₦airaland Forum

juman:
In yorubaland most mothers are bedrock of families finance.

Many fathers are irresponsible. Marrying many women, neglecting many children.
Hence women have to work.
If the husband misbehave or die, she would be able to take care of her children.

Kobicove:
The days of being a housewife are long gone!

No right thinking man would tolerate a wife who is a complete liability in this present economy

JimmyDarmody:
Sequel to this thread;
https://www.nairaland.com/6765187/careers-women-turn-off-man#106048053

I think a married woman should not have to work. Your wife stands to be treated as a subordinate and even disrespected by her bosses. Some may try to make advances. A man should make enough money to a point that his wife does not have to work too.

What do you think ?

HRHQueenPhil:
I believe that if a couple wants to have a family, one of them should sacrifice to being at home
Thank God for remote jobs and small businesses..there are too many rude and wayward children because of negligent parents
I know times are hard but many of us turned out okay because of attentive parenting

matrixmuzi:
A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard. The door of
his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign of the dog.
Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.
He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.
As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel. She looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, ‘What happened here today?’
She again smiled and answered, “You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world I do all day?”
“Yes,” was his incredulous reply.
She answered, “Well, today I didn’t do

SmartPolician:
You see, being an elderly man or woman doesn't automatically make someone responsible. There are bunch of elderly people who had terrible upbringing and lived horrible lifestyles as youths.

Therefore, you don't expect those "values" to vanish because they are now elders. Those men of 60-80 wey dey rape smalls girls of 5-15 years na still elders. Just ignore the woman and probably relocate from that street, if possible.

AhaomasMedia:
A boy aged 13 years old shocked a court in Nairobi on 20th Monday 2021 after confessing that he knowingly slept with their female house help of 39 years for more than 8 months. The boy confessed that his relationship with the Househelp started way back in July 2020. Please continue reading here:� https://naijanite.com/2021/09/20/i-sleep-with-her-in-the-kitchen-13-years-old-boy-confesses-sleeping-with-house-help/

EcoBrick:
Does anyone know how one apply to the academy?

potland:
don't get me wrong, I'm not judging you. It's your life, you have every right to your opinion. Same as every other person

potland:
seems you don't get along with your fellow women on matters pertaining to gender equality. You are opposed to change or new ideas. Never evolving with modern sensibilities. You come across as a conservative person. Not a feminist, just my observation.

Seeksnigeria:
Update from

Attaining to the position of the Vice Chancellor in a University is a big feat. One who will get to such high and honorable position must have attained higher university degrees.

Grace Alele Williams was the first woman to become a university Vice-Chancellor in Nigeria. She attained this noble rank, Vice-Chancellor University of Benin in the year 1985.

Professor Grace Williams who was born in Warri, had her Secondary education in Queen’s College, Lagos. She obtained her first and second degrees from the University of Ibadan. Young Grace, taught Mathematics in Queen’s School, Ede in Osun State after her first degree.

In 1963, She became the first Nigeria Woman to have a Ph.D. Grace Williams earned her doctorate degree in Mathematics from the University of Chicago. She was appointed an assistant professor in Vermont University.

The great mathematician returned to Nigeria and joined University of Ibadan, Siggy reports. She was pronounced a professor of mathematics in 1976. She progressed to the University of Lagos as a senior mathematics lecturer.

Professor Grace Alele Williams was an internationally respectable mathematician. She led numerous workshops on mathematics both in Africa and in United States of America. She is a winner of many awards both in Nigeria and across the world.

In 1985, Professor Williams became the first Nigeria Woman to be made a University Vice-Chancellor. She was appointed the Vice-Chancellor of the University of Benin. She contributed immensely to the development of education in Nigeria and Africa. Her footprints shall remain forever.

https:///grace-williams-meet-the-first-female-vice-chancellor-in-nigeria-photos/

Ellasure:
Igbo men are always full of advantages and Igbo women like to use the advantages it only become painful when any other keen observer snatch the advantages to their own use. Thinking through seems a big challenge.

Now, an Igbo woman has laid a request for women in Nigeria to be given sole representative of 112 seats in Nigeria national assembly. When Nigeria want to share out the seats for implementation and they gave 50 seats to Fulani, 30 to Yoruba, 15 to South South, 15 to middle belters and 10 to South East that is when the Igbo woman will start making noise of marginalisation.
Many Nigerians are sleep walking. Some are eating while talking.

Education to degree level does not confer wisdom to to holders it only open more doors to knowledge and understanding. Understanding is with sublimation and humility. Lack of humility in thinking of individual only expound more evils on the society.

The proposed law on gender based representation looks good on paper but its implementation will be fraught with deceit. The resulting effect on the house decisions and the Nigerian society will be catastrophic in dimensions not imagine.

The bill should be withdrawn or killed and thrown into rubbish bins.

For representation of women, let the women lobby and canvass more in their various states and localities.

Corporate2020:
Nonsensical nonsense.

Leave the men and guys behind. Everything now is for women. Technology for Women. Entrepreneurship for Women. Art and Music for Women. All sorts of Scholarships for Women everywhere. Even if you dey fund Work, the useless Employers will employ a less qualified Woman over a Man.


That's good, your highly educated, empowered and rich Women will have only dropouts, drug addicts and touts to select from as life partners.

A similar nonsense called federal character or quota system made us to have several illiterate Almajari as heads of several government agencies, ministries and parastatals in Nigeria, now you want to start dashing Women positions

YoungDaNaval:
Which one come be warmth kwanu?

GeneralPula:
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250% wig density carrier set..

efficiencie:
No marriage is not for you...you are worse than complicated math problems. By your own admission, you love intimacy but you are not the romantic type, how? How na? If you are not romantic what are you doing with intimacy? By your own admission, you like your space and detest sharing stuff but yet you love intimacy, how bros? How? How can you love intimacy and yet you don't like to share and you want your space? Being intimate with someone requires you to share somethings with that person. Things like your time, your living unit, your bedroom, your secrets, your fears, your fantasies, your ideas and so on. Dude if GOD created the wife you need, she would be a freak of nature that would most likely end in the asylum...If you want a woman you must be ready to change as much as you require her to change. Anything short of this arrangement would result in a taskmaster-slave relationship which will ultimately blow-up in your face!

Kondomatic:
Exactly what happens in most families here in the North.

The women in these marriages are mainly there for the sake of being married. They have different apartments in the man's compound, all person with her own children.

Nobody has time for some men's endless wahala, he sef kuku no send because if glo no connect, airtel will connect or he will kuku buy a new Etisalat.

And just like your friend said, the women have enough time for their lives. They live it to the fullest, I am talking about those with cash.

They wear the nicest clothes, expensive ones. They have jewelries like it's free in the market. I have few of them as customers, they don't have time to bargain, just ensure it's original and high quality and you're good.

Buhari's government kuku release too much money for northerners, they are the Nigerians now.

But the wives have endless internal battles amongst them. It's gets messy sometimes.

crackhaus:
Edited for clarity...

And yeah, you're right... This is something I've known for a long time.

Sterope:
Some women actually find polygamy very empowering for this reason especially those that enjoy their space. It is a point I can relate to. However, there are polygamous men who are not up to scratch despite their number of wives.

There was a piece on Guardian UK about Muslims women that are career driven who allow their husbands to get second wife who end up taking care of the homefront.

This is where some very foolish men would think this is about them.

pocohantas:
Some people believe in polygamy for strange reasons…

I have this woman at work that is 40yrs. She is a devout muslim with an impeccable sense of style- rich muslim women can make you throw away all your omo wobe clothes sha. All covered up but regal.

Anyway, she got married in 2019 and I was surprised, because I always thought muslims marry very early. Then she told me she went into a monogamous marriage in her 20s, but it didn’t work out and crashed in less than 4 years. It was from her I also got to know divorce is rife in the North, but we don’t hear about it. After the divorce, she picked her lessons and returned abroad to further her studies (she has a PhD). She went on to add that she has enjoyed her polygamous husband so much because his wahala is distributed among all the wives. She is the fourth and last wife, with her own separate property on the Island.

According to her, monogamous men are unnecessarily stressful and jealous, even though they will still be cheating without remorse on the side. They have too many expectations and standards and want it all from one woman. Any time they turn, they will call your name. If they come home, they will shout your name. Men who are polygamous with their full chest are different.

She closed by asking if I have ever asked myself why it is women in rich polygamous marriages that have time to attend parties upandan, travel for studies, do baby girl and go for vacations every other month? You do something with your life and have time for yourself while the man faces his other three wives.

She made a lot of sense, but I will pass…

dacblogger:
Nuella's ex ...
Lord please protect our marriages in this end times,Amen...

saphiere:
If it cost you your peace, leave. I stand with her.

cybertruss:
From time to time she allow me touch her. No kiss. Half bread is better than none. You have no choice.

In a year we might have sex an average of 6 to eight times. The few times we met resulted to children.

My crime is well known by me. I don't have big money. Not that I am not providing but it is below her expectation but I am not relaxing

cybertruss:
Real blow on stomach. Sometimes real dirty slap for me to leave her alone. It continues for months.

I don't want reconciliation as she seems to be enjoying her life. I only have problem with the no remarry preaching. We have 3 children

pocohantas:
It is worrying, Buka. They encourage baby husbands. This is a grown man for God sake. The one that is supposed to lead. How do you justify him being pampered spiritually and morally like this?

I have never seen one church program organized for men and they gathered themselves to pray for their wives not to cheat. Is it that men do not know women face temptations, way more than they do?

Kobojunkie:
1. Jesus Christ no send anyone go teach any man or woman how to act in marriage.

2. Your churches are part and parcel of the problem that is now marriage in Nigeria today. They have preached rubbish to generations taking from them , both men and women, the ability to make sound decisions even in their marriages.