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NtiObaEneke:
Miracle babies are the ones bought from baby factories.

LordKO:
Mama de mama! No vex, I've never chased a woman all my life and I've never known what is heartbreak, even as old man wey I be now.

I've always walked the walk without being hurt and without being the direct reason someone would feel hurt.

NtiObaEneke:
Or the child is a 'miracle baby'.

LordKO:
Boys and small-minded men chase women; men/aristocratic men command women's attention and followership, not as subordinates though, and choose among them.

0Brien:
They actually chose you by approaching you. You only have the choice to accept or refuse their proposal.

You also have the option to choose too and let the man accept or refuse. Have you seen the way girls chase after wealthy men and pray he picks them as a partner or wife.

The point is that men have more options in choice of a partner than women. Whatever the case, I don't believe in the prize mentality.

ImaIma1:
The guys on this forum will always jump on such threads and be happy to use it as a weapon to insult women.

Tripitaka:

This is quite an interesting POV; one that is prevalently relatable (even though there's a whiff of misogyny). In romantic relationships, men are mostly characterised as dominant while women are deferential, cases of dominering women and subservient men is hardly the norm but an exception - an exception to the rule. The power in the choice of a partner or spouse lies mostly with the man and as is always said "it is the man who chooses a spouse, the woman only has right of refusal".

I agree that men should not be intimidated into settling for less, but no one should be intimidated into settling for less anyway. If you want a voluptuous woman, then go for it; you want a housewife, go for it; you want a wealthy man, go for it; you desire a six-packed man, go for it.

Only problem is that women have the little issue of biology to contend with while making these choices as they may not have the luxury of time - one that a man has in abundance.

chivera018:
Something is seriously wrong with you. I don't have to agree with everything Buka or anyone says.
Bringing my existence here, aren't you stupid ?
So I was created to agree with whatever Buka says?

chivera018:
First time I would agree with you. Well said.

Acidosis:
That shows that something is seriously wrong with your mentality and existence.


Good post OP.

Romangalactic:
Very true. She simply has to choose who is worthy of her under limited time, and should not settle too.

megareal:
It annoys the s#iit out of me. It shows that the woman has no life except to kowtow to her husband. Why then did God give her a brain, desires, visions and aspirations if the sole purpose was to make her a none entity in the so called marriage?

AnanseK:
You are right about the honor, but marriage doesn’t just happen as a wish.

Someone has to ask you to marry him or at least to agree with your request.

SachaBastien:
Should we assume you are lesbian or you forgot your nairaland moniker indicates you're female or none of all these matters?

mark2sunny:
Remarriage affects children more. Age is a factor too.

1Sharon:
Yh, typical Christian response.

Whats the point of winning souls then?

Asquare84:
It good for widow to engage in prayer to avoid sexual temptation

1Sharon:
So why say God is using her to bless others?
Doesn't god use believers ?

EngineerBode:
She must be a busy body. People that are busy bodies forget about themselves why focusing on other people's matter

Acidosis:
Hmmn


Would you call a regular customer care personnel who is deligent in his or her field an industrious person?


Would among these two would you call an industrious person:

A civil servant. A businessman. Both?

elektra:
I swear, parents change with their grandchildren. My own nieces and nephews get away with so much sh.t. I can’t believe my ears when my mum is saying we shouldn’t flog them. SMDH.

Acidosis:
Same generalisation I highlighted on a different thread. The way we define laziness baffles me though. The fact that you won't always see an educated yoruba boy sell spare parts and la casera doesn't automatically implies laziness.

How many Igbo farmers have I seen in Lagos or Southwest in general? None. Does it mean Igbos in Lagos are lazy? No. It only shows that Igbo men do not show interest in farming as far as Lagos state is concerned.

- Mature yoruba women dominate Balogun market, not necessarily because they're the most industrious in the world.

- Igbo guys dominate Alaba. Alaba does not represent the whole of Nigeria.

- Hausas and Yorubas dominate Mile 12 market. I'm yet to see an Igbo guy selling yam and onions in Mile 12. Doesn't mean they're lazy. They just don't have interest in that field.

- Yorubas dominate transportation business in Lagos for a reason.

- Young Igbos dominate sales in computer village while the yoruba guys dominate repairs. I'm yet to see the hard working mature Yoruba woman with a SIM card and iPhone shop in computer village. Does it mean they're lazy? Should they leave Ankara business in Balogun market for sim card business in computer village just to perfect some people's definition of hardwork?

Let me say this again, people only tend to show interest in some fields based on certain environmental factors.

Will I ever hawk gala and pure water or La casera on Third Mainland bridge to proof to a nonentity that I am not lazy? No. I won't do such ever. Will I farm or do some other blue collar jobs? Sure, if it suits my interest. These are the basic trends based on certain environmental factors.

And BTW, the opposite of laziness is diligent, not industrious.

The word "industrious" is another mis-used word I would love to understand better.

naptu2:
The point he was trying to make is that negative stereotypes lead to stigmatisation of people, which is why people who tweeted "Men are scum" were offended when he tweeted "Igbo women are lazy".

How do you feel about the stereotype that "Nigerians are fraudsters" and how do you feel if it affects you when you go abroad?

sisisioge:
Mba! His ability to plot is faulty . He should have called himself a baker that stumbled on a lab report