₦airaland Forum

pocohantas:
This I can manage, but there is nothing I hate more than women in senator material or agbada. I know it is not my business, but I am quite old school. I still think gowns bring out the beauty and allure of a woman.

I used to wear shirts and pants to work, decided to switch to gowns, blazers and skirts. The first day I came with one gown, my alfa male boss looked at me and said “you should do this often”.

By the way, there is no trend like this in Nigeria. I am yet to notice it. Nigerian brides are still rocking gowns.

100%

I wish I could 'sue' the person who came up with suits (trousers and skirts) for ladies.

Nothing brings the 'woman' in a woman than well tailored gowns, skirts and blouses.

A bride on trousers?

Toor.

This story don dey get K-leg with many questions begging for answers:

According to the initial story, Baba Ijesha confessed to the crime(s)? i.e.rape at 7yrs and molestation at 14yrs or only molestation at 14

What crime did the police say is bailable?

If the accused has confessed, isn't the next stage taking him to court for sentencing?

Why is madam Princess adding new things to the case? Isn't she supposed to have provided all the evidence to the Police to guide their decision making?

I hope all parties do not allow emotions and media trial ruin their case.

Everywhere is suddenly quiet about Don Davis' case.

HITCHHIKING:
Nigeria sha. U na no de disappoint. Somebody commit a crime and you guys de advice him on how to escape punishment...spit looters of tommorow

Well the problem is that the 15year old is not interested in punishment/justice but blackmail.

@peeping Tom: he is few steps away from rape himself. From peeping at the wife, he starts to imagine things and work towards carrying it out by seduction, manipulation, blackmail or rape.

You sure have them in your family.

Assuming the story is true.

She wants £18m for “past pain and suffering”, £18m for “future pain and suffering” and £18m in punitive damages.

Funny statement

I thought she would be more interested in CR7 actually paying aka going to jail if he is guilty.

Hemanwel:
Good morning dear nairalanders!

I have two daughters: one will be 3 years old later in the year and the other will be 1 next month. I noticed that my first daughter is too timid. She gets easily frightened by her peers. She is quiet. She will allow just anybody to carry her - even those whom she is older and bigger than - without any resistance.

I really don't like these attributes about her. I want her to have the boldness to resist some of these things. I want her to be aggressive. I want her to grow up having confidence in doing things her way.
I also wish to instill that in the second child. Thank you!

lalasticlala

Build their self confidence and self esteem at an appropriate age.

Also work to balance it so they do not become entitled.

Well Linda, welcome to the world you made a fortune from.

Cousin9999:
The author of that book was exposed as a fraud a while ago.

Well doesn't negate some of his principles.

Although it might not be A + B = C all the time as he puts it.

Liposure:
Many wish for your kind of wife in their dreams. Now that she's sexy and hot, enjoy her while it last. Nobody knows tomorrow.

@bold:

Came out very funny.

Bubblyj:
Hi Fam.

I really want to share my story here just because I’m bored & broken.

I met X as a teenager, we became friends but we couldn’t be together at the time due to certain reasons. However, we maintained the friendship. He dropped out of University and went on to do the usual Igbo apprenticeship. While at it, we started dating and I encouraged him to be patient and look on the bright side (concluding the apprenticeship successfully).

We broke up at different points but always got back together because it’s safe to say we are bestfriends.

I am the babe that is honest, I easily get hurt when someone betrays my trust & I hate been taken for a ride. I am also stubborn when it comes to my rights. Now, X is calm, doesn’t talk much & lets things slide easily.

We were together once and I cursed at a cab driver for doing something quite annoying, X never tried to caution me, he simply ended things with me & we moved on. After a while, we resumed our friendship and I had tried to work on my emotions and reaction to anger.

X and I began dating again, we had plans of the future, he came to meet my family & I went to see his. We were to visit some friends in Lagos, sort of baecation. While on a stopover in the East, trust these drivers & conductors to do their trick of taking fare for a particular destination and dropping you off somewhere else.

The driver did this and the conductor started harassing us to come down and I yelled at him. X noted this and never said a word. We went on to have fun for 2days in the East.

On our way to lagos, I noticed he was cold and distant, I kept asking what the problem was and he said nothing. I am strong believer of communication, so I try to always ask and encourage my partner to speak up. He continued the attitude first night in Lagos.

Next morning, X tells me to sit up so we can talk. He tells me he has been thinking of my reaction towards the attitude of the conductor and doesn’t think he can continue the relationship! At this point, I was broken, tears rolled down my eyes, we were meant to leave Lagos Easter Monday but he said he’s returning to his base.

@bold:

Your issues in summary.

If you want to be with X, you need to learn how to make things slide.

Not everyone wants a fighter or someone who sees 'slight' at every turn: it is actually a mark of low self esteem.

You also need to work on your anger.

@X, he needs to learn to be more expressive to rid himself of passive aggressiveness and rigidity.

saphiere:
Why do you use (bride female noun) to describe male Christians? Since we want to stick to genders. Did I state earlier that the Bible uses Man, He, Her, His for common nouns?

In relation to Christ, the Church is His Bride (female).

I was countering your assertion that Jesus Christ is/was not a male.

Unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given.

Everyone is a man either male or female. That's why we are mankind.

angelfallz:
Lol. its alright. you are a rare breed.

I am sure a number of ladies don't dig older men.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....But some 35 yrs old guys that are still single must have to be in relationship before getting married.Or don't you think so?

Sure they have to be in a relationship.

Hopefully, they meet women who

1. Do not mind their age;
3. Are their age mate (<= 5yrs younger).

JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol.35 yrs is still very young for a relationship.

I'm 40 with kids but still yet girls In their 20's still flock around me not minding that I'm married.

So a single guy of 35 is still very young.

A married man at 50 would be chased by 20 year old babes na.

That doesn't mean he is not old, it only means his youth is not the value he is bringing to the table.

Single guy of 35 is old relationship wise.

Quarter to 40yrs.

Mbanu!

Sebastine1994:
I don't need seven ways to know, I have my instinct to tell me, there is no silver bullet in it.

people don't listen to their inner voice anymore

@bold:

True.

angelfallz:
The bolded, he is actually young relationship wise. He would find a lot of younger ladies to wife. If he were a woman then the bolded would have been understandable.

35 year old man young?

Anyways, I don't dig older men.

LadySarah:


'My parents had me in their old age,reason i look old.I'm still a young man of 35 yrs'.Meanwhile uncle looks 50ish.



ladies,give us their funny lines.

That fact a man of '35' thinks he is young relationship wise is funny.

The usual 'I will take care of you', 'I am better/richer than your boyfriend', 'I am ready to marry you now' etc. etc. lines.

generationz:
Your friend is supposed to understand that schools in Nigeria are first businesses before institutions of learning and conventional centers.

What is stopping him from writing only positive things and letting the parents handle the demon their child has become?

Una to dey carry this matter for head for peanut salary. You haven't seen parents come to school to beat up a teacher for disciplining their child?


Wisdom is profitable to direct. He does not have to lie but just write one positive thing about the child and keep his job. Teachers will only be blamed when majority of the class are getting bad grades. No parent will blame a teacher when the child is in a gang or a truant (when reported).

Then what is the effectiveness of the teacher?

Some people are driven by morals/conscience and can't do such.

angelfallz:
My sister, e shock me o!

I thought the parents should be more concerned about the factuality of the statements and ask the teacher to give concrete examples.

If he doesn't have concrete examples to give, then the parents can take it up with him.

If there are concrete examples, the parents and teacher/school work out improvement plans for the next term and assess it's effectiveness at the end of the term.

Foodqueen:
Schools these days are for personal interest.

Imagine a glass of 15 and all students came out in first position. The parents wouldn't have know if they weren't discussing their children's achievement during the school party.

Iseoluwani:
since when did you use a report card to search for job or submitted it with your CV.

the teacher wrote the truth and u feel like it is demoralizing, u guys are simply part of a failed community. I faced a similar situation with the guy, in that they told me not use red pen to write in the report card, I told them I can't rewrite what I have written.

during our days if our position was 4th downward, we are in trouble not now that ur set glorify failure

With the look of things, Nigeria has not started spoiling.

I don't know when employers started asking for report cards when each level has a final report.

I also thought the report cards is a total evaluation of the child's performance for the period under review?

How would a child have the mental fortitude to face life if he/she is not properly accessed from birth?

Na wa o.

saphiere:
Jesus is not a man point of correction. God is neither a male or female.

Is that what they teach in Feminism 4.0 nowadays?

It is God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.

I am sure you know Father and Son are masculine descriptions.

While God the Father describes Himself using Masculine and Feminine characteristics because He is a Spirit, God the Son manifested as a male human on Earth.

Mary the Virgin had a son and not an hermaphrodite.

That's why Jesus amongst other things is the groom (male noun) of the Church (all Christians {male & female} who is His bride (female).


@Topic:

Lucky Bodmas, he found someone who has same values.

GboyegaD:
How people get so angry is what I truly don't understand.

Apostle Joshua Selman once said such anger is the evidence of demonic possession and I agree with him.

There is a level of normal anger when you feel provoked that fades off after a while.

There is murderous rage that grips people and makes them do despicable things such as the Naval officer in the OP.

Romanoff:
This is for the Mama's boys who refuse to leave and cleave. His Mummy dictates everything even to what his wife just wear.

The question is just strange to me.

I have never seen a home where the parents' pictures are hung except if the couple is living in the man's parents' house.

What I know is that their family album contains the family members of both couples.

LegendVibes:
Nollywood actress Iyabo Ojo has hit out at her colleagues defending comedian Baba Ijesha who was last week arrested for allegedly sexually assaulting a 14-year-old girl, Igbere TV reports.

Baba Ijesha, born Olarenwaju Omiyinka, according to the police, had been assaulting the teenager since she was seven.

In a video uploaded to Instagram on Sunday, the 43-year-old noted that she had seen social media posts from her colleagues defending Baba Ijesha and urged them to stop.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9zXj1NMVzZk

She captioned the post:

https://www.instagram.com/tv/COGGadQHudU/?igshid=6ojlz8q3n6y3

Announcing Baba Ijesha’s arrest in a statement last week, Lagos police spokesman Olumuyiwa Adejobi alleged that the actor had been sexually assaulting the teenager since she was seven.

The statement reads: “The Lagos State Police Command has arrested one Olarenwaju James ‘male’ 48, aka Baba Ijesha, popular Nollywood actor for defiling a minor.

“The case of defilement was reported on 19th April, 2021 by one Princess Adekola Adekanya ‘female’ at Sabo Police Station and transferred to the Gender Unit of the State CID, Panti, Yaba Lagos for proper investigation.

“Based on preliminary findings, the suspect started sexually assaulting the victim, 14 years, since she was seven years old. The suspect confessed to the crime and was also captured by a CCTV camera in the house of the complainant.”

Actresses Tonto Dikeh and Biodun Okeowo, alias Omoborty, have called for severe punishment for Baba Ijesha if he is found guilty of sexually harassing the girl.

Meanwhile, fellow actress and self-confessed rape survivor Foluke Daramola has deleted an Instagram post in which she endorsed a statement by actor Yomi Fabiyi that it is malicious to conclude that Baba Ijesha is guilty without trial.

If Baba Ijesha has confessed to the crime, what is Foluke Daramola and Yomu Fabiyi on about?

How can a man who can have any woman he wants constantly rape a 7year old for 7 years?

How come the girl's parents/guardians never noticed?

How close were they to Baba Ijesha that he had unrestricted access to the girl?

There is more to this story than meets the eyes.

I assume Baba Ijesha has some accomplices or this is a case of severe child neglect.

larryking540:
it's from girlfriend,she turns to a wife ,we need to stop this ,she isn't your wife but your girlfriend ,what's is the difference ,bride price? to me there is no difference between a lady who stays with your for couple of years and the one u finally out ring ,na the same character u go still jam for hux ,
just as man way day rude (boyfriend ) will still be rude wen e become husband

I agree with you.

What you can't condone in a marriage, start rejecting it in a relationship.

xynerise:
There is this common feud between some mother-in-laws and wives that is still a mystery which gave rise to this question.

Ladies, if your mother-in-law is still alive, how would you feel if your husband hangs pictures of her on the wall? I can understand if she is dead but alive, would you welcome it ?


Cc: lalasticlala

Why would the MIL's picture be framed on the wall?

I thought picture frames showcased the husband wife(s) and children?

luminouz:
Maybe @ first sentence but showed your vested interest

. You think he is evil but the multitude of women who brought in bastards from other men for unsuspecting husbands to raise nko? More than 90% of the comments are from guys who showed us that women could be more terrible. You didn't see me insult or abuse these women,did you? Why? People are people,not unicorns, so, there is nothing new

luminouz:
Damn, that dude is even nice. I would have done worse.

Does that make me evil, darling?

Damn! You so emotional about that dude's case. Say it.

I was typing a response to your first post here and I changed my mind.

It makes you evil if you think getting a girl pregnant to deny it is commensurate to a public disgrace.

Why should I be emotional about his case?

Enjoy yourselves biko.

Mustiboy:
As long as I took responsibility, I'm not a bad person.

Thank you. Bye.

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.

That you thought of such a thing to revenge 'disgracing/disrespecting' you in public is already a demonic thing to do and qualifies you as bad.

Accepting responsibility when she started crying, gives you a bit of redemption.

You need to work on your mind.

I am not judging you, I am stating facts and think you are not far gone as a psychopath and still very redeemable hence my first post.

Goodluck.

luminouz:
Let him be na!!! Or why comment on his case alone? The rest of the guys telling us what women did to them, why not comment on that?

I would comment on what catches my fancy.

Even though relationship problems are not new, people manage to bring a fresh twist to it e.g. dude I quoted.

@OP:

Thankfully none.

Mustiboy:
Can't you see where I wrote that I later took responsibility?

In fact, we're still together, so which one be devil?

The fact you are together doesn't negate the devilishness of your act.

Let's call you part-time devil; your first post sounded like you were remorseful at the end.

That was the human side of you speaking.

kenneth58:
Devil dey learn work where some people dey

Honestly

As my people would pray:

May we never offend someone who would not forgive us.