₦airaland Forum

descarado:
Stop laughing
Happy Easter

crackhaus:
I've always known that these modern feminists don't have sense..
So after years of telling them that there can never be such a thing as gender equality, and they kept fighting us thinking they were wise...they have now begun calling it gender equity.

I was shocked when I saw an advert on CNN where they were very careful to call it gender equity
You people will learn las las...

ivolt:
The guy has outlived his generation. No one, not even the men who support his view wants to live up to Pete's generations expectation. They only want to enjoy its perks while denying the associated responsibilities. If you doubt me, check their posts here. You will often see I hate liabilities, I will never spend a dime, Marriage is a scam and so on. Men like Pete were happy with their roles and responsibilities at that time but what about his young supporters? They only want half of Pete's lifestyle, where they get without giving.

Jaqenhghar:
That's serious. The sacrifice led to succes which added more miney to your pockets LOL. The problem is the sacrifices never stop. I hope he hasn't graduated to sacrificing human beings

rajiedreez:
Both MTN and the banks are thieves. But one steals and use the money here in Nigeria and the other steal and look for cunning way to pack the money to South Africa. I'll go with the naija thief on this one. MTN like other South African company sees Nigeria as a Cash cow, they milk the citizens with help of other Nigerians and try to pack all the money back to their country through the backdoors

SamJed:
My dad is a good man, intelligent, intellectual, and very influential everywhere he finds himself. Back in the village, they always consult him before taking decisions. Here in town, he is highly respected. Now this is the problem, as the days go by, it keeps dawning on me that people are looking up to me to "follow in his steps" as the first son. In fact, most people know me as " son of (his name)".

But I don't want to, I am a tech nerd, don't like gatherings, enjoy my solitude, very reserved. He always want me to "come out", see people, meet his friends, associate, and I very much dislike those.

Honestly, he has the connections to set things up for me, but I feel satisfied when I achieve things my way. I am sure he wants me to take over his business, and stuffs like that, but I am in no way interested in those.

While I am writing this is because, it's beginning to look like I am rebellious or stubborn. But I am not, I am just not interested in what may be termed "normal".

How do I go about this issue? I don't want to look like a bad son, but at the same time, I don't want to engage in what I derive no pleasure in.

Btw i should be done with my nysc by next year. So I need to take my decision fast.

Ladycewhy:
So because I am young and good looking I should go about opening my body for strangers I will never see again? talk about encouraging promiscuity . Will you give your sister this same advice?or your sister is young but not good looking?

angelfallz:
*Grudgingly* yes

angelfallz:
Obviously because I was posted.

angelfallz:
I actually I have. NYSC

angelfallz:
So you're saying the way you use the word queen, has nothing to do with the way people on SM use the word queen? For example, "treat your woman like a queen"

bablononi:
This is a literal masterpiece. Your problem no even bother me at the moment, would come back to that but your words are just wawu.

Yusufisraelj:
I have read the post, my challenge is not context, but clarity.




Am begining to get your context of baggages




Supposing the lady would be willing to learn and be nurtured be they even young or older.

But in the generality of your point, the likely hood of disappointed expectations, frustration and bad experience is less likely in the younger age bracket - and this is true, however I beg to say with some exception's as well (there are ladies/gentlemen who were sexually active from as little as 9 and it continues into their teens - just citing intimacy as example, I know this bkos I've seen some).


This now my assertion, baggages or not, the most important thing in my opinion is establishing a place of understanding between the two people who want to be committed to themselves, sharing same values, aspiring to a common objective and diligently working towards it and more importantly showing each other love in appropriate ways while they both strive to be better in all ramifications.

@bukatyne
The thinking of a man subscribing to a younger age bracket in the context of the writer and yourself is uncalled for, bkos I've met younger ladies who have had multiple sexual partners, some raped at the age of 9 repeatedly and we're active in their teens even to their early 20s, psychologically these set of ladies were something else, one have had more than 15 partners at 24 years and then they grow pass the 25 age bracket already life has happens to these people and some never choose that path but shit happens, we must be able to capture those people in the context of this discuss. your point and the OPs is noted the age inclination is what am having challenge accepting

angelfallz:
singing, "Drink water and mind your business Use that energy for yourself Here comes the man on fire"

angelfallz:
a queen is a woman that is married to a king. So if she is not married how is she a queen?

soundOsonic:
The mother is an illiterate who doesn't know the value of education.
I later knew where he was leaving. He doesn't help the mother to sell anything, he just sit outside doing nothing. Surprisingly he loves sitting outside.
As for the mother she is a loosed kind of parent who doesn't care. I doubt she even lays her hand on her children.
How I knew this was I discovered he was living close to my street

anthonyuncle:
Jireh!

you are really...

livingchrist:
bukyy you really tried on this.

Mecka:
Partying clubbing, balling, flirting, sleeping around participating in orgies basically living your best life. Unlike in marriage where you are burdened with school fees, upkeep, house bills etc

soundOsonic:
Guys taking up the mantle of teaching is crazy, there are fun aspects of being a teacher and there are also the well not fun aspect of teaching. In this line of occupation you meet strange kids, I will be sharing the craziest thing a student said to me as a Teacher.
Well as a Teacher teaching mathematics, my favorite class just happen to be the SS1 class being that they are the less noisy and very easy to manage. The other SSS classes seemed to be rogue to young teachers like myself.
There was a day, I was teaching them and I am the kind of guy that adds humor to my teaching and tease both the boys and girls, but there was this particular boy that skips school like as if he is a part timer. I rarely see him, I don't really know him, I don't even know about his performance and even how to tease him. So I asked for my assignment as that is the manner of things before introducing the topic for the day and this boy didn't do it.
Now this is an opportunity to know him, funny enough you know the kind of person a student is after you flog him or her just by watching their countenance. Some wear expression of remorse, anger, fear, extreme sadness while very few just appear to be indifferent.
I took the long skinny cane and added a smirk to my face and notice this slender boy was sweating like he just went for a dive in otamiri river somewhere in imo state. I held my peace and asked if anything was wrong, he answered nothing. I asked " why are you sweating" the whole class started laughing, and they chorused "he just like sweating".
Well I have never seen anybody whose hubby is sweating.
I smiled and then reduced his corporal punishment to just 3 stroke the initial smacking suppose to be 6 and I gave him some good smacking.
I later met him and asked why he rarely comes to school, his reply was "my mummy just like when I am home with her'"
It just sounded crazy to me, maybe I was expecting a reasonable answer but in actuality he was telling the truth. It was that day I knew some parent just let their kids decide any time they wish to go to school. Well he made a bad decision of coming to school that day sha, that's because he got some good flogging.

surbrown:
She doesn't ask for money for Brazilian hair etc or 5k hair do monthly like some other girl, As a sharp ikorodu boy, I sabi plait here well, She doesn't mind! She understand me perfectly, If na garri one cup dey house, we go share am, even without kuli, She no dey give me problem at all, We go even trek go house if we no get money, and no be say I fine oo!

Nairalanders! Am I save?

PrimadonnaO:
This good girl/bad girl narrative is being given too much attention. Today it's Lilo saying men only go for bad girls. This is someone who's an influencer.

I worry that young undiscerning good girls will start trying to become bitches...

Dear young girl, don't become a bitch. Bitches are available to every Tom, Dick and Harry, but that shouldn't be you. This is what I know works, and makes a young woman balanced;

1. Be approachable but not available to everyone.

2. Have standards but don't be unreasonable.

3 Be conscious of your worth but don't think too highly of yourself.

4. In a relationship, you'll have to make compromises, but know what compromises are worth making.

5. Don't stress people for fun because you think it makes you more desirable - hard-to-get syndrome.

6. Being rude isn't classy or admirable. Be civil and sensitive in how you communicate with people, whether or not they're chyking you.

7. Don't make everything about you. Your chyker/significant other has needs, feelings and preferences, too. Stop expecting him to always be the one shifting grounds for you.

8. Check your feelings of entitlement.

9. Feel free to be expressive. State how you feel. Ask for what you want. There's nothing demeaning in that.

10. Understand that all men have ego. Sometimes you may need to shine his ego, but so long as he isn't unreasonable and inherently insecure.

11. Don't let any man use you to do "sarewagba" Avoid men that praise you for being a "low maintenance chic." It's a psychological tactic.

12. Don't be the babe that goes to a man's house to start sweeping full house and compound, doing his laundry, pounding yam. (I personally don't have a problem with cooking, but wisdom is profitable to direct).

13. Be strategic in how you date. Don't just date a a person because he's asking you out and texting you regularly. Do you personally like him? Does he have values that appeal to you? Does he largely check the boxes with regards to the things you want in a man?

14. Don't be too hasty to quit on people. You may let a relationship go and realise in hindsight that you could have fixed it. If the relationship is worth it, make it work, give it your best shot. Y'all will have fallouts now and again, but don't feel too important to be the bigger person. But again, wisdom is profitable to direct.

As for what people call "bad bitches" or "bad girls," I'll actually struggle to define or enumerate enough characteristics of those ones, but it certainly has something to do with having loose morals.

Feel free to add, subtract, and modify for better clarity on this matter.

OfficialR:
Hello again

So for the Easter holidays coming up I decided to go to my aunt's house after a long time. Now her children, a girl and a boy, both in SS1 and JSS2 respectively, have a computer each in their house. They also have unlimited internet connectivity

Now because of this, they usually play an online game called Roblox. This game used to be interesting to me back when I was younger but it is no longer either because I got older or the game just got boring

In this game, there is this in-game currency called Robux that you buy with real money (prices attached below). You use this Robux for buying special features in the game. Now my aunt bought £18.49 worth of this Robux for her son (I think the girl doesn't play the game anymore) which is about #10,000

Now this got me a little upset because I could think of 1001 things I could use that money for instead of buying a currency in a game that isn't even worth it

Now I want to ask this question, would you purchase anything that costs this much in an online game for your children?

grossintel:
Like I earlier stated, I'm disappointed but at the same time their is almost nothing I can do. So for now, I'll have to play the waiting card, all my beneficiaries are family members but after what happened I quickly deleted her dads account number so I'm sure I won't make that mistake again.

AGAIN, have a lot of projects at hand and needed some funds to keeps things rolling until I'm done with them. I try not to take too much so I'm not tied up and burnt out, but as this happened I'll probably take up more offers than I should which isn't good. I could let it go, cause from the look of things they know I can't force them or u shouldn't force them since I'm serious with their daughter. But what they don't know is their daughter is broken, not only is she disappointed she feels embarrassed by their actions. I know this because I'm very close to her, all she's thinking about now is how to repay the money even though I won't let her go through the hustle right now.

In all these ave come to the conclusion that humans are humans, we blame politicians but if given the same opportunity we will most likely do worse. As terrible as it sounds, I'll never trust them with money again, not now not ever. I've also conclude the money is lost, so when she talks about it and say they will pay back, I just tell her if and when they do she should let me know. But she shouldn't say they will or try to make me believe they will because it will only make me feel worse if they don't.

I'll just manage what I have for now, Easter flexing was almost guaranteed but now ave lost the mood for that completely.

grossintel:
Sadly it's the only reality I'm faced with right now. I'm pained but ave learnt an expensive lesson.

dominique:
They're pastors, prospective in-laws and broke for that matter, oga just forget about the money. Collect whatever they return and count your losses.

angelfallz:
Your understanding of male sexuality is questionable.

Mecka:
people marry early and miss out on the fun of being single and free due to responsibilities and all that, how do you cope?

RedpillAnalyst:
Thanks @Bloodysperm.
You fired many solid shots


To bukatyne

Red pill is not about the hate for women. If you understand the core concepts of red pill, it is not to be emotional. That is to say use your head first. Logic and reasoning above everything.

Brothers who hate women are having a red pill rage and can't process their emotions knowing they have been taught the wrong things their whole life. If you are still very emotional like a little girl you have not digested the red pill especially those brothers who say Nigerian girls are useless.

Old Christianity was red pill, new Christianity is feminism and you and I know church is money generating outfit not about salvation anymore.

The Feminism beyond 1960 is full luciferianism under the guise of empowerment and it will definitely crash the society as we know it. Family, marriage and morality will be dead in about 15years if the status quo plays on everywhere in the world.

If you are truly a woman I commend you for understanding a bit about the red pill, but you can never ever understand the red pill philosophy if you have never gone through what average men go through on daily basis in the hand of modern women because they want to do the right thing.