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@NigeriaB,

You ex is NOT your responsibility; she is a married woman.

If she is desperately in need, let her reach out to her family, friends, in-laws, church, mosque, husband's friends etc.

You get the point.

It would be a disaster if after keeping yourself this long, you sleep with a married woman whom you can't even marry if you want to push ahead to marry the woman who disflowered you.

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Run!

Stumbled on the Spanish version/cover of John Legends' All of Me

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vo08_Be4vho

Slight difference.

I think I like John Legend's version better.

Very useful thread.

OP, thank you.

Zeebah07:
[/color][color=#006600]I call my Man OBA (acronym of his names) and He calls me OLORI OBA or AJIKE both in or out. We are so used to the names that it comes so natural.

You were banned for the first post?

Divert Nairaland time to new hobbies.

CsRockefeller:
It says a lot bro.

But these ladies making these comments, are they dating saints? Will they appreciate a good man when they see one?

So many questions.

One million dollar question.

And I mean generally.

True, the new fad is husband's first name-Surname as wife's surname.

I just wonder what would ha3in future if people can no longer trace their roots or larger families.

If the surname has a negative meaning, let them change it to a uniform name and move on.

Again, if your surname is notable, it wouldnot be easy to dump.

The Dangotes, Otedolas, Alakijas etc. wouldn't have this worry.

Perhaps this is some of the mindset that makes some families greater than others.

greenskittles:
Imagine being just another option to someone

Very sad right?

Very pretty woman.

Not much resemblance to Liz Benson.

Can people just leave Ned alone?

He made up his mind to marry virgin wives.

His wives made up their minds to marry a man like Ned.

He did not marry any of the wives underaged.

Let's stop treating women as babies. They have sense to know what they want and go for it.

The women (except the first wife {debatable}) are not victims in this matter.

@Championxxx

You have three options:
1. Your brother takes charge of his home
2. His wife grows sense
3. You move out of the house. But how does your brother settle you?

Wo, endure till the end jare.

It is well

Congrats beautiful Hajiya,

More more wins

Even if she is related to El-rufai, she cannot become a partner at PWC without meriting it.

Lovelyn451:
Porridge yam of all foods, give me vegetable yam instead...bt you're yoruba so u can't know it

We know ma, thank you.

binghamm:
You are right. But she can be crazy at times. She is fiercely independent. I don't mind actually, but some part of me feels this can cause a problem down the line.

I talk am!

Goodluck on your choice OP and update us.

The children in Heaven allocate themselves to families and determine how many per family.

Only you three nice girls where some people are still looking for one.

I wonder your confusion except you are not true to yourself.

Number one ticks all the boxes so I expected you to jump at her and end with the rest.

Or......

At the back your mind, have you realized that your lack of commitment (no marriage nor kids) is a poor quality you don't someone exhibiting towards you?

You want to hold the aces alone abi?

Happy birthday Second Lady of Nigeria.

God bless you now and always.

The bride seems disgusted by the groom or defiant.

The question is why?

Hopefully, they surmount the issues and have a blissful marriage.

Klass99:
I don't even want 1 child, I am simply not interested.

Did you see a front page story where a lady called her mum and her mum was harsh over the phone asking the daughter why are you calling me? Are they not feeding you where you are? The daughter was crushed.

That may not be hate but it's indifference. Indifference has always felt worse to me, it means someone doesn't like you and they don't dislike you either. They simply have no feelings towards you. As in, whether you exist or not, doesn't matter to them - which is what that girl's mother demonstrated.

You know you can argue for Africa that's why I said make we no debate my own matter

A Hahahahahahaha @argue for Africa.

I need to level up to the Universe.

As you like it maami.

sisisioge:
You've not been following the front page news lately where one women abuses her own daughter at will? There are several women who shouldn't even near kids biko. I'm sure if people like that are allowed their choice without societal prejudice, they would say no to having kids.

As for me, I love them like kilode...but I have seen enough to respect those that do not love kids. How can a sane human screw a nail to a child's head? Or bath a child in hot water, or make a child eat shit, or lock starve a child, Etc? Let whoever can't stand the leave them alone biko, maternity isn't for everyone jare.

Is it hatred for kids or hatred for the father, natural wickedness to all humans etc?

I agree with you that those who abused those kids are truly insane.

Whatever rocks everyone's boat.

Queenkwin:
Oga stop treating bukatyne like a goddess she is not a goddess and she is not better than other women in this site.

Hahahahahahaha.

Very funny and your likers too.

LordKO, you have ladies seriously vying for your favour

Klass99:
Lol Ariza, Blacckrod accurately captured my thoughts/feelings on this matter in her comment, see it. below






Buka, we don't want kids doesn't mean we hate kids. That maternal instinct to have kids, cuddle and care for them escaped some of us or we lost it along the way.

I used to think of having kids but I grew older and realized, you really don't need kids to live a productive fruitful and happy life oh.

Let's not debate the issue, I am only just saying.

My sermon is directed to the OP who claims to hate kids.

And seriously, I have never seen anyone who doesn't want even 1 or hates their own kids.

I know people who can't stand the kids of others.

This is not a debate for me: just stating my observations.

Geminita1:
Speak for yourself ma'am. I don't hate kids and all the people I know don't. Children can be stubborn and irritating sometimes but overall they bring joy and more life everywhere, many people are happy having kids. Thank you.

Now I think of it, I actually do not know anyone who hate kids.

Some who feel kids get in the way, yes
Some who feel kids are what you make of them, yes.
Some who feel one kid is enough, yes (I know three couples sef who said one is enough)
Some who feel any sex is OK, yes
Some who feel incomplete without boys? Yes.

But hate as in don't want at all?

Nah.

Damilolacoker:
I got a job in February and yes I got his consent to go for it. It seemed like he had changed and was willing to let me work but I was wrong. Things got worse at home, I worked from 8_5 and I would come back home everyday to meet an angry husband. He would complain and often tell me i was being an irresponsible mother.

Then he became aggressive , he would force me to have sex with him every night. I went to his mom and she told me to be prayerful that it was the devil at work.. Yes I prayed, I even tried fasting but my his jealousy got worse . He started to accuse me of sleeping with my bosses and would often say " I know what ladies like you do at work " God knows I have never cheated on my husband. My home is now a battle field.

Last month, he came to me at night and pleaded with me to drop my job. He said he's scared I may cheat on him. He begged me to stay home and take care of our child . I wanted to say yes, but that would be throwing away what I love the most. I don't know how to do anything else. I love being a wife and a mother but I also love my job.

2 weeks ago , I found out I was pregnant. I guess my contraceptives failed me. I had been using it without his consent since I found out he was trying to get me pregnant. I told him last night and he was really excited , I also quit my job. Now I feel empty , i don't want to have a baby. I'm depressed , I cry a lot and I don't know what to do anymore , My heart hurts a lot. I love my husband and divorce is not an option. I don't know what to do anymore, I have no one to run to. I'm alone , I don't think I can carry this child , I am tired and frustrated.

Can we start from the very beginning?

This seems like the continuation of several issues.

1. Your job
2. Forcing you to have sex
3. Accusing you of adultery
4. Misalignment of pregnancy

How did you meet? These issues above are a reactions to something.

What happened?

God bless the good Samaritan.

The horseband and parents of the girl should be dealt with.

ReorxTohGan:
all these guys buying meat from ppl that sell herbs don jam am!

Wonderful set of teeth.

Some people use basic nicknames, names of their kids, their titles or just call their attention and talk to them.

JidennaJason:
"The worst thing to happen to man, nah see finish"

I have heard some ladies say that if they can't call their partners "playful" names like "Big Nose" "Cow head" "Dog brain" and "Goat Mouth" they ain't in a relationship with the right person.


We shouldn't get all serious in a relationship and at the same time we shouldn't give room for stupidity.


Calling me by my first name is not disrespectful, but calling it like you gave birth to me and the sole administrator of my life in public, that's where I will draw the line.

@Bold:

Congratulations to her and family.

God bless the baby and provide all that is required to train him to be what he was destined to be.