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Confidencemama:
My husband left home in Lagos since June and has refused to return, he doesn't pick my calls if i use another number to call him once he hears my voice, he shout at me that he is no more interested in the marriage, that he has moved on and that I should never call his line again then he will end the call, he blocked me on what's app, face book and currently he is in a relationship with a girl in benin, just that I don't know his exact address where he moved to.

Ma'am,

This is September already.

Have you informed his family that he is no longer interested in the marriage and currently has a relationship in Benin?

This is important to have an alibi if anything goes south.

After the above, take stock of your marriage and see if there is anything to be salvaged.

pocohantas:
Tonto should take it easy on the lightening creams and injections. She is almost disappearing. Kilode?!

See shameless Annie. Were you not the one firing Tonto that year? Because Tuface has served you breakfast, you come remember say women should support women. Mumu

Many clowns on and off line.

Makes for good relaxation and cruise sha.

Female students seducing young male teachers is a serious thing.

That's why a teacher should create boundaries and not listen to noise. You can't please everyone:

Mike Pence that did not have private dinner/interaction with female subordinates was accuses of denying them the opportunity to learn from him & grow.

Las las, they will call Baba a misogynist and rest while he has his dignity and good name intact.

I also remember a lecturer who never had female leaders (course reps, governors etc.), never allowed female students submit assignments to him, never interacted with female students alone.

Of course, they complained how he did not believe ladies should lead, how he was too strict, how he thought ladies were beneath him, felt pity for his wife & kids etc.

It is better said that you are harsh/strict than you are sleeping with a student.

Kobojunkie:
Or he could inadvertently doom his own children to experience the same after his death.

A vow is a contract/covenant between the one who made it and the one who it is made to. Any third-party that attempts to interrupt/upset that agreement is likely to have himself to blame..

Now something comes flogging him in his sleep about the paying of a vow that he never signed on to or knew of, and you want him to go get "blessed" beyond measure by submitting to it?

I am not the superstitious type, but even I know this does not make superstitious-kinda sense.

@Bold:

What if the father looped him in the vow?

Like if he is unable to pay, XYZ (the OP) would fulfill it on his behalf?

@OP:

Since the thread has naturally gotten to men vs women, I will say this:

1. Women do not care about a man's past (especially sexual) like men do about women's past. Even if a man 'confesses' that he has facilitated 50 abortions and slept with 500 women, more women would be willing to continue the relationship than vice versa. More men are willing to marry virgin women & teach them in bed than women. And according to myth, for a man to be good, he should have been with several women. There is a saying that 'every woman wants to be her man's last; every man wants to be his woman's first'.

2. Men & women are different and the area of sexuality showcases it the most; most things sexual, a man facilitates outside his body; for women, it is performed on them. For instance, if a man has paid for fifty abortions, he does not affect him physically nor does it affect his ability to father a child in future. Now compare to a woman who had fifty abortions. Same with numerous sexual partners.
> If a man says he has slept with fifty women, you think STDs, been promiscuous/sharp guy (depending on your ethical leanings) and experience in bed.
> If a woman says she has slept with fifty men, you think an overused body, been promiscuous, abortions (even of she doesn't disclose), if super smart to prevent pregnancies; you think thousands of pills and all sorts taken, you think ability to successfully carry a child to term.
There are two different pictures physically. I stress on physically because the spiritual effects are same (for people who believe sex is spiritual anyways).

I believe living a life where you don't need to hide or modify a colourful past is the best strategy.

Except you messed up on earth and migrating to Mars to settle down in life aka marry & grow up, someone would know someone that knows someone that knows your story.

This age of SM even makes it easy; imagine a lady on onlyfans/another sexual site or wearing pants on IG trying to reformat her past five years later.

That's why I am a fan of young relationships; you both are starting life together.

Ishilove:
What is ODESAN gangan?

Odesan means 'home is good' or 'no please like home' sort of.

A man marries the first daughter(s) of his sisters or very close relatives.

If his parents are from different villages, he can marry very close relatives from either parents' village.

The whole idea is the daughter (s) especially first marrying a man very very close in the family tree.

izubext007:
She was just greedy , that's all I can say here.

Why is she greedy?

Did she marry them at gun point?

Good luck to them

Hopefully, this would dispel the Western narrative that anyone in a 'plural' marriage is forced into it or 'suffering'.

Some people WILLINGLY choose that lifestyle.

empress101:
HI everyone..
I have been talking to a guy recently..We have known for years but lost contact and reconnected again 3months ago and I honestly do like him alot(I think he likes me too)....
When I asked him what he really wanted, he said "I dont want a relationship, I like you and just want you around"..
To me,its selfish and seems like torture to my emotions going with the facts that I'm beginning to have catch feelings..
I'm so confused now, what do I do??
I'm planning of stopping communications and erasing all memory of him...

The guy has laid his cards and thankfully, you understood his message.

The question is: Do you want to be emotionally and sexually available to him without the commitment of an exclusive relationship?

Search yourself well and answer truthfully.

P.S.: if you plan to hang around him to 'pressure or blackmail' him into a relationship,, it will not work. You will just be dating yourself.

dre11:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/mother-gives-birth-to-three-kids-for-son-in-kwara/

The Govt arrested the son for sleeping with his mother.

I imagine it was flipped; the Govt would arrest the father for sleeping with the daughter.

In every sexual activity that becomes a crime (moral/criminal), the man bears the brunt of the blame.

That is a cross men have to carry.

Peeps would be very silent but let women be called 'sluts' in every non-criminal sexual encounter with men and they begin to speak in tongues.

@OP: is incest (when both parties are of age) a criminal offense?

@fk001:

Come and ask for all the thriller, action & crime movies you want here.

@Crossroad1:

Lovely story, I particularly liked the end that they are in different space.

I usually don't like galavanting spouse (especially the husband) and isonu makeup when he is old and wrinkled.

If I did not enjoy your youth, why should I be saddled with your broken old age?

Two three things I will say:
1. Your mother should forgive your father. She is still harboring bitterness towards him which is injurious to her health; physical, emotional, spiritual and mental. She should let go of the hurt & pain.

2. Facilitate your siblings to forgive him; he is still your father and send whatever stipend you can send to him. You all need to play your part.

3. You said she has someone new; I don't know the conditions under which they married; she might want to check she is free to be with someone else so she is not committing adultery.

TMKsouth:
1. Whoa, LOADED! It could also be argued that women over-sexualise themselves because that's what men reward - feeding the monster.

2. And those same men control the media and marketing agencies which create the pop culture where women feel they need to catch up and outdo each other.

3. The issue of Muslim women is also a tricky one for me coz I feel they're oppressed.

4. I might be wrong coz we don't have a huge Muslim community in SA, and I consume biased westernised media.

1. That's women's victimhood speaking in points 1 & 2. Women have walked out of set when asked to do what they are uncomfortable with. The industry has also grown big enough for women to run their own shows. Also, women are the bigger consumers so the end consumers of those messages are women who influence men to buy.

2. Back to my point one. Open a thread encouraging women to dress decently and NL females would bash you to high heavens complaining how you want to drag them ten centuries back and control their bodies. Then the freedom fighters will strangle you because you want to trample on the woman's 'right' to dress as she will. Women are not infants who cannot think for themselves. Nobody is making them for anything they don't want to. They want to 'slay', 'dress to kill', 'exercise their freedom' and they are doing well. Go to Instagram, TikTok and other SM and witness how women keep objectifying themselves because they have the freedom to.

3. Some Muslim women are oppressed, some are not. Some are forced to wear the hijab et al, some have the understanding to want to wear it. And luckily, you understand that the Western media is biased and sells whatever narrative that soothes their agenda per time. A food critic on Instagram is currently in Borno and showcasing their beautiful culture and life while Nigerian media has only focused on Boko Haram terrorism in that region.

Interestingly, they are also very sensual women and take fantastic care of themselves under their coverings. The rich Nigerian ones are known to have very expensive gold jewelry and lingerie underneath their hijab. Even Arabian women painted as subjugated are not all like that.

They also achieve whatever they want to. You can Google Aisha Yesufu who spearheaded the Nigerian #endSARS protest which turned tragic. She wears a full hijab and covers her feet.

You can read up about the rich Muslim women in Northern Nigeria. Rich because the poor amongst the Northerners have a complex set of problems.


We have left sexy policeman to focus on sexy women

Englishisamust:
Touch your heart

Ok, thanks.

Englishisamust:
After watching Vincenzo. You can try k2, iris and vagabond. You are not going to regret watching those film

Waiting for Season 2 of Vagabond.

That ending really whets one's appetite.

fk001:
Yea still on 2nd episode, Vicenzo cassano right?

Yup, it is nice.

What is your issue with the modern ones so I might help with recommending those that meet your criteria or mention you on a thread.

Matheusmartin:
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In the same OAU, and in the same class, I know there were first class and 2.1

He probably became more serious with his life.

Not everytime we blame our own.

Another angle.

TMKsouth:
@bolded - Touche.

I think the over-sexualisation of women is what has created the impression that the word sexy only applies to women.

Hmmmmm.

I agree, just want to point out that it is women who provide the input (selling their sexuality) to generate the output (sexualization).

There is a reason Muslim women are not sexualized; they do not sell their sexuality.

I am not making a case for hijab/Islam or lack of though.

descarado:

I understand your pain.
Bought sewing machine out of frustration straight from my tailor's place to market.

Wanted to teach myself how to sew
Was doing well until needle rammed into my nail.
End of sewing.

Machine pack for house.

Life continues.
Took one trouser to a tailor where I live to just cut.
It happened that the price to cut is higher than what I paid for the trouser so I bought another machine
This time electric. It's more than eight months now and I'm yet to read the manual

Tailors are necessary evil

iamyemiakins:
She will need to summon all the drillers of her pussy in time past

Like a Statement of Account within the month of conception.

Wahala!

fk001:
I watch Korean series too, but u don't like the modern day Korean series.

I love their ancient series the likes of Jumong, Empress Ki, Rebel and the Jewel. The genre of the ancient series is mostly action, power tussle, and thriller.

The modern day type is not interesting at all, I couldn't even stand to watch 2 episode from it, the actors looks feminine for my liking, couple with their stewpid facial reaction to buttress my point of seeing them as more feminine.

Have you tried Vinzenzo?

dannyrhymes600:
One of my close pal started watching these Korean love movies after he started dating one new chick, just to impress her. Just last week, they had a fight in his compound and she said he is not a real man, because real men don't watch Korean love movies. Lol me and my guys couldn't hold the laughter. Bobo was just there looking like lucozade .
The see finish was too much

Ok, this is hilarious

Instead of peeps to decipher if they are dating normal peeps or 'Nigerian' peeps, they would assume and get burnt.

That lady would claim to like 'gentlemanly god-fearing men' tomorrow.

Englishisamust:
So na only girls dey watch korean film. Keep decieving yourself. Make I dey watch my own film go. Do whatever makes you happy. I no go drag words with u again. Make I dey watch touch heart korean series. As I dey carry my own loud

Is this not 'Because It Is My First Life'?

Englishisamust:
Im a Korean film addict
Have you watched
Vincenzo
It's okay not to be okay
K2
City Hunter
Angel last mission
Morim school
Jumong
Mr queen
Lawless lawyer
Vagabond
Descendant of the sun
The healer
Faith
Night watch man
Scholar who works at night
Kingdom
Hotel rooftop
Touch your heart
Ruler of the mask
While you are sleeping
Lobbyist
A man called God
Oh my ghost
My love from another star
Kanchi
Blood
Princess man

See this guy shaa you no Sabi anything. I love Korean film than sex self. Keep decieving yourself whether if I watch Korean film it will cause me unhappiness. Abi this one dey mad for head ,

Right now, have sub 10 gb to download 6 Korean series today

You better mind your speech

Eku se Oluwa

TheGidRedpiller:
Full grown men with beards crying like 5 year olds because of a girl? Jesus!

I can only speak for Korean movies:

1. They do not have beards

2. Their men are very masculine despite looking feminine & sharing lipstick with their girlfriends They are so secure in their masculinity that the male interest can be younger, poorer and less privileged than the female interest and yet lead (not rule/control) the relationship.

I think you guys can pick a lot from them.

TMKsouth:
1 . Yeah that's how much women have been sexualised.

2. I'd always imagined beach cops would wear shorts though, I think I've seen it on TV before but can't recall from where - Australia maybe and those ones that ride bikes. But you're so right, it's rare all over the world. Apparently many border and immigration cops in SA wear these shorts according to some comments.

1. Well, 'sexy' is more of feminine and I could not imagine a policeman wearing 'tight shorts'. Besides, women sell their sexuality

2. Surprised at the comments too.

NobleAngell:
It's complicated.
If Toyin truly copied Funke's movie "omo ghetto", that's wrong.
If Funke paid the blogger to discredit Toyin's movie, that's wrong.
If Iyabo called her unprintable names publicly, that's wrong too.
Well, like I earlier said, it's complicated.

See how you served everyone breakfast

Tedpgrass:
Amen to those prayers...
But Brian can turn it around for good.. How?? is entirely up to him!

The 6 years is nothing compared to 40-50yrs that have befallen other victims of justice..
He still has his life ahead. And who's to say great things can't come forth.

Maybe it's my optimistic outlook to life that supports the above views but ehhh... I sleep better that way.


Hate is a cancer, a slow cancer that consumes from within.. Now that's a very sad way to translate or move to the next plane of existence.


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I agree with you and like you said, hate takes you nowhere and is just like a cancer in your bones.

I am a prevention is better than cute person so I always pray such doesn't happen to me & my loved ones.

Punishment/revenge/consequences does not undo what have been done/destroyed.

Obe ge omo lowo, o ju sonu. Obe ti see nikan ti o fe se.

Ki obe maa ge mi lowo ni adura mi.

Following.

Na my town be this.

Tedpgrass:
Should sue the authorities for a wishy-washy investigation and also sue the girl via the civil courts for damages...
That way a legal precedent is set, which will aid other victims of poor justice.

To me, that's being proper Redpill


As there are several brothers who have been locked up for similar "offences".

A few have lost their lives.. Yes died whilst in prison

And for most, life has never been the same..




I believe in being fair..
Mete out justice proportionately and within context.
Taking out emotions.



@Gidr edpiller

Please kindly tone down your anger
As it sometimes translate as the nihilistic tendency of a blackpiller- Incel.


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@bold:

Sounds like a good plan.

Just that no amount of punishment the girl receives would turn back the hands of time.

Alakoba, alakoran o ni je tiwa.

Ori wa o ni gbabode.

Amin.

Crossroad1:
use this one cool down

There are two meals plus in this picture.