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This must be some sort of joke

But they are old enough to date in their customs?

Wonders!

This case na wa.

Kaydeexotic:
I understand you jare...but I feel the closest instance she should have used to buttress her point was when God killed Onan for spilling his seed on the floor.. at the same time I will believe he was killed cos he was specifically instructed to put his sister-in-law in the family way but he refused by spilling his seed.....

You got that right.

For him to think of that means some men were already practicing it.

dingbang:
Hamza, 31
I’ve setup a vasectomy appointment for November. I don’t have any children and I’m perfectly fine with the prospect of never having one. My girlfriend is completely fine with it although I dare not tell my mother.





This hamza is an idiotttttt

With a capital I.

He is a waste to his family!

okeyben10:

Imagine having a vasectomy after 4 kids.

Ten years later you discover non of d kids are yours

Lol.
When it comes to birth control, i hate anything permanent. I hate vasectomy same way i hate hysterectomy.

Leave d balls and the womb where God put am

@mariangeles, you must b a strong catholic. Those your views are really strong.

It was also God's plan for man to have dominion over animals and fish of the sea. But if a lion were to run loose in d city, na we go still run. The intended natural order of things has already been altered

What about doing DNA on the kid's before VC?

Like you, I am not a fan of anything permanent.

bjprodint:
seeing 3 mentions when i logged in gave me heartache,i thought i would be condemed.

but i was surprised to get kind words.

its not my choice to be a baby mama but i will try to right my wrongs and move forward.thank you .

mariahAngel:
They should learn to practice abstinence or other form of intimacy within the ovulation period.
They won't die from not having sex within that period of time.

You are assuming all women have regular periods.

Anyways, i consider the motive in addition to the action.

With my little Bible knowledge and Christian race, I have not seen anywhere that contraceptives in marriage is a sin or wrong.

And I have no business with what is 'socially' acceptable, I work with what is right.

bjprodint:
what if i am a baby mama to just one man,am i still queen?

You can right your wrongs and March forward.

Nice post.

Very nice post.

This father is not serious except if he had continuously warned his son about the lady and he did not heed his warnings.

Anyways, better late than never.

mariahAngel:
That it is socially acceptable does not mean it is not a sin.
Mankind has always been looking for ways to have sex indiscriminately without the responsibility that comes with it.
At the end of it all, it is what it's all about. Sex.
The foolishness of man is to think he can outsmart God. There are always consequences to these things which man will never foresee.

@bold:

I agree with you that's why I prefer to discuss family planning within marriage.

What do you advise a couple who wants two kids and have had them?

walewriter:
This is spot on.

If you can't pay the price that comes with being different, it's better to be a sheep

Sadly true.

It takes a lot of guts and conviction to be rightly different in a situation.

mariahAngel:
God's plan for man is procreation.
Whatever is contrary to God's plan is rebellion against God and vasectomy is against procreation, regardless of the reason behind it. Therefore, it is a sin before God.

Family planning is also 'against' procreation. Is it a sin?

joefelin2345:
Don't mind him my broad. Let him continue to rant as if he be God. My Yoruba people will say: You caught a thief you asked him to drop what he had stolen, he obeyed. You gave him a dirty slap, he begged you, what else do you want him to do?

A se ju maa di ase te.

yungchop:
Thanks for responding. There are sacrifices we make for things to work. Like I have stated already, I'm not forcing my faith in her nor the children. If the she wants the kids to go to church, it's fine. They being Muslims or Christians won't change the fact that they are my kids.

She'll practice hers, I'll practice mine. Plus during festivities she can celebrate in my house and host her people and we can celebrate mine together too.
What I am saying is, will the Pastor agree to join us together because I am not a Christian?

If you have solved the above, your concerns are minute.

goodmorning40:
I know it has to be a white father when I didn't see money in the sermon

Oga, you have gotten the victory: that's enough venegance/showing.

Stick to the job your people re-elected you for: governing them.

mariahAngel:
As a Christian, do you agree with the procedure?

Please, don't give me your favourite "where is it written in the bible?" line... God cannot be mocked or fooled.

@bold:

This is called anchoring in negotiations which doesn't work with me

So I will still ask: 'where is it written in the Bible' or better still 'what argument do you have against it as a Christian?

engrtee:
Redpill movement is becoming toxic like feminism

Humans have never been known for moderation.

We must sha do till we tip the scales.

Hence the Biblical admonition:

'Make your moderation known to all men.'

Interesting perspective on the subject matter.

All these suffering in silence and whispering about, how do humans do it?

You want girls to pay on dates, open your mouth and ask.

WaterTheMonk:
Denying yourself further procreation because you want to please another gender. 21st century joke

If you guys (men & women bittter in this section about making their partners happy) choose well, your spouses would not be 'another gender', 'one man', 'one woman', bla bla that permeates this section.

A husband had VC to prevent further pregnancies when they have gotten to the required kids and you are talking of 'denying himself further procreation'?

Does he want to start a motherless babies home or sperm donation?

That is not the prime of men; they start becoming hot cake late twenties to early forties even physically.

Simple evolution as our modern society delay maturity; 30 is now the new 18.

However, I would be wary of a lady in her late teens/early twenties who roll with the supposedly 'mature' men.

The above is a generalization before someone quotes me to talk nonsense.

There are many fine mature young men whom young women have seen the potentials and diamond in them and snagged them up.

I am also a fan of young love, can't deal with the baggage older people bring to the table except if they managed to have a clean sexual and emotional past.

And to further prove hanty right, most males on this thread are talking about 'financial' liabilities when all the negative traits she listed requires money to carry out meaning she assumes they are financially stable.

Missis:
Assuming you are married to a man who works as self employed selling some wholesale items that fetch him 70k every month and you have three kids with him.

Meanwhile you the wife work in a private institution earning 60k as well as selling things online that fetch very little like 10k to 15k everymonth.

So you have adviced him to get something else doing to augment your joint income because the money both of you make is barely enough for both of you and three children. You suggest you both need to add more sources of income to your present jobs to move ahead in life and advance, send your children to better schools, maybe build a house, to just upgrade yourselves generally.

So after suggesting different jobs for him he refused to do anything else except his wholesale business because he believes one day he will suddenly make it big from selling his market.

You give up and start your own third business which is part time catering and start making some considerable amount of money from it so you buy new clothes, shoes, nice snacks for your kids from time to time.

Your husband sees all this and tells you to also buy gifts for him from your 'plenty' money. Tells you to not buy new things for only your kids but you should buy also add his own.

How will you react please?

This isn't a made up story please. It's very true, I just want to know if the way I responded was reasonable or if I was wrong.

I went through a few pages of the thread and when I started seeing funny posts, checked your other topics and read the OP again:

If I were to take your threads at face value, you have serious issues with your husband that buying gifts or lack of would not solve.

To this issue, you said your joint finances of N145k monthly is not enough for a family of five.

Have you done a comprehensive monthly budget and shown him that the family needs to increase the source of income to meet up with your needs and save for the future? Thereafter, have you drawn up a plan of feasible things he can do to augment his income? Are there business tips you can give him to expand his current wholesale business? Are there some things you can cut expenses in?

To be honest, a full time job + online business + catering + running the home is a recipe for burn out and disaster.

You wouldn't be useful to yourself, your husband and your kids. You would also be resentful and unable to pamper yourself as a woman to nurture your soft, supple side.

Work on long term solutions to improve the relationship with your husband: the disrespect, the nonchalant attitude and the reluctance to improve your financial situation.

@Gifts: I think you should reduce the gifts
(instant gratification) and think more of getting yourself to a more financially empowered state.

Once in a rare while, buy stuff for the whole family: a bottle of non-alcoholic wine, a cup of ice-cream, a piece of fruit cake etc. that would create experiences in addition to entertainment.

Goodluck.

gaius01:
Sir, You want your wife to marry without receiving her parents blessings?

Have you both talk to your parents, I.e her parents and your parents?

We are in Nigeria and religion has highest regards than anything.

It's gonna be hard for that marriage to work, am sorry to say. My reason are, her parents or family will talk alot to her about her decision and want you to convert, but the look of things you won't. And you also, your family will advise you to convert her to first and this only is another problem.

Besides they can't Wed you in church as a Muslim to say vow so don't think about that unless you are a Christian.

Lastly if you both want perent prayer then, talk about it, with in both family as a dialogue.

Unless you guys want to wedd without thier blessing

I have attended Christian woman + Muslim man wedding in the Church.

yungchop:
Hi guys?? Guess y'all doing good. I just want to share my current problem with y'all and I'm very sure I'll find a solution from the experienced ones here.

I am a Muslim and a yoruba by tribe and my girl is a Christian and Kalabari by tribe. We have agreed that nobody will force his or her religion on the other person i.e getting married won't mean one has to change his or her religion and will continue to practice. Now the problem is, like I said I won't force anything on her so doing an Islamic wedding is not an option here, as for me I can follow her to church and take vows if they won't have a problem with a Muslim coming to church to take vows. Going to church doesn't mean I will change my faith or tell lies just to mask the real situation. Is it possible to just do the traditional marriage and reception?? Is the wedding complete that way?
So I know there are lots of inter religion marriages out there so how did you guys do it?

I'm seriously frightened because I don't want to lose this girl.

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

For interfaith marriage to really work, one or both of you are not serious with your religion.

That said, where/how you marry is the least of your problems. You can call her pastor to bless you guys in front of her house.

How would you train your kids? Are you fine with your kids not going to the mosque with you? Is she fine with the kids not following her to Church? Would you attend to your religions seperatedly or would you visit each other's place of worship? During festivities, how would you do it? Would she host your friends during Ileya? Would you join her in the festivities of Christmas?

As a Muslim noted, 'marriage in Islam is a contract; marriage in Christianity is a covenant'. How do you bridge both concepts?

Do you believe in polygamy? Is she fine with it? Do you believe your wife and daughters should wear the hijab? Does she believe in it? There are expectations from men and women in Christian and Islamic marriages: what expectations would you follow? Or would you both have form your own expectations? Or would you guys go the cultural way?

My brother, if you sort out the above, where to marry is not further maths.

Goodluck.

fineboynl:
my room and toilet is now smelling. there is this girl I'm seeing she frequently or sometimes visit me and stay for days. her pussy smell really bad.

before you all say it dirty girl. she is not. no matter how expensive her fix hair is, she removed it within a week or at most 2 weeks. she is not a dirty girl. but I don't understand how her pussy smell so bad. my bedsheets and guest towel which I give to girls is just bombing with smell. the toilet where she urinate. I am tired and already thinking of stopping her from coming.

what could be the problem? she get wet too easily when I touch her. sometimes while we are in public when i touch or romance her the next thing is that foul smell.

what is she not doing right? if it's an infection what is the treatment and how do I tell her? she isn't my real girlfriend neither would i like to date or marry her, but for the main time I like her company as she is helping me to kill boredness most times. there are other needful situation I am needing her for. if not I would have deleted her since.



I am tired of washing bedsheets and cleaning the house each time she visit. my wardrobe where she put her undies or trousers smells too. I'm tired

You don't want to marry a lady yet have sex with her and risk infections and what not.

If you can't tell her (one of the characters of situationships today is inability to invest in significant others), end the sex fest and move on.

If you can, tell her so she treats herself/goes to the hospital/you take her to the hospital.

People should also be conscious of themselves and be open to criticisms (constructive and negative).

bayelsaowei:
na the same women wey go come complain about men being oppressive and violent towards women..na the same women wey go complain about girl friend or wife beaters... nigerians like iron fisted individuals around them ...thats why we have buhari today..ozo is a rarity I must say..

@bold:

Relationship/romance apart, I think it is true in all facets of life.

crackhaus:
If two sisters or two brothers does not weird you out, why would mother and daughter or father and son do?

How did you justify the difference?

Maybe culture and religion. Not that two siblings isn't wierd to me however, I understand that they are from same source.

Parent and child is sleeping with the source and the offspring.

The body that produced the seed and the seed:

It is even cursed.

tarantino1:
Wonder of the world? Lol. Quit playing.
Replace Ned nwoko the billionaire lawyer politician with Ned nwoko the roadside mechanic

I'm sure by now you have an answer

I am serious.

Regina was at the top of the 'pack' : Successful, influencial, young and beautiful.

She could have gotten any rich young man she wanted. If she announced she wanted a three-legged billionaire virgin man, two-legged ones would come to her foot begging her to wave the condition of three legs.

Instead of marrying a young billionaire whom she would enjoy all to herself, she married a old, ugly man as the 5th wife.

I honestly don't see the unique selling point Ned has that she couldn't get elsewhere.