to report his lover to her husband.

What was her expectation when she decided to report her husband's married side chic?

They should just swap husbands and live in peace o jare!

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Aunty Tonto, biko your tailor's contacts.

@Descardo, these are the types of tailors we need

The second picture is very crass

I prefer the pictures in traditional attire better; the attires complements her figure better and gives her 'rich aunty' vibes.

FFK still has mouth to talk?

salisuammy:
Let her kukuma marry the side chicks husband too

Two ge four ni yen

Ofada sauce in ten minutes?

In the hypothetical story, hope the girl is ending the relationship sha?

That man is not someone you can enter a lifelong partnership or Journey with.

Nothing stops him from giving her N10m

pauladonis:
Both headlines are optimized to get clicks.

It's not about backwardness.

Clicks and traffic is what makes money for the media, they don't care if they're telling you the truth or not.

American audience wouldn't care if it's not something new or refreshing like the next best thing in Afropop.


Here in Nigeria, nobody gives a flying frock what genre of music a celeb is singing, but you bet they'd click if the news is about how the celeb got embarrassed or disappointed.

It's the same thing with Messi and Ronaldo. Any news about Ronaldo is always reported negatively because his fans are easy to get clickbaited/triggered and his haters want to see him fail.
Messi gets positive reports because his fans are very agreeable and his haters get triggered easily.


In the end, it is what it is.

Absolutely on point.

AdviseMePls:


Someone should talk to me. My mum has been giving me mental troubles. Most especially when this goes sore for me. She has always been doing that.
And as a man, I deserve no stress.

I noticed, whenever I have, my family always want to be close to me. When I go broke, they'll dump me.

They want to have control all over my life and I'm not yet married. Now u think things will get worse for me when I get married.

Right now, I'm homeless, I lost everything. I'm planning so hard to fix up myself. But my family are making it difficult. My mum especially, whenever she calls me. I don't get the mothering advice I want from her. All she does is nag and complain over me not calling her.

The worst thing she did to me, when I was in the hospital dying, she and everyone left me. My mum visited and felt so reluctant about me. She was not moved. I couldn't pay my hospital bills to receive the right treatment. My friend have to borrow from his sis for me to be treated. She was not moved. Only a friend of mine who I'm squatting with now. Everyone dumped me. When I got back to my feet and visited. They started feeling entitled again. They started billing me here and there. I feel pain because I was just trying to stand up again.

My dad and I have never been friends right from time. When I visited his last two months and notice he's been passing through a lot that I never notice from time. I tried to embrace him and showed him some love. I observed my mum was pained about this. She has been irritated by my goods towards my dad.

I'm a man, I know she's my mum. I can't allow women to control my life. I feel I own my life as a man. She always wants me to take all her advice which I know not all the advice will help me.

I feel bittered.

The statements in bold insinuates that you are not as blameless in this brouhaha as you paint here.

If you can type them here, then I wonder the kind of vibes you have been giving your mother which she is also reacting to. Imagine having a son/daughter who thinks you are not qualified to correct or parent them because of your sex or achievement or whatever.

As a man, you don't like stress; were you told somewhere that women love stress?

Most parents like their kids to take all their advise which is naturally unrealistic or would not be correct due to generational gap or lack of exposure.

The few that you took that worked out well for us, did you thank/acknowledge her? What I see is a constant overt and covert disrespect for your mother yet you expect her to treat you well. (I am not saying your mother doesn't have her own short comings).

However you decide to maintain the relationship with your folks is up to you; just change your mindset towards women or don't marry else you will have same problems with your wife and complain 'all women are bad.'

Goodluck.

Lamanii22:
I noticed recently that whatever my husband likes is what I like, for example, I originally use FCMB and my partner uses zenith, immediately I opened an account with zenith... Another one, I listen to foreign classic songs basically while my partner's more into Tupac and Orlando owoh, I totally love those songs now... I don't eat fufu before but I'm liking it now lol.....

That joy that is making you eager to mirror him & identify with him will not disappear in Jesus name.

Like others have said, it is love

Neither of you would do anything to disappoint the other causing bitterness in your hearts.

Amen.

These are the kind of stories I love to see.

GorillaApp:
Well...

Na love dey shack you.

E go clear

It will not clear in Jesus name.

Her husband would never do anything that would cause her to lose her sweetness and nectar. Amen.

Una don come

Lovely cuddly

Oga, you just got married, calm down especially as this is your third marriage.

You married what you couldn't handle twice, why not calm down this third time to ensure you did not make same mistake?

CrystalSpark:
Let me jump on the trend, too! I decided to make a light dinner after today’s hustle.

I live, cook, and eat alone. See what I got for 950 naira at the market that was closest to where I was this evening.

Veggies - 300
Eggs (5) - 250
Plantain - 400

Fair?

The vegetables do not look fresh and healthy.

Next time spend more on veggies and reduce the eggs & plantain since you live alone.

ukehnonny:


Tonto not again! Arrgh

And in an ideal world, such a man would want Tonto because......?

Does she pray her sons marry someone like Tonto?

Does she pray her daughters marry the male version of Tonto?

ValCon888:
The man has gone on a business trip and in that trip he intends to cheat. Whether she likes it or not, the deed will be done.

I will tell you the bitter truth.

Your friend has no leverage to question her husband. When they tell you women to find something doing you'll refuse. Now her husband is treating her like trash because apart from the hole between her legs, she has nothing else of value to offer.

@ bold:

1. Are you saying that if this OP starts working and contributes financially in the home, she does not have to do ANY OTHER THING? As in if she drops part of her paycheck and she zooms off till the next month, she is valuable to the marriage/man?

2. Do you think that only housewives suffer this type of disrespect?

3. Are you agreeing that a husband should be treated like trash if (God forbid) he loses his job? Afterall, all he would be offering at that point would be the stick in between his legs.

@finewoman:

Your friend's husband is disrespectful; I do not understand how a husband would leave his wife at home without properly defining his whereabouts.

We do not understand how this disrespect also seeps into other parts of their marriage so it is hard to understand how being a housewife ties into the whole scenario.

She could have kept the matter between them and waited for the man to come back home before confronting him. There was no need to escalate to his sister or rake over the phone till a third party was de-escalating the issue by yarning dust.

Charmingrascal:

Very hilarious

They should not worry, many things can happen in one year

If they knew their laws was against homosexuality, is there any reason why they decided to make their union public?