₦airaland Forum

ChiefSosa:
There's several gay men out there; go for them.

Do gay men submit their salaries like the OP wants?

@Gabe427:

It is a weakness to let your weakness stop your quality of life.

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert; I am one myself however, nothing will stop me from performing what I need to do per time.

If you have a function, attend it.
If you commitments, honor it. etc.

It is called growing up and getting mature.

Decent single man/woman does not translate to decent in relationships.

angelfallz:
you meant younger?

Older.

School fees and house rent is a great humbler. That's one of the attractiveness of married men to employers.

When you remember you have fees to pay, you put your feelings on the back burner and do the job.

And that's one of the reasons why more senior employees are more docile to Management and the Board.

Well, older employees are easier to manipulate and more docile because they have more responsibilities.

descarado:
Hey guys
My eyes are hurting really bad from laughing

Lovestruck in the city.
Ol boi, that drama hit the right spots for me.
I laughed, cried, got really emotional. This should be JCW best work. Guy smashed it. What an emotional roller coaster. KJW is fantastic here.
Hope the rating was good cause they deserved it.

And all the actors are really wonderful.

I loved the emotions and how honestly they tried to depict a lot of people in love and out of it.

I think the PJW fell too fast and hard . I am happy he has gotten the girl back sha (where I have gotten to).

I am not understanding the Park Jae-Won's cousin's gf. She is the case of a good girl that is not the right fit. I never thought their relationship would work out and it is nice they have broken up (where I am), I want another girl for him.

If you are not going to receive what your man brings to the table, then leave him alone.

I interestingly wished they were speaking their native lingo jare.

Rocktation:
Super dope drama! Once I got started with it, I looked for every opportunity to get back to it. Even at bus terminuses. I had it bad. I'm amazed that it took this long to discover it. You guys certainly hoarded this one from me.

I like that it was straight to biz from the get go and was so maintained till the end. Very lovely plot, indeed. The actress was totally on point. The male lead however, seemed to be exhibiting episodic facial paralysis, as his expression wasn't always indicative of what he was professing. And his voice lacked emotion. I wonder who told him soldiers are always supposed to sound tough. I can't say that I hated him, though.

There are lacunae in the plot too, such as why the step mother didn't want to live, when she abandoned the Yoon Se-ri - they didn't say. Neither did they tell us who found the vintage watch and conveniently pawned it...and some more stuff..

Then, the writer went and killed the con artist and I couldn't register that. Not until when they were thanking me for watching. Mscheww. I wonder what that was about.

I also appreciate the breather from all those hanging cartoon hearts and insane pop-ups, kdramas have become infamous for. Infact, I'm very wary of dramas that they explicitly describe as romcoms, these days.

Anyway, I can confidently vouch for only four dopest of the dopest kdramas now, lol;
What's Wrong With Secretary Kim
Crash Landing On You
Healer
Flower of Evil

Pretty much a tyro, still, so make una no too vex for me...moving on to the Something About 1%...maybe. The video quality is one kain.

The ML was from North Korea though, they are supposedly not as expressive as South Korea and he decided not to open up again after his brother's death.

Also, the end was filmed first (all Switzerland scenes) so the chemistry was bland for people who had not seen in years. But as the series progressed, he became expressive.

It was implied the watch was pawned by Manuel.

Agree on the step mother/Yoon-Sri part. I did not catch anything about her mother.

Ha! The con-artist..... He died in the beginning of the last episode. I wish he lived for his babe but baba was wanted in several countries and a lot of people wanted to kill him. Maybe the writer thought it was best he goes down as a hero. I liked him.

I also loved the NIS scenes; the guy low key rooting for ML & the FL and when the Team Lead delayed the exchange so the lady could say goodbye.

I wished there was more romance though. Like when he gave her the rings, a kiss or love making would be appropriate. They were high tensioned lovers who did not know when they would meet again. That is a recipe for high emotions and passion.

Try Suspicious Partner, you might like it.

Liposure:
If it's not naturally supported like you said. How come by tradition a man is allowed to marry more than one wife. How come king marry more than one wife? How come our forefathers had multiple children from multiple wives? How come islam approve the marriage of four wives. How come the bible never condemned polygamy? plus also remember david, abraham, solomon even jacob married more than one wife. How come?

Is everything supported by tradition natural?

There was a time twins were killed, strangers were used for sacrifices, people were not educated, etc.

In Islam, polygamy was/is supposed to cater for widows and divorced women so they are 'helped' i.e. primarily for charity like men who marry their brothers' widows.

The Bible never encouraged polygamy and if you would not justify adultery and murder using David, it would be hypocritical using his life to justify polygamy.

I don't know the polygamy Abraham committed; Jacob married two sisters due to trickery; David was a king and two of his wives were widows; Solomon imported women all over the world.

In Northern Nigeria where polygamy is rife, there is a lot of divorce aka wife swapping and child marriage to support the amount of polygamous men. They also have the Alimajiri system which would reduce the number of eligible husbands in the society.

Polygamy on a wide scale is not feasible except you have a lot of unmarried men in that community, there is a lot of wife swapping, and a lot of child marriages.

DEMZEE:
Men and women are fundamentally different.

Men must create their value to gain sexual abundance while women are born with value and get sexual abundance by just existing.

A man who increases his value has the right to exercise his options of sexual abundance. Men are designed to be promiscuous, women are not

Women are comfortable sharing high value men

You claimed men love idealistically while women love opportunistically.

If we break down the words,
Idealistically means something that is ideal which is perfection/close to perfection.

You would agree that an ideal partner is someone who is intune with your needs, puts you first, doesn't hurt you, protects you at all times, share their resources with you etc etc.

So I am wondering how sleeping with other women which would hurt your woman makes you an ideal partner. I wonder how sharing intimacy with another woman fits into this ideal love.

Let me agree with you that men can cheat/sleep around while women can't. That means you expect women to be faithful.

Isn't that a characteristic of an ideal lover or idealistic love?

Isn't a man who can claim to love a woman and enter a relationship with her so she is bound to fidelity while he can sleep around opportunistic? He wants to enjoy the benefits a woman brings in a relationship while having sexual freedom.

@men are polygamous: I understand you are not a Christian so I would not go the religious route.

Naturally, men's polygamy is not supported except you concur that women are also polygamous.

The ratio of women to men is almost 50% that means men cannot have multiple women to themselves without sleeping with other men's women who supposedly are monogamous by nature.

It is either you accept everyone zips up or humans (men & women) are polygamous.

Romanoff:
This post reminds me of the land line phone we were using in 2003, thank God things have changed and we have smart phones that can fit into pockets and have different functions.

cmecproblem:
Broke men hardly cheat. Become very rich and start attracting women let's see if you won't cheat in the 11th year.

Broke me hardly cheat?

You have not seen a man that is been fed carrying small girls?

lexy2014:
Many nigerian men are highly indisciplined. But d problem is that they expect that u should be as indisciplined as they are. Instead of them to ask how u are able to stay disciplined, they start calling u names because of d sense of guilt that floods their hearts. Most times, they can't contain their self gulit but instead of admitting they have a problem, they use their arrogance to try to make it look like it's u who has d problem

@bold:

Not a men's thing and not related to cheating alone.

Humans would mock you for holding a standard they can't/wouldn't.

While you are trying to beat them, they want you to join them in the mud so you are all same.

DEMZEE:
Because men don't cheat, they just have sex

Women do cheat.

Men and women love differently and show love differently

Men love idealistically
Women love opportunistically

Men show love through sharing his resources and commitment and providing financial security to his woman
Women show love through fidelity ie not being a hoe

Yet men are more likely to desert a marriage with a lover than women.

@OP: Society (men & women) doesn't frown at husbands cheating so the husbands keep at it.

Luckily, the men are cheating with women so they are just wife swapping while deceiving themselves like the poster I quoted.

To think that as at this post, 215 people have liked the person I quoted and I am sure there are females amongst them.

Tomorrow, they will whine that all men cheat.

Your expectations would surely be met.

That's life.

WhiteJeans:
A friend of mine based outside Nigeria is looking for a single, gentle, humble, honest, loyal, responsible, compassionate Christian man 32 to 38 for a serious relationship. He should have no anger issues, no previous marriage, no children.

All the men around her have finished?

Vesuvius:
I am here. Look no further . I have never had any marriage, I believe in no sex till marriage since I turned to God. Truthfully speaking, I would rather she goes for a God fearing man above all else. Cos many claim to be Christians these days but do not fear God..

Being a psychologist by nature and nurture, I don't have problems with anger. Finally, if you really wanna take a chance on me, link me up with this email docslicky@gmail.com. Cheers...

You are this good and you have not been taken offline?

Seven luxurious cars

I thought the third time was the charm?

Stella doesn't seem like a woman who can stay single though.

So we should expect husband number 4 or reconciliation with her current husband.

I hope her daughters are learning what not to do from her.

thorpido:
^^^^ Why are the people up there saying she should rest? Elizabeth Taylor didn't quit at three na.

Omotakins:
Bible speaks about a man leaving his parents, clinging to his wife and the two becoming one flesh. Your sister was right standing her ground, but should have been sorted out by the husband in a way that it didn't turn to be a public debate to the point the mother in law is aware of the wife's stand. How will she survive the brewing animosity? It would've been better she didn't go into that marriage

100% co-sign.

Breaking off the engagement the first time was the wisest thing to do.

descarado:
I watch most Asian dramas on Vicki, install the app and you are good to go. I stream, but if you can't be able to do that, use the sites recommended here.
They even know better than me these days.

So you are now from Turkey to South korea
Told you, you will get addicted .

I have tried Kiss Asian; I would also try Vicki app, I hope the contents are not region based like Netflix.

The appeal of SK movies are the length: 20 episodes, I am done!.

Filinta (Turkish) was almost 150 episodes; Outlander season 4 is now on Netflix, I am afraid to start.

You are right, I am addicted to SK movies. I have gotten my sweet spot.

descarado:
My dear, I tire for this place. I definitely didn't grow up like these sadists.

NL would make for a good social experiment.

Katcall:
are you from cross river

Akwa Cross.

sarang60:
Uri Agi is Han Seo (Uri Agi is korean for Our Baby)

I understand were you are coming from with how the emotions from Vin were displayed in that scene but I feel like in that moment, Vin wasn't thinking straight at all if you get what I mean. The mad man still had a gun pointed at him, his wifey was on the floor bleeding, in that particular moment, I feel like he was just flooded with grief and revenge.

Remember when his Mum died, he went to avenge her first before he even came to mourn her.

I wish they had made it more emotional too but I didn't mind how it was and also remember that they were prepared for whatever the outcome was regarding Han Seo (there was already a foreshadow) so I also don't think that it came as a suprise.

I wish they maybe had a graveside scene where Cornsalad oppa was thanking Han Seo for his sacrifice and all, maybe a foundation in his name like they had in those grapevines.

I like you dialogue though, nice one. I loved it when Han Seo asked validation from Vin. He was like "Hyung I did well right?" My heart melted.

As for were you can find dramas, if no one responded yet, I will see what I can do. There are queens here that can lead you to the promise land of dramas.

BY THE WAY SONG JOONG KI OPPA IS ALREADY TAKEN BY ME.

I see a number of links call Cha-young 'mafia wife' hehehehe.

Well, Vincenzo is a trustworthy guy and will take care of our Cha-young. SJK also seems smitten by her in real life.

Vin was not thinking straight which was why I thought people blaming him for not fighting the psycho were funny. He acted in character there; I just thought he was too cold to Han Seo which is out of his character.

I loved the scene he knelt for Han Seo to kill him though. That was so touching and befitting his character.

@Liking my dialogue: thanks

Someone gave my Kiss Asian, that's where I found A Werewolf Boy and Marriage, not Dating.

SJK is taken by you? Mbok, all I need him for is acting then you can have him.

Which of his other works have you watched? I loved him in Nice Guy/Innocent man and A Werewolf Boy. His eyes; his face.

Do you know he is the South Korean's representation of a concept called 'Soft Masculinity'.

In summary, a flower looking boy aka pretty man who is tough.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-42499809.amp

Now, this is how I fan actors/characters I like

Y4all:
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descarado:
Hello guys

I stumbled on Seo In Guk now and noticed he is on a tvn fantasy drama that just started. Anybody following the drama pls?

I have been off Kdrama since 2018, this just might be my re introduction to kdrama again as I'm a fan of the guy. Any good drama to binge watch. Good romance and detective. Not a fan of Korean historical.

Bukatyne, you can easily learn about Korean entertainment culture on kbs on dstv or gotv. That will help you understand kdrama and korea culture better.

Netflix and other sites I can watch on my phone are my friends I don't do TV mbok

I also read the recap/reviews of series I follow on Asian sites especially dramabeans so I can understand some of their cultural innuendos that is lost in translation.

Try Vincenzo, Crash Landing on You, Mr. K2

des4ella:
Na so I see am....

Work with her to overcome it.

Goodluck.

Richy4:
@ family6644.. Learn how to control your children and be firm about it....Learn how to draw a line. The thing is that you sound too modern...You gave your kids free hands to manipulate you into agreeing to what you did not bargain for.. Yes you will want them to be happy and all that but let them know that there's a limit. You allowed a total stranger into your home to redecorate and redesign your lives after 93days of your wife demise, Haba!!! Is your late wife that bad?...

I swear If my spouse does this kind of Nonsense you were doing on the event of my demise, I will rise..I will expect her to mourn me for atleast 3 and a half years.. and I will mourn her for 4 should reverse be the case... I wish I could just see your not so serious face and tell you what I thought of u... Imagine negotiating with a stranger in my house? what nonsense..

You will rise kwa?

blazepascal:
Good day nairalanders

There is a very serious issue in our home right now .its about my sister marriage .there is a guy my sis love she cherish this guy a lot because the guy do take care of her and he's financially stable I even shared a good rapport with him and he sometimes give me free money .he also loves my sis a lot and has even proposed to her and my sis said yes she will marry him

But the problem now are my parent they didn't approve the marriage because they are triabalist or should I say triabalistic. The guy is Yoruba and we are Igbo. my parents told mY sis that if she wants to marry she should marry an Igbo guy . I've tried to persuade them yet they still remained opinionated .I don't know what to do else my sis has been crying .pls what should she do now .

Apart from money, what other value(s) has he shown your parents?

They seem like people not moved by money.

CSTRR:
You mean their conscience become dead with time.

biggy26:
Forget all the nonsense some people are saying about reverse psychology. If you come from a Christian or conservative background, you will naturally feel guilty. She knows it’s wrong and you know it too, you are only trying to numb your conscience. Even after marriage, some virgins feel uncomfortable after sex, cos they have lived all their lives without it, but they eventually come off it. But no genuine Christian can wish that guilt away before marriage.

@bold:

True.

WoundedLamb:
I wonder if people really get any helpful advice when they bring relationship issues to Nairaland.

des4ella:
My wife still feels ashame after sex despite being married for about 7years now.. It was worse when we were single; Don't mind those ignorant entities telling you she's using reverse psychology on you for marriage. Most decent ladies are shy after sex.

The shame after marriage shouldn't be there.