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TMKsouth:
A South African cop in shorts is serving the heat on social media, and it is all for good reason, too, as winter is over and spring (the warm season) takes off in the country.

While the men and women in blue have a pledge to serve and protect, this officer decidely went the extra mile as he offered up some eye candy for the SA fashion police, thanks to the tight-fitting shorts he is seen wearing.

The police officer is shown in full police uniform, complete with a service weapon conspicuously strapped to his right thigh.

It is very rare for police officers to wear shorts in South Africa.

@bold:

It is rare for police officers anywhere to wear shorts.

To be honest, this is my first time of seeing a police officer in shorts.

And when the story started, I imagined a lady.

AutoChick4U:
So its written in stone that a "happy home" involves 2 romantically involved people?

Anyways as long as you happy, u got a happy home. If you at peace in your relationship, happy home it is

It is common knowledge.

No amount of twisting or modernization would change it.

@bold:

Since you have gotten the meat of the matter, tell the OP what makes people at peace in their relationships aka happy home.

TarOrfeeek:
This is true love.


And true love does exists.


DNA tests also exists. So the man's immediate family should PLEASE also utilise those tests. Just as this woman has utilised true love.

DNA to whose benefit?

Everyone should know their leverage & use it well to negotiate a win-win situation.

Wealthy Love Part 1.

As far as the wealth & the beauty does not fade, they should be fine.

Goodluck to them.

Kobojunkie:
You mean the context of a happy marriage or home ?

A single man or woman can have a happy home.

Can a single person have a sad home? Are there factors outside his control (luck or character) that can make his/her home unhappy?

AutoChick4U:
So there has to be marriage for there to be a home? Happiness is devoid of a house that has no married couple? He said home and not marriage.

In the context of the OP, how can the following set of people have a 'sad home'?

1. A single mother/father with kids (single =
widowed/divorced/unmarried);
2. Someone living alone;
3. People (friends/siblings/relatives/colleagues/room mates) living together?

When the term 'happy home' is used, it is in the context of 'happiness' between two romantic partners.

@if there has to be marriage:
The relationship doesn't need to be formal as long as there are two or more people in a romantic relationship living together.

So the topic also applies to cohabitating partners (heterosexual & homosexual).

moneyissweet:
The only thing that makes a happy home is....

Money
Money
More money
Too much money

Bill Gates, Jeff Bozo, Annie Idibia, Anita Okoye, Nedu, Tonto, Tiwa Savage, Toke Makinde, Chris Oyakilome and co would not agree with you.

AutoChick4U:
Are u saying single moms don't have happy homes? One has to be married to be happy? I really wanna know

How can a single man or woman have a 'happy home' especially in the OP's context?

Are they married to themselves or their kids?

Understand yourself, Be the right person, pick the right person who loves you (and you love back), be emotionally intelligent and continue to water your garden (home).

jesusjnr2020:
Provided below is the comment of a likely insider who confirmed the existence of such a place in Lekki, Lagos, although he tried to justify its existence. He also confirmed it is the infamous Jankara market.

Lekki and Lagos Island are two different places.

According to the person's post you quoted, he said Lagos Island.

The more accurate the address, the more people can avoid the place.

Thank God for saving your friend.

Depends on the stage of life you meet yourselves.

The younger you both are, the longer you court and/or afford to.

This talk of not knowing someone finish:

If you open your eyes well, you will know someone's major characters and can decide if you want to continue or move on.

Sometimes, people focus on the symptoms (an exhibition of a character) than the disease (the character).

For instance;

Saying a man doesn't like women talking back at him instead of seeing that he is condescending towards women;

Saying a woman is argumentative instead of seeing that she has a victimhood mentality/low self-esteem/rancorous

Saying a man is tight fisted instead of seeing he is selfish or doesn't love you.

Etc. Etc.

When the person now starts to exhibit other traits of that character, you say they have changed or they were pretenders

@MissRaine69 making loads of sense on this thread.

Tuface never changed who he was from the beginning; Annie marries him and now starts to complain?

GeneralPula:
The marriage favors her a lot..

To the woman of Olden days, a good man is a good man and he’s usually very cherished by the females..

To the women of these says, a good man is a weak man and he’s usually being manipulated by the females..

Don’t be a good man at all if you don’t want women of this generation to torment you..

Is Tuface a good man or rather a good husband?

@Zuchey91:

You seem to have a history of bad choices:

1. You chose an husband you are not compatible with (in your words). One wonders what you discussed during courtship and how you agreed to be married.

2. Your constant: we don't understand each other doesn't seem like you have tried to understand him before demanding same from him.

3. Your husband cheated and instead of confronting him, you decided to keep mum as an excuse to cheat also

4. Deciding to reconnect with a divorced ex. First, he is your ex for a reason; second, her could not manage his marriage. Even if he alludes that his wife was evil, he still made the poor choice to marry an evil wife (still his fault).

I hope you would sit down critically and make the right choices going forward.

Whether you decide to confront your husband, forgive him and continue in the marriage or forgive him and move on, please think through from A to Z.

Goodluck.

I thought they were best friends at a point

Funny thread.

JInseiMatters:
Pastor Wf kumuyi was addressing infidelity in marriages, but this time he hit the nail at the very head. He turned to the Husbands and said if your WIFE is not BEAUTIFUL, its your fault. He went further to give an in-depth analysis and then proved his point.

The reason because most husbands (guys) compare their wives with other ladies, is because most times they see their wives at the wrong times while they see those other ladies at the right time. He said, most times Husbands see their wives when they are stressed up in kitchen, in the morning when they just woke up with stinking mouth and unkempt hair etc. However, they see those other ladies only in their best moments, when they dress to kill, with full make-up, bathed with expensive perfume, etc.

Get full gist here


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5l5ZS5tvtg

Dont forget to share their someone who need to watch this too.

Very good video.

The grass is always greener on the other side.

Mmadu2:
You're a complete mad man. A pervert that calls himself a pastor. You have a deep mental problem from watching pornography.

A filthy man like you married a gold that men are struggling to find. She never denies you sex and she never cheats on you and she's virtuous at home and you still aren't satisfied because pornography has destroyed your mind.

You want her to give you sex like a prostitute before you appreciate her. An if she turns to a prostitute now you will be the first to cry foul.

Please if you don't want her divorce her and give me her number. Stop wasting her time. So many responsible and successful men are looking for her. Ewu!!

Oju4190:
U have four kids.....So wat do u need sex for again.....U better respect urself

So a man married for just 9 years no longer needs sex?

Even if he married @ 40, he is just 49.

Be kind biko

Pavicx:
All red oil is red nah..
Make una do well catch culprits, and stop clout chasing to remain relevant.

This grassroot farmers needs educational and financial help, and support from the government, but the funds are being embezzled.

This has nothing to do with poverty but wickedness.

The citizens are just as bad as her leaders.

Everyone trying to cut corners to make profit.

We would soon return to everyone growing their own food.

Don't buy efo, it made fresh with chemicals; Beans is preserved with sniper; red oil is mixed with dye; fruits are forced to ripen/ rinsed with gutter water; meat is boiled with paracetamol; etc.

It is well o.

Is 'Like she gained weight or something' body shaming?

Na wa for this generation that lacks mental stamina.

And young girl, you are too young for Social Media drama; your dad is still begging people to stay away from your family drama.

At least, comply with that so it doesn't seem he doesn't have a grasp of his household.

Tiwa gives the vibes of a 'down to Earth's person irrespective of her shenanigans.

The previous rulers are 'fake Nigerians'?

Issorait!

ahnie:
He's doing well.... we're deading the libidos laidat.

Issorait.

I need to fight for my uncle

Ment everywhere.

The responses on this thread is what happens when you make men of God into gods of men.

A Bible that intentionally put Songs of Solomon into it tells you of a God that created sex in marriage for enjoyment. Songs of Solomon has one of the most poetic description of a woman's body I have come across.

And a man who can describe a woman's body that way sure knows what he is doing in the bedroom (hopefully ).

@Gobdddd:

A partner not bringing passion and enthusiasm into the bedroom for nine years can be very frustrating. And now that you are done with kids, it is natural to want to sit back and enjoy your wife although doing kids and enjoyment are not mutually exclusive.

There is nothing ungodly about wanting to enjoy your wife or thinking about how to improve your sex life. The Bible from the Old Testament to the New has always highlighted the importance of sex (great sex) in marriage. In Deuteronomy, a newly married man is to spend a year at home with his wife (to bring happiness); you can only imagine what the happiness is about

@Wife: since you have discussed with her and she is not yielding, do a serious Bible study on sex and its importance in marriage. Not just duty sex (take, let me rest) but sex that she responds with passion and enthusiasm. Teach her as you would teach your congregation: with love and patience. There are also some Christian books on sex in marriage such as 'the act of marriage'. I also know that RCCG's marriage counseling book has a chapter dedicated on the act and art of sex in marriage.

You would also need to be patient and compromise. For instance, if you get her to be more passionate, it is a good one. You can shelf expecting her to initiate as a pipe dream on earth

When you get her to open up, also be open minded. Not that she will tell you 'I like MouthAction' and you shout 'Blood of Jesus'.

You also need to research how to be a better lover; the books I mentioned would help and there are also materials online you can read since she is not expressive yet to tell you what she likes.

Then know her likes; what she does for fun (if any). When people are having fun, they are more 'freer/open/receptive' to discuss issues.

I also like the part you said you don't regret waiting till you are married. There is a tendency for people to rubbish that decision in a case like this. Like a poster clearly mentioned, having sex before marriage doesn't always present the true picture. Sleeping with someone once a month or once a quarter tells you nothing about their sex drive or likes.

Goodluck.

dahmie2013:
So being a good woman isn't enough anymore. You have to be a dog to keep your home. Even a pastor is not an exception.

When a topic is above your comprehension, jump and pass.

ahnie:
He has bn watch porn lately,the wife even tried seff...me my libido yaff died 13yrs ago.and ayam not ready to resuscitate it.

Why na?

Papa Zino nko?

Acidosis:
Take time to understand your woman's body. Every woman has that "breaking point". Even if her body is made with 90% wood, that 10% with life should be decoded.

And btw, stop asking her questions about what she wants in bed if that hasn't been working. She clearly doesn't know! It's all in your hands to explore and discover.

Don't allow her to through life without a fulfilled sexual experience.

Hahahahahaha

@bold: Wahala dey!

@OP:

People have the choice to date whom they will.

I know someone who had a single mother sister who refused to consider a single dad because she did not want 'drama'.

A single father would have to be extraordinarily fanatic for me to consider him while I was single.

Some people like drama free lives.

Arewalegend:
anti biotics kill sperm

So a woman should take antibiotics indiscriminately to prevent pregnancy?